Good day every one!

Straight to the matter.

I'm an Igbo guy currently dating an Urhobo girl whom I intend to marry. But the issue of custorm and tradition is becoming a barrier to my plans.


It is widely known that if an Urhobo woman cheats on her husband, her children including her husband may start falling sick and may die in the process if she doesn't confess.

Urhobo ladies are not buried in their husband's place, they're taken to their home town for burial, this I don't have issues with.

Is it also true that you must build a house for her people before she is buried?

Please, I need advice and information from Urhobo people and people already married to Urhobo ladies.

My girlfriend is a good girl, but my family keeps pointing at these traditions as a way of telling me to watch before I leap.

Advice please....

hmm, the die matter I have heard but building of house, no idea

urhobo wayo.


l hope u don't run away from ur house when u marry her, that's if she doesnt kill u in cold blood

chenzen:
urhobo wayo.


l hope u don't run away from ur house when u marry her, that's if she doesnt kill u in cold blood

Don't mislead people!!

Lies. Your family doesnt want you to marry her, hence Conjuring whats not in existence to existence inorder to scare you away from marrying her.

Why not sit and discuss with your girlfriend your fears?.

Nonsense tradition.

[quote author=chenzen post=78261663]urhobo wayo.


l hope u don't run away from ur house when u marry her, that's if she doesnt kill u in cold blood


You've had an experience about this before?

Uka15:
Lies. Your family doesnt want you to marry her, hence Conjuring whats not in existence to existence inorder to scare you away from marrying her.

Why not sit and discuss with your girlfriend your fears?.

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You have a point!

chenzen:
urhobo wayo.


l hope u don't run away from ur house when u marry her, that's if she doesnt kill u in cold blood

You have had an experience about this before?

SKYZZZ:
Good day every one!

Straight to the matter.

I'm an Igbo guy currently dating an Urhobo girl whom I intend to marry. But the issue of custorm and tradition is becoming a barrier to my plans.


It is widely known that if an Urhobo woman cheats on her husband, her children including her husband may start falling sick and may die in the process if she doesn't confess.

Urhobo ladies are not buried in their husband's place, they're taken to their home town for burial, this I don't have issues with.

Is it also true that you must build a house for her people before she is buried?

Please, I need advice and information from Urhobo people and people already married to Urhobo ladies.

My girlfriend is a good girl, but my family keeps pointing at these traditions as a way of telling me to watch before I leap.

Advice please....

@Jasonscoolari, your input is direly needed here

I thought those tradition have been abolished. I think it is unfair on the man and his kids that they get sick and die for the sins of his wife and their mother.

I also think it is unfair to require husband to bring back the dead body of his wife after death, even if she died abroad, and then ask him to build a house for the family yet again.

Wallade:
I thought those tradition have been abolished. I think it is unfair on the man and his kids that they get sick and die for the sins of his wife and their mother.

I also think it is unfair to require husband to bring back the dead body of his wife after death, even if she died abroad, and then ask him to build a house for the family yet again.

My brother I tire o!

SKYZZZ:



My brother I tire o!

If the tradition still holds then I would rather not marry an Urhobo lady.

THERE IS NO TRADITIONAL LAW IN URHOBOTHAT SAYS U MUST BUILD A HUX WEN SHE DIES, ONLY DAT SHE WILL BE BURIED IN HER PLACE WEN SHE DIES, because WE DNT SELL OUR WOMEN, DATS Y D RITE IS NT AS EXPENSIVE AS D IGBO'S, AND OUR WOMEN ARE HARDWORKING AND SUPPORTIVE. MY GUY IF U LUV UR WOMAN, DNT WASTE ANYTIME. URHOBO WOMEN ARE THE BEST SET OF WOMEN TO MARRY FRM. FOR THE ISSUE OF SLEEPING AROUND, OUR WOMEN RESPECT THEIR MARRIAGE VOWS, THEY DNT DO DAT

Urhobo ladies are not buried in their husband's place, they're taken to their home town for burial, this I don't have issues with.

Same thing with idoma

Guy rush her with reckless abandon, Urhobo women are very supportive and she will stand with you to grow. It's a lie about building a house for her parents. There bride price is also cheap. Just go ahead, your inlaw also won't disturb you with expense like the way Ibo inlaw's stress one with bills.

