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Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by obeauty21: 4:01pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
earthcrust: What is this that you are saying?. I agreed with you till u mentioned husband. Career cannot fetch you husband to marry. Most times, u see men running away from this same women because of inferiority complex. Tell me, if you see a lady @29 wt a house of her own, rides of her own, business of her own... will you be man enuf to walk up to her and propose to her?. (Honestly I am nt insulting you) . Una still go dey fear say she no go submit. Sometyms its hard to comprehend what men really want. Dont get me wrong pl, I personally encourage my female folks to b financially independent before thinking marriage but dis is the same africa where a woman's success is a threat to her male counterpart. I knw dere r very lazy gals and there r parasitic men too |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:04pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
obeauty21: It is actually an imagination of many people but not always the case. There are many guys who would dare approach more successful ladies. Now, the problem is, would the female not think the guy only wants her possessions? Men, the society needs to balance the scales. It would require a highly successful man many times to manage a successful lady and not be intimidated, or a guy that knows his guns... |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:15pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig:The human race has evolved to such a level that we're no longer controlled by our GENES as before. We can now DEFY OUR GENES. MEMES - ideas - have taken over. That's what most people live by now. Some people HATE marriage. Some are NOT INTERESTED in marriage. Not everybody wants to get married. So, it is very wrong for some people to say that women CANNEVER be happy without Marriage, and start labelling the unmarried ones as aggressive, arrogant and unfeminine. It's ridiculous. Some people just don't want to get married........ so, why should there be people who tell them that marriage is a must? I have friends who believe that women ARE DEFINED BY US, since they were created for us, and only we males can ADD MEANING to their lives and COMPLETE THEIR EXISTENCE. And trust me, many young girls have been led to believe this sh!t, and they grow up thinking that way, and the society, as well as their fellow women, reinforce the nonsense. So, they become totally preoccupied with "getting their man" while they lose sight of many other important things. All around me, I see unmarried old aunties being condemned. Some will often say they lack manners and good behaviour, hence the reason no man wants to marry them, regardless of the interest or lack of interest of these ladies in marriage. Even friends use it as a means of insulting one another - you're still unmarried because you're this, this and that. So many of them believe unmarried women to be sad, aggressive, arrogant asholes. They make many feel bad about themselves. This is wrong. Would you say this wave of stupidity being propagated by so many goats in the society has never harmed anyone? Tozara 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 4:17pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
stilldoingokay: feminist: An advocate of feminism; a person who believes in bringing about the equality of the sexes (of women and men) . note: The definition says a person* Op specified his gender cos most people believe only females can be feminist. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by DJperdurabo: 4:19pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Adaumunocha: Bless You! Sick and tired of folks "hiding" behind "societal stereotypes" for their shortcomings or mistakes in life! |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:20pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Daeylar:How's your day been? |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:21pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
ToZaraWithaZ: Those ideas of yours sound cool Nice sound bites, but serious unabsolute, partial and highly speculative Personal bias, posture and highly speculative @ The human race has evolved to such a level that we're no longer controlled by our GENES as before ... Yes, we evolved, but not naturally remove the desire to marry is almost very difficult, find out when people don't have desire to get married, there are issues beneath those notions, amongst them includes stuffs like fears, insecurities, bad memories, past issues, all those negative vibes...But to come from no where and want to hate marriage, nah, i disagree...All these marriage isnt for everyone jargon is a mental massage and because of its therapeutic effect, i don't even bother to counter these notions not one single bit I'ts good to get married is all i can say, i stepped into a corporate organization, see successful ladies, they were all look smashing and success could be seen around them, but i saw deep saddness, so its not societal expectation brov, there's just something missing. It happens with we men too...I may have helped one of them... , if not for my aunt wrapping her hands around me like this is sister's son...Too bad... |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Daeylar(f): 4:27pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
ToZaraWithaZ: Fine, yours? |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:27pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig:You're repeating the samething bruh: Tearless: You shouldn't judge people by your preconceptions as much as you shouldn't judge them by appearances. You're making bold claims with so much confidence and certainty as though you sit inside the very heart of these ladies. That is every shade of irrational. There's no way you can tell that all ladies need marriage to be happy. Like, seriously, how ridiculous can you get, really? I could turn around and make the opposite but equally ridiculous claim that ALL married ladies are unhappy - yeah, like I sit in their hearts and live in their bodies to be able to tell what they think and how they feel! Tozara |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:29pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
ToZaraWithaZ: Trust me we are saying the same thing and we stand for the same cause and its not worth arguing. Lets toast to the forth-coming armageddon, Cheers... There are many good marriages out there, trust me... Anyways we should chase the substance and not the shaft, i hope we enjoy very happy relationships in future. We can't be speculative about the marriages we wan't to have, we should create it... |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by DeRay98(m): 4:39pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
ivolt: Feminism in the West started with equality but it has moved on to dominance which people are publicly unaware of but institutions are already perpetrating it... I as individual have no problem with empowering women, I have sisters, i had female classmates some of whom were intellectually better and more organised than I. So, pushing them down will be stupidity. Our society has already generally accepted women in almost all spheres where they have shown interest of capacity except in places where the chief power brokers are uncomfortable with women. My point is against the manipulating and subtle domineering attitude feminist in attempt to win or force their views of young ladies by attacking society and create more rebels. I won't be convinced otherwise. Feminism now has diverse classification and groupings, not the "original" ideology that it surfaced in. Nigerian feminists are still elementary feminists. There's are even ex-feminists and some still who have turned against the aggressive and anti-men nature of modern feminism. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:43pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig:Of course, I'm interested in marriage and have future plans for it. My point is that it doesn't make me any happier or better than those who don't want it. Isaac Newton never married. It doesn't make him a sad bastard. Talking about the emboldened, lol.... Just tell me already that you actually want to see this world destroyed. Tozara |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Toks2008(m): 4:43pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme: A woman is unofficially the head of the house if she knows how to use her influence. By being very submissive to the husband, the woman will subliminally become the head. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:44pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
