revontuli:


OMG this sounds like a dystopian nightmare!
Have you tried dating immigrant women? Turkish, Moroccan, etc? There is a big African population in Sweden, it shouldn't be difficult to find highly educated African ladies or Eastern European, Middle Eastern, anything other than Swedish?
I don't understand why they can't make friends. Especially in a society so starved of friendship?
It sounds like hell on earth, but people make it into hell by being cold and isolating themselves like this.

I date everyone I make connection with. Below is a footnote from the clip “Swedish theory of love”
“How did the Swedes become the world's most lonely people? In the spring of 1972 a group of social-democratic politicians gathered to create a new vision for Sweden's future. The goal is to create "a society of independent individuals". Forty years later, Erik Gandini examined the results. His reckless movie reveals the back of the Swedish values ​​and paints a self-image that shakes - a Sweden that did not really seem as it was intended”.
My point is the idea that western women are better than Nigerian women is laced with all falsehood, and the sooner Nigerian guys realize this the better.

tobianthony:



As much as you are entitled to your opinion which I respect ...I must say that this is nothing more than myth .

It's called " lonely old man " .

I'm going to use this to talk to as many men as possible who are willing to listen .

The gist of this is simple if you do not get married or choose to not get married on time you will be lonely .

Sadly it's ironic that a good percent of elderly married are lonely despite being married . Why do you think a lot of men seek the company of young women .

In my opinion this is no more than scare tactic conjured up by the society to pressure men into this concept of marriage .

When the truth is that for men the older you are the more sexual market place value you have. This fact . As far as you know who you are and place priority on your goals and work on yourself ...the fruits of your labor will surely come .

There are many misleading truths going on in society that young men are believing to their detriment .

I've said it before and I will say it again .. . The only reason to get married is for legal convenience and to legitimize your children . Other than it is not worth it.

I won't go into red pill vs blue pill and how this has lead to much endured disaster for naive men today .

And if you insist on getting married ...honestly it's all good . However I insist that change your beta mindset and master the skills needed to survive in a relationship with a woman .

As always I don't hate women .

I love y'all .

God created love ...we humans just misbehave with it .

Rollo thomassi- Rational male.

good points you're making from there.

Guys should know their strengths and weakness after all it's the basis for the art of war. Marriage benefits women more than men especially when it's a woman that's older and past her"hot" days. No one wants 30yr old Benzema

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GeeString:
I won't go into any long sermon on this I'll just speak from personal experience.

No Nigerian woman is worth the trouble ahead. Infidelity is a serious Nigerian girl issue and it won't leave after marriage rather it will only get worse since her lifelong ambition has been fulfilled and she is now at peace.

Nigerian girls are materialistic and selfish. They do not truly understand the term "love".

Every Nigerian girl 25 & above has engaged in prostitution of some sort be it openly or 'coded'. There are corporate oloshos now sef. By prostitution I mean sleeping with a man for financial gain.

They are just not worth it.

I seriously doubt if I'll ever get married to a Nigerian girl. I'll have two kids from 2 different women &



Quote me & bash me but kindly produce counter-points or disprove my points while you do so. Oh & lest I forget I have no sisters & my mom is late too.

Goodnight.

Guy,you are hilarious,you got me reeling in laughter

lefulefu:
lol u dodge bullet. Most runzgirls they prefer having a guy that is either naive or a guy that is cool headed or nice as a husband or boyfriend. Dem no mind they will even spend on the guy with the money they make from their olosho business. The reason they prefer such men is that they feel they can easily manipulate or control such men. Check out the husbands of most ex oloshos turned wives. Their husbands are always timid or naive. Thank God u dodge bullet.

You're correct.

Men are motivated to get married because they are guaranteed of the whole package (chastity, youthfulness etc). The price to pay in our sexually liberated world is that when sex becomes freely available, then the incentive to get married reduces, as sexual exclusivity and kids are the only thing that will make a man marry. Also, femininity in itself used to be valuable, a woman is respected, honoured and seen as enough just for being a woman, and men were happy and fuelled by the goal of marrying a virtuous women for himself and live ever-after, men are quite idealistic in that regards.

