Smellingmouth:


How na?

MidasTouche01:


Are u Smellymout.h??

Smellingmouth:
Sorry guys, I can't relate to any of these..

But I did something really bad last night and it has been affecting my conscience..
I was jejely drinking my garri, when I saw an ant strolling by on the floor. I quickly placed a cube of sugar along its path and watched as it scurried away to call his friends to come help transport the largese.
As I sighted the ants coming for the sugar ,i quickly removed the sugar to make the first ant look like a liar..
Lalasticlala, Am I wicked?

KingRex1:


Egbon na until dey march enter ur bed for night ur eye go clear

Smellingmouth:


And the funny thing with these ants be say dem know the place to bite..

Urahara2:




Which place is that

Smellingmouth:


You nor know abi?

Na double thunder dey wait you..

Anyways, ,lets not derail..

Lalasticlala, biko move makydebbie's thread to fp..

Signed, Snake Lovers association..

MidasTouche01:


Chisux!!!!

I no know oooo


Ur main don dey kirikiri abi

Smellingmouth:


And the funny thing with these ants be say dem know the place to bite..

Papikush:
Na pastor children dey bad pass. Ask anyone.
As a mater if fact, I got disvirgined by a pastor's daughter...she took away my precious gift

Smellingmouth:
Sorry guys, I can't relate to any of these..

But I did something really bad last night and it has been affecting my conscience..
I was jejely drinking my garri, when I saw an ant strolling by on the floor. I quickly placed a cube of sugar along its path and watched as it scurried away to call his friends to come help transport the largese.
Immediately I sighted the ants coming for the sugar ,i quickly removed the sugar to make the first ant look like a liar..
Lalasticlala, Am I wicked?

ItsQuinn:
I don't blame them, I blame the parents. They are the way they are due to lack of freedom and a lot of pressure

Papikush:


a typical Nigerian pastor will never allow his/her kids "explore the world" they rather keep them indoors and command them to study the word of God (thinking they are doing them good).
Then when these kids get admitted into a university they see things Grey

ItsQuinn:
Very true! the parents claim they know the word of God that the word of God is all there is but in reality one must not depend on the word of God alone unless you'll lack wisdom, knowledge and understanding and get problems, especially in your household.

Papikush:


lol...actually the word of God is a guideline to living a "righteous" life. Not some "this is how your life should be" guidelines that our parents think.
[b]Caring for your kids as a pastor is more than just the word of God... It also takes you exposing them to the World and let them show you who they truly are. It's a shame most of these pastor's kids are not even bold enough to talk to their parents about their sexual life because they feel "daddy will call me a child of the devil" [/b]

ItsQuinn:
Hahaha...Chai!
You just made that ant an outcast

Smellingmouth:


Chisos..

Urahara2:


Because of u now , the ants popci go beat shege from him body when he enta house

Smellingmouth:


The kind lashes when he go collect ehn.

makydebbie:
Proverbs 22:6...Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.


We all know this scripture and know that parenthood is no easy job. But everyone says, "what better environment is there to train up a child than in a pastor's home" right?
Or does growing up under a dad as a pastor guarantee a child's future on the right path?


Let's look at the challenges faced by pastor's kids which makes it not so rosy for kids growing up under clergymen's/religious leaders roof.



(1) Pastor's kids face the challenge of living up to the good boy/girl tag: As a pastor's child, I can relate to this. Eyes are always on you as a pastor's kid, to always never go wrong. No mistake is expected of you. In school, you're supposed to be different from all other kids and not to play much, joke around with friends or fail to submit assignments on time.


(2)Pressure:- Growing up, there was always this "pressure" that goes with you being the son or daughter of the renowned pastor in town. Even when faced with physical opposition like guys or girls who wanna beat 'us' up, people think that we should not fight but just meekly get beaten and mauled so badly. The bible says when hit we should turn the other cheek right?


