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yes, it is compulsory oooooh
First Ring (Engagement ring)
second ring ( Wedding Ring)

Misson Completed!!!!!

Eddodoh:

Guy, u need 2 propose. Follow procedures.

Look here: u toast b4 dating, u date 4 a certain time, 'u propose marriage'.

Cos it's one thing to date & it's another to marry. More so, some people are good at dating but not good or prepare for marriage.

This same drama happens when u think u are already dating a lady because u toasted her, she hasn't give u a positive response. Then, she visit & u want to get down with her. She would tell u that she hasn't agree to date u, not to talk of getting down.

Marriage is a project. A project is any activity or something that has a beginning & an end. It involved interrelated activities & inputs to bring out d desired result.

So, do the needful!

P.S: On another different issue. I have being trying to reach u so as to have a chat with u but u ain't on Whatsapp nor respond to my pm.

Here is my digit: zero-7-zero-3-seven-8-seven-9-three-9-six

It's important!

The purpose of dating Is to know each mother more before marriage.

No just give her belle and all ur problems are over u no go even need pay bride price... Mpama!

Naija girls sef

ask buhari

afolayangs:
oga. we are in global age where we copy what's happening outside our culture..... . ladies like to keep memories alive so kindly do the needful. it will only cost you 2 things. May be 20k and humility.

In 'our' culture there is formal courting and asking parents for their daughters hand.

In 'our' culture you would go to the woman's compound with your elders/representatives with the fact you are interested in marriage and she would publicly say yes or no.

What happens inside our culture is much more public and formal...and expensive.

If you don't formally ask, she has not formally accepted.

So... how do you tell a lady you want to marry her?

The alternative is you just setup the wedding, tell your people, tell her people to keep it secret, and drag her to it unwittingly? I don't get...

Hmmmm, if na because of proposals go make una no marry, bros free her.

MiaB:
Prior to the 20th century, engagement didn’t exist
except for the very richest people, which
means that the vast majority of brides up
until 1948 didn’t feel they were necessary.
DeBeers popularized the concept of the
diamond engagement ring with the “A
Diamond Is Forever"
but since marriage has existed for millennia,
70 years doesn’t cut it for me to consider it a
long-standing cultural phenomenon that
you could really call a “tradition.”
Therefore it's not Compulsory

Depends on how you define engagement.

nextstep:
So... how do you tell a lady you want to marry her?

The alternative is you just setup the wedding, tell your people, tell her people to keep it secret, and drag her to it unwittingly? I don't get...

I don’t thing that is the case here.

From the writup, the lady is aware of the up coming wedding and they both are preparing towards it.

He must have pop the question about wanting to marry her informly and casually and the lady must have agreed, given the fact that she is preparing for the marriage.

Her beef seem to be that, there was no formal marriage and most likely, no ring.

I did not propose to my wife before marrying her and we are very much enjoying our marriage now. We were dating and things were moving fine and I was becoming convinced that she is the woman for me; I casually told her that I would like to marry her. She probably didn't think I was serious. I bought some drinks and went straight to their house and declared my intention. Na there we fixed date o and preparations started. No time for proposal or engagement ring

What if she propose?

FromZeroToHero:
I recently had a little quarrel with my fiancee and she said I'm making her to have double mind over our forthcoming wedding. She even said that she can remember that I never asked her to marry me which means I did not propose her which is true. Is it mandatory that a guy must propose to a woman before marriage?

Nothing is mandatory oh... but there are expectations from her and her peers... it's up to you to choose which battles you want to fight, and which ones you want to lose so you'll have peace. This one is a very easy one: propose, get on one knee, give ring, etc so she can shame her enemies
It's not too late and you can still make it romantic, so she'll have something to boast to her friends and tell her kids.

At least you won't have spent time arguing about it or reading our responses on Nairaland.

linearity:


I don’t thing that is the case here.

From the writup, the lady is aware of the up coming wedding and they both are preparing towards it.

He must have pop the question about wanting to marry her informly and casually and the lady must have agreed, given the fact that she is preparing for the marriage.

Her beef seem to be that, there was no formal marriage and most likely, no ring.

Oh ok... heh, he made his bed already and must now lie in it.

This what I say to guys all the time... if you don't want this to be a point of argument everytime you do something unrelated (like leave your socks outside to dry, or add extra salt to your soup) just fulfill her expectations. Basically, if you try to shortcut the proposal/marriage/knee thing... it will come back to disturb you in very unexpected ways. This is a case of dot your I and cross your T.

Even if your wife/fiancee is OK with it... by the time she hears her peers gushing how Tony got on bended knee for Tope, or she reads in several magazines, or on Nairaland... something will start worrying her. Forget that other guys say they didn't do a formal proposal. Do your own, and at least, you can remove that as a source of quarrel for the rest of your life.

WHAT I LUV MOST IS YOUR ENGLISH

Propose for her on the day of the wedding before the priest and the entire congregation.....
Nothing could be more romantic

What do expect when many ladies are desperate

shey you want to hear the truth?

That you proposed does not mean she couldn't back out at any time she pleases-and vice-versa. Come to think of it, Why did she go ahead with the marriage plans with you in the first place, if a formal proposal was highest on her priority list?

I think she senses you are a weak man that can be threatened or blackmailed into fulfilling all of her whims and caprices. This is the kind of woman that can threaten to abort your child after a little quarrel just because you didn't ask if she wanted children. She is an outrightly manipulative person, who I am afraid would hold you by jugulars until you do her bidding if you eventually get married.

And it might just be she's getting seemingly better offers somewhere else (you never can tell with these women)

Put your feet down and take charge like the man you are meant to be!

Same with me... i didn't propose oo

bid4rich:
Sorry, its not. I didn't propose to mine before we got married. She reminded me just like yours but my response is "will the propose make a home"? Emphatic NO! You may say I'm not romantic, that's your business. Ask her!

Till tomorrow, no propose but we are doing very great.

Are you kidding me! Did you guys just woke up one morning and fixed a date for your wedding.. Hahahahaha, guy oya go and propose oo

I must tell you, it not compulsory

JULIE1925:


There's nothing wrong to propose.. Juz make sure the ring u will give is PAWNABLE

...i don laff tire,hmnnn nice one olx tins

louken:
I did not propose to my wife before marrying her and we are very much enjoying our marriage now. We were dating and things were moving fine and I was becoming convinced that she is the woman for me; I casually told her that I would like to marry her. She probably didn't think I was serious. I bought some drinks and went straight to their house and declared my intention. Na there we fixed date o and preparations started. No time for proposal or engagement ring

3 gbosa for you. simple, straight forward and whole heartedly

[quote author=FromZeroToHero post=64474343]I recently had a little quarrel with my fiancee and she said I'm making her to have double mind over our forthcoming wedding. She even said that she can remember that I never asked her to marry me which means I did not propose her which is true. Is it mandatory that a guy must propose to a woman before marriage?

Asking her to marry you is just an assurance that you truly want her to marry you

Besides if you a truly the man, what's stopping you from proposing?

I beg, o ya do the needful

Please do it. It is obviously important to her.

I've been married for 8years now,but my hubby hasn't proposed !
I'm still waiting for his proposal though .

Its a pity that ladies re nw more concerend abt hw glamourous nd attractive their wedding nd d procedure will look like rather than hw successful their after married life will be.

ME?.... propose?..... that was then, this is now!

It all depends...

Absolutely no buh she want you to be romantic, you can follow the trend if you wish buh not necessary

Proposal injects an element of seriousness and purposiveness into the relationship.