DeRay98: On Point. This is why we say, the ideologies feminism pushes for are well within the confines of a healthy marriage and clear objectives should only be defined in them. They don't listen, just the mention of the word feminism has broken so many relationships and i've hardly seen a feminist that can clearly define what their objective is about. I've been around more successful ladies without feeling inferior in any way. But around feminist, i get goose pimples. They're so clueless they don't know what they're advocating is already catered for in many ways. I wish them well.Hope they learn 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:45pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Daeylar:Been cool. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:46pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
ToZaraWithaZ: Men, i can't wait for that day to come, just some pop corns and some zobo and we'll both be happy, it would be in a flash and won't take long my brov, so the pains won't be hard to bare with... My point is that it doesn't make me any happier or better than those who don't want it...I don't disagree, but you're ot a psychiatrist, hence you're not an authority on the subject. So, once again, highly speculative. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 4:48pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Toks2008: pls. we weren't talking unofficially, we are talking officially as in matriarchal view cos he claimed Yoruba culture is matriachal. If woman is the head of the man, the man should be the one submitting unless you do not know the meaning of submission. anyway thanks for your contribution 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by JamesReacher(m): 4:52pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
majekdom2:Right to a t. With this reasoning, Nigeria still has hope 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by obeauty21: 4:54pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig: ..... its nt an imagination bro. Most Men are egoistic nd dey feel intimidated approaching successful women for their hand in marriage. Most especially, when she is way richer n succesful than he is. All the same, nah still d same thing we dey talk. @op, ppl see tinz differently... and each individual opinions are influenced by many factors. Summary If you want to marry a career woman, go for her and if u prefer lazy girls.... its your choice but dont choose and come back to complain |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 4:57pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
obeauty21: Me, show boy... I can date Angela Merkel's daughter...I like to speak for many men, i've been around many successful ladies, even C.E.O's and all have walked away with an impressionable feeling life. I make it known to them i don't need their valueables. Suffice to say, it's a dual feeling, why some men may not feel intimidated to approach them, many would feel it's their possessions men are after, trust me. I've been here several times. Some will call the guy unsuccessful and similar tags. I would be fine and won't need the forum to manage issues for me. Trust me, i know my guns... I need no ladies moneies. I'm good to go rich, average, poor, woman na woman abeg |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by obeauty21: 5:06pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig: Lol... dem never pour you hot water before. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck in ur future endeavours |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 5:07pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
obeauty21: I aint broke number one. Two, i've got the clout and the I.Q. I've always been around wealthy people...Them dey trip for me life...Three, i don't ask people for money easily, many guys are like this, so they don't see me as a gold digger...Many guys are like this..But deep down in a lady's mind when they have material things, they feel many men want them for their goodies, for the others, they think it's for their kitties. So don't always blame the guys Sir I've tutored myself to be able to stand before any human being and speak, it has nothing to do with possessions. We must first of all internalize how we want to present ourselves brov, only then can being rich become an unnecessary part of the equation. Moreso, intelligence and wisdom is higher than material possessions..So any guy that is intelligent is technically richer than any lady that just has wealth or beauty. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by LadyJasper: 5:40pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig:Lol. Well, I'm just glad times are changing fast. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 5:42pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
LadyJasper: I agree. Many men want to return home to meet a cheerful happy wifey. I.e. like a granpa would enjoy watching the grand kids enjoy the toys, so many folks want to be welcomed to a happy beautiful face when they get home, so the society is not entirely that evil. We must be careful not to be receptive to the thrash the society tries to fill us up with |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by LadyJasper: 5:46pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig:Wisdom is highly needed to live in today's world. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 5:51pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
LadyJasper: If we embrace too much fear, how do we relax? Look at the media, everywhere it's evil this, our souls are been coloured and tainted. We suspect people even when they haven't done us harm. We set up tedious mechanisms so we can say we thought and felt so. We are been conditioned to think it's only evil that happens in the world and we're been forced to live like it's an existence on the edge. I refuse to live in fear. Tell you what my lady, i saw some exercise books, like 15 on the floor, close to a canal, it belonged to a primary school pupil ( could have fallen off the back pack on okada ), do you people no body stopped to check what they could do for over twenty minutes? Why? fear, people are afraid of people, exercise books, tooth brushes...Na wa. I simply picked it up, looked at the school, took a 10minutes trek, returned it back,and the proprietress almost lost her mind thanking me in the aftermath. Life is sweet, let's keep it simple... Too much fears and bobby traps we setup to protect ourselves will also push good people away when our evaluations fail. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by LadyJasper: 5:57pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig:Forgive the world for they know not what they do. Let's not derail the thread anymore before the OP will swear for both of us. I trust you had a good day, today. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 5:58pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
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Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by PrimadonnaO(f): 6:05pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
People just like to re-echo "public opinion." They feel it makes them look smart. OP, your post is rather myopic. Let it be to every woman as she desires. There's no right or wrong in such a matter. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 7:32pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
lovelygurl: Its not restricted to gender, but in text you can't tell the person's gender so I guess that means he saying am a male that's a feminist, if he were talking to you face to face then that would be weird to say |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 7:39pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
pcguru1: His moniker is Nigga BOI |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 7:42pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
lovelygurl: On the internet you can be anybody even a dog , but I get what you mean, its odd to say male feminist |
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