soberdrunk:
I was 'raped' by two different househelps, did i become a sexworker? NO! Rape is evil but shouldnt be used as an excuse for destroying your life by yourself...........

Joavid:


I think there's are relationship between the two.

apart from the victimisation and feeling worthless.
she was also neglected and ostracized by her family - that probably affected her self esteem & self worth.

You can not be too sure except you're in her shoes

veekid:
Poor afonja

mccoy47:
[b]Mtchewww!
Silly girl!
Boo huu! So what if u wia raped! Is the prostitution justified?
Oprah Winfrey was raped too at a young age and yet she went on to become one of the most powerful women the world has known!

Better wake up from ur slumber and find something to do with ur life! Nobody cares about what u'v been tru. Ur failure in life won't be excused![/b]shut up your mouth.,,,how dare you talk like that,,..,people like her need understanding,love and care. ,,,,,you are wicked. , ,, ,do you know her pains. ,,it happened when she was young

ogtavia:
I agree with your last sentence...you should have started with it....i never said there wasn't a relationship...I just didn't see the justification for prostitution therein....I definitely have some sympathy for her...

The crime and decay in our society is loosely attached to circumstances like this one yet again. ..one shouldn't throw out the bath water with the baby in it..

Flexherbal:
This thing happens all the the time.
Our young ladies need to be protected

"I’ve been treated with so much disdain because according to them, I want to disorganise the family while my uncle goes scot-free. My mother in particular has made life so unbearable for me, I feel so worthless, hopeless and useless."

Tenkobos:
Are these people her witness?

mccoy47:
Mtchewww!
Silly girl!
Boo huu! So what if u wia raped! Is the prostitution justified?
Oprah Winfrey was raped too at a young age and yet she went on to become one of the most powerful women the world has known!

Better wake up from ur slumber and find something to do with ur life! Nobody cares about what u'v been tru. Ur failure in life won't be excused!

ogtavia:
well,i don't know what happened in between...but I am still finding hard to see her being raped as a justification for becoming a prostitute, of course there are many ills in our society today,yet we can point one or two people who rose above similar circumstances, and made a better life for themselves..i pray she gets the help she craves before she does something silly..

Mobsync:
Same old story.

No one gets "forced" into prostitution after a rape. She only fell for good ol' peer pressure and greed.

mccoy47:
Mtchewww!
Silly girl!
Boo huu! So what if u wia raped! Is the prostitution justified?
Oprah Winfrey was raped too at a young age and yet she went on to become one of the most powerful women the world has known!

Better wake up from ur slumber and find something to do with ur life! Nobody cares about what u'v been tru. Ur failure in life won't be excused!

mccoy47:
Mtchewww!
Silly girl!
Boo huu! So what if u wia raped! Is the prostitution justified?
Oprah Winfrey was raped too at a young age and yet she went on to become one of the most powerful women the world has known!

Better wake up from ur slumber and find something to do with ur life! Nobody cares about what u'v been tru. Ur failure in life won't be excused!

MrLekan95:

Its still baffles me how some Nigerians think psychologically...
Yes... rape shouldn't justify her going into prostitution, but I bet u don't understand what going through her mind at that very moment... AGE 14, PARENTS REJECTION, BEING RAPED BY UR OWN UNCLE'S, EVEN WITH THE PREGNANCY... AHAH at least show some sympathy now...
Btw... Forget this comparing of a thing, that someone survived it, doesn't mean everyone can...

Mobsync:


Life is not fair. It has never been fair and it will never be fair.

If everyone else turned into a life of crime and sin because someone treated them unfairly, then I guess we all would be criminals, rapists etc.

What is the uncle in question justifies his rape (if he truly raped her) by claiming he was also raped while he was younger? Will you still stand on your psychology view?

Everyone has his own problems and struggles, so forget all these I was forced into prostitution because I was raped. She's lying.

Forget

mccoy47:
Mtchewww!
Silly girl!
Boo huu! So what if u wia raped! Is the prostitution justified?
Oprah Winfrey was raped too at a young age and yet she went on to become one of the most powerful women the world has known!

Better wake up from ur slumber and find something to do with ur life! Nobody cares about what u'v been tru. Ur failure in life won't be excused!

Joavid:


You have to understand people are different. This whole thing can be liken to the debate of "if leaders are born or made".

listen, some people are strong willed than others.
some are resilient than others.
some are emotionally strong than others.

we aren't all the same.
besides that, I think you have to stop settings high expectations of people.

Driftingking:
A Nigerian lady who was forced into prostitution after her Uncle raped her, has written to a popular counsellor, Temilolu Okeowo, pouring out her heart and what her life has become after the rape incident.

