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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by moderatedguy: 9:47pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
Deoboss:i hv had some with u libido at all.they fuuckk for d sake of it. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by gwama: 10:00pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
She is surely excised, in this case either you take a mistress, or you marry a second wife who loves sex. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Rowj: 10:04pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by lereinter(m): 10:07pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
victovrry: how did your ve the nerves to tell u once a month. nawa o |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by lereinter(m): 10:08pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by gwama: 10:16pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
Brother, this reminds me of the marriage of my parents, which has certainly produced children; but who was not at all happy for that reason, my mother had undergone genital mutilation. This has led to the repeated passage of mistresses at home, the fights of parents, the permanent misunderstanding of the couple and the trauma of the children. Eventually after 20 years of shaking wedding, my mother and we children were put out of the house without anything to support our needs. So my brother if after discussion with your wife, the case does not manage, it is better to separate you as amicably as soon as possible, so that each one remakes his life. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by gwama: 10:22pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
soberdrunk: Before marriage, they practiced abstinence |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by victovrry(m): 10:23pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
idoncare440:Church Marriage is a covenant that is above all other type of Marriage .... I can't and will NEVER do that. |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by victovrry(m): 10:26pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
lapariah:how have you been dealing with yours |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by victovrry(m): 10:31pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
FILEBE:she has been very romantic before kids, though she never asked for sex but she used body languages,kindly suggest the harbal, I will thank you |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 10:44pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
I want your wife's own side of story before I pass judgements.... Ask yourself: Are you helping her out with chores? house work, taking care of kids etc? Are you romancing her? Women are slow simmers NOT microwave. If you want sex, start/plan/execute your moves early and outside bedroom first. There's more to sex you know other than inserting your appendage into her opening? I doubt you have done your part to 'warm' her up. She has done her duties and given your children. Now, if you want to "ENJOY" marital bliss, you have to actually "WORK" hard at it. She is not a thing for your release. She is a beautiful, vibrant and emotional being. So, treat her as such, the watch her "Chase" you. Men....I swear. Find out what makes your wife "hot", "heavy" and "bothered" and get to it..... NB: at last resort, see a doctor for low libido of clinical cause. victovrry: |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by victovrry(m): 10:46pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
amicableamos: You get the Point, I do all I can and even over-do but same naani |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by victovrry(m): 10:58pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
akinvest: Thank you so much |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Rozaytee: 11:02pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
IamLEGEND1:@ op pls pay no mind to dis one o |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by victovrry(m): 11:03pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
omolorlarh:already done family Planning |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by victovrry(m): 11:04pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by segunojo866: 11:06pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
victovrry: |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Cherishpearl: 11:40pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 5:16am On Sep 26, 2017 |
OP try reading DeadBedroom on reddit however my advice don't post a topic unless you want to hear divorce, that's the western way, your wife might be asexual, sad or something weighing on her mind, but however not to generalize but it seems after marriage a lot of Nigerian women especially after kids stop sex, if that's this case mehn if she doesn't meet you half way am sorry, she's the holder of sex and can only happen when she wants to, the alternatives is cheating, which I don't give as an advice, but almost all of my friends who are married and have this sex issue have side chicks. I won't advice for or against it, if she doesn't agree I think you might be looking at possibly no sex for a while, I think Marriage kills any sex appeal in a relationship left to me. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by komekn(m): 6:20am On Sep 26, 2017 |
TINALETC3: THIS GOES MUCH DEEPER THAN BEING IN THE MOOD. Intimacy is entirely linked to psychology. You will need to go deeper into her personal and family history. Something may have happened to her that may have caused deep seated trauma in her past. As a consequence sexual intimacy is immediately associated and or triggers the memories associated with past trauma. Heightened anxiety, fear, discomfort, tension, panic attacks, etc. These are outcomes of rape single or continous incidents, child sexual abuse, etc. She may need counselling and may have done everything to try and forget the incident and or incidents but it is buried deep in her subconsciousness. Any time sexual intimacy is introduced that triggers negative feedback I am almost certain she does not enjoy intimacy with penetration. Unfortunately rape is very rampant in Nigeria and victims bare the shame and trauma alone. Indeed sexual abuse is also rampant. Finally pray for deeper revelations and understanding. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by FILEBE(m): 6:42am On Sep 26, 2017 |
