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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by tensazangetsu20(m): 9:07pm On Sep 08
fataisulaiman:
I know I've been a jerk. I let my past experiences with women affect my thinking. I now realize I hurt a very beautiful gem who's only crime was to love me.

I ran into her in the cafeteria yesterday in company of some of her friends. Immediately she saw me, the beautiful smile she had on her pretty face disappeared and was replaced with a cold, dark frown. I tried pleading with her but she just didn't respond to me. After begging her to hear me out, she sighed and told her friends she would catch up with them. She then told me she doesn't have much time as she had a class in 15 minutes.

Even though some people here told me not to apologize, I just had to. I pleaded with her, begged her to forgive me, that I never meant to hurt her. Everything just came out in a jumbled mess as she kept looking at her wristwatch and the place was so noisy. I asked her to give me another chance, but she told me that boat had sailed already, that i had hurt her one too many times, she didn't know who I was again, and she doesn't think the damage can be undone. I pleaded and begged, but she stood firm. I think after a while i softened her heart a bit as she told me we'll talk about it some other time. I asked her when, and she mentioned she'll call me when she decides. She then hurried away after pulling back from the hug I wanted to give her.

Last night as I lay in bed unable to sleep, my mind full of her thoughts, i remembered all the times we had together. I thought of all the good times we had, how she behaved like a baby who wanted to be pampered, the sad look on her face the day I told her I won't be around for her birthday, and our first kiss. I remembered the times she'd spend with me at home in my little studio apartment, where we'll lie for hours in bed watching movies and talking. We never fully consummated our relationship, but the things we did anytime she came over to spend time with me was way beyond two people just having casual sex. I remembered when I began to act up to her and make her cry, and I realized I had been a fool all along. I didn't know when the tears started flowing out and stain my pillow. I'm still waiting for her to call as she promised. I've tried so hard not to call her so I don't use my desperation to push her away, and each second seems like an hour.
This post is very very sad. Op you are too too weak for a man. There are more than 3 billion women in this world 3 freaking billion you haven't even met white and Arab women yet and one black negro monkey woman who probably has craw craw on her yansh is making you feel like this. Chei lipsrsealed lipsrsealed. My advice delete that girl and focus on yourself. Go to graduate school, grow in your career, start a business start doing awesome things with your life. Look at how awesome christiano Ronaldo he got 2 children from a surrogate mother. He's eating his own cake and having it. Don't allow women play with your emotions it's not worth it.

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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by luminouz(m): 9:58pm On Sep 08
fataisulaiman:
I know I've been a jerk. I let my past experiences with women affect my thinking. I now realize I hurt a very beautiful gem who's only crime was to love me.

I ran into her in the cafeteria yesterday in company of some of her friends. Immediately she saw me, the beautiful smile she had on her pretty face disappeared and was replaced with a cold, dark frown. I tried pleading with her but she just didn't respond to me. After begging her to hear me out, she sighed and told her friends she would catch up with them. She then told me she doesn't have much time as she had a class in 15 minutes.

Even though some people here told me not to apologize, I just had to. I pleaded with her, begged her to forgive me, that I never meant to hurt her. Everything just came out in a jumbled mess as she kept looking at her wristwatch and the place was so noisy. I asked her to give me another chance, but she told me that boat had sailed already, that i had hurt her one too many times, she didn't know who I was again, and she doesn't think the damage can be undone. I pleaded and begged, but she stood firm. I think after a while i softened her heart a bit as she told me we'll talk about it some other time. I asked her when, and she mentioned she'll call me when she decides. She then hurried away after pulling back from the hug I wanted to give her.

Last night as I lay in bed unable to sleep, my mind full of her thoughts, i remembered all the times we had together. I thought of all the good times we had, how she behaved like a baby who wanted to be pampered, the sad look on her face the day I told her I won't be around for her birthday, and our first kiss. I remembered the times she'd spend with me at home in my little studio apartment, where we'll lie for hours in bed watching movies and talking. We never fully consummated our relationship, but the things we did anytime she came over to spend time with me was way beyond two people just having casual sex. I remembered when I began to act up to her and make her cry, and I realized I had been a fool all along. I didn't know when the tears started flowing out and stain my pillow. I'm still waiting for her to call as she promised. I've tried so hard not to call her so I don't use my desperation to push her away, and each second seems like an hour.

