| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by brainhgeek(m): 3:50pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
If not for anything, your boldness to come out for help and willingness to stop inspired me to do a little search for you. I know you can get a psychological therapist to help you on the journey and to help fight the withdrawal symptoms. You can also ask God for help depending on your religious disposition. I had a friend in my University days who would not be activated for the day's activities until he smokes. It was so bad for him he could smoke and drink water and he feels nourished without a need to eat as long as he smokes. He wouldn't be able to pass feces until he smokes. He prayed and wanted to stop genuinely. One morning, he picked up a stick to smoke as usual and he said the smell irritated him so much he almost threw up. That was the last time he lit a cigarette. Till date, he detests cigarette. God can! Lastly, I googled and I saw this website where you can meet AA groups. It starts with staying away from what triggers your desires ; your clique and probably, idleness. https://aameetingsnigeria.com 1 Like |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by CaptainMitch: 3:50pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Me sef o see as I package my beer today 2 Likes 
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| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by youngibeh(m): 3:52pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
WHERE DO YOU STAY. I MEAN STATE |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by Princedapace(m): 3:52pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Chat me up. Maybe of help. Sorry dear. |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by Offpoint: 3:53pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
The only way to stop addiction is to find another addition...
No man is addiction free...
I'm addicted to my PC... |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by famouscargo4u: 3:53pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Grace, the first step to solving a problem is identification of the problem. Since you have noticed this, i believe you can change the rhetoric.
1) Be mindful of the friends you keep. (choose a bestie that's a teetotaller and tell him/her what you see to achieve)
2) Try not to be too alone as this may trigger some thoughts that can lead you to craving Alcohol.
3) Gradually replace alcohol with something else. i.e in your mind, find an alternative to it. Whenever you feel like taking alcohol, you can chew groundnut, gum or whatever at that moment. |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by Offpoint: 3:54pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
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| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by torvickof1312(m): 3:54pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Hey lady, all this is a choice, so many ladies take a sip and their husband aint mad at them cos the dont make it habitual. Its a sacrifice to stop it and it takes self discipline to stop it. I drink like fish buhhh i decide never again to take more than a bottle again buhhh now i only sip a bottle or two max and im use to it. Dont forget LIVER SIROSIS is the worst of all sicness Alcohol drain the pocket like termite It never take away worries It make you loose  1 Like |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by OlivePrime: 3:55pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Its possible to stop. There are rehab centers that can help. You can try googling Synapse services or NGO like Reconnect the could help you but i believe its not free. All the best. gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
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| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by Legendguru: 3:56pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
hmmm |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by brainzbee(m): 3:56pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
My dearest sister.You are trying to withdraw from alcohol which is the right thing but that depends on the steps you take because withdrawal symptoms has serious effects and can lead to death if you are not careful.
if you are serious then we will talk and I will see how I can help you. |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by Nobody: 3:56pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
Meet a doctor. |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by openmine(m): 3:57pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
post=80521049:
You have taken the very first step to stop this very bad habit sis.
In general, women are more prone to alcoholism compared to men based on their body compositions. Because women tend to weigh less than men and alcohol remains in body water,l.
An average woman can consume the same amount of alcohol as an average man but be impacted more.
How to accomplish your goals
After you’ve set your goals as you have done to stop or cut your drinking habit,
write down some ideas on how you can help yourself accomplish these goals.
For example:
Get rid of temptations. Remove all alcohol bottles or plastics
and other alcohol-related paraphernalia from your home.
Announce your goal.
Let friends, family members, and co-workers know that you’re trying to stop drinking.
If they drink, ask them to support your recovery by not doing so in front of you.
Be upfront as from now on.
Make it clear that drinking will not be allowed in your home and that you may not be able to attend events where alcohol is being served.
Avoid bad influences/friends.
Distance yourself from people who don’t support your efforts to stop drinking, especially your so called drinking paddies.
This may mean giving up certain friends and social connections.
Learn from the past.
Reflect on previous attempts to stop or reduce your drinking. What worked? What didn’t? What can you do differently this time to avoid pitfalls?
Knowing your addiction triggers and avoid them when possible.
Again, Avoiding associates and past friends who encourage your addictive behaviours.
Now let us outline some of the possible benefits you will gain by not drinking alcohol:
Your family life will improve.
You will feel more energetic and mentally aware.
You will have more time to invest in other activities that promote good health and finances.
You will avoid drinking-related depression and anxiety.
Your job or school performance will improve.
We really do hope this little tips help you sis.
This too shall pass.
It will end in praise!
 I will definitely not agree with you in terms of your political analysis or inclination, however,ALL that you just said are absolutely superb and I plead with the OP to adhere to these submissions! |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by lastmessenger: 4:00pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Hmmm I wonder how people get addicted to that bitter thing.
