9jayes:
I pledge never to raise my hand on any woman so help me God

Rooneyboy:


Yeah, flip the coin now, I've vowed never to hit my woman and she knows it.

And probably because of my vow I keep getting slaps from time to time when she gets angry.

Early this year I almost lost an eye, visited my eye doctor and took several drugs before things normalised.

It's vice versa,LEAVE if you have a violent husband or wife.

Rooneyboy:


Yeah, and in truth I'm about changing that 'NEVER HIT HER ORIENTATION' because the abuse is almost becoming a norm.

I had a black eye for 2 good weeks early this year and had to tell colleagues in the office that it was an accident I had whilst playing ball.

U can just imagine

factwriter:


Leave with their kids

You mean the kids she brought from her father's house or the one she had for the man? I thought a child belongs to both biological parents.

Do you know what happens to children raised outside marriage?
Do you realise how tough it can be for a single woman to successfully raise " disciplined and morally upright" children alone?

Everyone here seem only concern about "the woman", nobody appear to be considering the disadvantage of such decisions upon the children.

While I strongly condemn domestic violence (especial when it's unleashed on women being the weaker sex), I firmly believe that protection of any one spouse against domestic violence, be the man or woman, is the responsibility of the LAW and ACTS governing a land.

In the America, UK and the likes nobody tells you not to beat your wife, do so and go to jail while that same woman you abused "gets to remain in your house to enjoy the comfort and security" needed to raise the children she bore for you.

Again protection against domestic violence is the responsibility of the LAW.
Telling an aggrieved spouse to move out simply before she has a sustainable financial means is selfish cause you are putting the general future of the children at risk.

princessayesha:
Hmmm.my sister not only beating, some emotional pains are worse than beatings. I dont know what's happening now adays .

LolaO:
In summary, women tend to endure domestic violence just because according to them, the relationship is "Ride or Die"

Very insane thought!

Lunagirl:
Final advice for women, never ever stop making money. Don't sacrifice it for anything. The reason why most women can't leave is because they can't afford to be alone with their kids.

Have the number of kids YOU can personally afford and make sure you keep making money to the point that if violence becomes a trend, you can easily leave with your kids.

If you tell these abusive guys to beat their fellow men for road them no go gree o.

But they will come home to form boss for their wives

Rooneyboy:


Yeah, and in truth I'm about changing that 'NEVER HIT HER ORIENTATION' because the abuse is almost becoming a norm.

I had a black eye for 2 good weeks early this year and had to tell colleagues in the office that it was an accident I had whilst playing ball.

U can just imagine

Odunharry:

I prefer giving d emotional torture. Dont see myself hitting a woman again.

Mindfulness:


Every adult should have something to fall back on. This is nothing but wisdom. Even if you have the best husband in the world, he might get sacked or die prematurely. You never know. Be prepared.

princessayesha:
They are all the same dear...it wud be better if u refrain from both.

Pavore9:
Ironically most of those men who are into domestic violence are sissies when it comes to their fellow men!

Lunagirl:


Thank you for taking your time to write that article.

Do you know how hard it is as a child to watch your father constantly abuse your mother?

Do you know how many times you begged your mother to leave but she won't?

Do you know how it's like to wake up in the morning and resent your father every single day?

Or how about the cries at night your mom thinks nobody hears?

How about if she dies and your dad goes to jail and you end up with some dumb uncle and aunt, separated from your siblings forever?

Yes, it will affect the kids to grow up without their father. But it is way better than watching your mother get abused.

Any woman strong enough to leave should leave, not because of herself alone, but because of her kids too.

lovelygurl:


I know right. Most of them are cowards and will be acting like stupid fools if placed next to someone, who is ready to beat some sense into them

bravesoul247:
Those guys that mostly say they won't hit there women are the ones who end up killing there wives sef. I Just pray God should give me the strength and patience to withstand my future wife's excesses cos women can so push you to the wall.

Martin124:
hmmmm mary,but wait oo will a man just beat the wife for know reason,u know say una mouth too sharp

9jayes:
I pledge never to raise my hand on any woman so help me God

Amberon:
you sound like a potential woman beater. Listen there's no excuse to use violence except in the case of self defense.

fatymore:
ok.in your dream

factwriter:



Your response is somewhat laden with emotion, probably you have related with people (mother/child) who were once victims or (with due respect), yourself was a victim.

Whichever the case, the fact that you appear to have had a first-hand encounter with this issue evidently compromises your judgement.

In other words, you are being too extreme with your prescription.

If Nairaland were a more private (IM) forum I could have delve into my personal experience and show you how a "now blossoming" marriage was almost dissolve based on similar prescription like the one you are giving.

There's always a light at the end of the tunnel, what matters is just how high we can hold our heads up and how encouraging those we lean on could be.

Thumbs up for all the "enduring mothers" of the world.
I made it here today because a mother was there yesterday.

dangotesmummy:
When money is involved how can they run?

Even if gentry breaks Mercy's skull or strips her naked in public she won't run because if she runs there'll be no money to slay

Rooneyboy:


Yeah, and in truth I'm about changing that 'NEVER HIT HER ORIENTATION' because the abuse is almost becoming a norm.

I had a black eye for 2 good weeks early this year and had to tell colleagues in the office that it was an accident I had whilst playing ball.

U can just imagine

Rooneyboy:


Yeah, and in truth I'm about changing that 'NEVER HIT HER ORIENTATION' because the abuse is almost becoming a norm.

I had a black eye for 2 good weeks early this year and had to tell colleagues in the office that it was an accident I had whilst playing ball.

U can just imagine

dalaman:


Ladies are equally as violent and malicious as men. Don't let any body fool you.