Fast-forward now, women have fought to eliminate the very thing that made men respect, honour and see them as enough just for being women, and men see no motivation to get marry anymore, the incentive is just not there. I do not know of any man that wants to marry a woman that has serviced more p.enis than a doctor, engage in all kind of sexual miscellaneous activities, and still expect the whole package from a self-made man, to provide and be her man, meanwhile, all he is marrying is a second-handed woman that has utilised her youthfulness having fun with exciting boys, and looking to settle when she is loosing her youthfulness. If men cant have you at your prime, then they do not want you at your decline. Sadly, men of today do not accept women for being women like men of previous generation, they want more because femininity is no longer enough, and rightly so. Though, from observations, women still haven't come to term with this new reality, and are operating on the previous mindset of being enough just for being women.

Also, the average girls sees themselves as too-good for most men, and this is worsen by the numerous boys who flatter and shatter them with hype and cash, making her falsely believe that she deserve only the best, while being unconscious to the existential truism that the reason why those boys have interest in her is not because she is her, but because she is young, pretty and still at the peak of her youthfulness, which sadly, declines much faster than she realised. Also, the fact that she had all these sweet experiences shoots her standards so high, that even when she over 30 years old, she still would not understand why men are not attracted to her anymore, she still operate in her 20's mentality, but men do not see her as a 20 year old. Adding social media to the equation, with the attention they get there that is like porn to them, and the ever fake display of life, strengthening her illusion that is devoid of economical reality of the country, makes her feel that she ''settled'' for a man that is obviously way above her league. And it would get worse, I weep.

Marriage is a responsibility, the woman ought to be hardworking and smart to manage the resources properly with her man, otherwise there is no point.

pansophist:
Men are motivated to get married because they are guaranteed of the whole package (chastity, youthfulness etc). The price to pay in our sexually liberated world is that when sex becomes freely available, then the incentive to get married reduces, as sexual exclusivity and kids are the only thing that will make a man marry. Also, femininity in itself used to be valuable, a woman is respected, honoured and seen as enough just for being a woman, and men were happy and fuelled by the goal of marrying a virtuous women for himself and live ever-after, men are quite idealistic in that regards.

Fast-forward now, women have fought to eliminate the very thing that made men respect, honour and see them as enough just for being women, and men see no motivation to get marry anymore, the incentive is just not there. I do not know of any man that wants to marry a woman that has serviced more p.enis than a doctor, engage in all kind of sexual miscellaneous activities, and still expect the whole package from a self-made man, to provide and be her man, meanwhile, all he is marrying is a second-handed woman that has utilised her youthfulness having fun with exciting boys, and looking to settle when she is loosing her youthfulness. If men cant have you at your prime, then they do not want you at your decline. Sadly, men of today do not accept women for being women like men of previous generation, they want more because femininity is no longer enough, and rightly so. Though, from observations, women still haven't come to term with this new reality, and are operating on the previous mindset of being enough just for being women.

Also, the average girls sees themselves as too-good for most men, and this is worsen by the numerous boys who flatter and shatter them with hype and cash, making her falsely believe that she deserve only the best, while being unconscious to the existential truism that the reason why those boys have interest in her is not because she is her, but because she is young, pretty and still at the peak of her youthfulness, which sadly, declines much faster than she realised. Also, the fact that she had all these sweet experiences shoots her standards so high, that even when she over 30 years old, she still would not understand why men are not attracted to her anymore, she still operate in her 20's mentality, but men do not see her as a 20 year old. Adding social media to the equation, with the attention they get there that is like porn to them, and the ever fake display of life, strengthening her illusion that is devoid of economical reality of the country, makes her feel that she ''settled'' for a man that is obviously way above her league. And it would get worse, I weep.

Well written but I witness lots people getting married daily - offline and online. More than 75% of my secondary school female classmates have gotten married. I prognosticate same figure for my university's colleagues in few years to come some which even married while in school (were also pregnant). One even got married before her research project defense and another did same during the week experiments were conducted (which I did for her). Every weekend, event halls are filled to the brim while across most villages on Thursday, traditional wedding ceremonies take place. So when I read posts like yours on social media, I shudder who are the people not getting married.

Gerrard59:


Well written but I witness lots people getting married daily - offline and online. More than 75% of my secondary school female classmates have gotten married. I prognosticate same figure for my university's colleagues in few years to come some which even married while in school (were also pregnant). One even got married before her research project defense and another did same during the week experiments were conducted (which I did for her). Every weekend, event halls are filled to the brim while across most villages on Thursday, traditional wedding ceremonies take place. So when I read posts like yours on social media, I shudder who are the people not getting married.

