DOnlooker:

Be careful what you wish for. A father who just one hour after you and his daughter has been joined together as ONE, singles her out and gifts her a car in the full glare of the wedding guests is sending you some strong non-coded messages among which are;
1.) He doesn't see you as the head of the newly created family otherwise it should have been both of you together he will hand over the car keys.

2.) No matter the circumstances, in the event of any misunderstanding, you will always be the one at fault.

3.) He is trying to intimidate you already with money.
etc, etc.
I wouldn't want to have a FIL that will do that, not on the wedding day at least because it will leave a lasting impression on the guests that her father will continue to bankroll my marriage. A real man will understand.

olaife80:


Guess you are not married. Please ask your parent they will lecture you more.
A wise person knows its wrong.
This is a Wedding gift not birthday gift.

olaife80:
The gift should be for the couple and not for his daughter. The FIL can only do that when his daughter is not yet married. This is not about Ego or the husband can't afford it, this is about the FIL respecting the new family. When there is misunderstanding the lady would be high on it. To me such lady won't be submissive but a mature Man should know to handle such not by breaking up.

morounkola:
That wise person is indeed not wise!

This story is not complete. Let hear the full story before passing judgement.

I pray to be able to give my daughters quality wedding gifts. When that time comes, I will not need anybody's permission. Just as I do not need anybody's permission to give them quality education and good home training.

dangotesmummy:
men and their ego again.kini big deal for goodness sake.shebi its the 2 of them that owns the car.una no dey taya

dangotesmummy:
haaa that phenese will cut off that day.how dare her? Has her husband bought ship before she bring car home

firstking01:
You reek of understanding of the post...who's seeking who's consent here?, smh for ya lots.

olaife80:


Guess you are not married. Please ask your parent they will lecture you more.
A wise person knows its wrong.
This is a Wedding gift not birthday gift.

Hannysmilez:
Lmfaoo!!!!!!! I'm telling you. They should both trek together

alexialin:







Hahahahahahahhahah
Dem no dey taya o!
A sensible husband will accept such gifts from father inlaw with gratitude but a bad belle husband will nearly burst into tiny pieces with envy and pride , cos his wife will live in comfort . Forgetting the car and house is for both of them .

Some men are just born sadist!

dangotesmummy:
is like the role of wife=suffer head in Nigerian marriages.it's a crimes to deserve or want good thing. Like she's born to live for the Man's opinion.

I'm sure if it was chopping board,kitchen knife or pot the father bought, no need for husbands consent but na car so the husband's consent is mandatory

If this kain husband hear say company give the wife official car and driver na hypertension go kill am o

Hannysmilez:
I'm telling you. I don't know why men are this silly. Whoever tricked them into believing that their manhood is dependent on their material wealth?

LePrezident:


Jokes. So if my daughter's husband wants to receive a gift from his parents would he seek permission from my daughter and myself to accept it?

You sound like Gary Coleman; go figure.

dangotesmummy:
thats why they only feel manly when they carry small change but the broke ones dey do gra gra just to prove they're still men

dangotesmummy:
is like the role of wife=suffer head in Nigerian marriages.it's a crimes to deserve or want good thing. Like she's born to live for the Man's opinion.

I'm sure if it was chopping board,kitchen knife or pot the father bought, no need for husbands consent but na car so the husband's consent is mandatory

If this kain husband hear say company give the wife official car and driver na hypertension go kill am o

ImaIma1:


The management of the company would need to ask permission from the husband to give her an official car.

Hannysmilez:
And girls still follow them. Imagine. The lady even begged the man and wanted to return the gift. Iffa hear,I'd even help him fold his clothes

Hannysmilez:
Sweetheart,you should shut up more. I've discussed this on twitter so I do understand the post

dominique:
Even an in-law must walk on eggshells to massage the bloated ego of an average Nigerian man. This shouldn't even be a topic for discussion. Why on earth should a woman reject a gift from her own parent? Asking for permission means that there is a possibility of rejecting the car gift which is a huge disrespect to the father that raised her. So many rules and regulations a Nigerian woman must follow all in the name of "keeping her marriage". Nigerians can make marriage harder than rocket science sha.