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Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 2:06pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme:you havent seen magun that catches men ? you havent seen wives that use juju so that their men get stuck to the woman ? or juju by women where you will not get erection again ? lmao siddon there. as for wuraola and oni, that is a special case for royalty that applies all over the world. when diana divorced charles and she was dating dodi fayed the whole british establishment were angry and in fact some say she was killed. point being royalties all over the world have their own protocols and that has nothing to do with society at large. it is just royalty protocol the head of most yoruba families are the women. the man is just like a non-existent figure head. its the woman laying down all the laws 2 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 2:07pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
ivolt: Nice Piece I agree 100% with this. A nairalander contacted me a day ago, and she knocked some senses into me. She said even females have dreams and goals, and having them would demand expressiveness of these dreams. Hence, the need to work at some point.... The problem with the OP is that he didn't factor the woman's choice into his writing, the same thing you did in your response. There is nothing wrong with a woman seeking equality, all you have to do is avoid such person and go for submissive hero-worshippers(if that is the kind of partner you like). No need berating or using condescending words on people who don't agree with you. Well @ the point below, the fear of an independent woman is why many men don't want their wives to work. This inadvertently opens he door to subtle manipulation of the women folk in many marriages and abuse in the aftermath. What matters it a healthy functional relationship. The fruit doesn't fall from from the tree. While i don't disagree with many objections of the feminism movement, their goal is not far fetched. It's an individual problem and not a gender problem in its entirety. Rather than push excess energy into a movement for equity that may be frowned upon by even many women, pursuing and hunting for a partner that sync would be far more productive. Suffice to say, i've never seen any abusive marriage that the man doesn't come from a dysfunctional home. Tell ladies to ask about the family of their boyfriends, many times, many problems are transferred genetically. Unless, you are dealing with an uncivilized partner, trying to control an adult's destiny against their wish won't end well. But at the word feminism, clear objectives should be presented, it has destroyed relationships just at the mention of the word. As a championeer for healthy marriages, i like to suggest people state out what they want in relationships before things go deep, and both parties talk about their desires. According to world historians, just a chit chat could have prevented world war one, that claimed millions of lives...Talking fixed issues. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 2:08pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme: Daeylar I now get your point. I just re-read the original article the Op made it seem like it is the woman 's fault for getting abused just because she is dependent on her husband sorry I misunderstood you. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 2:09pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Daeylar:people have been taught to stop committing crimes, has crime stopped. There are good and bad people. It's left for you to avoid the bad ones. Condemning bad or preaching to bad ones will not make bad people stop |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 2:10pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
majekdom2: On point. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 2:10pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme:Thank you for making it simpler for her to understand. We can condemn kidnappers all we want but that does not mean they will stop. It is left for us to take coverage. The coverage in this instance is for women to be independent. Simple! |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Adaumunocha(f): 2:13pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
achimotan:Thanks. Do u think Nigeria is a matriarchal society? |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Daeylar(f): 2:16pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme: Am I living in the fake world? Wow, never knew Why does it seem like you guys think I'm against a woman being independent? Or I am against anyone being independent. I see the problem now. I agree with you, except where you shaded me. All I'm saying that taking advantage of people because of privilege is wrong. Never said independence is not a positive trait. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 2:17pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: British royal house is rooted in partriachy don't let mordenisation fool you. just ask king Henry the eight and his wives. you know you are lieing as per your last point.How many Yoruba kingdom's are headed by women? Do you trace your ancestry through your mothers? What is the name of the most ancient matriarch of Yoruba land. I only know about Obatala and lamurudu. and they are clearly males. why don't you trace your lineage thru females? As I said earlier you need to Google the meaning of matriarchy because you clearly don't know the meaning. 2 Likes |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 2:20pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme:you dont trace the lineage through females because of biology. humans are sperm-cells and the egg is like the incubator or the house where the sperm cells grow. if you look at a baby in the womb its shaped like a big sperm cell. so the sperm-cell is who you are. this is why ancestry is traced through fathers / males. its biology and nothing to do with patriarchy 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 2:21pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: On point 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Daeylar(f): 2:25pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme: No problem I'm out. I've done my argument quota for the rest of the week. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Futureberry: 2:26pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Adaumunocha:these, is one of the reasons why equality will never be possible, what then happen when children start bearing their mothers name, won't that be oppression against men...if your answer is yes,whose surname should children take,mother or father or both...what the solution towards this dilemma |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Infomaz(m): 2:31pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
