bukatyne:
Children would always like the parent who was really there for them.

At childhood, you can deceive a child with sweets. When he or she is older, the ability to judge a parent for whom they really are is gotten.

That is the stage most fall outs happen.

coldFLARES1:
Can't agree less with you.

I don't have the luxury of declaring preference for one against the other. Momsie has passed on. However, when she was around, no contestation about my preference for Poppa.

With all his baggage, which included having 10 of us and earning as an under-rank in the Army, I haven't seen more responsible, forthright, disciplined and loyal fathers.

He is my friend and impacted with sterling virtues and sacrificed the most to make me access the most of the opportunities his lean resources could afford.

My father any day!

revolt:
For me
.I think as immature kids ee always tilt towards our mother but when we grow into men and become fathers, then we realise our dads were the real heroes. They sacrificed everything for us...unfortunately most dads hVe overworked themselves and died b4 we come to thank them... beru sad cycle. My d as d said this and its si sad I cnt show him all the love he deserved ...now

piroux:


Lol, it's not a big deal though. In a way, the way he is has showed me what i don't want in a husband. The minute i meet a guy who says taking care of children is the woman' sole responsibility, I just smile and shift away kiakia.

I don't need any man calling me evil in the future because he invested money alone while i invested my heart in my children. If we do it together, no parent is ever forgotten. There are children[b][/b][b][/b] who take care of both children equally because they know that both of them invested in their lives.

[If you have been doing all you said above, then you're a good dad.[i] May you not get tired and may you enjoy the fruits of your labour.

genq:
As a child it is none of your business whether your dad is polygamous or not - this solely between him and your mother. Afterall, you were not there from the beginning. You have no clue what they promised/negotiated with each other. Any child who judges a parent based what the other parent told them is a fool! Yes, your mother may be sweet, but she certainly isn't an angel - both parties are prone to make mistakes over the course of a marriage.

A father deserves maximum respect for the mere fact that he provides the needs of his household. In most Nigerian homes, the man is mainly responsible for putting a roof over the heads of his wife and children, he pays the bills, school fees, feeding, outings and other upkeep with little to no assistance from the mother. It's not easy and the old man should be appreciated for that.

I love my mother - ever so gentle and wise. But my father, gets my ultimate reverence and honour irrespective of whatever mistakes he made in his personal life.

obembet:
I have read series of argument on nairaland and other forums but it still baffled me why many children considered mother first before thier father. I'm a young lady too, I have feelings for my mom but my dad always been thier without any excuse.
mom is more important from birth till you go to school. After that it is the father who takes care of your education, guides you in your career. At least in my case this is true because my mom was uneducated. My dad teaches us and guides all his children to succeed in life. Without my dad I will lose my path and fail in life. Therefore, In my case my father was a good man. My mom gave me life but my father taught me how to live.

What's your views?

Cc Lalasticlala
MissyB3
Fynestboi
Dominique
mynd44

obembet:
I have read series of argument on nairaland and other forums but it still baffled me why many children considered mother first before thier father. I'm a young lady too, I have feelings for my mom but my dad always been thier without any excuse.
mom is more important from birth till you go to school. After that it is the father who takes care of your education, guides you in your career. At least in my case this is true because my mom was uneducated. My dad teaches us and guides all his children to succeed in life. Without my dad I will lose my path and fail in life. Therefore, In my case my father was a good man. My mom gave me life but my father taught me how to live.

PinkHealthGroup:


As a child, it is very much your business if your father or mother is polyamorous and fooooking 50 ppl other than your parent. Diseases and STIs are very real. No one should abuse the mindsets of children by telling them it isnt their business.

Your mother does not have to be mistreated or exposed to diseases
If she contracts Hep C, chances are her kids have high probability of getting it too. Anyone that says this type of BS needs to be shot. Children deserve loving, trustworthy parents. We have lied to our children for so long....and this is why the Nigerian family is built on hypocrisy and fake lives. How much more the govt?

Midas01:
Your first statement is pure trash.

If you don't know what that cheating and the likes does to a marriage and even to children then I don't think you're qualified to speak on such issues.

If you think most men tell their wives about adding other wives after them or about having a free pass to cheat in a marriage then you're very naive.

I've seen where women get beaten , humiliated, subdued, by their husbands because of sidechicks. My neighbor almost lost her life and one eye because of this senseless egoistic attitude of "men are polygamous in nature and can cheat whenever" attitude. Her little kids know their dad brings different women home and mistreated their mom due to that. So saying this is not the business of the kids is reflective of naivety.

thorpido:
Your bolded is not necessarily true except you are using your experience as a yardstick.
I changed my children's diapers,bottle-fed them,woke up in the night to feed them,bathe them,sit with them to do homework and carry them to bed when it's time to sleep.They even choose to sleep beside me.I'm the one they want to ask their questions.
Now tell me why mothers are 'automatically' number one in a child's life.


