Collyno82:
thanks anyway. but my advise to u is as a mother u claim to be, ur role in discussions whether online or offline should be advisory base on ur experiences. ur discussion on lines most times makes one to wonder if ur still looking for who to Date, as in ur not comfortable in ur home front. advise younger women on how to make it in their home front or in their chosen career. being a career woman entails mentoring others wisely. stop bragging about ur little present achievement if any, cos we have evidence on every side that nothing on earth is standing still. be guided pls

Amarabae:
ofcourse it was an advice and an encouragement that I gave in this my writeup.
Read my writeup from the beginning again.

Buharison:

Go and learn how to be a real wife, what u just did is the work of a side chick

lilmax:
you are the class captain

the problem is you guys don't think before you reply.... remove the natural hate and use your brain....

Amarabae:
ofcourse it was an advice and an encouragement that I gave in this my writeup.
Read my writeup from the beginning again.

Oyindidi:
She did a good job by advising broke guys

Amarabae:
Hahahahaha. I be trouble maker o.
See vex on this thread.
Pt2 loading.
I am glad that matured people here understood the message.

Amarabae:
ofcourse it was an advice and an encouragement that I gave in this my writeup.
Read my writeup from the beginning again.

ogorwyne:
Op men can be broke and so also ladies. Why don't you just advice both sexes to work hard and change their financial status? Or are the men supposed to bust their asses so they can spend it all on a female who thinks she deserves it simply because she possesses the female ge.nitalia in the relationship?

Amarabae:
you dodged my question, what are you doing now?
Because serious guys are busy going to work or shop NOW.

jaksmillioniar:
guy dem dey vex me I wont reply again cos if I say wat on my mind I get a ban I will just see how dey fool diasef. rubbish later dey say girls are not cheap. let dem go meet tblavk now. guy if u must spend for a girl fk shege out or her scata her pucce and giv d bich 5k for meatpie and mtn kad.

Amarabae:
A LETTER TO THE BROKE GUYS.
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Greetings all!
I will like to briefly to thank all who wished me a Happy Birthday yesterday.
Thank you my Darlings. *kisses*
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Back to my main subject, THE BROKE GUYS.
I have noticed that one of the most frustrating moments in a man's life is when he is broke!
This era of financial scarcity always leave many men with feeling of emptiness,
No wonder the sighting of that word "BROKE" always touches the nerve in many guys, no wonder the insults, bullying and aggressiveness they exhibit as a response to any thread that is dedicated to such a dreaded word.
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NOW Broke Guys listen, let me give you a bit of advice..
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Every woman dream of a comfortable future, a future where even if she is not been treated like a queen, atleast she will not be a slave.
Most ladies grew up and saw the financial difficuly and suffering their mothers went through in the name of marriage and thereby took a resolution not to be part of that fate.
So before you blame them for rejecting you as a broke guy, remember this.
1. Being broken is NOT a permanent situation, work hard to change the status.
2. Even if you are an unemployed graduate, you can raise a capital and move into business.
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FINANCIAL STABILITY AND SECURITY is an Important Requirement many women look at including me.
How can you expect a girl to reject a rich guy for you that live in a public yard and earn below #30,000 monthly?
The girl may really love you but she need a partner who is Financially stable,
Many ladies are not looking for a Dangote kind of guy but a Hardworking Financially Stable Guy.
and I see nothing wrong in that.
He may not have his own house, atleast let him afford a 1 or 2-bedroom flat.
He may not have a murano or quest, atleast let him afford a mercedes even if it is old model.
Women just want to be comfortable.
So Mr Broke guy,
Why not focus on improving your financial status instead?
From #30,000, aim to be getting atleast up to #70,000 and above, monthly.
From Public yard, aim at living in a comfortable apartment.
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No woman want to suffer, YES the woman may have a good job or business, but she need an equal or higher earner than her as a partner.
You get the drift?.
ALSO.
Some Broke Guys are LAZY in nature!
Women do appreciate hardworking guys, we do.
But the lazy type! Hush.
There are many unemployed graduate who love staying indoors, sleeping and always online looking for a girl to bully.
Why are such guys suprised at being broke?
They are proud and lazy to humble themselves and learn an income earning skill.
Tomorrow, these are guys who will be calling girls "GOLD DIGGERS" for rejecting their lazy azz.
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Dear broke guy, Wake up,
Work hard to improve your financial status,
Go and learn an income earning Skill,they are many out there to learn from.
My Final point is that a guy should be financial stable first before thinking of a serious relationship or marriage.
OK. Broke is not permanent to a hard working guy.
LOVE YOU ALL.
Thank you.

ogorwyne:

Amarabae:
what a dry and empty bullying tactics.
I am not moved by it, dear.
Nuisance? Is that the only word you can decode from my writeup?
Horrible.
Also, I have a federal job and financially stable even before marriage.
And last, I have the legal right to be in any section that I want.
Ok?

partnerus:

You've made my day with your write-up. This got me laughing. Yes I know what it feels like cause I'm a living witness too. I got dumped by a girl I spent my last kobo for during NYSC era and after that, she parted ways with me and settled with another man. According to her, she loves me and still does till now but for the fact that I wasn't financially stable with an uncertain future prompted her bid me goodbye. I wept and cried for several weeks as I remained indoors cause I loved her so much. Then spontaneously, I embraced reality and made several photocopies of my CV and went job hunting. Today I work and do some other hustling to make ends meet. I am not saying I am there yet ooo... but I have learnt that every woman needs an OK guy for a husband if you know what I mean. Now, I don't approach a lady again. That has been postponed till things stabilises. Thanks for your write-up. It was just a reminder of my resolution.