Which sulaiman be u sef?
U begged like a girl...u think she gon come back
I m 90% sure she is gone!!!! Though miracles can still happen!!!
Ur just too soft hommie...it's not ur fault...it is what it is......
N when I read u cried....I was half wanting to flog n half pitying u....coz I know matters of d heart can be so dreadfully painful...
Ikp20...harddon n some others told u what to do..but u didn't listen....guess u really liked her
D summary is this.....no girl likes soft guys no matter what they say....they want MEN!!!! Alphas!!!! Learn to be an alpha n u will never go through this again....I meant Alpha not Cruel ooo...
I hope she comes back sha...for ur sake..

sighs....am kinda sorry for d OP

Now.....remember u went there to read.....start jacking hommie...ASAP

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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Ballmer: 10:19pm On Sep 08
fataisulaiman:
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I want to believe you are brushing up your writing skills with this article but if not then am not sorry to say, you are terribly pathetic. You mean with studying for masters and all you lack the knowledge to diversify where to stop or continue when you actions no longer go to your plan ?
You are definitely kidding.
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by mcdreeezy: 1:43am On Sep 09
OP is in love grin


Pls keep us updated, so we'll know how it went down to the end. This your story is sweet. All the best too.

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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by secondincommand: 1:59am On Sep 09
fataisulaiman:
I know I've been a jerk. I let my past experiences with women affect my thinking. I now realize I hurt a very beautiful gem who's only crime was to love me.

I ran into her in the cafeteria yesterday in company of some of her friends. Immediately she saw me, the beautiful smile she had on her pretty face disappeared and was replaced with a cold, dark frown. I tried pleading with her but she just didn't respond to me. After begging her to hear me out, she sighed and told her friends she would catch up with them. She then told me she doesn't have much time as she had a class in 15 minutes.

Even though some people here told me not to apologize, I just had to. I pleaded with her, begged her to forgive me, that I never meant to hurt her. Everything just came out in a jumbled mess as she kept looking at her wristwatch and the place was so noisy. I asked her to give me another chance, but she told me that boat had sailed already, that i had hurt her one too many times, she didn't know who I was again, and she doesn't think the damage can be undone. I pleaded and begged, but she stood firm. I think after a while i softened her heart a bit as she told me we'll talk about it some other time. I asked her when, and she mentioned she'll call me when she decides. She then hurried away after pulling back from the hug I wanted to give her.

Last night as I lay in bed unable to sleep, my mind full of her thoughts, i remembered all the times we had together. I thought of all the good times we had, how she behaved like a baby who wanted to be pampered, the sad look on her face the day I told her I won't be around for her birthday, and our first kiss. I remembered the times she'd spend with me at home in my little studio apartment, where we'll lie for hours in bed watching movies and talking. We never fully consummated our relationship, but the things we did anytime she came over to spend time with me was way beyond two people just having casual sex. I remembered when I began to act up to her and make her cry, and I realized I had been a fool all along. I didn't know when the tears started flowing out and stain my pillow. I'm still waiting for her to call as she promised. I've tried so hard not to call her so I don't use my desperation to push her away, and each second seems like an hour.
i feel ur pain bro










Abeg no vex u get bb charger my own don spoil

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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Mznaett(f): 2:15pm On Sep 13
Edipee:
You are telling my story. grin But I was lucky to call back mine on time.
Lwkmd grin
You were lucky indeed. tongue
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by smilingface(m): 4:08pm On Sep 13
can't change my nature because of what others say..not every girl have the same taste,you better change back to that person she fell in love with.
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Edipee(m): 6:36pm On Sep 13
Mznaett:


