Landers please help. Read carefully.


I am about to quit my 3 years relationship nor start cheating on her. I happened to meet a good girl , well brought up , a loyal and extremely beautiful babe.


This girl has been contented for years now , I do give her my change when I have and when her parents sends her money she do give me , I know her ATM password just as she knows mine .


Lately , when I started service due to the fact that I am no longer staying in school , I try as much as I can to get her provision (standard provision ). Each time she comes to my house I do update her provision cause my dad owns a provision shop .

The issue .
December some unexpected cash entered my hand , I decided to spoil my loyal and trustworthy babe , I took her to spar , to genesis and to a pool of which she refused to swim , all this were on different occasions during December after which she told me she needs to get a relaxer for her hair and the price is 3,200 I gave her , she requested for 3k to make hair I gave her , she talked of indo mie and biscuit I gave her 3k . a day to leave I took her to a boutique and bought her a trouser and a top . after which I gave her 6k then subscribe her for 2weeks cause that's how I do subscribe my phone .


Ever since then , all her talk is money money money of how I am suppose to spend on her , of her rich girls do get from men and that when I stop giving her money she will put eye outside and the rest . Her mentality changed , this is a girl that do manage what ever her parents give thogh her parents are trying .....


Her words regarding money today made me went mad on her , I regretted ever trying to spend on her lavishly . I know I have been giving her money , but the December flexing was too much .

A girl her parents will send money she will inform me , I will have to twist her to get some but lately she just see me as a guy who's suppose to take full responsibility of her upkeep whereas we ain't married and if she doesn't change I just feel I will quit ..


Please what should I do to correct this mess.

she no ask you for 50k and u dey complain

oga hold ur girlfriend tight, u cant handle above her grade

Try to sit her, down, talk to her about how you go cash and how you spent on her, tell her if she really wants to go she should,
That if you find out she is moving around you will drop her, simple. Tell her to wait with you and see the future or she should go and see what those girls never tell anyone.


Bro woman no be priority, them plenty die, chase money and watch them hustle for attention.
Your girl done dey open eye.

My guy sit her down and talk some sense into her, i mean she knows you are not working yet, and also it was how you started it in the first place you know spoiling her with money, so she thinks you have it in excesses, just talk to her make her know that 3 years is not 3 days, that was how my girl held me to ransom too, but now i hardly call her or message her, because i know for sure she has other guys now giving her money, so i do not want to be a mugu anymore.

golor:

The issue .
December some unexpected cash entered my hand , I decided to spoil my loyal and trustworthy babe , I took her to spar , to genesis and to a pool of which she refused to swim , all this were on different occasions during December after which she told me she needs to get a relaxer for her hair and the price is 3,200 I gave her , she requested for 3k to make hair I gave her , she talked of indo mie and biscuit I gave her 3k . a day to leave I took her to a boutique and bought her a trouser and a top . after which I gave her 6k then subscribe her for 2weeks cause that's how I do subscribe my phone .

This is exactly where the problem started.

Yes, loyal and trustworthy ladies should be spoilt and lavished on once in a while, you never did wrong spending and lavishing on her for some while.

But, what possibly happened?
She engaged and started competing with her friends, telling and sharing gists on how their various boyfriends spent on them, hereby forcefully and pretentiously upgrading herself and yourself to the level of her friends, which is the reason why she's tryna keep and level up to that claims to her friends.

I blame her for that, not you.

golor:

Ever since then , all her talk is money money money of how I am suppose to spend on her , of her rich girls do get from men and that when I stop giving her money she will put eye outside and the rest . Her mentality changed , this is a girl that do manage what ever her parents give thogh her parents are trying .....

Typical Nigerian lady seeing a relationship as a source of money and job employment

golor:

Her words regarding money today made me went mad on her , I regretted ever trying to spend on her lavishly . I know I have been giving her money , but the December flexing was too much .

Don't regret, you didn't do wrong.

There are lots of loyal women out there who deserved to be spent on, believe me.

Don't let the her changed behavior change your care for women.

golor:

Please what should I do to correct this mess.

Be your normal and loving you, don't be the one to quit it.


Allow her do.




lalasticlala, Myndy44

Bro just finish wetin u start

You actually do need to give her more money you know?

iamJ:
she no ask you for 50k and u dey complain

oga hold ur girlfriend tight, u cant handle above her grade

You just wants to type ?and I bought her phone of 45k ? When I was in camp , due to some challenges from her parents I sent her 36k for books and feeding ? Some girls will come close with out a kobo , she was aware of my colleague begging to sleep a night with me during my under graduate days ...that's a bleep that wouldve cost me nothing.

SULTANALAUDDIN:
The funniest part "all her talk is money money money of how I am suppose to spend on her , of her rich girls do get from men and that when I stop giving her money she will put eye outside and the rest "She is already contemplating on HOEING.