What I wrote is an explanation on how I see it, why marriage is not a thing for many men, it doesn't invalidate the fact that people get married daily, but my aforementioned reason is a thing out there. Just as you know lots of folks getting married, you should observers not getting married either, my post refer to the latter.

pansophist:
Men are motivated to get married because they are guaranteed of the whole package (chastity, youthfulness etc). The price to pay in our sexually liberated world is that when sex becomes freely available, then the incentive to get married reduces, as sexual exclusivity and kids are the only thing that will make a man marry. Also, femininity in itself used to be valuable, a woman is respected, honoured and seen as enough just for being a woman, and men were happy and fuelled by the goal of marrying a virtuous women for himself and live ever-after, men are quite idealistic in that regards.

Fast-forward now, women have fought to eliminate the very thing that made men respect, honour and see them as enough just for being women, and men see no motivation to get marry anymore, the incentive is just not there. I do not know of any man that wants to marry a woman that has serviced more p.enis than a doctor, engage in all kind of sexual miscellaneous activities, and still expect the whole package from a self-made man, to provide and be her man, meanwhile, all he is marrying is a second-handed woman that has utilised her youthfulness having fun with exciting boys, and looking to settle when she is loosing her youthfulness. If men cant have you at your prime, then they do not want you at your decline. Sadly, men of today do not accept women for being women like men of previous generation, they want more because femininity is no longer enough, and rightly so. Though, from observations, women still haven't come to term with this new reality, and are operating on the previous mindset of being enough just for being women.

Also, the average girls sees themselves as too-good for most men, and this is worsen by the numerous boys who flatter and shatter them with hype and cash, making her falsely believe that she deserve only the best, while being unconscious to the existential truism that the reason why those boys have interest in her is not because she is her, but because she is young, pretty and still at the peak of her youthfulness, which sadly, declines much faster than she realised. Also, the fact that she had all these sweet experiences shoots her standards so high, that even when she over 30 years old, she still would not understand why men are not attracted to her anymore, she still operate in her 20's mentality, but men do not see her as a 20 year old. Adding social media to the equation, with the attention they get there that is like porn to them, and the ever fake display of life, strengthening her illusion that is devoid of economical reality of the country, makes her feel that she ''settled'' for a man that is obviously way above her league. And it would get worse, I weep.

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MissRaine69:


Just because you have constantly fraternised with women who have nothing to offer don’t argue a point that all Nigerian women have nothing to offer. You have not met all Nigerian women to make a blanket statement like that.

Don't get annoyed with such statements, we all know not all nigerian ladies are loose but that statement means a large percentage are.
That statement means unlike in the past were you don't need to change circle nor meet all nigerian women before you get a good woman but now it is that hard that you probably need to change circle or search diligently to do that.
God help us all

Shugavee:
just hving fun!! Hving fun like men do!! B4 a lady is 23 the pressure has began!!! While The parent of a male child is setting up his future!!! B4 u get to 300l self as a woman, u r ripe for marriage!!!( U won't get it, u r not a lady) U think ladies won't like hving random sex too n being players!! But we can't cause the society has conditioned us

And having random sex and also been a player is enjoyment?
Hmmmmm

AntiBrutus:


That brings us to another question...

Why do people only see and use the negative to make decisions?

I think you are right with this question.
Why do people judge things from a negative angle?
I believe because bad news travels farrrrrr more than good news.
Just like the way we read bad news everyday about nigerians abroad into drugs and yahoo yahoo scamming but we all know that we have a far larger hard working nigerians in diaspora doing legitimate jobs and businesses and doing fine but that is no news at all.
Where i am, i see more sweet, rosy and good marriages than the bad ones yet the bad ones travels farther and more exaggerated.
What is the essence of bringing a good marriage to nairaland? They will tag you pompous and proud, it's no news.

Eshence:
Nigeria men are getting lazy dats y!! if our fore parents didn't get married on time will dey have u at there age? its so sad DAT a man of 45 is just thinking about marriage at dis time, at wat age will his first child be? lol the earlier the beta. u guys should beta get ur ass up and hustle hard .a man is to marry a woman not d other way round

Pls let's be guided, this statement is not too good.
A lot of people are hustling and trying their best but the economy makes them look stupid.
Ti a ko ba reni feyinti, bi ole lari - if we don't have a good family/financial support and guidance, people may tend to see us as lazy and unfortunate.
Sis, Life is not really easy out there.