Lwkmd grin

You were lucky indeed. tongue
Excuse me, do I know you? grin
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Mznaett(f): 2:26pm On Sep 14
Edipee:
Excuse me, do I know you? grin
You're quite excuse Mr. tongue
And no, you don't know me... tongue
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Edipee(m): 5:26pm On Sep 14
Mznaett:


You're quite excuse Mr. tongue

And no, you don't know me... tongue
Better cool
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Mznaett(f): 7:21pm On Sep 14
Edipee:
Better cool
You'll meet me at home when you come back sad grin
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Teaser4(m): 7:48pm On Sep 14
Dating is fun. i feel your pain bro, i've experienced that poo, years back. Now she came back,but na sidechick zone she dey, con dey gv serious payback. Love with your head, girls can be distraction attimes. Who love epp?
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Nobody: 8:12pm On Sep 14
Ayomicome:
I don't even know how to advice you...but one thing I know you'll never be happy trying not to be yourself.
Bar man !! Show ............,...............................!
Give these my guy roast frog & blue cocacola !
Oh ! No need to thank me,what are friends for.
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by mileyfenty: 8:13pm On Sep 14
[quote author=fataisulaiman post=60260262]I know I've been a jerk. I let my past experiences with women affect my thinking. I now realize I hurt a very beautiful gem who's only crime was to love me.

I ran into her in the cafeteria yesterday in company of some of her friends. Immediately she saw me, the beautiful smile she had on her pretty face disappeared and was replaced with a cold, dark frown. I tried pleading with her but she just didn't respond to me. After begging her to hear me out, she sighed and told her friends she would catch up with them. She then told me she doesn't have much time as she had a class in 15 minutes.

Even though some people here told me not to apologize, I just had to. I pleaded with her, begged her to forgive me, that I never meant to hurt her. Everything just came out in a jumbled mess as she kept looking at her wristwatch and the place was so noisy. I asked her to give me another chance, but she told me that boat had sailed already, that i had hurt her one too many times, she didn't know who I was again, and she doesn't think the damage can be undone. I pleaded and begged, but she stood firm. I think after a while i softened her heart a bit as she told me we'll talk about it some other time. I asked her when, and she mentioned she'll call me when she decides. She then hurried away after pulling back from the hug I wanted to give her.

Last night as I lay in bed unable to sleep, my mind full of her thoughts, i remembered all the times we had together. I thought of all the good times we had, how she behaved like a baby who wanted to be pampered, the sad look on her face the day I told her I won't be around for her birthday, and our first kiss. I remembered the times she'd spend with me at home in my little studio apartment, where we'll lie for hours in bed watching movies and talking. We never fully consummated our relationship, but the things we did anytime she came over to spend time with me was way beyond two people just having casual sex. I remembered when I began to act up to her and make her cry, and I realized I had been a fool all along. I didn't know when the tears started flowing out and stain my pillow. I'm still waiting for her to call as she promised. I've tried so hard not to call her so I don't use my desperation to push her away, and each second seems like an hour. Oh my God,..ahn ahn
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Edipee(m): 8:37pm On Sep 14
grin
Mznaett:


You'll meet me at home when you come back sad grin
grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin so you actually know me?
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Rukkydelta(f): 9:07pm On Sep 14
Mr Op what exactly did you do to her?
I guess you over did it, imagine making a girl you claim to love cry repeatedly. She has move on bro and it's time you do the same
Nobody loves an asshole
Only girls that are psycho's love bad boys
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Oxenomy: 10:05pm On Sep 14
Guy just man up and stop being a pvssy niggar, don't even beg her again.. Delete her number from your phone and move on.. There are girls everywhere, shine your eyes..

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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by boiz2men(m): 11:43pm On Sep 14
mehn... ya just too weak...


i can bet that you have no maale friend... my niiggers would never let me beg a woman... why i difficult for people to see that no one is important.. ikpo120 gave you a very effective advice... it always works... if it didnt, she never loved u.......


1. Never ever be a yes man
2. Never beg a woman


Babes always love guys who make them irrelevant..



my guys babe told him.... that she was breaking up and he shouldnt call her evr again..... my guy didnt call her.. on the third day, she was like "so, becos of that small fight, you can not call person again"......


there was a time when some of us guys were pusssy niggers... but not anymore..


dont try to impress any girl....



