My brother you don't even need an advice...
It so obvious she doesn't love you noe that she is exposed to wild things out there,


For openly admitting this like that that simply means she is feed up with you..

In a way dude I think you saw this sign a very long time but you took them for granted or should I say you were blinded by that thing you call love....


Thank her for letting you know all that now some people don't get to know untime and others never gets to know for life.

LilChamp:
I am currently in a relationship of 4 years, I started dating when I was in the University then she was in 100 Level, since then alot has happened.

I remember a day when she called me that her mum sent her to give a guy who was his family friend food stuffs in his apartment, then she was staying in the school hostel and just came back from home, I later got to know she wasn't related to the guy in anyway, they were only primary school mate but she gave me that excuse in other to visit the guy in his apartment.
Alot of other lies which I can't explain all through this forum.

Now that she is currently serving far away in an eastern state, I called her this night but she wasn't picking up, also called her friend whom they stay in the same hostel but she told me she is outside and not currently in the room.

I later gave up after calling her like 40times without picking up. At around 10:00pm she flashed me with a number, when I called her back she said she misplaced her phone and she is currently looking for it, she told me she has informed the OBS crew in camp and they are making efforts in helping her recover the phone.

She later called back with her phone and informed me she has seen it that same night.
I don't know why I didn't believe her and I insisted on knowing what really happened and why she hasn't been picking my calls.

It was after she knew I wasn't ready to believe what she told me that she later opened up that she knew her phone was ringing and didn't misplaced it.

I challenged her that she must have been with a guy outside at night, though she denied it at first and later opened up that I was right.

The truth is I have been totally faithful to her and always believed she is the right girl for me.

I don't know what to do at this Junction, I really need advice because I don't know if I should still hold on or not.

Pls I need reasonable advice from mature folks

She is a compulsive liar and a cheater.

Dump her as*s as soon as possible!

Four years mba

Doxie69:


You called her 40 times? Guy your problem has passed the one of village people . Even someone that smoke weed won't call more than 2 times

I wonder how none of you could easily see through this lie.

There's a very big difference between 40 times and 40times.

The way I see it, the guy wrote 4 times initially.

Then for emphasis sake, he added the 0 in between 4 and times just to exaggerate his 'love and care' for the girl.

Somehow, I think it backfired because he just exposed his obsession by so doing.

But he can't change it anymore.

So the 40 kinda got stuck.

That's how I see it.

But...

On the other hand, let's assume it was actually 40 missed calls...

Haabaa!

Sorry guy, but if I were to be your girl and you call me like that, guy, I'm telling you, I won't answer you.

Ahn ahn, what is all this?

In fact, I may never answer you again!!!

You don't have any other important thing to be doing with your life other than to be calling a girl?

Your type is that type of person who will continue to knock on someone's door even when it's obvious the person doesn't want to let you in.

You think pestering someone's life is the same thing as being in love?

Mtcheeewwwwwwwwwww

My last thoughts: You guys can be funny at times. Just look at the way they are telling the guy to dump the girl one time. These are the same guys that will lie to their girls, keep as many girls as they can get, chase anything in skirts, and all the while they think it is okay.

But when a girl do them one, just one, you see them panting and getting scared like small babies. Una get luck say I no be woman. If not eh, I for do una strong thing!

Ndi nzuzu.

Indication that she is not serious and faithful in the relationship. She is a pure liar. You may call for another relationship.

chocodaviva:


God bless u real good for ur comment
I passionately hate phone stalker
if u call me pass 3missed calls OGA I won't even pick again or call back cos it annoys me more Dan anything in dis world......
btw am Married so keep ur lashing far from me

The point is it how many times he called her or you choose the one that suits you to comment on? Who says married women don't cheat?Marriage isn't an achievement.

Wonder the kind of advice you are expecting when its obvious that she will dump you as soon as she gets a better replacement for you.

Is it not obvious enough?

Raine80:
If you have this much doubt should you even be considering anyting marital related? It's like walking into a cave full of hungry lions and wondering why they are eating you! Why are you setting yourself up for failure? If you have doubt then this doubt will continue into your marriage and you will be posting things a year after you get married asking for advice in regards your wife who is always messing with your head. If it's not feeling right now why are you causing yourself to be in a stressful situation? Don't quote love it's about perspectives here if things feel wrong from the beginning they are not going to improve later. You need to start seeing what's been standing in front of you for the last 4 years!

