GODPUNISHUNA:
Rephrase your post to - why you should cherish people that were with you in hard times

Wilfredpat22:
@op even without being told you should know you should appreciate people who stood by you regardless of if it’s a woman or man.

Your story is meaningless this Sunday

pocohantas:
OP, I believe the aim of the other thread wasn't really to discourage appreciation. I guess we muddled it all up while arguing.

Like you said, this lady didn't rub it in your face. While her actions might be considered a favour, she stuck with you because there was something she saw in you, something more valuable than money.

So, the point is. For ladies who date these broke guys, especially the ones that are broke too...they shouldn't act like their action is a wonder of the world. Maybe it is in a Nigerian setting. They are both broke, while he is hustling, she should hustle too. She shouldn't just sit back, 'supporting' him...and wait for all the accolades. That way, if he decides not to appreciate you, you have your own life going on for you. This applies to men too.

Mcowubaba:


Thanks, I perfectly understand your point, it's more of a Nigerian thing, will probably take years and massive orientation to correct

Re- she said I am always fun to be with, and I am always interested in what she has to say or what she's doing, didn't know people get attracted to that kind of thing, that's just me, I pick interest in things

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I AGREE WITH YOU. SHOWING APPRECIATION IS ALWAYS IMPORTANT.
JUST LIKE IN THE THREAD STARTER'S CASE, THERE'S EVERY NEED TO BE GRATEFUL TO SOMEONE WHO HELPED YOU WHEN YOU NEEDED IT WHETHER YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM OR NOT. THIS IS ON A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LEVEL.
MOST MEN WOULD HELP YOU WITHOUT EXPECTING YOU TO WRITE THEIR NAME IN THE CLOUDS. VERY FEW PEOPLE GO TO WOMEN FOR HELP BECAUSE MOST TIMES THEY'RE INCAPABLE OR WILL RUB IT IN YOUR FACE LATER ON. MOST MEN GO TO MEN FOR HELP. MANY WOMEN GO TO MEN FOR HELP INSTEAD OF THEIR OWN BEST FRIENDS BECAUSE A MAN IS LIKELY TO HELP YOU ANYTIME ANYWHERE THAN A WOMAN. THIS IS OUT OF THE TOPIC THOUGH.

THE PROBLEM WITH MOST OF OUR WOMEN IS THAT THEY ALWAYS FEEL ENTITLED. FROM THE MOMENT YOU SAY HELLO TO THEM YOU OWE THEM MILLIONS FOR THEIR REPLY. ONE LITTLE FAVOR LIKE MOPPING THE FLOOR OR LENDING A PEN THEY EXPECT THE EARTH TO STOP REVOLVING FOR THEM. YOU MUST PAY THEM FOR SPENDING TIME WITH YOU. YOU MUST PAY THEM FOR ETERNITY FOR MARRYING THEM, AND YOU MUST REWARD THEM WITH GIFTS FOR PUSHING OUT BABIES (THERE'S A STUPID NAME FOR THIS), YOU MUST REWARD AND PRAISE THEM FOR EVERYTHING AS IF THEY'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE ADULTS.

LET ME ANALYSE THIS.
YOU DATING A GIRL WHEN YOU HAD NO JOB, BUT HAD ONE OR TWO RUNNINGS THAT ENSURED YOU COULD AFFORD TO FEED AND TAKE CARE OF SOME MINOR STUFF. THE GIRL IN QUESTION HAD NOTHING. NO JOB. NO MONEY. SHE LIVED OFF YOU AND GOT SOME MONEY FROM YOU FOR MOST THINGS. SHE LIVED WITH YOU IN YOUR HOUSE AND COOKED THE FOOD YOU BUY FOR TWO OF YOU. YOU EVEN SENT MONEY TO HER SIBLINGS AND COUNTLESSLY TO HER DAD FOR HIS MEDICATION. YOU HAD YOUR OWN FAMILY AND FRIENDS BUT YOU WERE RESPONSIBLE FOR HER AND HER FAMILY. SHE'S JUST A GIRL, NOT EVEN YOUR WIFE.