Naija relationship: THE MALE MUST PAY THE FEMALE.

Op lesson for you no girl stays loyal forever, a girl must HOE, your babe phase just begun........

You think so ? I doubt . there are good once out there

donsimo:
Try to sit her, down, talk to her about how you go cash and how you spent on her, tell her if she really wants to go she should,
That if you find out she is moving around you will drop her, simple. Tell her to wait with you and see the future or she should go and see what those girls never tell anyone.


Bro woman no be priority, them plenty die, chase money and watch them hustle for attention.
Your girl done dey open eye.

Thanks for your advice . I sight you

aurxtino:
My guy sit her down and talk some sense into her, i mean she knows you are not working yet, and also it was how you started it in the first place you know spoiling her with money, so she thinks you have it in excesses, just talk to her make her know that 3 years is not 3 days, that was how my girl held me to ransom too, but now i hardly call her or message her, because i know for sure she has other guys now giving her money, so i do not want to be a mugu anymore.

I wouldn't agree less from your post

Give her some space and start submitting your CV to different *organizations...

You can't upgrade and then down grade

She finally knows her worth

Time is up on the relationship.

she id showing you her true color, but i dont see what she did wrong o. she ia just behaving according to her genetics, if you break up with her, the next one to will like money and hers might be worse - all of dem na winch-.


marry your babe and hustle for cash, na money dem dey use dominate for relationship

Dimples129:
You can't upgrade and then down grade

She finally knows her worth

Time is up on the relationship.

I guess your worth is to sleep around for money and not being contented

golor:



I guess your worth is to sleep around for money and not being contented

Iffffaaaaaa me da

TRUST ME HOLD HER TIGHT COZ ANY OTHER GIRL ASIDES THIS WILL WRECK YOU...I DONT CARE LIFESTYLE YOU GO FEAR LAVISH

Yahoo boi.
Unexpected cash ko unexpected fundz ni.
Anyways pass me her digits make I join u for ministry

Dimples129:
You can't upgrade and then down grade

She finally knows her worth

Time is up on the relationship.

Her worth? For real? Is she a prostitute?

Most of you girls make me so ashamed of women! I hope you saw the second comment on this thread?

You just told that commenter "Ride on, you're right! That's who we are!"

delugajackson:


"If you no get money, hide your face.. Make another man pikin run your race."

At this point, you need to take a cue from Davido.

abeg tell him

pls guy... quit d relationship.. its not worth it don't allow emotions to take hold on u beyond logical reasoning. I did same u did for ur girl for my own girl but at d end she ended d relationship its over, I love her but I can not go back to her never, never. wisdom demands DT when a girl start giving u headache in relationship cos of money pls bro u have not found a wife. u need a partners not someone to sponsor, relationship is like testing d waters before u go deep. pls quit d relationship and let her her go for good. get a woman who truly loves you beyond money. in marriage there will be storms and financial storm is one of them.. so what happens if financial storm arises in marriage she all bail out on u. today marriages are crashing because mist ladies are not ready and prepared and are not willing to make sacrifices and commit to marital vows. the chances if a guy finding a good wife to marry now is very slim, we have eligible guys even with money but dey keep attracting pretenders and hypocrites. very few are willing to see a future in you and go for d process. many don't marry for love but for benefit. pls decide if this is d life if frustration u want to live in and get tensed because u are unable to provide. stop funding laziness in a girl she will wreck u and dump u in her on mind. pls quit before she quits she is already showing the quitting signal bro. be wise and let logic be stronger Dan emotions, God will give u a woman who loves and adores you, values and want to spend d rest if her life with you with or without cash, who will stand by u through d thick and d tin bro. just pray to God. I am heart broken now but I leave all to God cos he knows better... our ladies are not contented with what u have to offer their eyes are on the wealth of another man, who took time to pay d price, while dey are not willing to do d same.
QUIT BRO QUIT.

Lol giving her your dads provisions

The same one he sells to feed you abi which provision are you talking bout

Rayhandrinni:
Lol giving her your dads provisions

The same one he sells to feed you abi which provision are you talking bout

Better than a pained and frustrated idiot like you .

owo ti wo gbo

One problem with girls, don't spoil them with something devilish as money.
You'll end up regretting.

Newboss:
Her worth? For real? Is she a prostitute?

Most of you girls make me so ashamed of women! I hope you saw the second comment on this thread?

You just told that commenter "Ride on, you're right! That's who we are!"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPxVSCfoYnU

golor:



Better than a pained and frustrated idiot like you .

lol listen to yourself.....you've got absolutely no idea who I am, but you'd go on to use the term "pained and frustrated"


How did you get a degree again?