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Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by jaywhoco(m): 9:13am On Jul 12, 2018 |
mgtow:. you are wicked...lol 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Nobody: 9:22am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Fuckyoumod:You're an amateur, just continue saying 'you never caught her cheating..........' jargons until badt boys drill all the oil in your gf/wife's oil well finish. This boy doesn't even know what the ladies in this our generation are made up of. There are still good girls though. Shout out to all real women out there, you're precious. 3 Likes
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Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by srclark: 9:22am On Jul 12, 2018 |
BlackAfrican post=69i234966:So ? Thank God you said girlfriend not wife if you want her for yourself do the needful (MARRY HER) I see no reason why a woman would flirt around if you are ready and serious about marrying her so what happens to her if she puts all her hope in you and at the end of the day you dont marry her abeg abeg oga if it is not cool with you move ahead wahala no dey dat one |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Shaev7(m): 9:23am On Jul 12, 2018 |
madridguy:You don't talk flippantly in public especially when someone seeks advice from you. What about your girlfriend, what is she? |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Centcanada: 9:50am On Jul 12, 2018 |
O BOY WOMEN NO DAY CHANGE MY GUY. ABEG YOU GO SEARCH FOR ANOTHER. GOD WILL GIVE ANOTHER ONE 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by bentenny(m): 9:50am On Jul 12, 2018 |
merxi55: OMG So based on your assertions,flirting is now normal and cool as long as there is no cheating going on? Haven't you heard of the saying that "words are actions in rehearsal"? Once flirtation starts,an affair brews and cheating is inevitable! Or don't you abide by your Personal text: "if you dont want the devil, stay away from his shore!"? If the lady wants to flirt,let her free the guy,end the relationship and keep flirting around whether innocently or in a guilty way! But as long as she is in a serious relationship,she should respect her man and respect herself by not giving other guys a reason to believe she is single and searching! If she can do such in a relationship,imagine what she will do when she gets married! Smh Some times we just need someone to chat with or be flirtatious towards just keep the days going when bored. Totally wrong and bad advise! If you want to be flirtatious when bored,please do it with your bf! Simple! That's selfish nah! 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Tecno66: 9:53am On Jul 12, 2018 |
He is angry because he saw the conversations. Like men, every one seems to be hiding something until the bubble bursts. What makes you think the next one he gets will be better? thorpido: |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by thorpido(m): 10:09am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Tecno66:There are ladies worse thatn the Op's girl but there are many better too.He can find from the better. We still have many good girls.Problem with many young guys nowadays is that they want slay queens. |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by odehman: 10:14am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Oga no kill yourself have been in that shii before... Don't wait until u die of heartbreak now it's Time to take off |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Maya4eva: 10:24am On Jul 12, 2018 |
I'm surprised at most of the advice being generated on this thread. Or should I say I'm not, since majority of the advisors are guys. I'm sure I'd the OP had been female, the women folk would be advising the same. Let me ask a few pertinent questions: 1. Have you had a sit-down with her about this? What was her response? 2. Is she sexually or emotionally involved with any of those guys? 3. What is her stand with you? 4. Has she ALWAYS known the direction of your relationship? You see, it's easy to make judgements and cast aspersions when you are on the other side of the fence. Many of us are guilty of flirting with the opposite sex on social media. But the moment a scapegoat is caught, everyone wants to throw a stone in the free-for-all. I am female and I'm advocating for this OP's girlfriend because nothing is always as it seems. Some of you, the guys here, advising the OP to 'throw' the girl out, have cheated on your girls, even fiancées, at some point. My take on this is: sit with her and have a heart to heart. Tell her how you feel about her actions. Then watch her. Keep the thought of marriage on hold for now until you can trust her. Love has never been easy. If you toss her out, who's to say the next won't be worse? 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by FatherJP(m): 10:30am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Respect55: Guy, the thing vex you no be small. You mean you saw where your existence was denied ? Girls sha get mind andi like your style. You didn't bother confronting her to hear lame excuses and all that, you just axed it as e dey hot. Kudos bro, you are a real man. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Maya4eva: 10:30am On Jul 12, 2018 |
srclark: Let me ask: If your girl caught you out cheating on her and you really love her but it's one of those things that 'just' happen, as they say, would you expect her to forgive you and take you back? |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by poweredcom(m): 10:55am On Jul 12, 2018 |
that one na future olosho Nowadays, the average Nigerian girl is a public property. She's only yours when she is with you yes na see dem here https://mobile.facebook.com/naijaolosho 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Moorish: 10:57am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Heineken:I have the most sexy girl I can desire sitting on my bed right now I thought we could have a relationship but I’m kicking her out of my house right now she is toxic, Rude and insulted me multiple times very controlling woman too Wish I could give her beauty to a girl with brains I thank God I didn’t make love to her Imagine if I bought suya with that money ?? Mistakes ... I hope this will be a lifelong lesson to follow God alone 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Fela4ese: 10:58am On Jul 12, 2018 |
BlackAfrican:start a new life my broda no point waiting for her to change bfor u do something u will forever regret just let her go |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by mamajaz(f): 11:02am On Jul 12, 2018 |
dairykidd:Yimu . Flogging you dey hungry me. |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Greizman: 11:16am On Jul 12, 2018 |
anigbajumo:My brother.. Na only God go help us. U are not far from the truth 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by NWAFORH1(m): 11:38am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Cut her off and move on......betrayal/death knocking..... Hope u don't reside in Lagos, u no wetting deh happen for lagoon.....to be fore warned is to be fore arm |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by openmine(m): 11:45am On Jul 12, 2018 |