YOU FINALLY GET A BIG JOB, AND SOMEHOW... THE GIRL EXPECTS YOU TO BUILD HER A HOUSE AND BUY HER A SPACE SHUTTLE AS APPRECIATION FOR NOT LEAVING YOU WHEN YOU WERE "BROKE". YOU WHO TOOK CARE OF HER IS THE BROKE ONE, WHILE SHE'S ALRIGHT AND THE TERM BROKE MUSTN'T APPLY TO HER BECAUSE SHE'S A WOMAN.

IF THAT DOESN'T SOUND MESSED UP TO YOU GUYS THEN I DON'T KNOW WHAT WILL.

Mcowubaba:

but this lady had absolutely no enticing reason of dating and helping me at that time, and she didn't mind what the society will say, what some of her friends said, the stereotype that may be associated with dating a black man, she sucked it all up to be with me

pocohantas:


Yea they do. The little things that matter...

Let me stop there *wipes tears*. Love is a beautiful thing

SlayQueenSlayer:



Before you take this OP seriously, it is important you know that the woman he is talking about is neither Nigerian nor even black.

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I AGREE WITH YOU. SHOWING APPRECIATION IS ALWAYS IMPORTANT.
JUST LIKE IN THE THREAD STARTER'S CASE, THERE'S EVERY NEED TO BE GRATEFUL TO SOMEONE WHO HELPED YOU WHEN YOU NEEDED IT WHETHER YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM OR NOT. THIS IS ON A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LEVEL.
MOST MEN WOULD HELP YOU WITHOUT EXPECTING YOU TO WRITE THEIR NAME IN THE CLOUDS. VERY FEW PEOPLE GO TO WOMEN FOR HELP BECAUSE MOST TIMES THEY'RE INCAPABLE OR WILL RUB IT IN YOUR FACE LATER ON. MOST MEN GO TO MEN FOR HELP. MANY WOMEN GO TO MEN FOR HELP INSTEAD OF THEIR OWN BEST FRIENDS BECAUSE A MAN IS LIKELY TO HELP YOU ANYTIME ANYWHERE THAN A WOMAN. THIS IS OUT OF THE TOPIC THOUGH.

THE PROBLEM WITH MOST OF OUR WOMEN IS THAT THEY ALWAYS FEEL ENTITLED. FROM THE MOMENT YOU SAY HELLO TO THEM YOU OWE THEM MILLIONS FOR THEIR REPLY. ONE LITTLE FAVOR LIKE MOPPING THE FLOOR OR LENDING A PEN THEY EXPECT THE EARTH TO STOP REVOLVING FOR THEM. YOU MUST PAY THEM FOR SPENDING TIME WITH YOU. YOU MUST PAY THEM FOR ETERNITY FOR MARRYING THEM, AND YOU MUST REWARD THEM WITH GIFTS FOR PUSHING OUT BABIES (THERE'S A STUPID NAME FOR THIS), YOU MUST REWARD AND PRAISE THEM FOR EVERYTHING AS IF THEY'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE ADULTS.

LET ME ANALYSE THIS.
YOU DATING A GIRL WHEN YOU HAD NO JOB, BUT HAD ONE OR TWO RUNNINGS THAT ENSURED YOU COULD AFFORD TO FEED AND TAKE CARE OF SOME MINOR STUFF. THE GIRL IN QUESTION HAD NOTHING. NO JOB. NO MONEY. SHE LIVED OFF YOU AND GOT SOME MONEY FROM YOU FOR MOST THINGS. SHE LIVED WITH YOU IN YOUR HOUSE AND COOKED THE FOOD YOU BUY FOR TWO OF YOU. YOU EVEN SENT MONEY TO HER SIBLINGS AND COUNTLESSLY TO HER DAD FOR HIS MEDICATION. YOU HAD YOUR OWN FAMILY AND FRIENDS BUT YOU WERE RESPONSIBLE FOR HER AND HER FAMILY. SHE'S JUST A GIRL, NOT EVEN YOUR WIFE.

YOU FINALLY GET A BIG JOB, AND SOMEHOW... THE GIRL EXPECTS YOU TO BUILD HER A HOUSE AND BUY HER A SPACE SHUTTLE AS APPRECIATION FOR NOT LEAVING YOU WHEN YOU WERE "BROKE". YOU WHO TOOK CARE OF HER IS THE BROKE ONE, WHILE SHE'S ALRIGHT AND THE TERM BROKE MUSTN'T APPLY TO HER BECAUSE SHE'S A WOMAN.

