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You have taken the very first step to stop this very bad habit sis.
In general, women are more prone to alcoholism compared to men based on their body compositions. Because women tend to weigh less than men and alcohol remains in body water.
An average woman can consume the same amount of alcohol as an average man but be impacted more.

How to accomplish your goals
After you’ve set your goals as you have done,
write down some ideas on how you can help yourself accomplish these goals.

For example:
Get rid of temptations. Remove all alcohol bottles or plastics
and other alcohol-related paraphernalia from your home.

Announce your goal.
Let friends, family members, and co-workers know that you’re trying to stop drinking.
If they drink, ask them to support your recovery by not doing so in front of you.

Be upfront as from now on.
Make it clear that drinking will not be allowed in your home and that you may not be able to attend events where alcohol is being served.

Avoid bad influences/friends.
Distance yourself from people who don’t support your efforts to stop drinking, especially your so called drinking paddies.
This may mean giving up certain friends and social connections.

Learn from the past.
Reflect on previous attempts to stop or reduce your drinking. What worked? What didn’t? What can you do differently this time to avoid pitfalls?

Knowing your addiction triggers and avoid them when possible.
Again, Avoiding associates and past friends who encourage your addictive behaviours.

Now let us outline some of the possible benefits you will gain by not drinking alcohol:

Your family life will improve.
You will feel more energetic and mentally aware.
You will have more time to invest in other activities that promote good health and finances.
You will avoid drinking-related depression and anxiety.
Your job or school performance will improve.

We really do hope this little tips help you sis.
All of us @ wish you all the very best.

In 3 months from now, BGG, we will invite you to come have some plates of chicken and fish barbecue with us, to be washed down with some glasses of Non-Alcoholic Fruit Wine!

This too shall pass.
It will end in praise!

meobizy:
OP is in luck: I’m also a newbie here who opened this account to respond.

There is no amount of advice I can give which will make her stop.
It is a habit she built from time and will take maybe more to break.
As opposed to drinking to forget sorrows I will recommend weed instead, the herb cured an episode I had with depression.
The herb is also non-addictive so she can quit at any time.

Let me drop the same advice I will to any close friend even though I know it will fall on deaf ears:
1. Start running daily or at least buy a jump rope.
2. Drink only water, plenty of it.
3. Avoid your drinking buddies.
Coming across them will only make you crave drinks or put you in a vulnerable position.
4. Look for a sport and focus your mind to learning it.
The time you spend learning the skill will kill any thoughts of an alcoholic nature.

gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.

I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.

I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.

I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.

I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.

Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.

Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.

Zimmermann:
Think of nutritious meals you could've bought yourself with that money u spend on alcohol, n buy them instead :* it works . When u see urself eating well n staying healthy, u'll ditch too much alcohol

gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.

I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.

I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.

I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.

I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.

Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.

Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.

gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.

I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.

I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.

I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.

I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.

Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.

Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.

pickatyou:
We all are.

Try your best to avoid bars for the main time, if it could help.

seuncyrus:


The first step to any kind of recovery is to admit that you have a problem (which you've done). I have to really commend you because you're being honest with yourself.
I'm going to give you practical approach to stop this. Firstly, you have to understand that you can't just quit this in a day because you didn't cultivate this habit in a day, it took repeated actions before it became an habit. Secondly, baby steps.
Thirdly, identify your trigger(s). like most addicts, there's always a trigger. It could be your fellow alcoholic friends, boredom or any other thing. Once there's a trigger find something else to do , maybe visit nairaland , Quora or twitter and while away time till you're no longer thinking about alcohol.
Lastly, for any day you didn't drink alcohol circle your calendar. Try to aim for atleast 3 days straight without taking alcohol, on the third day cross those three days (call it a medal ). Now try to aim for at least one medal in the first week and second week (it's going to be hard , so don't try to set unrealistic goals so you don't disappoint yourself, a medal in the first two weeks is okay). You can then aim for two in an week and so on

Also, get closer to God and recite Phil 4:19 everyday when you have a trigger.

Haddeyholler:
Just apply self discipline. Am also an alcohol addict before, I just talked to myself. Though it might seems painful, but I promised myself never to drink again. And I thank God, since over 2 months now, I've never drink and I'll never do again.

gracegrace668:


I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.

I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.

gracegrace668:
Hello everyone. Please, I'm not a newbie on NL. I opened this account to protect my identity.

I never thought I'd use this word to ever describe myself. Sadly, I am an alcoholic. It has taken me a great deal of embarrassment and pain to finally come to this conclusion.

I'm a female in my early 20's. One of the first things people comment on when we have a conversation is how intelligent I am. Good enough, I fair well academically and have done so for as long as I can remember. There is this dark side of me however. I am an alcohol addict.

I've read about my condition, especially at times when I swear I would never indulge in excessive drinking anymore. A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic. I started drinking as a way to forget some emotional and troubles but as I see, this in no way helps especially longterm.

I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink. I'm very ashamed of this. Sincerely, I want to stop. I want to make more meaningful decisions and relationships.

Please, how do I go about this? What can I do? Is there someone/a Group that helps with this kind of condition? Please help me.

Please help me move this to the permanent site. I'll be reading for suggestions.

gracegrace668:


It's so bad that even when I'm hungry, if given the option to choose between eating and drinking, I'll go for the bottle. I'm very ashamed of this. It's eating me up.

gracegrace668:


It's so bad that even when I'm hungry, if given the option to choose between eating and drinking, I'll go for the bottle. I'm very ashamed of this. It's eating me up.

gracegrace668:
I am an alcoholic. I am an alcohol addict.

A person like me is called a functioning alcoholic.

I drink everything from wine, spirits to liquor. I go out with friends that drink. I go out to drink alone. I buy some alcohol to drink at home. I go from laying on the bed to walking out to buy alcohol. I just drink, drink and drink.

gracegrace668:
You dont believe I will stop the addiction, yet you went ahead to give me tips. I just don't understand. All I'm doing is seeking help.

Joystark:
Dang!

It's rare to find young women who are alcoholics.

There are lots who drink once in a while, but addicts are very rare.

Discover why you started drinking in the first place and work on that.
Make your own beverages at home, zobo, smoothies, anything... When you are tempted to drink, take them in, they are liquid still. You can even take it a step further and refill all your liquor bottles with these drinks.

Avoid being alone, find something to always keep you buy and Pray.

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lefulefu:
we dont have such in nigeria.best bet is for op to go to her pastor for help

lagosinnovator:
Abi make u go start ogogoro joint since this is looking like your calling... seriously, how did you started drinking? who introduced you to drinking? How did you find your way here