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Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Collyno82(m): 9:51am On Jun 28, 2017 |
sexybbstar:so in conclusion |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 9:53am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Sirheny007:My dear you better bone every and build yourself o, don't allow family to pressure u into doing what u shouldn't. Follow your dreams. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by gokuu(m): 10:00am On Jun 28, 2017 |
erico2k2: Oga, saving does not mean keeping 500k under a pillow since 1998. Any decently managed portfolio with AuM of NGN500,000 in 1998 would be worth hundreds of millions right now. We have two forms of Capital: Human Capital and Financial Capital. At the younger stages of our lives, we have more Human Capital that gradually converts to Financial Capital as we age till retirement. The main problem with Nigerian parents is that they consume the entirety of their Human capital instead of converting a portion to Financial capital in the form of a strong investment portfolio; that is recipe for future perpetual dependence on others. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Learnstuffs: 10:19am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry:All your posts in Nairaland is about criticising men. It's not your fault shaka. I wonder how you treat your dad |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by pansophist(m): 10:22am On Jun 28, 2017 |
I only feel responsible to my parents, to cater for them if needed, giving the pensionless society Nigeria is. It is the moral thing to do and perfectly justified. They have paid their price to make you the person you've become, it's unethical to turn your back on them. But if my siblings, who contributed nothing in my life, have no enduring sickness, are not physically challenged, are mentally stable, healthy, but think because I am the eldest, or I am the most successful, then chose to depend on me for his future subsistence, they will be in for a rude awakening. The reason why many people keep enduring the pain of raising their siblings is that they do not want to be alienated or tagged the bad one but again, I have learned that in life you can't satisfy people, including your immediate families. If truly blood is thicker than water, then they should go hustle and stop depending on me if they truly love me. If you called yourself a sibling, then choose to be lazy and depend on milking me through the sibling angle, then you do not love me and consequently do not deserve my assistance. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 10:37am On Jun 28, 2017 |
gokuu:i was forced to. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 10:39am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Learnstuffs:i don't think she has any male individual in her life hence the hate and anger towards men. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by TheEminentLaity: 11:12am On Jun 28, 2017 |
No news here. Africans are irresponsible |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by 9jageekz(m): 11:18am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry: You just confirmed my assumption. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by erico2k2(m): 11:19am On Jun 28, 2017 |
gokuu:Ok Bross suprise me . How much human savings and capital savings ha e you done ? |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by erico2k2(m): 11:22am On Jun 28, 2017 |
pansophist:Well said you will be suprised that it's even those who are still fed by thier parents are the ones drumming 4ward this school of thought cos for those of us who are at the stage of life where commitment can ne er finish we know different |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by erico2k2(m): 11:24am On Jun 28, 2017 |
gokuu:You don't 5H ink yoyr parents who suffered gave up groving . Gave up driving a good car , spent all his salary to make sure you got a good education is not worth helping in times of needs ? Is this what you are saying ? Cos this is what I'm asking |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by TheEminentLaity: 11:26am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Poor people mentality. Even the rich and educated in the society give birth to children like abjectly poor people. Atiku has over thirty children, Obasanjo too numerous to mention etc. Someone would say they have a lot of money so its okay, Please Only primitive animals, mentally undeveloped humans give birth to children like that. People who are clearly irresponsible in their nuclear affairs are the ones in charge of an aggregation of diverse multitudes of individuals of a nation. Are we surprised? There is just something wrong with africans, no foresight for the future, no thought about making life easier for their offsprings, leaving a legacy, creating generational wealth. Bloody animals because of foolish culture and sometimes religion. I barely survived with a certain amount of money, therefore, now that I have a lot of money I would bring more and more children until they only have to barely survive with a little more than I had when I started. Good thinking man, very sophisticated. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by gabbytabby: 12:23pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
I am going to flip the coin and say first born and others at what point would you grow some balls and start acting like an adult. Take you life in your hands and stop allowing people to push you around like a child or a mumu. Yes they are your parents does that mean they earn the right to kill you. When people carry them load wan put for your head you no fit do ewo run commot. Na person wey allow another pile load for him head na him neck go pain kwo. You are what you allow. Make I tell you one story one 15 or 16 year old been think say him papa and mamas done finish for pickins business come back from school come see one of the other wives with belle kukuma call her own mama and have heart to heart with mama say after 4 pickins person wey find trouble go use him or her head carry am oh. She dodge cane but made sure say them know say no be joke matter even as mama and papa dey laugh and make fun of her. All she mumbled was hmmmmmm. Is it a coincidence no more happened. When adulthood reach the 16 year old say she no dey for the business of fish giving but will teach the siblings how to fish after which they are on their own cos as them born na so them born the siblings too and no one be slave to another. God made it possible after so many obstacles for the 16 year old to be in a position to buy boat and fishing rod and was able to teach the siblings how to fish. After them learn how to fish did they still try to come collect fish to eat. Human nature na so 16 year old slap them wrist say mba mba. Na the 16 year old turn to eat any fish wey him fancy after the years of panla, shagari and titus while saving up to buy the boat. Dont allow anyone to set limits on your life. Can you all go to each others houses and feast and be merry on what you have absolutely sexybbstar: |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by daddytime(m): 12:31pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
