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Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Nobody: 8:35pm On Dec 01, 2016 |
I'm a victim. All my life, I lived my parents life. I couldn't live my life. Talks like "you will be a pastor when you grow up" made life tiresome for me. I mean, at the age of 8, I was already being forced to believe I would be a pastor. I wanted to read law or theatre arts. I was threatened "lawyers and actors would end up in hell". My big break came when Ieft home last 2yrs. I discovered myself and now I thank God. I fell better now. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Gracious10: 9:09pm On Dec 01, 2016 |
eosigwe: Honestly, you escaped to Madagascar lol.. and I believe thats why most pastors kids will always run to another state to study just to get away from all forms of scrutiny, Being a pastor is a calling no be force. I didn't realize there are many pastors kids on nairaland, it's well o but regardless of what happened, Heaven is still real, for every one shall give account of their works. Make your relationship with christ count. 2 Likes |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Nobody: 8:16am On Dec 02, 2016 |
Gracious10: I haven't abandoned Christ. Infact, I became more closer with Christ. I got to knew that serving God is not hard like I was forced to believe. You know the thing about train up a child in the ways of the Lord and when he grows he won't depart? it worked in my life though. And when I left home, I had opportunity to read lots of books and mix with people.I think right now I can blend religion, business and pleasure together without hurting anyone or my conscience 1 Like |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by makydebbie(f): 10:01am On Dec 02, 2016 |
eosigwe:As for me, my problems started when my siblings became pastors and evangelist and my parents were expecting my "calling". I became a bad child tho I'm happy with my decision. 5 Likes |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Nobody: 4:11pm On Dec 02, 2016 |
makydebbie:of course you should be happy. Nobody should determine your happiness. It's a serious mistake I made. I believe everybody has his/her relationship with God. If you have a calling, you would know. if you don't have, you would know. That you don't have that calling doesn't mean you have lost relationship with God. It's a lie. As Ebuka as I am, the grace and mercy is sufficient for me that I can approach His throne and cry Abba-father. Infact being a pastors child is not a certificate that you would know God. People should know that. And pastors children should free themselves from unnecessary pressures biko. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by psalmbell: 5:03pm On Dec 02, 2016 |
Hmn, pastors and their children... I weep as the devil uses every avenue to make us think that it is easy to raise a child up in a godly way. Most spiritual leaders missed it in the Bible when it has to do with moral standard of their children, Aaron's children ministered strange fire and were destroyed, Eli's children became children of Belial because they didn't heed to their father's instruction... even Samuel's children couldn't fit their father's shoes hence the Israelite's cried for need for a king. So, when you see a pastor that cages, monitors or disciplines his children is for the case of posterity. l am a pastor's child, I have grown to be a pastor because I found out that no other way to enjoy in this life that to live a life that pleases God. How will I allow my children go into secular music when unclothedness and nudity is the order of the day. Moral decadence has derailed so many believers because they want to be themselves. I have chosen the path of righteousness, I wish my children will serve God better than I am 2 Likes |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Nobody: 5:45pm On Dec 02, 2016 |
I love this thread....
I'm spotting many members of APC (Association of Pastors Children ).
I also have some things to contribute...
I''ll be right back. 1 Like |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Nobody: 5:45pm On Dec 02, 2016 |
I love this thread....
I'm spotting many members of APC (Association of Pastors Children ).
I also have some things to contribute...
I''ll be right back. |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Nobody: 6:13pm On Dec 02, 2016 |
Gracious10:Fantastic!! That's what matters the most. 1 Like |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Nobody: 6:43pm On Dec 02, 2016 |
@makydebbie, this is a fine write up. ..but excuse me please, why did you refer to these points as "challenges"? What's so challenging about these? I think you should rather have used the term "expectations" because these your points are more like expectations of the society concerning Pastors' children (as in, what people expect of them, which I don't really see as being so hard or challenging) and I think you should probably have captioned your write up in that direction, something like: "Some common expectations of our society concerning Pastors' children" or something like that. And in any case, the points you listed-which are very much on point, are actually expectations concerning people from christian homes or people that have christian parents and not necessarily Pastors children. That's certainly what I know! 2ndly, you listed out challenges now, I hope you will also come back to list out the good sides, benefits and blessings of being Pastors' children because those TOTALLY OUTWEIGH the so called challenges. Finally, there's a very popular one that I thought I'll see among your points, which is: 90% of the people around you expect you to also be a pastor like your parent...without them even caring to know what God has instructed you or His plans for you. 1 Like |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by faithchubby93(f): 11:31pm On Dec 02, 2016 |
tosyne2much: lols whenever you are seen standing or just talking to the opposite sex,you're in trouble and u have a long explanation to do. |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by tosyne2much(m): 11:40pm On Dec 02, 2016 |