Mup4life:
I was very serious though, Have a great day.

moonraker:
Well like they say..

its a condition that makes a crayfish bend in an awkward position.

The Economy of a nation indirectly changes the thinking faculty of its citizens...

The evidence of the above can be seen on this thread.

Advice to all the fellas on here

If a woman doesnt stick with you when you have little, she doesnt deserve to be with you when you hammer.

Work on yourself to be a better husband and father to your future wife and kids and not some gold digger LovePeddler (No offense if you are one on this thread)

To the ladies

You need to be self sufficient. With or without a guy, you still have your own life to live. Work on yourself to be supportive to your future
husband and kids.


To all:

If your not married, you have absolutely no obligation to do anything for each other unless your heart tells you to do it.

And No, dont play the sex card. Relationships needs to go back to the basics of really getting to know each other from the attitude point of view.

Please dont quote me if you have nothing sensible to say.

Mup4life:
you want to be finacially stable b4 you get married? Thnk God she left, if you had married that lady wen you were bouyant finacially, and something happened along the line and the money was not there anymore she would have made your life a living hell. Shit happens and life is upredictable. You might be rich today and broke tomorrow.

Mup4life:
you want to be finacially stable b4 you get married? Thnk God she left, if you had married that lady wen you were bouyant finacially, and something happened along the line and the money was not there anymore she would have made your life a living hell. Shit happens and life is upredictable. You might be rich today and broke tomorrow.

vivienne03:



Thats why you should always consider marrying a good woman. A good woman is not just the woman that is ready to struggle with you. You can have a good woman who just can't stand poverty. That being said, I'd advice ladies to make sure their spouses can manage wealth/money. The worst trap is marrying someone who lives above his means. A man who understands his financial standing and plans for the future will never go broke.

Mup4life:
[/b] You seem reasonable, let me point it out to you. Some ladies are blood sucking demons(SOME), When they meet a finacially prudent man, who would rather get that hair for you for 5k rather than 50k they term you "Broke", you rather have a lowkey wedding and save the rest for the future the say you are "Stingy". In this day and age it is very hard to get a good "Woman" with good management skills, what most of them are concerned about is their looks rather than their future.

vivienne03:



Lmao!! Yes that's a problem. I think it's imperative that woman should be independent. Also, some guys shouldn't go for high-maintenance ladies when they know they can't take care of them. My problem is girls who have no accomplishments or who were not brought up in luxury and are audaciously requesting for things their parents couldn't give them, that's irritating.

vivienne03:



Something you guys don't understand is that there's a huge difference between a golddigger and someone who needs a financially stable guy to complement her status/upbringing.

How realistic do you think it is for a high-maintenance woman who was brought up in a luxury life to settle for a guy who can't give her the life she's accustomed to?

There's absolutely nothing wrong in desiring the best for your children and future.

Stevengerd:
When a dog is overfed, it misbehaves. Let her rant, we are use to it. someone that is depending on her husband is calling others "BROKE". Serious minded women dnt waste their precious time causing nuisance. U belong to family section not romance.

RB007:
And na Person marry this one put am for house oh

#Liability

RB007:
And na Person marry this one put am for house oh

#Liability

Amarabae:
Thank you for responding maturely.
A girl sticking with a guy in poverty does not guaranty her a wedding ring when the guy blow.
Ok?
My point is that a guy should be financial stable first before a serious relationship or marriage.

WebSurfer:


Most of these Nigerian ladies are full of shit... I am not sure of what they have to offer apart from sex and babies


Kudos to the very few ones out there who have seen past this and working independently to support thier homes

Her husband's real wife dey Allen avenue

vivienne03:



Something you guys don't understand is that there's a huge difference between a golddigger and someone who needs a financially stable guy to complement her status/upbringing. How realistic do you think it is for a high-maintenance woman who was brought up in a luxury life to settle for a guy who can't give her the life she's accustomed to?

There's absolutely nothing wrong in desiring the best for your children and future.

AnonyNymous:

I don't understand. What is wrong with the high maintenance woman working for her own money and maintaining herself, BY HERSELF. Doesn't she have a brain? Two hands? An education? Haven't women fought for equal rights everywhere? So why should she still be selecting men to do things for her? What is she good for, then? Sex? Making babies? And then you ask why men objectify women. If you have no value apart form shitting kids from your vagina then you will be seen as nothing more than a tool. A machine to use and enjoy when she's young and beautiful and when she's older with sagging breasts, cheat in her with a younger, fresher girl sexual object. If you love a man, you love a man, and his financial status should not even be in the question. If you want money you can earn it yourself, don't you think? Making a statement like you did just makes the goal of 'feminism' one sided. That is, to give all benefits that used to e exclusively for ken to women, without women having to do the same. Its a bit hypocritical, don't you think?

AnonyNymous:

You claim to be a feminist, shouldn't you make a point of it that the GIRL as well should be financially stable before a serious relationship or marriage? Why is the title of your topic 'dear broke guys' You don't sound like a feminist. Shouldn't it be 'dear broke people'?? Why are you placing emphasis on the guy? Or are you just a wannabe feminist? Or even worse a modern 3rd/4th wave feminist? Who only cares about 'women's rights' when it doesn't favor the woman but doesn't give a sh*t about men's rights when its uncomfortable for the man? Upon all your 'feminism' claims do you still think deep down that it's a man's responsibility to take care of the woman?