A reasonable piece.

henryhemon:


The point is it how many times he called her or you choose the one that suits you to comment on? Who says married women don't cheat?Marriage isn't an achievement.

nd who asked u if marriage is an achievement ask our beloved single sisters in Shiloh if it or not an achievement......
nd what as "married women cheat gat to do wit my comment Abt too much calls"
if u dnt get my point dnt mention me again

Mamush001:
now i see why most nigerians feel that marriage is a great feat to be achieved- a do or die affair... like" u are married and have achieved all your dreams for life so the lashing wont get to u right"? berra wake up

what is this one saying? if u like do or die Abt marriage nah ........
I said married nd no lashing cos pple like u Wud tink I won't get a mate cos I dislike fone stalker...
u should wake up from ur slumber and face ur own problems first........ starting from ur burnt knuckles.....
quote me again make Hepatitis K catch u
ire ohhhhhhhhhhh

jon1:

Where is it written "thou shalt not lash the married"?

Lokz in my testament sir :-D

LilChamp:
I really need good advice I can act on. I would really appreciate if lalasticlala mynd44 Rocktation farano can help me move this to the right place. I am at the point of making Marital decisions.

The fact that she let u knw d truth herself means she might be loyal. If she didn't tel u she's wit a guy or telling u she saw ur call u won't stil find out the truth without she telling u. The only thing u need is trust cos she might be lying cos she don't want u to feel bad if u get to knw she's wit a male frnd cos u might hear a male voice in background. At times gals that likes to keep male friends lies to keep their relationship safe cos most boyfriends are jealous. Don't follow rumours but ur mind...

My 2cents

Op don't dull ya self.

Break up with her so we can find some nl girls for you

Give her one week off camp calling and note her reaction. If she is into u, she will change and if not u'd better keep her in ordinary friend zone.

Let me ask you this question: If you suddenly find out today that this girl is HIV positive, would you still love to keep on with her? Think about this, because that thing you think you feel might be a very strong LUST, especially if you guys have been eating 'apple' a lot and you enjoy the activity a lot. She will appear like the best girl for you.
But if HIV means anything to you, not only does cheating avail you the chance (no matter how slim) of contacting the virus, it is even more deadly than the said virus...The bible says "A virtuous woman, who can find?". Peace!

Naija gals are not reliable...dont love her too much because she will forsake U

chocodaviva:


Lokz in my testament sir :-D

Hehehehehe......have you heard "you cannot be a judge in your own case" and "self-witness is no witness". Oya lie down,thy lashing starts now.

jon1:


Hehehehehe......have you heard "you cannot be a judge in your own case" and "self-witness is no witness". Oya lie down,thy lashing starts now.

my face while receiving d lashing

chocodaviva:


my face while receiving d lashing

Hahahaha....now that's a huge turn off

Bro, a relationship without trust will surely end prematurely. Its better u find another lady that is trustworthy and leave this second to the devil alone ooo. Cos if she no kill u with lies that means God still have mission for u.

my dear,some girls are naturally liars,you can't change her,its either you accept her the way she is or just move on without her

LilChamp:
I really need good advice I can act on. I would really appreciate if lalasticlala mynd44 Rocktation farano can help me move this to the right place. I am at the point of making Marital decisions.

Marital?Guy are you alright? girl dey fvck different guys and still dey lie on top.God in his infinite mercy help you open her ya.nsh and you are still considering marriage?i weak sha.Few years from now after 3 children you will still run back here and ask us if divorce is ok.Yeye

kill her...

chocodaviva:


what is this one saying? if u like do or die Abt marriage nah ........
I said married nd no lashing cos pple like u Wud tink I won't get a mate cos I dislike fone stalker...
u should wake up from ur slumber and face ur own problems first........ starting from ur burnt knuckles.....
quote me again make Hepatitis K catch u
ire ohhhhhhhhhhh

. Chaiiiii

DaySpringer:


When you add fire to fire, it does not extinguish the fire. It only makes the fire bigger.

How long have those relationships that have employed this your "therapy" lasted for after the initial appearance of success?

I said it worked and dey stop0ed lying. if the method dint work, I wouldn't have recommended it. chill