sexybbstar: The story of my life..first of 10 kids...it is well |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Ugosample(m): 12:39pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
TheEminentLaity: lol You dey vex o |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by akaahs(m): 12:52pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
I remember cautioning my mother on d danger of giving birth to many children after her fifth child, am not gonna sacrifice my future to any of my siblings after all I was not there when she sign her marriage cert. I can only help her but I can kill myself. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by akaahs(m): 1:01pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
joyAA:Bro to be honest to u, am d first born my family if contributing any thing in d house, I divide it into number of my siblings what I get is what I give . I can't kill myself |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by kozmicity: 1:03pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
savagefinder: Kondomatic oo!! Come chew chunchin!! |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by erico2k2(m): 1:09pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
akaahs:Thank you,you can't give what you do not have .In the African home you parents ha e to pay your fees until you start working . Cloth you,feed you . Pay medical bills house you even after uni then such father will ask for just school fees for your younger ones you have the money U wan gap mouth . |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Liljeez(m): 1:39pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry: But the fact that you are a lesbian doesn't automatically you shouldn't have sense na |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by mrmakios092: 2:07pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
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Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 2:57pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
Bisi Alimi said the same thing, yall came for his head. Nigerians have issues walahi |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by nypha: 3:32pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
sexybbstar: Its not only the 1st children this happens to. It can be any of the kids. Sincerely, if you happen to fall into the shoes of this your friend in your family, you will understand how hurting it is when these your siblings grow up to full adults, begin to disrespect you BC things have become tough for you. I understand where you wrote of thinking suicidal. People will find it difficult to understand but, when after years of suffering and labouring for your siblings without concentrating on yourself and it all turns out that you didn't actually reach your desired height in life, being mistreated by the same people you gave your all to, can make you think twice about helping your immediate family (both older & younger ones). You don't have to feel entitled to them BC you took care of them, but, after years of toiling for them and life turns out with a bit of set back, instead of them encouraging you, you will be surprised at how much they will contribute to your feelings of taking your own life. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by engrolawei: 6:22pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
men are just crazy scum useless and just disgusting I'm happy I'm a lesbian honestly [/quote] If you're happy being a lesbian, why didn't you flag your pic? You'll need a man someday |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by jy2kbeyond(m): 6:48pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry: Sure? Relax. Now think all over again. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Kondomatic(m): 6:59pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
kozmicity:
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Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by evexx1(f): 12:43am On Jun 29, 2017 |
Well said. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Adeboyefa(f): 10:57pm On Jul 07, 2017 |
This is what a smart first child with many siblings should do : 1. Train the immediate younger sibling and let him train the next one, 3rd trains 4th, 4th trains 5th, etc. This won't burden anyone. If you train all your younger siblings before marriage, some of them will be having children before you finish training the youngest one and you will be expected to train their children as well, especially if their baby papas or baby mamas abandon them . 2. If you want to marry early, move away from home and send the money you can afford into their bank accounts. Else, they will keep scaring away all your potential spouses . You even have to do a registry wedding if they keep disapproving of everyone you bring home. A woman must get married on time, even if her immediate younger sibling's education is slow. Help them from afar (by paying into their bank accounts) once you are ready to get married. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by mmsen: 6:07pm On Oct 14, 2017 |
Afam4eva: You talk absolute nonsense. A lot of people (especially in Nigeria where people don't think before they do) are born into families where they aren't able to take care of those children. The first born usually bare the brunt of this unpreparedness. As to your comment about being 'selfish', what is more selfish than having children, not because you have anything to offer them but because you want to brag about how many you "done born"? It's almost as if you are in complete denial as to how many of Nigeria's problems are due to reckless breeding, irresponsible parenting and a lack of demographic planning. The same nonsense that Nigerians do within the nuclear family is the same reckless way that they have managed government (and some private businesses), this is the reason for the chaos and stop-start development. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by anoda(m): 9:43pm On Oct 14, 2017 |
Evablizin: no be lie ooo, imagin husband will spend more than half his earnings to feed his siblins, untill he too will get poor and his own family suffers. Too bad 2 Likes |
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