Anyway you can pray and pray until you become good. 1 Like |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by joe120120(m): 4:02pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
Find a living church to attend or contact omega power ministry online |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by suceess(m): 4:03pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Problem shared is problem solved 50% .The remaining solution is to admit that ,you need help. Kindly go to any bible believing church to confess your problem and forsake it.
Watch whom you seek counsel from, associate with and take delight in reading the word of God (Bible) daily. Psalm 1:1
You should understand that the devil is trying to destroy your future John 10:10
You need to be wiser than the devil. |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by biggy26: 4:03pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
Do you live in Lagos? |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by MANNABBQGRILLS: 4:04pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
openmine:
I will definitely not agree with you in terms of your political analysis or inclination, however,ALL that you just said are absolutely superb and I plead with the OP to adhere to these submissions!
We Respect your political affiliation and views, kindly respect ours also, we beg of you. All of us cannot be aligned politically pls. Nowhere in the world is that done! Do have a great week ahead! Adios!! 2 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by drlateef: 4:06pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Contact me. That's my area of specialisation. Regards. |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by lonelydora: 4:06pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
Do you reside in Nnewi? 
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| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by Joseunlimited(f): 4:07pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Send your number to my mail |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by Macky2(m): 4:10pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
sisisioge:
Chai! This is hard o...I don't think we have AA groups or assessable rehabs here. Your best bet is to go home, tell your parents what's happening, let them lock you indoor for 4 weeks without any exposure. You would go through a lot before becoming sober. Afterwards, you've got to make conscious efforts to stop!
Your liver,kidney and general wellbeing is on the line right now maami. Good luck. You need a very tasking job to take more of your time. |
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| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by policysamuel(m): 4:13pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
Inbox Me |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by metroid(m): 4:15pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
hopexter:
Enjoy it auntie, we are all addicted to something, God doesn't need the body anyways, it's the Soul he wants.  Sad  but true |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by 12345baba(m): 4:17pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Can I c ur picture pls |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by Sidneyjack: 4:17pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
Since you yourself have decided to quit alcohol , it is the first step to take. You can do it. But first of all, I want to ask how busy are you in your daily activities? Are you a student? You need to engage in a very busy something that makes you happy while doing it. Prayer cannot do it alone. Find something that you love doing and start doing it apart from drinking alcohol. I believe there is a friend that loves you and can be with and encourage you. You can do it . 3 Likes |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by Hebunoluwa: 4:19pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
I think you need help, DM me let v a discussion 08120246353 |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by hopexter(m): 4:21pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
Starboytwo:
baba wahrah nie, u make me laff forget hunger.... God doesn't need the body, na d soul be koko nice one hahah |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by buiquiey(m): 4:24pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
sisisioge:
Chai! This is hard o...I don't think we have AA groups or assessable rehabs here. Your best bet is to go home, tell your parents what's happening, let them lock you indoor for 4 weeks without any exposure. You would go through a lot before becoming sober. Afterwards, you've got to make conscious efforts to stop!
Your liver,kidney and general wellbeing is on the line right now maami. Good luck. Can I chat with you in private? Just to give you a nugget on what to do. I have already sent you a request. Cheers. |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by olusolaope(m): 4:25pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
No amount of advice will help you if you are not determined.
Stop associating with drinkers... Say hi and move on, move with Christians that Don't drink (spend quality time with them)
Don't stay out late
Engage yourself in house chores ( do what will make your future husband happy in his home)
Study the Bible and meditate on the scriptures.
Read self-help books and watch good movies. 1 Like |
| Re: Help, I'm An Alcoholic! by seuncyrus(m): 4:28pm On Jul 22, 2019 |
gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.
I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.
I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.
I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.
I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.
Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.
Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.
The first step to any kind of recovery is to admit that you have a problem (which you've done). I have to really commend you because you're being honest with yourself. I'm going to give you practical approach to stop this. Firstly, you have to understand that you can't just quit this in a day because you didn't cultivate this habit in a day, it took repeated actions before it became an habit. Secondly, baby steps. Thirdly, identify your trigger(s). like most addicts, there's always a trigger. It could be your fellow alcoholic friends, boredom or any other thing. Once there's a trigger find something else to do , maybe visit nairaland , Quora or twitter and while away time till you're no longer thinking about alcohol. Lastly, for any day you didn't drink alcohol circle your calendar. Try to aim for atleast 3 days straight without taking alcohol, on the third day cross those three days (call it a medal ). Now try to aim for at least one medal in the first week and second week (it's going to be hard , so don't try to set unrealistic goals so you don't disappoint yourself, a medal in the first two weeks is okay). You can then aim for two in an week and so on
Also, get closer to God and recite Phil 4:19 everyday when you have a trigger. 2 Likes |
