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Sirheny007:
@Op thanks for this exposing this fact..
I am 23, and the responsibilities on my shoulders no be here!
Being an Igbo, I am already expected to start preparations for building a house..and as the first male son of the family, I am forced to sacrifice my academic ambitions in order to provide for my younger brothers...
I had to drop out from a University to settle for a Polytechnic..I traded a 6 year course for a 2 year national diploma..
Anyway, I have learned to put one step at a time.

I am not ranting or exposing my predicaments, but parents might not know these things depresses us..
Parents should watch out lest we die before our time.

erico2k2:

I was not talking about the OP I was talking about you and it is very evident that you failed to read btw the lines . I'm a parent to three . You are not . The university of life is a wonderful school of though and it's free . But there is no repeat . My advice plan well . Your savings of 10 years ago is worth a basket of tomatoes only mi et made during the times of needs make sense . Imagine if your Dad saved 500k 1998 and thought that's you sorted for Uni . What is it worth now ? U get where I'm coming from that ur savings might just mean nothing . You can only sustain yoyr commitment only if you are in employment or in Biz at said time.

Evaberry:
I knew this was going To hit fp
Now op stop being selfish
we live in Africa this is how things are done over here

it's the responsibility of the first male cuz he's a man if it is to be the head of the home now nd how a man and woman can never be equal we will keep on hearing men men but now it has come to work all men af ran..


men are just crazy scum
useless and just disgusting
I'm happy I'm a lesbian honestly

gokuu:


You are truly DEPLORABLE!

Learnstuffs:

All your posts in Nairaland is about criticising men. It's not your fault shaka. I wonder how you treat your dad

Evaberry:
I knew this was going To hit fp
Now op stop being selfish
we live in Africa this is how things are done over here

it's the responsibility of the first male cuz he's a man if it is to be the head of the home now nd how a man and woman can never be equal we will keep on hearing men men but now it has come to work all men af ran..


men are just crazy scum
useless and just disgusting
I'm happy I'm a lesbian honestly

gokuu:


Oga, saving does not mean keeping 500k under a pillow since 1998. Any decently managed portfolio with AuM of NGN500,000 in 1998 would be worth hundreds of millions right now.
We have two forms of Capital: Human Capital and Financial Capital. At the younger stages of our lives, we have more Human Capital that gradually converts to Financial Capital as we age till retirement. The main problem with Nigerian parents is that they consume the entirety of their Human capital instead of converting a portion to Financial capital in the form of a strong investment portfolio; that is recipe for future perpetual dependence on others.

pansophist:
I only feel responsible to my parents, to cater for them if needed, giving the pensionless society Nigeria is. It is the moral thing to do and perfectly justified. They have paid their price to make you the person you've become, it's unethical to turn your back on them. But if my siblings, who contributed nothing in my life, have no enduring sickness, are not physically challenged, are mentally stable, healthy, but think because I am the eldest, or I am the most successful, then chose to depend on me for his future subsistence, they will be in for a rude awakening.

The reason why many people keep enduring the pain of raising their siblings is that they do not want to be alienated or tagged the bad one but again, I have learned that in life you can't satisfy people, including your immediate families. If truly blood is thicker than water, then they should go hustle and stop depending on me if they truly love me. If you called yourself a sibling, then choose to be lazy and depend on milking me through the sibling angle, then you do not love me and consequently do not deserve my assistance.

gokuu:


Oga, saving does not mean keeping 500k under a pillow since 1998. Any decently managed portfolio with AuM of NGN500,000 in 1998 would be worth hundreds of millions right now.
We have two forms of Capital: Human Capital and Financial Capital. At the younger stages of our lives, we have more Human Capital that gradually converts to Financial Capital as we age till retirement. The main problem with Nigerian parents is that they consume the entirety of their Human capital instead of converting a portion to Financial capital in the form of a strong investment portfolio; that is recipe for future perpetual dependence on others.

sexybbstar:


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sexybbstar:


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TheEminentLaity:
Poor people mentality. Even the rich and educated in the society give birth to children like abjectly poor people. Atiku has over thirty children, Obasanjo too numerous to mention etc. Someone would say they have a lot of money so its okay, Please Only primitive animals, mentally undeveloped humans give birth to children like that. People who are clearly irresponsible in their nuclear affairs are the ones in charge of an aggregation of diverse multitudes of individuals of a nation. Are we surprised? There is just something wrong with africans, no foresight for the future, no thought about making life easier for their offsprings, leaving a legacy, creating generational wealth. Bloody animals because of foolish culture and sometimes religion.