Maya4eva:Please don't turn this into a gender war....this is about a personality and not gender! ....what is wrong is wrong and must not be sugarcoated to sound right! First of all,whats flirting? Flirt: Behave as though sexually attracted to someone Flirting is a social and sexual behavior involving verbal or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, either to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person, or if done playfully, for amusement. My issue is....why flirt when she is supposedly in a relationship? If she is having an issue or misunderstanding with the bf or partner,she should have a heart to heart convo with him rather than flirting with "other guys" thereby giving them reasons to believe she is available! If she wants to flirt,let her quit the relationship and do as she pleases....rather than flirting and still holding on to her relationship! Maya4eva:Just because others are doing such does not imply that everyone is into it! Not every lady flirts and not all guys flirt! But that should not be an excuse to flirt..... Flirting no matter the reason is totally unacceptable no matter the gender involved! What if during one of her flirtatious activities,she falls for one of the guys and the next thing is to cheat on her man! As for you advocating for the OP's gf....i have a question for you....what will be your reaction if you mistakenly saw a flirty chat between a random lady and your supposed bf or what will be your response if you physically met your partner or bf flirting with a babe? Maya4eva:Not every lady flirts and not all guys flirt! But that should not be an excuse to flirt..... Flirting no matter the reason is totally unacceptable no matter the gender involved! Maya4eva: As much as i may toe your path of caution by sitting his woman down for discus,i don't think such lady would want a heart to heart discus! If that was what she wanted,she would have communicated her feelings to him and not engage in flirtatious activities! And what makes you think she will stop having her chats when the guy poses the marriage question? smh What you do in a relationship is directly proportional to what you will do in your marriage! |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by olawale819(m): 11:51am On Jul 12, 2018 |
thorpido: @fact 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Nobody: 3:17pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
mamajaz:If u dey flog ur husband no try am with another man outside... Everyone is not as weak as he is, bloody Jezebel. Come and flog ur ancestors 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by lolipopandy(f): 3:33pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
vchykp:oh plz stop all this gender nonsense,so bcuz u v a dingle D u allowed to do d nasties outside ur relationship or marriage n bcuz she doesn't so she has no ryt to huh wia is dat written biko......as d saying goes "do to others,what you will have others do to you" if u a cheat or a flirt den u end up with a woman just like u. |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by pawpzman: 4:44pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
BlackAfrican:Bro we are experiencing exactly the same thing, when i saw the thread I was like how the Bleep did my soul open this thread on nairaland.I'm trying so hard to forgive her one last time. If it happens again, I'll move on forever 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Maya4eva: 6:42pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
openmine: OpenMine, I must say I'm impressed with the way you took the time to dissect and reply to every segment of my response. First of all, this isn't a gender thing; merely stated facts. Secondly, while you're bashing the OP's girl, do you know all the sides to this story? Thirdly, you heard about 'benefit of the doubt', abi? Again, please, I didn't say the OP should ask his girl to marry him, with all the problems in the air. I said he should talk with her and observe her....BEFORE he pops the question. |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by openmine(m): 7:10pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Maya4eva:I must say without hesitation that I applaud ur matured response..... My reason for implying that you were playing the gender card was written all over ur last comment....Objectivity is the line of action based on evidence or proof! In this case the proof is the flirtatious chats which op saw... Secondly,I never bashed her.....I only said what the op said based on his evidence....if indeed he saw flirtatious back to back messages from her to other guys,then its simply implies that she is secretly having an affair with some one else! What is wrong is wrong and mustn't be condoned by anyone! flirting is a recipe for having an affair! Unless you believe that its normal to be flirtatious.... Would you say nothing if you saw ur partner flirting with another lady? Thirdly,I do believe in benefit of doubt....however,I don't really know the kind of explanation that she will offer the op because it too obvious that someone was flirting with her and instead of being matured by putting a stop to such distraction,she still encouraged the guy to keep flirting..... Give such acts a moment and Its only a matter of days before they jump into bed and start having sex! I understand ur reason for supporting her.....but based on the chats that the op saw,there is no reason not to conclude that she was already enjoying the flirtatious chats! I may be wrong but that's what is playing out! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Twagrill(m): 7:56pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Dami12345:where did u get this picture from? It's really funny |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by pawpzman: 9:01pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
bentenny: Are you a barrister? You are very intelligent bro 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Respect55(m): 9:15pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
FatherJP:U can day that again. She is always going through my phone and that night, I decided to go through hers. I felt bad. She was like, 'I can explain', I told her off that there was no need for that. I den ended it by telling her that sin e she denied my existence, she doesn't exist where I am too. I didn't look back. I'm happy I did. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by FatherJP(m): 9:27pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Respect55: I just saw your signature, you do not practise what you preach. You did the right thing bro. |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by Respect55(m): 9:29pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
FatherJP:Not in this case bro. This kind of gal can't be faithful to her husband. This is divine revelation. |
Re: Should I Forgive Her Again by maolah: 10:01pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Won ti bale ayeje |
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