When you read some articles online, they give a lot of dos and don’ts about relationships that are bigger than our Nigerian constitution. These codes are so many that trying to keep all of them can turn a full blooded human to a robot. The point is: while some of the dos and don’ts are valid, they are not always necessary. What works in one relationship may not work in another. This results in partial success and partial failure.
But some things are so essential that you should not overlook them. They form the core of every true relationship. You may refer to them as the engine a successful relationship. Among a plethora of such things, three qualities stand out the most. If they are present in you and your partners, your relationship will weather any storm irrespective of the do’s and don’ts that have been set by others. You can find them below.

1. Teachable: Webster dictionary defines “teachable” as being ‘able and willing to learn’. This is by far the most vital quality. No matter how horrible your partner may be, if they have this one quality, there is still hope. Nobody enters into a relationship being perfect. We must all have a deficit in one way or the other. The ability to be open to learn and change for the happiness of another person is what counts. If your partner does not know how to show love, how to cook, how to tidy up a home or any other thing but is willing to learn, you have a treasure. Too many people will instead just say “That is the way I am and I can’t change for anybody. Deal with it.” It takes a lot of gut and humility to admit that you are doing something wrong and have the desire to learn to do it right. If your partner is rigid and is not willing to learn, you had better think twice.

2. Devotion: You may substitute this word for “commitment.” Love is easy; commitment is difficult. Love is a feeling that comes and goes; commitment remains whether the feeling is present or not. Devotion is what makes someone want to keep a relationship even it is not convenient. It is what makes a partner continually watch out for the interest of another even when they do not feel like it. It is the quality of sticking to someone no matter the challenges. It is what keeps your partner by your side even if they find someone more attractive than you. You would want a partner that would remain committed to you even when they do not feel they love you. It is from this quality that other things like sacrifice spring up. If you doubt your partner’s commitment to you and your relationship, you should have a second thought. Many dating relationships and marriages crash because one partner did not learn how to be devoted during the ups and down of life.

3. Tolerance: If your partner has a quick temper, there is a problem. If your partner is fond of flaring up at the slightest provocation, your relationship is sitting on a time bomb. You need someone who is tolerant when they see your flaws. You will make mistakes. You will commit unimaginable blunders. You will say things you never mean. You will do things that you never really planned to do. You will hurt your partner even without knowing. If you want to argue the previous statements, you need to come to terms with your humanity. Face the truth: you are not perfect. To err is human. But in all, your partner needs to be someone who can forgive and be accommodating of your flaws. And this is why tolerance is crucial. A successful relationship is one where the partners have mastered the art of forgiveness and tolerance.

In conclusion, you will notice that love does not make the list. The reason is because this list is Reality 101. While love is important, it is not a quality a partner can possess. Rather, it is what is felt between two people and the feeling can be erratic. A durable relationship needs more than just love; it needs more of teachability, commitment, and tolerance.

Do you agree with Me ?

My secondary school gf have all this qualities i guess am just lucky .....lolz

So on point.

But the main thing is she must be very ready for heavy sex. That's the only reason I'm gonna pay her bride price. Just sex. I repeat, just sex, because most ladies are essentially useless but for sex.

Make i pack here
Okada! Okada!!
But me no get girlfriend

One of the nonsenses I've seen on nairaland

ModCaller:
So on point.

But the main thing is she must be very ready for heavy sex. That's the only reason I'm gonna pay her bride price. Just sex. I repeat, just sex, because most ladies are essentially useless but for sex.

God de look you

MEGGATRON:
I no read

U dey too lazy.

Lacking all these, she'll still coman be saying...


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Rubbish. You go old

I CONCUR .............. but your post na nones****

correct guy. so i guess datz point 3b (sex ooooo wonderful sex

ModCaller:
So on point.

But the main thing is she must be very ready for heavy sex. That's the only reason I'm gonna pay her bride price. Just sex. I repeat, just sex, because most ladies are essentially useless but for sex.

Do you have sisters, nieces and female cousins ?
Does this your statement apply to them?

If u really love the person, u will do whatever it takes to make it work wella, hence having those qualities

this is right in an IDEAL world.... but we deal with REALITY

relationships
suck

nice coz I read the conclusion and didn't read d rest... but Op so...

So true !!! If he gets angry easily and is unforgivable except when it comes to love making run far!!!! U deserve better

Understanding is part too

True

I over concur

No one is perfect. It takes two to tango I believe.

Ok

Why is it that all DOS and don'ts in relationship are meant for women to obey?

Yinmu.com

God first

There are people with all these qualities and yet marriages fail everywhere...There's no perfect partner..We all have to groom each other to fit our tastes..That's y the only quality I agree to in your list is Teachable..Once she's teachable every other thing na small thing

No wander there are lots of unmarried men and women these days

true talk but one thing is missing unforgivable spirit

Applies Hand Brakes

I have made my choice. I pray God it's the right choice.
Though she has these qualities.
Only time will tell.

nice article

oshey..the expert have arrive to come and tell us to behave as if they have dated every women in the world