I don't understand Nigerians obsession to get married. I know that it's part of the culture and all but it's getting out of hand. Like it's the only achievement that people have in this country. There are so many issues to be worried about such as declining standard of living, lack of infrastructure, lack of jobs, lack of investment, the complete and utter disregard for the rule of law by the ruling party and the rate of insecurity in the land.

Why will men want to get married when the current economic climate is not favoring them?

Why will men want to get married when the culture of "the man must provide and cater to his woman" has made them rethink the notion of marriage?

Why will men want to get married when women in this country want their man to do the job of their father and take care of them even though they are supposed to be helpmates?

Why will a man who is either unemployed or a low income earner want to increase the burden on himself in the name of marriage?

Would such a person not think about the welfare of his future kids if he cannot support them?

A lot of marriages have collapsed because of the "go and marry" syndrome. Many of them end up marrying people they have nothing in common with just to satisfy society.

Gentlemen don't do it. Don't give in to pressure as those who attended your wedding will not be there when kasala burst.

emmaodet:


And having random sex and also been a player is enjoyment?
Hmmmmm

yes it is enjoyment,

Shugavee:
yes it is enjoyment,

Ok ooooo.

MissRaine69:
I think you have answered your own question OP.
Some go for the baby momma route in an attempt to tie the man down. And for some it happens 2-3 times
Besides how many men ( in this rather unfavourable financial time) can afford to marry when some women demand a salary, 3 bed house , 2 cars and 2 house helps! Being single seems so much preferable.

Muah... My crush

Mcy56:

truth, they say, is bitter......

So for ur mind, u think ladies ain't scared of karma too Abi.



Well, we men are scared of karma bcox almost all our ladies are sluts which makes it easier for karma

faithfull18:
For affordable data,visit my profile.

See now, no wonder we are scared to marry you people.. They are talking about marriage, u r talking about data sef... All these yeye social media wives... Better get sense

SoapQueen:
I took my time to read all the criticisms from some men. Nice one.

Delusions of grandeur, I must say.

Nigerian men are not interested in marriage yet there are pre-wedding photos at every nook and cranny.

Nigerians girls are hoes, cutlass, this and that, who the hell do they cheat with, themselves?

You keep calling ladies unprintable names, is it not men like you that break the "Almighty bro code" by going for someone else's woman. I remember a dude put up a post last week about waiting for his friend to break up with his girlfriend so he could shoot his shot?

It is getting stale. If you don't want to get married, please don't. Some of you up there are boasting of having 3 side Chics. Who should cast the first stone?

No matter how women try to explain that not all women are the same, some of you chauvinistic lot still try to humiliate womanhood. It is tiresome.

I am proud to say that I have so much more to offer to the world, and it is not my body. Men have wronged many women but you don't hear us whinning and bickering about men being bedswervers.



Last, last. In the bid to please some girl, some of you will still slide into a girl's DM and do everything within your power to get her attention. After that, Una go come here dey form Bruce Lee.

Yes we will slide into ur dm bcox we no dt u ladies are vulnerable and mumu.. At any sweet word, sharwarma and cold stone ice cream, u will open your legs again

DenreleDave:



See now, no wonder we are scared to marry you people.. They are talking about marriage, u r talking about data sef... All these yeye social media wives... Better get sense

Lol, unserious element. Sha come and buy data whether you are scared of marriage or not, you will surf the internet like you are doing now

DenreleDave:


Yes we will slide into ur dm bcox we no dt u ladies are vulnerable and mumu.. At any sweet word, sharwarma and cold stone ice cream, u will open your legs again

You big fool! DM your account details let me buy them for you.

SoapQueen:

You big fool! DM your account details let me buy them for you.

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YModulosGodSon:


Hey! Easy on the language...



... And whatever happened to 08138***32 ....?
We need some soap in lagos

Hmmmm. I can’t remember you.

YModulosGodSon:


Understandably so... But not even with my moniker? MidasCaro

Mind dropping your contact number?

Money issue ... This 2020 I can't date a broke girl oh