I dnt Knw if d consequences of a cheating wife on her family still exists bt I Knw d house tin is false. As for d burial stuff, my parents r urhobos, wen my mum died in 1991, she was buried in a Lagos cementary, I don't know if my dad broke any law bt burial ended and life went on

rokoto1986:
THERE IS NO TRADITIONAL LAW IN URHOBOTHAT SAYS U MUST BUILD A HUX WEN SHE DIES, ONLY DAT SHE WILL BE BURIED IN HER PLACE WEN SHE DIES, because WE DNT SELL OUR WOMEN, DATS Y D RITE IS NT AS EXPENSIVE AS D IGBO'S, AND OUR WOMEN ARE HARDWORKING AND SUPPORTIVE. MY GUY IF U LUV UR WOMAN, DNT WASTE ANYTIME. URHOBO WOMEN ARE THE BEST SET OF WOMEN TO MARRY FRM. FOR THE ISSUE OF SLEEPING AROUND, OUR WOMEN RESPECT THEIR MARRIAGE VOWS, THEY DNT DO DAT

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My guy I agree with you, but I just need to shine my eyes by seeking advice from people before I go into it.


She's a good girl, a complete wife material

But why will a man and his kids die for the sins of his wife and their mother respectively?

Anyway, I think you should confirm all these fears with the girl in question before going to the next level.

reservd:
I dnt Knw if d consequences of a cheating wife on her family still exists bt I Knw d house tin is false. As for d burial stuff, my parents r urhobos, wen my mum died in 1991, she was buried in a Lagos cementary, I don't know if my dad broke any law bt burial ended and life went on

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Thanks for your input.

I don't know if the custom of building house for inlaws varies from place to place among the Urhobo people.

Honestly, this stuff happened to a church member, my dad also asked someone about it and the person confirmed it that it also happened to their family member who married an Urhobo lady.

I'm a little confused right now

SKYZZZ:
Good day every one!

Straight to the matter.

I'm an Igbo guy currently dating an Urhobo girl whom I intend to marry. But the issue of custorm and tradition is becoming a barrier to my plans.


It is widely known that if an Urhobo woman cheats on her husband, her children including her husband may start falling sick and may die in the process if she doesn't confess.

Urhobo ladies are not buried in their husband's place, they're taken to their home town for burial, this I don't have issues with.

Is it also true that you must build a house for her people before she is buried?

Please, I need advice and information from Urhobo people and people already married to Urhobo ladies.

My girlfriend is a good girl, but my family keeps pointing at these traditions as a way of telling me to watch before I leap.

Advice please....

go and discuss with your gf

TonyeBarcanista:
But why will a man and his kids die for the sins of his wife and their mother respectively?

Anyway, I think you should confirm all these fears with the girl in question before going to the next level.

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Bros I tire o!

mhizv:

Don't mislead people!!

what do u mean by m mislead?

SKYZZZ:

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Thanks for your input.

I don't know if the custom of building house for inlaws varies from place to place among the Urhobo people.

Honestly, this stuff happened to a church member, my dad also asked someone about it and the person confirmed it that it also happened to their family member who married an Urhobo lady.

I'm a little confused right now

Ask ur babe these questions or look for an urhobo elder in ur church or elsewhr for clarification bt I neva hear such bfr sha

You're concerned about what will happen when she dies?..

Relax bro, you'll die before her... No need to fret

My bro if she gives you satisfaction as a man and a friend and lover .... The rest is secondary cos she never dey die...maybe na you go first her die sef .......no be bad prayer oooo....

I am Urhobo. The building of a house thing is completely false.
The cheating thing is somewhat true, so it scares most Urhobo women into being very faithful, especially the ones that love her kids, it would be almost impossible for her to cheat if she knows fully well that her kids may die. However, tradition is gradually fading away and these "curses" are wearing off... Depends on the village u are marrying from, that cheating thing may have failed for them.

Booked

QueenSekxy:
Nonsense tradition.

But I bet you it's ,more Bette than widows force to drink the water used in washing the body of their late husband. Such barbaric culture you Igbo's practices,you don't know if it's true or not,but you are typing crap here, hypocrite.

bros marry her abeg... nothing like build house for the inlaws... na only the man pikin (boy) na him de build house for him papa when him papa died.

SKYZZZ:

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Thanks for your input.

I don't know if the custom of building house for inlaws varies from place to place among the Urhobo people.

Honestly, this stuff happened to a church member, my dad also asked someone about it and the person confirmed it that it also happened to their family member who married an Urhobo lady.

I'm a little confused right now

They are trying to scare u guy.. why not go there and find out from one of ur potential future in-laws ur close to? No need for all these Nairaland
matter. Go to the source or ask her to find out if the claims are true.. Which kind nonsense tradition go warrant u to build house for in-law Are they mad? Or them give u money hold?