Ur dad is f**ked up my dear. Just pray dat God 4givs hiz damned soul.

OP, the best thing you can do for your mum is to turn out good, be serious with your education or business to be able to take care of her and your other siblings, you could talk to your father but be sure to have evidence and be careful.
As for beating up this your mother's "would-be rival", that would be counter productive, if your father "loves" this girl, then you have given him a licence to go ahead and even marry her.

I feel for u but there's no other take than to talk to him.appeal to his conscience.let him realise his short comings.hold brief for ur mom, tenderly.best of luck.

Thats too bad. I suggest you pray before talking to him. You the heart of the King(your dad) is in God's hand and He can turn it wherever he wishes.
I believe this will make the scales fall off his eyes and he will return home or at least take care of his children. goodluck.

C wt u gaz do:BLACKMAIL him,if ur mum has no knwlg of it, grab wteva u can 4rm him,it's an opportunity!

Topic

Nothing. . .

Yes i will suggest you talk to him politely but if no positive result then go for plan B, BLACKMAIL both him and the gf.

Enuf said

the thing is u guys are sayin she should fight the man blackmail the man do this and do that

but its obvious the man dont give a shizz

so doin all that will prob make it worse!!

imagine the guy collected salary

and is off with his gf

do u think the mom doesnt no

making his hse harder for him to live in- wil make him leave for good!!

thats easy for them in naija

i have seen it wiv my eyes

the jazzed ones and non jazzed ones!!

so all those who think aggresion will bring him back hme

are seriously mistaken!

its not abt petting him

its abt showing him he doesnt nedd to, shoudnt cheat

thats the way men wanna be treated

once he sees hes loved at home

his concience will take course

and whatever you do

o girl

DO NOT APPROACH THE GF

i guarantee you 100%

the man leave you all forever!!!!!

the girl knows hes married

and wants his money

shes doesnt give a shizz abt u

@ayettymama
how will you show love to a cheating Dad, when he is the one providing the needs?

sorri i dont get what u mean??

ayettymama:

the thing is u guys are sayin she should fight the man blackmail the man do this and do that

but its obvious the man dont give a shizz

so doin all that will prob make it worse!!

imagine the guy collected salary

and is off with his gf

do u think the mom doesnt no

making his hse harder for him to live in- wil make him leave for good!!

thats easy for them in naija

i have seen it wiv my eyes

the jazzed ones and non jazzed ones!!

so all those who think aggresion will bring him back hme

are seriously mistaken!

its not abt petting him

its abt showing him he doesnt nedd to, shoudnt cheat

thats the way men wanna be treated

once he sees hes loved at home
his concience will take course

please state the steps to take to achieve the bold highlighted.

gosh this babe and her ridiculous absolutes. annoying as heck.

h202

get off my back

this is my opinion

take it or leave it!!

@toosoon

look at my first post
i mentioned a few there

aye,
Since when did I begin caring about your platitudinal, negligible remarks. Back ko front ni. Ko ra e lo jo.


poster,
didn't you say you don't mind?

@ayettymama
you suggest she organise picnics, helping him in his job, family get-to-gether and so on because you think that her Dad feels un-wanted (meaning not loved,too much to deal with etc) at home.

what if the problem was infidelity?

@OP,
NO. The affair is btw your mum and your dad. Things happen for a reason. You do not know what happened btw your mum and your dad. Dont even base your conclusions on what a party said to you about it. Let them handle that aspect of their lives. Only pray for them.

However, you can talk to your dad on his actions towards his kids. He is your father and hence needs to be responsible to you. Let him know you need him to care for you and your siblings.

The problem IS indfidelity

the solution is him coming back home!

talking to him will help, but u have to choose the right moment

Dont tell me this topic is still dragging on

@poster
u have to quarel with him because if u talk to him clamly he will still go out

Abeg just leave am for God hand oooooooo dats nt somtin u can just talk ur way tru,just pray n try n make tins easier for ur mum she might be havin a rough time n also TREAT HIM D SAME WAY OR EVEN BETA DAN D WAY U DID B4 U FOUND OUT

Report the case to ur grandmama

ayettymama:

and whatever you do

o girl

DO NOT APPROACH THE GF

i guarantee you 100%

the man leave you all forever!!!!!

the girl knows hes married

and wants his money

shes doesnt give a shizz abt u

most men still love their families (their kids at least) when they cheat, i doubt he would leave them forever if she confronts the girl. the worst he should do is beat the living daylights out of her, but not leave. if he leaves it's not because she confronted the girl, but because he wanted to leave before but had no reason to.

He's under her spell. (Love portions)

Just break her neck and be done with it.
he is sure to 'snap' out of it.( see what i did there . . . . oh forget it )

I feel so sorry for our mothers. What have women done to deserve such in marriage?
Imagine collecting salary, and vanishing to spend on a mistress. He's also financially irresponsible, as well as morally.

Anyway, nothing ever justifies cheating, but there are other sides to a story.
This mistress could easily become the victim tomorrow, and we'd be here pitying her.

If it were me, i would talk to my pops, in a mature yet sombre way, and let him see the pain he's causing his family. As it is, momsie may be aware already.
If he doesn't stop, leave it to the big daddy upstairs.

Your dad will certainly not go unpunished for his sins.

thats the way men wanna be treated

once he sees hes loved at home

his concience will take course

lol can anyone really be this naive.

We all must understand that 'man is polygamous by nature'(Chinua Achebe, 1973)
The white man foisted their type of marriage on us and its just normal for the guy
to live out his natural instincts.
On abandoning his children and no more caring about them, I think its very awful of him.

HE IS GONNA RUIN HIS LIFE,
I HAVE SEEN THIS TYPE OF SITUATION A BILLION TIMES,
NOTHING YOU SAY CAN CHANGE HIM, JUST LOOK FOR THE BITCH HE IS FUCCKING AND SNAP HER NECK, I AM TELLING YOU FACT,

2) YOUR MOM HAS TO TRY NEW STUFFS,
IF YOUR MOM IS THE NAGGING TYPE, MAYBE SHE SHOULD TRY SMILING AND DOING THINGS THAT SHE NEVER DID BEFORE, YOUR DAD IS JUST BORED WITH THE MISERABLE WRAPPER YOU MOM IS TIEING EVERYDAY SO HE IS GONNA TRY OUT SOMEONE WITH EM TIGHT JEANS.

All you who made immoral comments and gave deceitful advice to this poster should go and kneel down and pray for forgiveness. That man is wrong and you said the mother should not know. All of you will receive heavier judgments for supporting such deceitful men in marriages.

Poster. . .

Mind your own business. . . .

hmmnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn brings back old memories (yes i have gone through it)
I did not hesitate then and i will not hesitate to tell my mother again
i trusted my mother to handle it well(and she sure did) and she knew how best to deal with her husband, i wont be the one crying or petting his head. Hell No!!!
lust does not respond to any of that
Whatever you do dont be the one insulting your father and calling him names cos when your parents settle they will
call your name and ask that  you apologise to the irresponsible man