mama-gee:

I'm still waiting for the bases of this post.

tpia.:

black women worked just as hard as the men in the cotton fields of America and in the yam and cocoyam farms of Africa, so its kind of hard to suddenly get all wimpy dont you think.

beingme:

black women re not single but THEY RE JUST TAKING THEIR TIME. so get that right

dreeldee:

A black man having a relationship with a white girl isn't a sign of weakness because it's usually the first thing that comes to most black women's mind who sees a black man with a white girl. As a man first of all and secondly black, Black men don't want a "strong black woman" who will at the end of the day emasculate them . We don't want a woman who will be overly jealous and would bring the roof down before realizing it's just a friend. We don't want a woman who will respond to our sigh with ten sentences. We don't want a woman who will talk back at us even when it's unnecessary. She will nag us till she can't find her voice. We don't want a woman who will break our properties because we had a quarrel. We don't want our women trying to exercise their strength in the house all in the name of "equal rights" unnecessarily. Not saying one sex is better than the other but to carry that "I don't wanna be viewed as being weak" mentality thereby always getting into the "man of the house" fight is just not needed. One thing for sure, we love the black confident woman but not when she moves around with the "strong black woman" bull shit. We want the kind of women who will massage our ego not destroy them. The most desirable trait any man especially we black men wants in a woman is the act of submission, not the slave-master kinda submission. This trait eludes a lot of black women. All we want is for you to take your femininity in high regards and make us feel like the MAN same way your confidence is felt and we'll be your king and "servant". My list goes on and on, do you still wonder why a lot of black women are still single? And the black men running off with the white women? Common ladies, what happened to those traits Momma passed on to us, the ones she applied to her relationship in its 30th year? We want our black women back.

platinumnk:

How do u figure out that these are qualities/traits of a black woman? I dont do any of those things, does that make me asian??

You have your own twisted view of women as a whole and the change has to start with you.

iice:

LOL if you think whites are submissive then. . .

Anyways. . .marry or date who you want to.

dreeldee:

I agree there are excemptions, you might not do it but not every black woman is exempted. Nah! It's not my just my view but from a lot of people and I have read blogs, talked to friends, seen it on TV, it's not just my idea. have you seen the moive "Diary of a tired black man"? You need to then you'll realize this isn't just my view but millions of black men.
[size=4pt]what's up?[/size]

dreeldee:

Yeah I think they're (not all same just as not all black women)

Hah!
Anyway. . .i guess why some women find the word submissive hackles raising, is the context some men convey it to be, nevermind the emphasis placed on it

platinumnk:

Ok, but maybe those are highlighted to keep up with the sterotypes just like poverty constantly shown on TV, whereas the popular belief
that everyone one is Nigeria is living in Huts.
But seriously from reading a lot of posts from women here, they dont show traits of those qualitites that you are questioning.
Funny, they had a brief post on a website  yesterday of a white woman who had demolished her bf new Escalade. The woman wasnt even arrested.  
The weird thing is that few ppl realize that white women do things too, so it doesnt matter the race.

[size=4pt]I messaged you a while back over the Josh thread, but u never responded[/size]

iice:

Hah!
Anyway. . .i guess why some women find the word submissive hackles raising, is the context some men convey it to be, nevermind the emphasis placed on it

topup:

'dreeldee' I am really disappointed, that here is a black man (I'm assuming) with stronger prejudices than I've heard some of my 'white' friends say about black women. I suppose you think we're all easy, we all wanna trap you down in a long term relationship, you probably assume we are snoopy, don't have any career goals or nothing better to do than to shout down black men.

Well you know what, maybe you should take a walk for a bit. I think black women especially African women, being more traditional than western white women have always respected the authority of a man, where will you find a woman who is so afraid to leave a marriage because she feels that everything will fall on her shoulders, and people would call her a bad wife. Where else do you see women who tolerate a lot of crap, not just because they have been emotionally blackmailed into staying in a relationship, but because it just isn't done in their culture?? Where, tell me.

Honestly, I'm really disappointed that you think all the 'evidence' you've given have been true depictions of the issues that cause black women to stay in the zone of singledom, Really.

If we were to really analyse the reasons, I could go on and on, but I actually don't believe that black women are as 'single' as people make it out. I know several black women who are opting to open their minds, much like their male counterparts have done for decades, and marry non-black men, some have successful marriages and relationships and other don't, but we are becoming less and less loyal, if anything.

Black women - though I don't like to say this and reinstate it, are unfortunately seen to be at the bottom of the pyramid. Whilst the black man is congratulated on his sexy hot temper, his wild strength, his argumentative-ness, his passion and drive, their female counterparts are labelled ANGRY BLACK WOMEN.

Well, I have met many black men who have confirmed to me, that any man who says that they don't want a strong woman, is a man who is not sure of himself. No woman should make a man feel less like a man, fair enough, when love comes into the equation even a celebrity could be made to feel like dirt. But making someone feel like a piece of crap is not gender-determined, after all there are charities that deal with women involved in domestic violence. This is not confined to any sex or race, a woman who thrives on making her man feel below her, obviously isn't going to get too far in life, and if all black women are like this, then we should all be single, we would have all been single and you probably wouldn't have been born, a mixed-race equivalent of you (with probably a better understanding of black and white dynamics would have been born instead).

platinumnk:

Where do u live?? I must buy you a drink for that exquisite post!!

stillwater:

When did you Africans begin to engage in black men Vs black women Vs White women talk? Please keep it in America.

Gabry:

dreeldee, Im dissapointed in you. Uve been abroad and out from your country, do you even think those white ladies are that great?

U are deceiving yourself. The whites might not nag as much but they throw stuff here and there, they waste all your money for their shimmy shimmy lip gloss and their hair and clothes and their pet dogs and cats dressing them like some paris Hilton's Chihuahua and above all that, most of them can't cook and clean these days. . .

I dont know what are you rying to say here really.  

stillwater:

When did you Africans begin to engage in black men Vs black women Vs White women talk? Please keep it in America.

nene1:

Exactly. You cannot say a white women knows how to take care of a home better than an african woman. Please. African women spoil their men. Where do you think so many african men got their huge egos and chauvinistic attitudes from? Our society teaches us that men are the head of the house so I don't know where these guys are getting this bs from that we are too confrontational and want to challenge them lol,

mama_gee:

this is something no one here will wanna acept but the truth is that compared to all other races, black women are seen as the least attractive race

oh well that sucks being that i am black too, but we just have to take care of ourselves and be ourselves

in oprah show i heard that 70% of black american women are single
i was really hurt but what da hell