IF THAT DOESN'T SOUND MESSED UP TO YOU GUYS THEN I DON'T KNOW WHAT WILL.

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I AGREE WITH YOU. SHOWING APPRECIATION IS ALWAYS IMPORTANT.
JUST LIKE IN THE THREAD STARTER'S CASE, THERE'S EVERY NEED TO BE GRATEFUL TO SOMEONE WHO HELPED YOU WHEN YOU NEEDED IT WHETHER YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM OR NOT. THIS IS ON A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LEVEL.
MOST MEN WOULD HELP YOU WITHOUT EXPECTING YOU TO WRITE THEIR NAME IN THE CLOUDS. VERY FEW PEOPLE GO TO WOMEN FOR HELP BECAUSE MOST TIMES THEY'RE INCAPABLE OR WILL RUB IT IN YOUR FACE LATER ON. MOST MEN GO TO MEN FOR HELP. MANY WOMEN GO TO MEN FOR HELP INSTEAD OF THEIR OWN BEST FRIENDS BECAUSE A MAN IS LIKELY TO HELP YOU ANYTIME ANYWHERE THAN A WOMAN. THIS IS OUT OF THE TOPIC THOUGH.

THE PROBLEM WITH MOST OF OUR WOMEN IS THAT THEY ALWAYS FEEL ENTITLED. FROM THE MOMENT YOU SAY HELLO TO THEM YOU OWE THEM MILLIONS FOR THEIR REPLY. ONE LITTLE FAVOR LIKE MOPPING THE FLOOR OR LENDING A PEN THEY EXPECT THE EARTH TO STOP REVOLVING FOR THEM. YOU MUST PAY THEM FOR SPENDING TIME WITH YOU. YOU MUST PAY THEM FOR ETERNITY FOR MARRYING THEM, AND YOU MUST REWARD THEM WITH GIFTS FOR PUSHING OUT BABIES (THERE'S A STUPID NAME FOR THIS), YOU MUST REWARD AND PRAISE THEM FOR EVERYTHING AS IF THEY'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE ADULTS.

LET ME ANALYSE THIS.
YOU DATING A GIRL WHEN YOU HAD NO JOB, BUT HAD ONE OR TWO RUNNINGS THAT ENSURED YOU COULD AFFORD TO FEED AND TAKE CARE OF SOME MINOR STUFF. THE GIRL IN QUESTION HAD NOTHING. NO JOB. NO MONEY. SHE LIVED OFF YOU AND GOT SOME MONEY FROM YOU FOR MOST THINGS. SHE LIVED WITH YOU IN YOUR HOUSE AND COOKED THE FOOD YOU BUY FOR TWO OF YOU. YOU EVEN SENT MONEY TO HER SIBLINGS AND COUNTLESSLY TO HER DAD FOR HIS MEDICATION. YOU HAD YOUR OWN FAMILY AND FRIENDS BUT YOU WERE RESPONSIBLE FOR HER AND HER FAMILY. SHE'S JUST A GIRL, NOT EVEN YOUR WIFE.

YOU FINALLY GET A BIG JOB, AND SOMEHOW... THE GIRL EXPECTS YOU TO BUILD HER A HOUSE AND BUY HER A SPACE SHUTTLE AS APPRECIATION FOR NOT LEAVING YOU WHEN YOU WERE "BROKE". YOU WHO TOOK CARE OF HER IS THE BROKE ONE, WHILE SHE'S ALRIGHT AND THE TERM BROKE MUSTN'T APPLY TO HER BECAUSE SHE'S A WOMAN.

IF THAT DOESN'T SOUND MESSED UP TO YOU GUYS THEN I DON'T KNOW WHAT WILL.

Mcowubaba:


I tried to hide that, you're smart enough to decode she isn't black or Nigerian, though I believe my story can apply to Nigerian women, they are not all bad, we have many amazing Nigerian girls who will even do much more.

Mcowubaba:


I tried to hide that, you're smart enough to decode she isn't black or Nigerian, though I believe my story can apply to Nigerian women, they are not all bad, we have many amazing Nigerian girls who will even do much more.