I barely survived with a certain amount of money, therefore, now that I have a lot of money I would bring more and more children until they only have to barely survive with a little more than I had when I started. Good thinking man, very sophisticated.

joyAA:
OMG a hundred likes please!

I was just thinking of this yesterday!
Our parents need to be counselled in this regard
You cannot punish your offspring for your own irresponsibility

What if the said firstborn decided to be wayward and instead bring in an illegitimate child?

Our parents should learn to celebrate initiative and responsibility in their children and assist them to be established in life instead of being the one to drag the children down because that's what they do


Also, we the children should borrow sense abeg
You are responsible for yourself first, take good care of yourself and ensure all is well with you. Stop sacrificing your tomorrow because tomorrow you won't have anything reasonable to sacrifice, that's just the truth.


If your parents tell you to send your younger sibling to school, tell them you will support the said Sib full stop. After all they didn't raise you to not have common sense!

Rubbish!!!!
When they were sowing wild oats they were unbothered

So why do you have to pay for it?

Its worse when you are female because both you and your husband will sstruggle to build the family up yet you won't be regarded especially in terms of inheritance because you are bearing your husband's name, yet na you suffer pass yet no thank you while alive, no consolation after death


So just do your bit for your own blood, but never sacrifice your potential for them bcs if you do, you won't be able to help them in future, you become a liability and guess what? They'll get help elsewhere anyway so who is to loose?
African mentality is a killing mentality

savagefinder:
look at this wheel barrow.. Either male or female this is something that Happens in our society and its very wrong, I am not the first born but I know what our first child went through and she really suffered it.. You are talking of Africa, pls where did you get this your lesbian life from? What even concerns us with your lesbian life?
Reasonable humans are talking and you just came to show your stupidity.. I am sure if we should type your name in sense.com we will receive an error 404..

With ur face like clitoris

akaahs:

Bro to be honest to u, am d first born my family if contributing any thing in d house, I divide it
into number of my siblings what I get is what I give . I can't kill myself

Evaberry:
I knew this was going To hit fp
Now op stop being selfish
we live in Africa this is how things are done over here

it's the responsibility of the first male cuz he's a man if it is to be the head of the home now nd how a man and woman can never be equal we will keep on hearing men men but now it has come to work all men af ran..


men are just crazy scum
useless and just disgusting
I'm happy I'm a lesbian honestly

sexybbstar:


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Evaberry:
I knew this was going To hit fp
Now op stop being selfish
we live in Africa this is how things are done over here

it's the responsibility of the first male cuz he's a man if it is to be the head of the home now nd how a man and woman can never be equal we wi
ll keep on hearing men men but now it has come to work all men af ran..


men are just crazy scum
useless and just disgusting
I'm happy I'm a lesbian honestly

kozmicity:

Kondomatic oo!! Come chew chunchin!!

Afam4eva:
I've seen people bringing up this school of thought more frequently recently and i think it' imperative that i add my 2cents.

We have become very stingy and greedy generation. These days people just want to enjoy by themselves without anybody to fend for.

As much as i believe that the burden should be reduced on the first borns, it's important to note that almost every good thng of life usually accrues to first born but educationally, financialy etc in order for them to come out better human beings and be able to fend for the younger ones who weren't as privileged.

For them to now come out when they have "Made it" and start complaining is selfish in my opinion. We're not American for fvck sake. Our families are our lives. We have to take care of them until they stand on their own feet.

Evablizin:
As in eeh is like this issue want to be tagged as culture,you will see a guy or lady saying i'm the first son or first daughter for that reason all family burdens is on his/her shoulder,when some of them gets married you will see this issue interfering leading to some broken marriages