1. dont stand for a girl to seat unless shes crippled

2. if you take public transport, dont pay for her fare unless shes broke

3. dont offer to help a lady unless she requests for help.

in fact, the general rule towards ladies... is treat them as you would a guy

before you try to do anything for a lady.... ask yourself this

"would i still do it if this babe was a guy"?

if you wouldnt do it for a guy..then dont do it for a lady.... they are not special beings....... they re just skins and bones like every one else.....


in fact, it goes beyond ladies... i am currently at a stage where i see nothing special about people... i treat ugly,pretty,rich and poor the same way....... and this has earned me a lot of respect......


as for this your hadiza.... dont call,dont text or have any contact with her ever again........ heres the question?

"if hadiza was a guy, would you keep begging for his friendship despite his refusal to oblige your plea?"

if you wouldnt, then distance yourself from that girl....


if you keep seeing ladies as "guys with booobs and pusssies"... you would never have a heartbreak.... nor would u care if anyone leaves u....


you would also become too full of yourself.....



btw.... u will definitely end up as a player whether u take any of our advice or not....

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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Ayomicome(m): 12:00am On Sep 15
CaringDad:

Bar man !! Show ............,...............................!
Give these my guy roast frog & blue cocacola !
Oh ! No need to thank me,what are friends for.
Like seriously.......Hahahahaha.....you're indeed caring......I don't drink blue Cocacola but i'll just take the roasted frog with water....Thanks (+_+)
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Allwility: 1:31am On Sep 15
OP, men on NL have given you sound advice and you ignored 'em. The likes of HARDDON, ikp120, boiz2men. If you can't take their advice, whose advice will you take? MrCork?? No offeinse.

Lemme epp your ministry. xxxteddyxxx comman advice this OP here. Better take his advice.
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Mznaett(f): 5:59am On Sep 15
Edipee:
grin so you actually know me?
No, I don't... cool
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Edipee(m): 6:36am On Sep 15
Mznaett:


No, I don't... cool
Na u sabi
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Edipee(m): 6:50am On Sep 15
[quote author=mileyfenty post=60463682][/quote] Buddy, trust me you're not weak. Many will not understand your peculiar need. Just do everthing possible to get your love back. It's your love life, so forget all those hard-man gimmicks, if you're not one, then no point trying to fake it; that's the same thing rhat ruin your relationship. Be real and seek your woman. But if you try everything possible and reasonable and she's still unrepentantly adamant, the be a man and let go.
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by HeWrites(m): 6:58am On Sep 15
ikp120:
I just said lemme pity you and epp you small. angry

You transitioned from being a pussy nigga to being an absolute asshole. (Hey, don't even flare up before I descend on your with my cane. I am your counsellor, so sit the fvck down and pay attention angry )

You think the guys you call bad are absolute assholes because you don't even know who the so called bad guys are. If you don't know me and you wanna be me, how the fvck are you gonna be me? undecided (Dude, don't even try to flare up because I just dey manage my vexation spirit for here o. How dare you misrepresent the brand of niggas called bad guys? undecided Huh, bro? undecided E dey pain me cry )


The solution to your problem is very easy. I shouldn't be giving it out for free but the image of the bad guys is at stake mehn.

1. First of all, understand that a real man (bad guy) doesn't try to impress ladies because he, the real man, is the boss. His life does not depend on the lady. A pussy nigga on the other is a fake man who lives all his life trying to impress a lady. Without the lady he will be contemplating suicide. He has no balls in his amu sack grin grin grin

2. DO NOT apologise to her under any circumstance because it was just an argument. You didn't hit nor insult her. It was mutual. There are two ways to hand over your balls to a woman: saying "I am sorry" over nothing and saying "I love you". Don't go near those regions. I know say pussy niggas dey come for me for saying this. tongue tongue tongue cool cool cool cool

3. This is the real deal!

Wait for 6 and half days (Morning till night na one day. Half day na wetin then? Rhetorical question please cool cool cool ) from today, 7th September, 2017. If she doesn't contact you, just send her this text on the 6 and "halfth" tongue day.