SlayQueenSlayer:


Bros, our women no be am o. [pThey date for a living. Even the few ones that will agree to date you for free will still have to double date someone else for a living.

Mcowubaba:


I tried to hide that, you're smart enough to decode she isn't black or Nigerian, though I believe my story can apply to Nigerian women, they are not all bad, we have many amazing Nigerian girls who will even do much more.

zicoraads:

There are. But the probability of meeting one is 0.001. So we mostly just generalize. I was about to doubt the authenticity of your experience till I saw someone point out yours wasn't Nigerian.

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I AGREE WITH YOU. SHOWING APPRECIATION IS ALWAYS IMPORTANT.
JUST LIKE IN THE THREAD STARTER'S CASE, THERE'S EVERY NEED TO BE GRATEFUL TO SOMEONE WHO HELPED YOU WHEN YOU NEEDED IT WHETHER YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM OR NOT. THIS IS ON A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LEVEL.
MOST MEN WOULD HELP YOU WITHOUT EXPECTING YOU TO WRITE THEIR NAME IN THE CLOUDS. VERY FEW PEOPLE GO TO WOMEN FOR HELP BECAUSE MOST TIMES THEY'RE INCAPABLE OR WILL RUB IT IN YOUR FACE LATER ON. MOST MEN GO TO MEN FOR HELP. MANY WOMEN GO TO MEN FOR HELP INSTEAD OF THEIR OWN BEST FRIENDS BECAUSE A MAN IS LIKELY TO HELP YOU ANYTIME ANYWHERE THAN A WOMAN. THIS IS OUT OF THE TOPIC THOUGH.

THE PROBLEM WITH MOST OF OUR WOMEN IS THAT THEY ALWAYS FEEL ENTITLED. FROM THE MOMENT YOU SAY HELLO TO THEM YOU OWE THEM MILLIONS FOR THEIR REPLY. ONE LITTLE FAVOR LIKE MOPPING THE FLOOR OR LENDING A PEN THEY EXPECT THE EARTH TO STOP REVOLVING FOR THEM. YOU MUST PAY THEM FOR SPENDING TIME WITH YOU. YOU MUST PAY THEM FOR ETERNITY FOR MARRYING THEM, AND YOU MUST REWARD THEM WITH GIFTS FOR PUSHING OUT BABIES (THERE'S A STUPID NAME FOR THIS), YOU MUST REWARD AND PRAISE THEM FOR EVERYTHING AS IF THEY'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE ADULTS.

LET ME ANALYSE THIS.
YOU DATING A GIRL WHEN YOU HAD NO JOB, BUT HAD ONE OR TWO RUNNINGS THAT ENSURED YOU COULD AFFORD TO FEED AND TAKE CARE OF SOME MINOR STUFF. THE GIRL IN QUESTION HAD NOTHING. NO JOB. NO MONEY. SHE LIVED OFF YOU AND GOT SOME MONEY FROM YOU FOR MOST THINGS. SHE LIVED WITH YOU IN YOUR HOUSE AND COOKED THE FOOD YOU BUY FOR TWO OF YOU. YOU EVEN SENT MONEY TO HER SIBLINGS AND COUNTLESSLY TO HER DAD FOR HIS MEDICATION. YOU HAD YOUR OWN FAMILY AND FRIENDS BUT YOU WERE RESPONSIBLE FOR HER AND HER FAMILY. SHE'S JUST A GIRL, NOT EVEN YOUR WIFE.

YOU FINALLY GET A BIG JOB, AND SOMEHOW... THE GIRL EXPECTS YOU TO BUILD HER A HOUSE AND BUY HER A SPACE SHUTTLE AS APPRECIATION FOR NOT LEAVING YOU WHEN YOU WERE "BROKE". YOU WHO TOOK CARE OF HER IS THE BROKE ONE, WHILE SHE'S ALRIGHT AND THE TERM BROKE MUSTN'T APPLY TO HER BECAUSE SHE'S A WOMAN.

IF THAT DOESN'T SOUND MESSED UP TO YOU GUYS THEN I DON'T KNOW WHAT WILL.

pocohantas:


LOL, and your women say same thing about the men.
#ThisIsNigeria...everybody be criminal

Y'all should keep deceiving yourselves. You will still marry one another and procreate. We are in this together.