Easyy:
Just like you, I could never imagine myself with a woman who has had a child for another man. 

Uh? Isn't that a rather narrow point of view? What if the mother is an intelligent, hard-working, caring, truthful, honest, sensitive widow? Should the fact that she has a kid without a father, condemn her to a life of[i] 'single-hood'[/i]?

Should the fact that a woman made an error of judgement somewhere, somehow by getting pregnant & has retraced her steps enough to forge ahead & take care of herself and her kid alone, make her a pariah?

Thank goodness, not all men think like you do!

Some women get pregnant, but not all, keep it. A few give up the kid for adoption, several others arrange a termination, quietly,  because for them, this is an easy way out. Child birth & child rearing is not kid's play. And it takes a lot of courage for a woman to walk that road, all alone. Many men date & marry women that have had a termination in the past, and those men are deluded into thinking that because there are no kids in public view, their woman is some kind of saint, or she is in some way better than those single mothers who have kids to show for their folly. They walk away with a self-righteous smirk after putting down single mums, for their folly, in having kids outside wedlock.

I have seen some of these single mums get married to some other decent men at the end of the day, who end up taking care of them & treating those children, like their own.

One needs to look at this issue in a realistic manner. Am not an advocate of women having kids outside wedlock because it is fashionable or convenient to do so. But am also not an advocate of treating single mothers like dirt or looking down on them, because they didn't toe the moral line dictated by their society. I believe by helping those single mums to find their feet & making sure they realise there is a better alternative out there, they would be able to get back on the 'straight & narrow', and still make a success of their lives & raise their children, well. Who knows what those children would become, tomorrow? A supreme court judge, a preacher, a doctor or even a president of the most powerful country in the world? Just think! The possiblities are endless.

In a world where some women cry daily, because they cannot have children, others are being castigated & ridiculed, for becoming single mothers. Its' really amazing!

laudate:

Uh? Isn't that a rather narrow point of view? What if the mother is an intelligent, hard-working, caring, truthful, honest, sensitive widow? Should the fact that she has a kid without a father, condemn her to a life of[i] 'single-hood'[/i]?

Should the fact that a woman made an error of judgement somewhere, somehow by getting pregnant & has retraced her steps enough to forge ahead & take care of herself and her kid alone, make her a pariah?

Thank goodness, not all men think like you do!

Some women get pregnant, but not all, keep it. A few give up the kid for adoption, several others arrange a termination, quietly,  because for them, this is an easy way out. Child birth & child rearing is not kid's play. And it takes a lot of courage for a woman to walk that road, all alone. Many men date & marry women that have had a termination in the past, and those men are deluded into thinking that because there are no kids in public view, their woman is some kind of saint, or she is in some way better than those single mothers who have kids to show for their folly. They walk away with a self-righteous smirk after putting down single mums, for their folly, in having kids outside wedlock.

I have seen some of these single mums get married to some other decent men at the end of the day, who end up taking care of them & treating those children, like their own.

One needs to look at this issue in a realistic manner. Am not an advocate of women having kids outside wedlock because it is fashionable or convenient to do so. But am also not an advocate of treating single mothers like dirt or looking down on them, because they didn't toe the moral line dictated by their society. I believe by helping those single mums to find their feet & making sure they realise there is a better alternative out there, they would be able to get back on the 'straight & narrow', and still make a success of their lives & raise their children, well. Who knows what those children would become, tomorrow? A supreme court judge, a preacher, a doctor or even a president of the most powerful country in the world? Just think! The possiblities are endless.

In a world where some women cry daily, because they cannot have children, others are being castigated & ridiculed, for becoming single mothers. Its' really amazing!

What makes it a narrow point of view? Is it the fact that I made choices that I feel are best for me? Must my choices in life be the same as your thoughts?

By the way, I don't care what any woman wants to become in her life or whether or not she made a mistake and is rectifying it. It had been my choice for a long time never to marry anyone who has had a child. If you want to marry all the single parents in the world, it's your prerogative so don't come here and give me feminist theories about who's doing well.

Who's doing well is not what affects my life choices.

The fact that I chose not to marry a single mother does not imply I treat them with disdain, you are the narrow minded one who doesn't seem able to accept the fact that everyone is entitled to make choices with regards to how they want to live their lives and who they live their lives with.

I have, as you may or may not be able to imagine, quite a number of single mothers as good friends!!!

lmao alot of single mothers as single friends --- of course you do. you should be locked in a room with your own voice for company you can sound so stupid sometimes. Talk here talk there and end up making no sense muthafunke'

BITE ME

BITE ME
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Bend over

perv  missed you shaka where have you been? chasing skirt all about Nairaland no doubt, if i catch you your bollocks are going on the block for sure

No shiit dear I missed you too awwwwww

Happy new year

And you

I know you was having wet dreams of me right

dream on soldier dream on
hey what was that guy on about that martlet ? that was so random dont even know him

I'm sorry dear what guy you taking about

never mind

I'm confused now , anyways how you been doing.

been good , had a lazy day today and wish it could go on, but yeah been good. Yourself?

I'm just hanging in there, just can't wait to get my hands on those juicy succulent mangos of yours. Hope you keeping em warm for papa zulu

zulu you are very silly, look these ppl would soon come and sart crying that we changing topic lol , if only they realised it is dead at nite and hardly anyone is about, anyways leave my mangos alone you rotten perv

You right sweetheart, what ever happened to NL it's so boring around here. I think I need to instigate a fight or something. Btw I think I want you to be my baby mama. You pretty cool

So when are you coming down, so I know to buy plenty of Viagra, girl we'll have so much fun I tell you. I'll show you what it take to satisfy a lady like yourself

what you need viagra for? you've been deceiving me shaka, you said you were young and strong,

I'm young and strong, but you can never trust these Nigerian girls, they like the Energizer bunny the keep going and going. So i need some extra juice just to keep up. I'm used to white chics and every body knows that it take only one time with my Mandingo pee pee to satisfy a white chic


*zulu hope no white girl reads this*

LMAO YOU ARE SICK

I know!!! I'm sick for you suger pie

need some laxatives?

No I don't need no freaking laxative, I need to get you in the sack

you havent wanked today have you? **looks concerned** see this is why you erractic

who told you I've not wanked today most people wake up and exercise every morning, I wake up every morning and self-service off first thing. I'm tied of jerking off. When are you going to let me have the real thing

roflmao the real thing uh? can you handle it?

Hells yeah Girl I'll rock your world

look at how animated you've become from one small sentence lol

shaka, i'll be back and if not dream of me in my suzies lol

They don't call me papa zulu for nothing sweet cakes.

Girl!!!!! King Kong ain't got shiit on me


Laterz love

lmao alot of single mothers as single friends --- of course you do. you should be locked in a room with your own voice for company you can sound so stupid sometimes. Talk here talk there and end up making no sense muthafunke'

BITE ME

You are such a dumb idiot, and not only so, you must have had an absolutely ridiculuous upbringing.

Your warped mind cannot take in anything that does not feature in your wierd world of loonies and so you resort to attacking anyone who has contrary views and opinions. You have done it to a few on some threads and I am not afraid of taking on imbeciles like you, especially indecent and uncultured ones.

You have a problem with who my friends are? Go and find idiots like yourself for company,