You're gonna send the ball to her court (reverse psychology. Somebody holla "back to sender!" tongue tongue. Pay attention to the totorial o angry ).

Send this message to her via email and text:

"You said that you love me but for over a week now you haven't even checked on me to know how I'm doing. If I had died 2 days ago in that hospital you would have come to my graveside shedding tears and telling everyone about how much you loved me, right?

Mary was there; Jones was there; Terry was there; David was there; but the one who claims to love me wasn't there. Wow! Is that how love works? If that's how love works then I don't want to have anything to do with love"


My brother, no pick her call o. No reply her messages again o. No go her house again o. Start forming for her. She WILL come asking after what happened at the hospital, IF she really loves you. Just DO NOT worry about her again.

You have successfully fired the ball into her court. She will be the one apologising now and begging to know what really happened.

PS: All the names in the message are names of people you know.

Don't thank me bro. Thank reverse psychology. That's what girls use on guys.

Bad guys are actually the guys who beat these girls to their games using the same tactics they deploy grin grin grin

4. DO NOT behave like an asshole again by being harsh unnecessarily. That's inhumane bro. Anyone who does that ain't even human, talk less of being a bad GUY.

If after doing all these and she doesn't apologise in 10 days after sending the message, I WILL DEACTIVATE ALL MY ACCOUNTS ON NAIRALAND! cool cool cool

Harddon, I'm very correct na tongue tongue



I bow for you boss

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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Nobody: 8:06am On Sep 15
Ayomicome:
Like seriously.......Hahahahaha.....you're indeed caring......I don't drink blue Cocacola but i'll just take the roasted frog with water....Thanks (+_+)
That's my G.If I ask bar man to offer other guyz my favorite( roast frog & blue cocacola),u have to see the look on there face; "are u OK ?" ..lol.
Your wish are granted sir.
Bar Man!!.....do the needful.
Good morning .
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Nobody: 8:46am On Sep 15
@ Op,the worst thing u could do is "acting" personality with anybody,not restricted to ladies alone.You end up being unhappy & u also chases away those who would have loved u for who u ,not the facade upon facade u act upon.
Only insecure nerds & boys do that.You end up being confuse & in a desperate bid to force ur life on someone just to act like bad guy.
Why not find ur true personality & stick with that ,certainly not every girl will love ur true personality,but u know what ?? hell with them ! & u end being happy with urself & any girl that tends to love u ,will really appreciate ur true personality rather than u running to & fro like a kid looking for another personality to act up.
I won't ask u to act a bad guy o, or continue to be nice either,but are u happy with acting bad guy ,nice guy or actually finding ur true personality that radiates happy life & no faking ?
I will rather be my calm,outgoing & ambitious guy than acting a bad guy or good guy .
And u know what ? I'm happy with myself .
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Mznaett(f): 9:57am On Sep 15
Edipee:
Na u sabi
cool Dey go jor
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by HARDDON: 10:21am On Sep 15
HeWrites:




I bow for you boss

U needn't , I'm not a Rabbi! wink

Just kindly return SheWrites n give me the password to HeWrites. Then we be kul cheesy grin cool
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by HARDDON: 11:17am On Sep 15
Betmaster3:



You're a mad man ooo, forget that bitch if you want her back, I know you may be scared you won't see someone like her again, it's not true, give yourself time, you'll surely find love again. You're a bitch ass nigga and I wish I was with you right now so I can give you a very hard knock on the head.

The guy is a Complete Compound cUnt!!! Super stuffed with nice codes. angry
This is what happens when Nice pVssies fake the Real gee's funky life !: they almost always falls back to their freaking nice a33 vomit.
Imagine not been able to read situation : discussing that kinda psuedo serious ish in a crowded noisy place n been constrained with time n her tackles! Smh.

Then went on his nice a33 kneels to beg for luv even though he hadnt opened his heart to her? Yea ryt, Marine Sermon.