The family is the bedrock of society. It's were values are transmitted from one generation to another and children are brought up to be responsible adults. The role of the mother and wife in achieving the above cannot be overemphasized. A lot of the problems plaguing our youths today... Drugs, cultism, criminality, prostitution, etc would've been avoided if fathers and mothers provide effective parenting. A woman that chose marriage over career is therefore not inferior to those who do not. Of course the two are not mutually exclusive. A wise woman will seek to leave a balanced life that would fulfill her as a person, woman and mother to the blessing of her family and mankind. God in his wisdom have set forth principles of order, love and respect among others as foundation for happy family life. Violation of these principles under the guise of civilization is responsible for the many societal ills plaguing our communities today. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 2:33pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: This your explanation alone is enough to end your bullshit argument. it shows you clearly run a patriarchy in yorubaland. Akan society is matrilineal thet trace their ancestry through their female and they pocess the same biological traits as the rest of us. Also you need to get yourself an embroyology text book. it is not the sperm that grows, the sperm combines with the ovum to form an embryo. The woman also contributes her genetic materials also so don't reduce her to just an incubator you sexist prig lieing about yoruba land being a matriarchy. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Futureberry: 2:34pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
lobiologs:stop inflicting your opinions on the world,telling them to grow out of their value system is taking their freedom of choice from them...it like me saying you must return back to hunting for foods with leave as your clothing 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 2:36pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme: Haven't you heard of Moremi or Osun at least I've read of both |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 2:38pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme:and again i repeat, matriachy is not in who you trace your genetics through. it is in how women are perceived in society. arab country for example ? that is a patriarchal society. women are not allowed to drive or to be out in public without a man or without covering their face. in nigeria ? women can be whatever they want to be. women run the house. rich women run the country. alakija and diezani used to slap men upanda. whats my point ? nigeria is matriachal and not patriachal so feminism is a mute point. feminism is borne out of oppresion of women. so keep quiet bro. you are a mangina. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by GoldNiagara(m): 2:40pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
NiggaBoi: Which one be male feminist! |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Futureberry: 2:44pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig:these is hogwash, financials for women after divorce, what about men,so you are saying only women should be recipient of money after a divorce, is these what feminism is all about...more money for women irrespective of who is at fault? |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Futureberry: 2:46pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
supersystemsnig:this one is just a chauvinist blaming everything on men |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 2:47pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: women run which country? how many influential Obas are women? how many female presidents have we hard? like I. said before you clearly don't know the meaning of matriarchy. you have your head in your ass. matriarchy etymology ▼ shownoun (plural matriarchies)A social system in which the mother is head of household, having authority over men and children. A system of government by females (particularly as a kind of polity).The dominance of women in social or cultural systems. Tell me again how we run a matriarchy in Nigeria. toks2008 this nigga here says woman is the head of the house in Yoruba land do you agree? 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 2:51pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme:OK maybe i should say nigeria is neither a patriarchy or a matriarchy. nigeria is run by whomever has the balls to grab power. if that person is a woman ? she will rule the men. so we are neither. so there is no need for feminism. as a woman get your money right and you will be slapping all kinds of men upanda lol. money is power in naija. we run a MONEYARCHY LMAO 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 2:54pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Pidgin2: and? if you don't understand the context don't quote me. How many moremis and oshuns are there compared to their male counter parts. it is as if you yourself don't also know the meaning of martriachy etymology ▼ shownoun (plural matriarchies)A social system in which the mother is head of household, having authority over men and children. A system of government by females (particularly as a kind of polity). The dominance of women in social or cultural systems. so ask yourself if moremi is the norm or an exception? |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 2:56pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: you you have accepted your mistake I'm glad. But we. still need feminism many cultures in Nigeria is patriarchal and inequality exists. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 2:58pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Futureberry: You spoke well.. I got carried away, cause when we look at our society, the female folks suffer more than the male folk |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 2:58pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme:not a mistake. the major bulk of the mistake was on your path by saying we run a patriarchy which is never the case in nigeria. well i guess we were both wrong. we run a moneyarchy 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Nobody: 2:59pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Futureberry: Hahaha, nope nau, i'm speaking for cases when women are the victims, ofcourse it takes two to tango. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by gmoney12: 3:04pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
op u your view is cool but then look at itnfrom this angle...of the women are allowed to choose career over marriage ,how does the continuation of life continues?note this every woman desire to have a man for get all these feminism's ish ...when they start getting old they sure will need a man so its a natural thing... now of they are allowed to raise the kids alone via the baby mama saga imagine what those children will be like where there's no man in the household.. how will they get there moral lessons and discipline... don't forget every woman needs to have a child of her own....don't come here to brainwash girls into doing something they will regret in the future... look at Selena Williams and Beyonce who became feminist ...don't dey have men now they call husband but they misleaded some women...be wise 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 3:06pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: This nigga is just a master spinner. you stated that African societies run a matriarchy which is why I quoted you in the first place by asking you if Igbo and Yoruba land are in Europe. stop lieing. |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Apogee14: 3:08pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Humanistme:but you said we run a patriarchy so you were wrong too. we both stand corrected lmao. we live and learn. 1 Like |
Re: The Wrong Perception Of African Women About Marriage. by Humanistme: 3:11pm On Oct 12, 2017 |
Apogee14: I'm not wrong most societies in Africa run a patriarchy. |
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