victovrry: So women don't know how to express their feelings when it comes to sex. They will just expect the husband to read their body language or always make the first move. I really don't know the exact name for this herbal medicine but you can visit local herbal practionals. We call them Alagbo in yoruba, other tribes have got theirs too. Meet one and talk to him/her, they will give you something. Just as guys buy herbal sexual enhancers, the Ladies have theirs too. I pray you overcome this and most especially talking to your wife is the first step to solve it. Nothing dialogues can't fix as she knows her body and system well. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by modupeleke(f): 6:42am On Sep 26, 2017 |
Prayer for her and then practice all the good advice people are advising you Sir. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Chigirl042(f): 7:13am On Sep 26, 2017 |
tosyne2much:lol |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Andrez123(m): 7:17am On Sep 26, 2017 |
victovrry:She might be a secret lesbian, if a woman doesn't want or enjoy sex with a man, it's because she doesn't feel an attraction to the man, it's either she has fallen out of love for you or she's not attracted to men. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by enoqueen: 10:12am On Sep 26, 2017 |
Was she really the sex type while u were dating as in demanding for sex or just showing you signs. Was she circumcised I was once in her shoe till my hubby brought me out of it. |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 10:43am On Sep 26, 2017 |
enoqueen: How , I think that would be the answer for OP, I sometimes get that the marriage might be losing sparks and most of the couples go into mommy and daddy mode, there's nothing sexy about changing diapers or bothering about the rent and providing so I guess that's what maybe the happening. Is she overworked in the house |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by iamdapsyj(m): 11:21am On Sep 26, 2017 |
Proudlyblack: The person behind that moniker doesn't sound feminine. I read the comments from that moniker from time to time and concluded that a male pretending to be a female is behind it. |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by iamdapsyj(m): 11:46am On Sep 26, 2017 |
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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by filani(m): 12:11pm On Sep 26, 2017 |
victovrry: @ victovrry Since you are responding actively in your thread I will weigh in on your post. First you need to understand that Virtue is NOT synonymous with Arousal. Let me explain, like most guys you have likely heard of the phrase "Nice guys finish last" it is popular because it is based on real world observations of male on female intersexual dynamics. Ask yourself this ,how many times have you seen or heard of girls/ladies expressing how sexually aroused they are to a guy because of how NICE he is? Do you think P-Square , Inyanya & Flavour N'abiana have so many female fans because of how NICE they are? Being NICE is a virtue BUT it is NOT a sexual attraction trigger or indicator! You being NICE to someone or they being nice to you is not a signal of Sexual Attraction! You assume your wife's "virtue" is a proof of her sexual attraction to you. Big Mistake !!! victovrry: Why should she? You are not somebody she holds in high esteem, you are just a Sperm Donor for her kids. She has the coveted title of Mrs and a loyal Man Servant like you so.....tell me/us ...why should she change? victovrry: The way forward: 1) You need to STOP thinking you can beg for, romance your way to sexual attraction like some peeps on this thread are telling you. Your wifey won't/can't Give you what she doesn't have to begin with!!! You can't negotiate desire https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/25/the-desire-dynamic/ 2) Take some time to focus on yourself. If you have a good paying job keep your CashFlow coming and look for new streams of income. Reconnect with your friends that you may have ignored when you got married, Hit the Gym HARD and build a body you can be proud of. You'll know you're on the right track when female workmates or random ladies admire you openly or even tell you how good looking you are. 3) Having accomplished the previous steps get talking with her parents about how wifey has neglected you sexually, be clear that you are not having this discussion with them so they can chastise her but rather you simply want her behaviour documented for posterity. Depending on what sway her parents have on her she may become annoyed & attack you verbally to provoke you or she may give you one or two nights of PITY SEX. Do Not Fall for either ploy . don't lay hands on her and don't accept Pity Sex. 4) Meet with a trusted & competent lawyer and make enquiries on how to enact a quick and efficient DIVORCE and retain custody of the kids, discuss all avenues with with HIM. 5) Repeat steps 1 - 3 until you have gotten the needed mental strength to follow through with step 4. Don' t decieve yourself that you should stay because of the kids as they are better served by having a HAPPY father than one who is just marking time in the marriage. Life is to short to place the happiness of wifey over all other things because YOU deserve to be HAPPY too. Shalom. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Marxv: 12:15pm On Sep 26, 2017 |
IamLEGEND1: The likes of you discourages women from getting married, makes women think that all men are the same (cheaters) |
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by idoncare440(f): 12:20pm On Sep 26, 2017 |
victovrry:then oga stop complaining n face ur warrant, starve yo self to death! its like u don't knw that when a man or woman doesnt have sex....its very bad for your physical n spiritual life n ur health is also @ stake.... na u sabi! |
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