faithchubby93:He doesn't want any dude to get under that skirt unknown to him that...... Make i shut up |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by makydebbie(f): 7:39am On Dec 03, 2016 |
EmmaFantastic:Pardon my late reply, things came up. Firstly, theses are challenges to us. The society expects perfection from us thereby putting undue pressure on us. When this happens, we make mistakes and try to be what we are not just to please the society. So yea you're right but also it is a big challenge to us. Secondly, you mentioned benefits. I'll be a hypocrite to say there are no benefits ofcos there are. But it can't be compared to the challenges as I mentioned a few but the challenges are more than the benefits. Thirdly, what you said is right. And it can be found in the third point. "Be like your dad comment/tag. 1 Like |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Nobody: 10:08pm On Dec 03, 2016 |
makydebbie:I read your response since but couldn't immediately get back to you since, sorry for that...was busy in one of my "gardens", lol..."plucking money" . Well, it's unfortunate that we are discussing online, I wish I was talking with you in person...offline. There are lots of things that one can't conveniently say here, and also, I would't like to write something too long. First of all, I think I should let you know that my late dad was a Pastor, he passed on in 2003...died in a motor accident along with one of his friends. Though he was not a pastor by occupation-he was what we call "Associate Pastor" (that is Pastors that have regular work and not full time pastors) and he was resident Pastor of a branch of their church. I hardly tell people that I'm a pastor's son because I have many issues with churches today-I've got so pissed by all these garbage churches...what I see around now, is not what my dad used to do in his time when they even used to spend their money on the church and for members. Anyway, concerning the things you said, for the 1st one...I don't see those societal expectations as challeneges or pressure. You see, maybe you should know that those things you are calling pressure or challenges, actually made some other Pastors children like us to become the 1st class humans we are today. You see those things as challenges but they are actually a call to responsibility and help to keep us in line and check us from the wrong path. Do you know that some of the things you listed made many of us to excel in life? Because you know your background, you can't afford to mess up and you "stay in line". Most of the time that there's a problem, is when the "pastor pikin" is notorious and wants to follow "opposite path". Believe me, I happen to be close friends with many children of big ministers who are doing well in life and I found out a similar pattern like mine-their family background and the home they came from, helped to inspire them and keep them on the right path. Then concerning your 2nd point, hmmmm...you are just a naughty girl for saying that . How can you say the challenges are more than the benefits? You are lucky we are talking online and not in person, I would have spanked you seriously for saying that . Don't you know what is called "grace"? Do you know the awesome grace that's on your life because of your father's works? Do you know the amount of blessing that are on your family because of that? (The bible says "the generation of the upright is blessed". Do you know the amount of goodwill, prayers, and good wishes for your dad and his family (which includes you) from people whose life your dad's works have touched? Well, maybe you are stil quiet young and maybe still at home with your parents, I can't tell, but that is it, when you step out fully into life out there, your endevors and career, and you start to see "unprecedented grace", lol, you'll certainly remember this convo with me on nairaland. Anyway, let me stop here, my epistle is getting too long. As I earlier said, there are lots of things that one can not say here, but I'll end by advising you that as you've been "weathering the storm" (as you see it), and braving the challenges, just keep it up leaning on God's grace. Someday you'll realise like some of us, that those things were not really challenges but actually a blessing in disguise, helping you to stay and act right. God bless you dear. |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by davidif: 7:30pm On Dec 10, 2016 |
Laveda: Please everyone? How exactly is that possible again? |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by davidif: 7:33pm On Dec 10, 2016 |
Papikush: Wait what?!?! |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Defaramade(m): 11:16pm On Jan 20, 2017 |
tosyne2much:Baba which kind comb you be, tail comb abi ivory comb? So you are a Pastor pikin |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by tosyne2much(m): 8:39am On Jan 21, 2017 |
Defaramade:hahahaha |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by mozele(m): 4:34pm On Jul 15, 2017 |
makydebbie: if you ever need succour, you know where to find me. |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by WilsonMayowa(m): 1:49pm On Jul 28, 2017 |
Topic should be biggest challenges........ Because you outlined more than one challenges |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by WilsonMayowa(m): 1:51pm On Jul 28, 2017 |
So will you say you are living like this as expected, is not really easy though.. ....i have friends in this categories |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by WilsonMayowa(m): 1:53pm On Jul 28, 2017 |
makydebbie: Lol bad child indeed 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by photoshoot(m): 11:51am On Nov 26, 2020 |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Ayibs0000: 5:17pm On Mar 29, 2022 |
How about if your dad is a founder or general overseer of a church. You fit still leave your life the way you want? Maybe ona life no rhyme. You no be that kain church person but ur papa dey feel like people go dey question am 1 Like |
Re: The Big Challenges Of Being A Pastor's child by Marlian001: 5:38pm On Mar 29, 2022 |
Ayibs0000: Omor I go still live my life normally. My dad is also a founder but I don't even go to church.... Everyone has their life to live |
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