Now, don't i just luv ladies when they lord it, he has been placed in that f'ing limbo state! A confounding state, tentative mode. A state of total unrest, a state that makes u want them more even if it means selling your sexy soul. A state u can't think, can't eat, can't breath. A very Needy state! N her stock just skyrocketed! While he's totally f'ed, she is busy enjoying her life. Probably meet n mate another guy: Something he has been saving for last.
Oh Lady lord!

Op, save yourself more stress and read Dating Drills as some1 suggested! You Yuck! angry

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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by tosyne2much(m): 11:45am On Sep 15
The plain truth is that ladies normally take good guys for granted and I still don't know the mystery behind it. They talk to you anyhow, disregard you, cheat on you and even rub it on your face
Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by Zhahovic(m): 12:07pm On Sep 15
fataisulaiman:
I'm a regular member of Nairaland, but for privacy's sake, I decided to create a new moniker to ask for mature member's help in this issue I find myself in.

Right from my undergraduate days in a university in Oyo state, many people had known me as a cool, gentle, and quiet guy. Many of my friends, particularly the ladies, really liked me to help them out in their assignments and other things and i duly obliged. i didnt see anything wrong in giving people a hand or two, but my room mate and closest buddy told me to tone it down a bit as they, particularly the girls, may want to take advantage of my kind nature.

I remember this particular set of three girls who came to my room regularly. One of them really caught my eye and I tried to ask her out a couple of times, but each time she'll just laugh and tell me she can't date her "brother". I took my roommates advice and decided to shun her, but each time she'll wail and whine till I take her back. This continued until one evening we were both coming from evening service on campus. I was trying to make her see my point on why I wanted her to be my girl, but she just kept laughing. Suddenly a car pulled up to us and a guy I had never seen before called her name. You need to see how this girl squealed in excitement. Without even acknowledging or respecting the fact I was standing there, the guy asked her where she was going and before I knew what had happened, she had turned, gave me a quick hug, told me she'll see me later, and had jumped into the car. I just stared like a fool at them as the car zoomed off.

She didnt call me until the following day. When I didn't pick her call, she came to my room trying to explain away why she left me standing there at the side of the road, but I had had it already. She tried using her baby tactics on me but I got angry and yelled at her. Soon we were having a shouting match. She told me she owed me nothing, and she can go with anyone she pleases. She stormed off in a huff and even though I wanted to call her after my anger had boiled down a bit, I decided not to. Things weren't the same between us afterwards and I didnt talk to her again till I graduated.

Almost a similar thing happened to me when I went to Rivers for my youth service. I met a girl I really liked on camp and we hit it off. As usual, I tried to be the nice guy, treating her with kid gloves, right up to the point she started misbehaving too. She once told me I'm the only person she knows who can take all her poo, and that I'm the kind of guy who goes the extra mile for her in anything she wants me to do. Our "relationship" didn't even last up to 3 months when I found out she was dating another Corper guy who, through some connections of his wealthy parents, was serving in Shell. I had called her one Saturday evening to hang out with her, but she told me she wasn't feeling well. I asked her if she wanted me to come over but she told me not to worry, that she'll see me the following day after church.

I decided to go hang out by myself at a popular joint somewhere near the Choba Campus of UNIPORT. i had just ordered a bottle of Small stout with some nice peppersoup and was about doing justice to it when out of the blue, this girl and the guy walked in arm-in-arm. I was so shocked, I almost fell out of my chair. To make matters even worse, they took the empty table beside me and once she saw me, she didn't even act like she knew me. I called her name several times but she just ignored me. The guy she came with himself was wondering why I was calling her name. I simply stood up, paid the waiter, and left without touching my food.

I made up my mind to harden my heart, not to allow any girl into my life. So many other girls tried to get to me but I kept pushing them all away. I wasn't interested in women again. i stayed that way for the next couple of years. I got an admission to study for my masters and i left the shores of Nigeria.

Even during my studies, I decided not to have any meaningful relationship. I did actually meet a couple of girls, even had sex with one or two and made out with some, but I didn't open my heart to any of them. It was merely physical.

