hhaha it means that your wife doesn't trust you.
she must have seen this thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-552022.0.html#msg7164722

JeSoul:

Perhaps this is why your "wife" has zero trust in you - and rightfully so:

Re: Need A Frend I Can Always Count On, Prefarably A Male: No Strings Attached.
Re: I Need A Decent Working Class Lady For Intimate Relationship

Hehe, busted, you cheating bástard!

Your wife should not only refuse to trust you, she should get you to wear a chastity belt

JeSoul:

Perhaps this is why your "wife" has zero trust in you - and rightfully so:

Re:  Need A Frend I Can Always Count On, Prefarably A Male:  No Strings Attached.
Re: I Need A Decent Working Class Lady For Intimate Relationship

oops, poster, you have been framed .


Poor wifey, you must have put her through hell . But that is not enough to forbid you from talking or communicating with a person who is housed under your own roof. And the maid was so dumb and imbecilic not to tell you your child was in danger, out of fear of your wife. Maybe also, it is this her stupidity that makes the wife keep her out of your reach . Such air brained girls are best kept away from randy men .

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Please,please,It is better for you not to have a maid at all.In the first instance,your does not trust you at all may be you caused it anyway.Just think back in the past.Maybe she caught you on her best friend bed some few days before your wedding.I think that is the only reason you are neglecting your as the head of the home.This your story reminded me of the shepherd and the lion.The lesson i learnt from that story is that do not leave your goat for the lion to look after.You are the lion,your wife is the shepherd while the maid is the goat.If dey leave you and the goat,you go chop ammmm [/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000]

I don't blame the poor woman she is only taking precautions !

@OP, U HAVE BEEN BUSTED, chei, maybe your wife and housemaid are both on nairaland, was gonna stick up for men but you've been made

Eemah:

I don't blame the poor woman she is only taking precautions !

The original poster is a primitive,illiterate coward

how big is your house that you can't do the housework yourself??must be a lazy son of a gun

Your wife controls you

I never knew human beings this retarded existed

kabukabu50:

The original poster is a primitive,illiterate coward

how big is your house that you can't do the housework yourself??must be a lazy son of a gun
Your wife controls you
I never knew human beings this retarded existed

my thing is what type of man is the poster that he has a house help and for how ever long she has worked for them he never spoke to her. do you think you are that much better of a human being that the help doesnt even have the right to speak to you? it's your better than thou attitude that would make something important happen and no one will tell you mr big man

To my astonishment, my wife told me that my housemaid is not authorised to communicate me because the accident was averted. I consider this a direct [size=18pt]affront to my position as the head of the family[/size]. As the [size=20pt]father of the house[/size], I should be on top of every HEALTH/SECURITY issue in the family. Therefore, I think it's completely unacceptable to deny me any vital information regarding the health or security of my child. I need your candid opinion and advice on this matter.

Flinstone Caveman still exit!!!

your position? are you a defender or a striker or attacking midfielder?

father of the house LMAO na you born the cement n bricks

caveman language


knowing you are an original caveman, the woman is only taking precautions like her pastor has dreamt something will happen now the house-help is over 18 years old! you know as the head of the cavemen you might want to have knowledge of the poor girl before you driver hits the mark

Ol boy better deliver yourself from the bondage of your wife!  
Why am i not surprised at the reply of some of our women folks?
It really shows the level of your insecurity and backward thinking!
will not talking to the housemaid stops him from playing away match
whenever he feels like it?  
What the wife had done was to indirectly accuse the man of sleeping wit the maid!  

@sisi kill
GBam!

lol madness. Dey don catch the OP. He's the one with the serious issues.

JeSoul are u a detective or something? U just laid the OP bare like that!

1. The best is your sister or relative(female)
2. if you can not control everything in your house,it is better you do not married or let your wife call you wife and you call her husband
3.your wife must be high class GBAM, ANOTHER GBAM

@ Poster

You said 'for obvious reasons' . . what obvious reasons

Is your househelp attractive? Have you previously cheated with other househelps that your wife doesn't trust you with them anymore? Are you a flirt and your wife knows this part of you?

I'm sorry but I dont see any 'obvious' reason why a man should be banned from talking to someone living under his roof. You see, househelps are not just there to help with the chores, they are as good as family. And family needs both the father and the mother to guide them. Imagine how she saved your son from death! Do you think she must have been tempted not to? That is very risky my friend!

If your wife doesn't trust you around her, she should let the girl go and get a guy or an ugly girl. It's not fair for her to restrict you in your own house!

maybe ur wife doesnt want ekaette to get pregnant so maye hunter cud hav a remix to his meaningless song.

sgsltd:

1. The best is your sister or relative(female)
2. if you can not control everything in your house,it is better you do not married or let your wife call you wife and you call her husband

3.your wife must be high class GBAM, ANOTHER GBAM

@bolded; What!??! So because she married him, she no longer has a right to make decisions that affect her life abi? And the man should dictate every single thing that goes on?
Let me ask you something, when God created Eve in the garden of Eden, did He create her for Adam to boss around or for her to be a companion for Adam? Use your senses abeg. There is a difference between head of house and oppressor/dictator.
Some Nigerian men and their self esteem issues sef. . . .