(3)Pastors kids and the "be like your dad" comment or tag:-Everywhere you go as a pastor's kid, you always get the reminder that there's a standard you ought to live up to. And that standard in the eyes of people is always your dad or mom who are ministers. Every little thing you do, is a chance for them to say, "you're just like your dad" or if you make a little mistake, "you should be like your dad or mom". They always expect perfection.

In this age, we have come to know that everyone has a path and a destiny from everyone else including parents. Its really frustrating for a pastor's kid to always hear himself/herself being measured with his/her "pastor's" dad.
This is the reason why many of them rebel and go on to "live the life" they feel will make them different from their dads. In most cases, the kids end up destroying themselves.


(4) Pastor's kids and academics:- Always and again, there is always the notion that a pastor's kids shouldn't fail. People say stuffs like, "his father is the general overseer of the states biggest church". He heals the sick, raise the dead and makes the lame walk. If such a child is not shown the necessary support by his "pastor's" dad, or any given attention as regards helping him do well academically, then forget it. He won't fly academically. Not even dad's miracles will make it work.

(5) Pastor's kids and career choice:-As the son or daughter of a pastor, its almost like a taboo to find yourself in some professions. Which may be where one's talents lie. For example some pastors won't let their kids study law, citing some mundane remark like "lawyers are mostly liars".
And most pastors kick against their children going into the music industry. Restricting the child is robbing the world of another gem that would impart the world positively.


(6)Pastor's children and overall parenting:- It is no longer a secret that pastor's homes churn out "clinically depressed kids" because of bad parenting or "parenting negligence". This is so because, a lot of pastors dedicate so much time to their pastorial ministry forgetting that a trully functional church, begins from a truly happy and functional home.
These kids grow up to be so far apart in relationship from their pastors parent. And even end up hating them.

These are some of the many heart wrenching challenges faced by pastor's kids. On the whole, its not a bed of roses being a pastor's kid.


Original writer: Makydebbie


Cc. Lalasticlala

mrblessed:
So what is the basis of this longwinded epistle? What thesis or theory does the writer wish to propound? What message does this daughter of a clergy want to pass? Well, that the children of clergymen are born in an unalloyed state, and have been refused the universal process of growing up by an obsessive, puritanical and self-righteous public. Sometimes, the public can be annoyingly meddlesome and downright pesky. What about the clergy themselves? They are accused of being overbearing, demanding extreme obedient from their children, even when the time devoted to them is incredibly disproportional. They have been found guilty of negligence and poor parenting skill, to the detrimental of their children. So much blame to go around, except, of course, for the children of clergymen. How can any right-thinking person blame them, when they did not choose to be born in a home of a clergymen. Therefore, the public must make restitution in schools, markets, malls, stadium, and even in churches, for holding erroneous, malevolent and ungodly views about these kids. For kids, they should go about living their not-too-pious and wayward lifestyles, knowing the fault wasn't theirs.

ucnwafor:
I can relate to this makkydebbie cos I grow up as a pastor son, I must pray 3 times a day, fasting, study the bible everyday nd memories them one after the other, behave very well like a pastor child etc but when ayaf gone a bad egg, no one ever noticed it

mrblessed:
So what is the basis of this longwinded epistle? What thesis or theory does the writer wish to propound? What message does this daughter of a clergy want to pass? Well, that the children of clergymen are born in an unalloyed state, and have been refused the universal process of growing up by an obsessive, puritanical and self-righteous public. Sometimes, the public can be annoyingly meddlesome and downright pesky. What about the clergy themselves? They are accused of being overbearing, demanding extreme obedient from their children, even when the time devoted to them is incredibly disproportional. They have been found guilty of negligence and poor parenting skill, to the detrimental of their children. So much blame to go around, except, of course, for the children of clergymen. How can any right-thinking person blame them, when they did not choose to be born in a home of a clergymen. Therefore, the public must make restitution in schools, markets, malls, stadium, and even in churches, for holding erroneous, malevolent and ungodly views about these kids. For kids, they should go about living their not-too-pious and wayward lifestyles, knowing the fault wasn't theirs.