And then Hadiza came into my life.

Pretty. Bold. Fit. Fair. Average height. Had all the curves in the right places. Shy, beautiful smile. Black glasses. nice round boobs and lovely hips. I met her in the library in the Graduate study room. I noticed she had a folder of my alma mater. I asked her if she attended the school and she said yes. I told her I attended the school too and later found out she was in 100 level when i graduated. We chatted a while and exchanged numbers.

Soon we started hanging out. We would study together, gist together, and do many other things. I was still a bit wary, but it seemed she was different. She seemed more reserved, quiet, and flirtatious. We gradually got closer and closer.

I took her to the mall one evening to get her something for her birthday. I was going to be out of town on her birthday and she wasn't happy about it. As I parked in front of her apartment complex, just as she gruffily said good night and was about to open the door, I held her arm gently, and when she turned, I leaned in and gave her a kiss on her lips. I kissed her for a few more moments and when she broke free she murmured "What took you so long?"

To cut a long story short, we became inseparable after then. She spent most of her free time with me. I was still a bit skeptical about opening my heart again. I didn't want to get hurt. I decided to play the bad boy. I started acting up on her for no apparent reason. i felt behaving like the "tough" guy everyone says attracts girls was gonna work. I was wrong. i began to scare her away. I started making her cry. I started getting annoyed with her over the smallest offence, things that weren't worth it at all. I thought I was being the bad guy all ladies love.

One day, after a particularly nasty argument, she got up and left. I didn't hear from her for almost a week. I didn't see her in school either. I tried calling her several times but she never picked up. She sent me an email -

*****

You're scaring me. You used to be a very sweet, understanding guy. I don't know this animal you have become. Where did the man I fell in love with go? I don't know you anymore.

*****



I felt really bad. I knew this wasn't me. I know she didn't deserve all I the poo I gave her. What do I do? I know I owe her an apology. She's the girl of my dreams and I don't want to lose her, but at the same time I don't want to open my heart to another girl and be dashed again. Pleae help.
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my brother..women are the most complicated piece of machinery God created...
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even they don't understand themselves..
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this new girl of yours seems on point...
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my advice is..try and maintain a balance..
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don't be too nice and don't be too harsh...mix up the two..and you will be fine..100% guaranteed!

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Re: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? She's Scared Of My Attitude. by kester113(m): 1:26pm On Sep 15
boiz2men:
mehn... ya just too weak...


i can bet that you have no maale friend... my niiggers would never let me beg a woman... why i difficult for people to see that no one is important.. ikpo120 gave you a very effective advice... it always works... if it didnt, she never loved u.......


1. Never ever be a yes man
2. Never beg a woman


Babes always love guys who make them irrelevant..



my guys babe told him.... that she was breaking up and he shouldnt call her evr again..... my guy didnt call her.. on the third day, she was like "so, becos of that small fight, you can not call person again"......


there was a time when some of us guys were pusssy niggers... but not anymore..


dont try to impress any girl....



1. dont stand for a girl to seat unless shes crippled

2. if you take public transport, dont pay for her fare unless shes broke

3. dont offer to help a lady unless she requests for help.

in fact, the general rule towards ladies... is treat them as you would a guy

before you try to do anything for a lady.... ask yourself this

"would i still do it if this babe was a guy"?

if you wouldnt do it for a guy..then dont do it for a lady.... they are not special beings....... they re just skins and bones like every one else.....


in fact, it goes beyond ladies... i am currently at a stage where i see nothing special about people... i treat ugly,pretty,rich and poor the same way....... and this has earned me a lot of respect......


as for this your hadiza.... dont call,dont text or have any contact with her ever again........ heres the question?

"if hadiza was a guy, would you keep begging for his friendship despite his refusal to oblige your plea?"

if you wouldnt, then distance yourself from that girl....


if you keep seeing ladies as "guys with booobs and pusssies"... you would never have a heartbreak.... nor would u care if anyone leaves u....


you would also become too full of yourself.....



btw.... u will definitely end up as a player whether u take any of our advice or not....





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