She wrote:


Dear Aunty Temilolu,

One fateful day, when everyone had gone to work, my uncle (my mum’s younger brother), came to the bathroom where I was taking my bath, flung himself at me and raped me. I fainted out of shock and was revived. Some weeks later, I discovered I was pregnant and was forced to terminate the pregnancy.

To worsen my plight, till date, my parents and entire family refuse to believe my uncle raped me as he denied it. I’ve been treated with so much disdain because according to them, I want to disorganise the family while my uncle goes scot-free. My mother in particular has made life so unbearable for me, I feel so worthless, hopeless and useless. I took solace in my friend who encouraged me to join their group of prostitutes. I graduated from secondary school at age 14. I was a brilliant child.

However, today, I am a s*x worker to make ends meet after being neglected by my parents. I am traumatised and depressed and I need to see you before I do something silly to myself. Where may I find you please?

Queen.

Here's Temi's reponse to Queen's letter;

My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,
Please pardon me for skipping the topic I began discussing last week. Queen’s story made me so angry such that I wish I could hold a world press conference right away on our satanically and unapologetically patriarchal society and get the world to save the future of Nigerian girls who will be responsible for future Nigeria! Abi, are they not the ones to bring an entire generation into the world if their wombs remain intact? I hear all sorts of stories every day of the evils that men do especially to the girl-child. It’s so disturbing that it’s giving me grey hair already.

Why should anyone go through what Queen is dealing with? What baffles me is how her mother of all people would malign her because of her younger brother. You could say her brother has been her benefactor however, that is not a reason for her to defend him in a situation like this. If care is not taken, Queen’s life is just going to spiral down into complete darkness. Already, she has become a sex worker whose body is a merchandise for these same men. She may never ever get her bearing right. A child who left high school in flying colours at age 14 is one who certainly loves to study and make the most of her brain. What happens to this intellectual gusto?

Now, I imagine Queen’s daily activity, I imagine how her great dreams for a beautiful future are being snuffed out daily. I imagine how she doesn’t want to know what anyone could think about her trade. I imagine how lost she is in the wilderness of life; I imagine how she cries morning, day and night. I even imagine how she wants to peel off her body when she showers after sleeping with these men-all because her family refused to treat her with love or even care for her needs. Yes, we can all wonder why she has to join the sex work; after all there should be another way out.

I tell you, you will be shocked at the number of young ladies around you, who are sleeping with one man or the other to make ends meet. They don’t have to stand on the road at night. But why should things keep getting worse for the younger female folk? They are the ones who are sexually abused right from childhood even before they reach puberty. Before long, they begin to fall in love and when not prepared for that stage, have their hearts fatally broken over and over and over again.

They get to the university and some beastly men their father’s age make life hellish for them and I tell you most of these girls succumb out of fear and because no one is speaking out for them! It continues in their work place then they end up in marriage with a devil re-incarnate who will batter them and treat them the way animals shouldn’t be treated, like they were picked from a dustbin and their mother would be the first to tell them “God hates divorce,” and “what will people say if you leave him?” I am bible compliant- in fact it is our manual at Girls Club but I am yet to find any scripture which encourages defiling and debasing womanhood! What a pity? What a pitiful pity? I have seen women whose destinies were ripped apart by men-their husbands. Now, when your mother hasn’t got your back, who would?

Girls…girls…girls, the world is extremely hostile. You need to concentrate on the right things and your future and brace yourself up for the challenges of life. God has created you beautiful and given you certain privileges, innate skills and spiritual gifts to live a most enjoyable life. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO DEPRIVE YOU OF THIS! GOD LOVES YOU, SO DO I!

http://www.lailasblog.com/2017/03/my-uncle-raped-me-my-family-blamed-me.html

doyinbaby:
shut up your mouth.,,,how dare you talk like that,,..,people like her need understanding,love and care. ,,,,,you are wicked. , ,, ,do you know her pains. ,,it happened when she was young

mccoy47:
Mtchewww!
Silly girl!
Boo huu! So what if u wia raped! Is the prostitution justified?
Oprah Winfrey was raped too at a young age and yet she went on to become one of the most powerful women the world has known!

Better wake up from ur slumber and find something to do with ur life! Nobody cares about what u'v been tru. Ur failure in life won't be excused!

chuose2:

soberdrunk:
I was 'raped' by two different househelps, did i become a sexworker? NO! Rape is evil but shouldnt be used as an excuse for destroying your life by yourself...........

Deejacy2:
I have a friend in my secondary school days. This was exactly the same thing that happened to her, except for the prostitution part. But her Parents never believed her.

Well today the Bastard who defiled her, guess where he is?? His 6feet down