Piroux,sorry about your dad's experience.Yes,most fathers especially the 70s and 80s fathers were like your dad.Many fathers in this generation are quite different

Amumaigwe:


Your perspective as a father perfectly matches mine. I do all these things and much much much more alike. I know that the testimonial will be pleasant.

Logobenz:
My mom will always be my everything till the end of time.
I don't know where I will be today or how i will live without her.certainly the worst part of slums.
The sacrifices,support,encouragement,belief,etc...In fact,I am who I am today because of her no doubt about that.
If I tell you then things that woman did for me ehn,you will change that stupid write up of yours or learn to always speak for yourself
You said your mom wasn't educated and bla bla bla...mine stopped at standard 6 too so is that an excuse?
So you think moms don't know how to teach children how to live and become great people?
You sound really limited.

obembet:
I have read series of argument on nairaland and other forums but it still baffled me why many children considered mother first before thier father. I'm a young lady too, I have feelings for my mom but my dad always been thier without any excuse.
mom is more important from birth till you go to school. After that it is the father who takes care of your education, guides you in your career. At least in my case this is true because my mom was uneducated. My dad teaches us and guides all his children to succeed in life. Without my dad I will lose my path and fail in life. Therefore, In my case my father was a good man. My mom gave me life but my father taught me how to live.

What's your views?

Cc Lalasticlala
MissyB3
Fynestboi
Dominique
mynd44

INTEGRITYA1:


You don't need to bash her, from what she put up there; not that she was disrespecting or wanted to disrespect her Mum: no.

The point she's making is that; why is it that mostly Mothers are been praise for their roles compared to the Fathers.

But life is vice versa, some fathers are wonderful while some are bad indeed (No doubt about that).

There is what we call "Philosophy of the writer". So, every write up are base on experiences of the writers which in turn form their philosophy and ideas.

I appreciate her write up for it notify the general statements from our Ladies nowardays that all guys/Men are the same. No, we are not the same and we can't never be. There are responsible Men out there and the same things apply to women as well.

If you check very well just as you put up here, it's on rare occasion you see children praising their fathers over their mothers, but I can tell you convincingly that; there are lot of wonderful fathers out there and I'm also a living testimony of those who are priviledged to have fantastic Father along with great Monther. I love and appreciate them all.

It is a faulty principle to generalize that all men/guys or all women/ladies are the same.

Ncsamuel:
it's if the father didn't play his role appropriately in the home. Mother's love is good but father's love isn't that bad either, but let's not try to favor one over the other when it's time for them to depend on us

obembet:
I have read series of argument on nairaland and other forums but it still baffled me why many children considered mother first before thier father. I'm a young lady too, I have feelings for my mom but my dad always been thier without any excuse.
mom is more important from birth till you go to school. After that it is the father who takes care of your education, guides you in your career. At least in my case this is true because my mom was uneducated. My dad teaches us and guides all his children to succeed in life. Without my dad I will lose my path and fail in life. Therefore, In my case my father was a good man. My mom gave me life but my father taught me how to live.

What's your views?

Cc Lalasticlala
MissyB3
Fynestboi
Dominique
mynd44

obembet:



But at the end, why mother always get more love, care from thier children than Father?

obembet:
I have read series of argument on nairaland and other forums but it still baffled me why many children considered mother first before thier father. I'm a young lady too, I have feelings for my mom but my dad always been thier without any excuse.
mom is more important from birth till you go to school. After that it is the father who takes care of your education, guides you in your career. At least in my case this is true because my mom was uneducated. My dad teaches us and guides all his children to succeed in life. Without my dad I will lose my path and fail in life. Therefore, In my case my father was a good man. My mom gave me life but my father taught me how to live.

What's your views?

Cc Lalasticlala
MissyB3
Fynestboi
Dominique c

Good for u I love my mom and will still choose my mom over and over again even in my next life. My mom is a teacher like wise my dad.
My didn't even give me 2k to register for my WAEC not that he doesn't have d money at that time he has it but refused to pay. My mom did after secondary school I stayed back for 6years blf getting admission and I can't forget what my dad told me during that period that my mates are on d express selling cooked groundnut and bread. My mom stood by me, shared my pains and saw me through the university and my dad refused to pay a dim. My dad doesn't even know what I studied in the university. U see why I will die for my mom. I am what I am today cos of my mom. My dad has never bought anything for me in life not even a toothbrush of 10naira
mynd44

olabrinks:
Mothers love can never compete with a dad. Mothers will always be number one in a child’s life.