@Topic
No.

Hell No! Why marry him/her in the first place when you can not sleep with your eyes closed? Please we should be careful when we take decision as critical as marriage. We should always be sure of whom we are getting married to. We should take that decision alone and not be rushed or guided or advised about it. It more about delegating those part of our responsibilities to someone we can't find fault in, no matter how he/she does it, we should be satisfied. Even if it is done badly at that particular moment, but for the fact that he/she is our husband/wife, we should just smile around it and make the environment serene or make the best out of it. Why even spend such money and time on such activities, when we should be thinking on how to make every member of our home more comfortable and happy. That would only be bringing in third parties into our marriages that is ment just for Two. Remember "what we don't know will not hurt us". If you cannot trust your wife, then who can you trust? Your Father , "That want to know more about your family and see how to control it for you?, Your Mother , that will always tell you that your wife is taking all your attention and the likes?, Your siblings, That want more and more from you financially and other wise, or your inlaws, hell no. Your best friend should even be YOUR WIFE. unless you don't LOVE HER. , Let me end with this popular quote ", He that ""FINDS" a WIFE finds a good thing and obtains Mercy from the LORD. Or better still as in Gen. 2.24 " Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall CLEAVE unto his WIFE: and they shall be ONE flesh.

A word is enough for the wise.

"Begin today to be what you want to be tomorrow". - St. Jerome

the bible says, "seek and you shall find" if you spy on your partner, that thing you want to see, you will see.then, i would like to see the look on your face when you have to take care of your four children all alone. except he/she has giving you a concrete reason to be suspicious, anybody spying on his/her partner has a serious psychological problems. IMO

there is somethin they call scotome. them say na condition whereby everythn u c start resemble or confirm wetin u dey xpct to see. if u mean to put ur babe or guy under surveilance, first be sure u r only lookin for reasons to demonize him or her. definitely, a lot of casual things will make "meaning" to u, then u c what u want: evidence of his/ her infidelity, gbam!!!

"scotoma", i meant

the best Way to spy on a woman is by not spying on her.dont forget nothing is hidden,she will show her real self to others in you absence.

no, i trust her

I will only snoop if I am ready to leave the relationship or marriage and I'm looking for a reason or justification to do so.

Anyway as a guy that does not like surprises, knowing her darkest secrets will not hurt me while not knowing will definitely hurt me.

TCRACK said:

the bible says, "seek and you shall find" if you spy on your partner, that thing you want to see, you will see.

LMAO. i understand what you are saying, that line just had me cracking up.

Ujujoan:

^^ E JUTA ISI NKITA, E WERE AGBA YA ME GINI

_{I really hope you are Ibo cos I don't have the strength to interpret that . .}

Ha ha haa! That capitalized part cracks me up! Ujujoan, u no do the guy good o! He hee!

@ Poster, you are talking to me but I have learnt my lessons now. My 5 years relationship which is extremely close to marriage almost went with the wind this last week mainly because of insecurity.

I started behaving silly to the girl ever since she got admission in 2007. I have not evidence but still find myself doing it but it is over. It is not easy as girls can be silly sometime but since I don't like been watched I will have to give up such habits but that does not mean one should go to school and close his eyes even when there are evidences.

I'ld so NOT do such a thing,although i'm the jealous type.

Would You Spy On Your Partner Yes 19 (14.3%) Only if I suspect he/she is cheating 59 (44.4%)
No 49 (36.8%)
Undecided 6 (4.5%)

Total Votes: 133

Submission: Only 36.8% will not do such!! lol. . .

I feel perhaps i culd ask myself~ strictly if its a wife or a fiancee, i myt not care much about a girl friend~
what's the probability that she culd be cheating on me or what's the probability that she isn't

but somethings are too important to be founded on the luxury of mere probability

but still
i feel most people totally confuse TRUST emotional BLINDNESS

@ ujujoan. Ur sooo funny.if only the guy understands wat u just said

@ topic,id not do it cos it might bring regret and high blood pressure.my uncle did it and it cost him his marriage.he's separated from his wife and now makin moves to reconcile after 5 years

i wouldnt but i'ld love to know if deres smtin goin on so i cld be out of dat shit quick

I simply wont spy on a galfriend, it's not worth it.

I can't marry someone I know i will have to spy on.
If I dont trust her, i wont marry her.
And if she gives me any reason to spy on her, I will divorce.

I need to be free with my life.

yes,of course.If you are married to me why going yawa.
I MUST FIND OUT THE TRUTH AND KNOW HER FOR SURE

crown22:

yes,of course.If you are married to me why going yawa.
I MUST FIND OUT THE TRUTH AND KNOW HER FOR SURE

GO AHEAD AND SPY ON HER TO YOUR OWN UNDOING.

I NO FIT DO AM. WASTE OF TAX PAYER'S ENERGY.

As if I have nothing else to occupy me?

Monitoring anybody is short cut to death becos ur BP WILL SURELY RISE, so just trust her or him but if you insist anything u see na u sabi

Topik.
If need be, YES!

that ridiculous.men be it handsome urgly wowo or wat evaaaaaa dey will still cheat so y want to av hyper at dis tender age.remember evry other person is out dere watchin him as u tink u are and it goin to be unlucky u if u are not even good in bed.miaw

I don't see my self spending time and resources on such. What you don't discover/uncover does not hurt, why should I purchase or invite heartbreak with my own resources if my suspicion is right and guilt if wrong? He is, or supposed to be mine so, any other person out there is in the 'secret' so why bother?

Also it may change his loyalty if he discovers that I've been spying on him (what's the point to remain faithful if already he is been accused of infidelity?).

Survillance is a waste of money. A bit of personal sniffing and snooping will do without wasting my time on it (i.e. if am convinced he's cheating and just need evidence to buttress it). He's bound to slip if he is really up to something cos 'Ojo gbogbo ni ti'ole'