WOW!!!!
Well, I told my wife during our courtship, NO HOUSEMAID!!!!
It's almost two years since we wedded, and she's had to sacrifice a lot,
Left her business for months,
Now She's put her foot down, started her business again, what do I do?
BUY HER A WASHING MACHINE!!!!

I am so glad to read that many are of the view that one does not need a househelp. At most it is better to have a mature woman coming in for some hours a week.
Most families all over the world function that way.
It is simply an abuse of minors and cheap labour. Also it is important for kids to grow up learning to be responsible for some duties. I have a12 Person household and have no househelp.

Sack the hosue gurl and get an house boy, and madam should not talk to him either, then she will know how u felt all this while, mtchew!, am fed up with all this 9ja casino ladies finking they are always right, i mean it!

I am very sure your wife said something but you termed it to be no communication between you and the housemaid.

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Im sensing trouble here. Its like to wife has done something that the house maid knows about and she feels the best way to cover up was to prevent the housemaid for talking to you.

may be you will have to go back home early again and try to talk to that house maid u might just get some vital info. who knows

This above could be the case. However, very remote.

Alternatively, it could be, like some people have insinuated, that she is only trying to prevent putting a piece of yam together with a Goat; or a full-fledged goat before a hungry lion. The funny aspect is that there are similar tacit rules in homes where the oga bangs the h/girl. The dumb-and-blind approach will not and cannot be an alternative to a razor-sharp, habitual housegirl player of a hubby.  

Wives/Women should think of a better way to keep their hubbies only to themselves, and not this style. She can as well gagg his manhood.

@ poster , i think u r an id i o t.
to prove my pt pls ans who pays the maids salary

Jerjens:

@ poster , i think u r an id i o t.
to prove my pt pls ans who pays the maids salary

No mind am,
Guilty conscience self made him accept his fate!
Imagine, d housemaid pass for madam front, greet madam g'mornin and just bone oga?

i dont think is a right thing for your wife to instruct your Housemaid not to speak with you, but she must have a good reason. why cant u just sit her down and talk it over with her?

mutter:

I am so glad to read that many are of the view that one does not need a househelp. At most it is better to have a mature woman coming in for some hours a week.
Most families all over the world function that way.
It is simply an abuse of minors and cheap labour. Also it is important for kids to grow up learning to be responsible for some duties. I have a12 Person household and have no househelp.

I think calling for housemaid is a lazy act, If really she doesn't feel safe with thé Ekaetie talking with her Hubby.
Why not buy a robots to Work for her?? Washing maching both for closthes and plates exist in thé market, drying machine also. I dont think i need a maid with all thèse tools. There are few things i do with My hands, like washing My kids, dress them up, cook for My family and Iron thé clothes during thé weekend. i feel very proud to do this. What joy Will a woman get to
havé someone cook for her family and take total care of her kids and yet been scared?? If u feel u ve nô Time to do house Work
etc, buy those above mentioned machine and stop been worried.
@ Poster, plz stop this your head of thé Houde story. That n'a old school system.

Is your housemaid named "Ekaette"?

good.dats good!good!

This really annoying. Why are some women so insecure. She has relegated you to a child who could be harmed by talking to the house maid. Some women sef. But she is free to speak to men or if u have a house boy she can speak to him freely. Irritating!

I think the woman wanted a house boy for obvious reasons and the man insisted having a house girl. Now the woman is not happy because she needed something whenever the man is not performing his natural duties. hmmmm, i do not trust that woman

@poster please read this intelligently written reply again by Sisi_Kill, she has said it all!!!




Re: My Housemaid Has Been Ordered By My Wife Not To Communicate With Me
« #6 on: Yesterday at 07:30:34 PM »

You are angry at the wrong reasons my friend, you should be mad that your wife obviously lacks faith in you. Yep, she has convinced herself that with you, talking is pre-intimacy and more talking will lead to you jumping in the sack with the young and nubile maid.

Insecurity in it's highest level!

Next Stop: Do not talk to the young agege bread seller down the street. After that, do not speak or even look at the any woman who isn't your wife. I believe by the time she's succeded in alienating you from the rest of the female population, you two will live happily ever after.

Best of luck with that.
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"I thanked God for His marvelous works in protecting the child and thereafter queried why I was not informed of the incident since I was home for over three hours before my wife's arrival. To my astonishment, my wife told me that my housemaid is not authorised to communicate me because the accident was averted"

I do hope that would not be the response if the child would have required urgent medical attention or if the opposite was the case.

& @ poster: if you start talking to the maid and your wife feels she is so vexed, the maid can actually JUST GO!! case closed.