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Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by ivolt: 11:47am On Oct 12, 2017 |
It is all about choice. Don't marry someone who is not compatible with your worldview in the hope that you will force them to change. Your threats may work for a while but it will ultimately fail. There is nothing wrong with some women thinking that marriage is the ultimate achievement neither is it an abomination for some women to pursue financial independence, it doesn't make any of the two group less of a woman. It is a great injustice to try to force someone to live by your own standard. 2 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 11:48am On Oct 12, 2017 |
sirusX: In fact it increases it if your with the right person Selfish interest is what kills today’s marriages I love you but.......anything after that but is usually a selfish reason. I don’t want to get married for marrying sake we get married because we want to build a life together with someone we want to share it with Keyword share no nonsense behaviors 2 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by komododragons: 11:48am On Oct 12, 2017 |
NiggaBoi:in Africa women don't what to work but to use their yansh as leverage to gain. so I won't blame women if there husbands beat The hell out of them or use them as piece of shiit cos that's what them portray themselves for the very beginning. 3 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 11:51am On Oct 12, 2017 |
Adaumunocha:really ? didnt liberia just have a female president ? who controls the house in african homes ? the mother. she has power over the father sef. its a matriarchal society. this whole feminism thing is just you black people doing oyinbo copy copy after you had access to the internet and access to oyinbo lifestyle. now you want to copy their feminism. like in every african home it is the mother always laying down the law for the children and for the house. go ask anybody who grew up in africa who they feared the most, mummy or daddy ? 2 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by oyetpel(m): 11:51am On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: How is African societies Matriarchal? 2 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 11:51am On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: oyetpel: 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by youngRx(m): 11:51am On Oct 12, 2017 |
even Chimamanda one of the greatest feminist of her time is happilly married....and she is still pursuing her career to the fullest. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by SlayQueenSlayer(m): 11:51am On Oct 12, 2017 |
NiggaBoi: There is no such thing as "male feminist". A feminist a person(male or female) who supports feminism. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 11:51am On Oct 12, 2017 |
Pavore9:more like devolving 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by YelloweWest: 11:51am On Oct 12, 2017 |
Brugo:Havi g a child is the greatest thing that can happen to many young women. The only proper way to have a child is through marriage! 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Longeaton: 11:53am On Oct 12, 2017 |
Male feminist! like what the Bleep? |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 11:55am On Oct 12, 2017 |
My name is Ola and I'm a cuck. 2 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by mustafa006: 11:57am On Oct 12, 2017 |
so what makes you think that happy marriage is not the biggest achievement of a woman |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Adaumunocha(f): 11:58am On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14:Your post is kinda contradictive. Matriarchy & feminism go hand in hand. Do u actually understand what feminism is about? 2 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 11:59am On Oct 12, 2017 |
youngRx: Married to which race? |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by elantraceey(f): 12:02pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
You need to change your cycle of girlfriends |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 12:04pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Adaumunocha:whats contradictory ? am saying in a matriarchal society you do not need feminism. feminism is an ideal born out of women feeling oppressed. in a matriarchal society women are not oppressed so you dont need feminism. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by kadara2041: 12:04pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
NiggaBoi: It is not a general idea. If you follow the bible teaching then the woman is under the man. She must be subservient to the man Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 12:06pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Afam4eva:you seem not to understand the OP's point. He is not talking well to do women who have put their success first. He is talking of an average lady sitting somewhere waiting for one rich man to marry her, so she can perhaps live on the man... two different context. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 12:07pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Afam4eva:this is s very wrong thought. Each individual should strive to take responsibilities for their lives... this is one reason we are here! 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nov6(m): 12:08pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Adaumunocha: now i agree with my spirit about you |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Trottle: 12:08pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: Or even better; "degradingly evolving". 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 12:09pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Trottle:aptly put 2 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Trottle: 12:10pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Longeaton:He still wants to retain his Masculine prestige now |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Tedpgrass: 12:10pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
women should be allowed to make their choices.... but are those choices well-informed or is there a guarantee of societal support for those choices regardless of outcome those are the driving forces behind choices. A society where merit or talent is underrated as compared to the use of underhand. methods which contribute to the ideals of nepotism, with an underlying background of poverty and lack of enlightenment/ education, this is to be expected!!! Throw in the unfair natural procreation time. limitation...its an uneasy balance.. Solutions are not far off . Internet availability, celebration of the girl child through a change in social mindsets/ behaviours, availability of sperm or egg banks for retrieval and ART at a time suitable to the woman!! These and many more will change this mindset releasing a significant economic benefit.. Something politicians and pubic administrators should start to explore!! |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by pocohantas(f): 12:10pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
There is nothing wrong with a woman desiring marriage so much, it's her life. She should be successful at it. Same goes to the one who desires career more. What I am yet to understand is why Nigerian males speak from both sides of the mouth. I stumbled on a thread talking about desperation of ladies to get married. Then the ones that are not desperate are tagged feminist. You see, you can't please people. Just do what works for you. If you can handle both at the same time, good! If you can't, take it one step at a time. 3 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by kadara2041: 12:10pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
NiggaBoi:I think many female children look at the reality of the country and make the wise decision to take the line of least resistance. Why struggle and strain when someone can do it for you. Come to think of it women were borne to help man Genesis 2:18 18Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him." So niggaboi allow the women to fulfill the destiny made for them by God |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Adaumunocha(f): 12:10pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14:But Nigeria is not a matriarchal society... Women are oppressed here so we need feminism... Hope u know we have different types of feminism 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Pearl005(f): 12:11pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Marriage is what it is to different people, depending on background, personality, enclosure and other factors. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nov6(m): 12:11pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
[quote author=SmartyPants post=61346942]So what exactly is the philosophy of male feminism?[/quote i asked my self exactly the same question |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Adaumunocha(f): 12:12pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Nov6:OK o 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by naija2(f): 12:12pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
NiggaBoi: some know they have the choice, they are educated to know what they want for themselves but the society and their parents have a louder voice even if it is unspoken. That stops them from making that choice, it stops them from saying what is truly in their hearts. that's where you see those that are tired just few months after their wedding and with the smallest of misbehaviour from their husbands, they call for divorce. They still don't know it takes a lot to be married and get into it with much depression in them. they end up hating their husbands, they end up cheating and probably divorce at the end of the day. But, the truth is that over 80 percent aspire to marriage. 1 Like |
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