glogirl:
Am happy you said endured, who knows what she endured. When the men cheat and feel she can't go anywhere, a lot of women don't forgive. They bid their time,and hold on for her kids and also to build her wealth slowly. They are usually ready in their fifties when the kids are out. there is nothing sudden about it, she has checked out since and worked towards it by building her own house. To make the decision to leave at that age isn't easy at all if u must know. Let him marry a new wife, life goes on.

exactly what came to my mind, many men just do any how and forget their wives are not robots but humans with feelings. You have put it in the best perspective . well said.

oghale23:
I know a couple who are friends of my family. The man is a business man, while the wife is a medical doctor.

They are in their late 50's and have three children. Currently they are separated because the wife said he cannot meet up with her financial needs.

She built a house in Lagos without informing her husband, while he was building one in Ogun state.

I was sad and disappointed. A marriage of like 2 decades, quenched because the wife felt she has more needs the husband cannot cater for.

Now the man will be left alone, no one to help him and meet his sexual needs.

Op which of the above is the problem? That the woman built a house or that the man has no one now to satisfy him?

Besides who invited you into husband and wife ish? Dem go use your brain reconcile.

Have u been a good, loving and caring partner? L

ahnie:
And you are so bothered about his sexual needs!
Honestly I'm trying not to think what you're thinking!

gerrrrout! You people always think that sex is not important ba?..

WHY CAN'T YOU MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS?

oghale23:
I know a couple who are friends of my family. The man is a business man, while the wife is a medical doctor.

They are in their late 50's and have three children. Currently they are separated because the wife said he cannot meet up with her financial needs.

She built a house in Lagos without informing her husband, while he was building one in Ogun state.

I was sad and disappointed. A marriage of like 2 decades, quenched because the wife felt she has more needs the husband cannot cater for.

Now the man will be left alone, no one to help him and meet his sexual needs.

oghale23:
I know a couple who are friends of my family. The man is a business man, while the wife is a medical doctor.

They are in their late 50's and have three children. Currently they are separated because the wife said he cannot meet up with her financial needs.

She built a house in Lagos without informing her husband, while he was building one in Ogun state.

I was sad and disappointed. A marriage of like 2 decades, quenched because the wife felt she has more needs the husband cannot cater for.

Now the man will be left alone, no one to help him and meet his sexual needs.

I have not heard from the wife,but a wise woman will built her home,she has destroyed her home with that act of building separately without her husband approval

oghale23:


Lol! What do you know I am thinking about? You think because he is in his late 50's he doesn't have sexual needs?

I know another family friend who is a pastor and whose wife abandoned him to go and work abroad. He had to marry another woman. The man should be in is early 60's.

i think u need deliverance. Why is that u only know families with marital problems?

Many runs gals dey now , just take the man around Lagos or ur area to pick one or more up na money he go spend and do they rent house b4 or what

pocohantas:


He should get a help and pay the person. After all, women offer nothing in marriage (Ref: Nairaland Guys, 2019). It shouldn't matter if they stay or leave.

As for his sexual needs, he can remarry or download inmessanger.

As for the bolded, pm me your contact I'd like to meet you.

oghale23:


Lol! What do you know I am thinking about? You think because he is in his late 50's he doesn't have sexual needs?

I know another family friend who is a pastor and whose wife abandoned him to go and work abroad. He had to marry another woman. The man should be in is early 60's.

it doesnt matter his age but

its strange for any man to worry about another man's sexual needs

Is the man ur family or the woman? And why is it that some people(Man) don't always pray for dia wife's to b successful in life

oghale23:
I know a couple who are friends of my family. The man is a business man, while the wife is a medical doctor.

They are in their late 50's and have three children. Currently they are separated because the wife said he cannot meet up with her financial needs.

She built a house in Lagos without informing her husband, while he was building one in Ogun state.

I was sad and disappointed. A marriage of like 2 decades, quenched because the wife felt she has more needs the husband cannot cater for.

Now the man will be left alone, no one to help him and meet his sexual needs.

loswhite:
The man carry the entire responsibility of the family while the doctor save her income to build her private house...lol

Funny women still keep this mentality even after marriage

Employ a house help with a big nyash.

Thank me later.....

oghale23:
I know a couple who are friends of my family. The man is a business man, while the wife is a medical doctor.

They are in their late 50's and have three children. Currently they are separated because the wife said he cannot meet up with her financial needs.

She built a house in Lagos without informing her husband, while he was building one in Ogun state.

I was sad and disappointed. A marriage of like 2 decades, quenched because the wife felt she has more needs the husband cannot cater for.

Now the man will be left alone, no one to help him and meet his sexual needs.

Mumu post.

Go and help him and fulfill his sexual needs na.

Amebo.

When I say that Nigerians are stuck in the 19th Century, people think I am joking. Just look at how the OP's main issue with the couple's seperation is no one to cook, clean and satisfy the man's sexual needs. There's something called a washing machine. The man can wash his cloths with it. You buy your favorite Nigeria cuisine from many joints if the man is too lazy to cook himself. As for fulfilling his sexual needs, well, he can easily hire an olosho or get a new wife. Life is not complicated. If Nigerian men learnt how to cater for themselves without any woman's assistance the women will be forced to respect them as they will realize that they do not have a monopoly of domestic chores which they can easily use against the men.

the sexual needs no be issue, see Oloshos every were

oghale23:
I know a couple who are friends of my family. The man is a business man, while the wife is a medical doctor.

They are in their late 50's and have three children. Currently they are separated because the wife said he cannot meet up with her financial needs.

She built a house in Lagos without informing her husband, while he was building one in Ogun state.

I was sad and disappointed. A marriage of like 2 decades, quenched because the wife felt she has more needs the husband cannot cater for.

Now the man will be left alone, no one to help him and meet his sexual needs.

Wow! Lol! This is wonderful! Such diverse comments and opinions.

For those asking why I put his sexual needs, as we all know marriage is the union of two people, in which both parties agrees to be together forever.

God has commanded us to be productive and fill the earth. He gave us sex, which is meant to be performed within the confines of marriage and also for pleasure.

Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:9, admonished the unmarried and widows saying: "But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust."

You will agree with me that many unmarried men and women today are burning or roasting with lust. And in order to quench the tension of lust, most people resort to pornography, masturbation, fornication, worst case scenario, 'rape'.

In relation to the foregoing, with present economic situation in the country, some men will prefer to remain single, quench the tension of lust using other means as aforementioned than to go in to marriage to suffer.

Now that his wife have left him, it creates a lacuna that needs to be filled. What he enjoyed while he was with her is no more.

We all have various needs, whether single or married and sex is one of them. That is why single men or women pursue marriage to legally have sex for reproduction and pleasure.

So, I see no wrong when I mentioned his sexual need as one of the needs he will be missing.

owila4luv:
the sexual needs no be issue, see Oloshos every were

The man is a pastor. Olosho in not an option.

oghale23:
Wow! Lol! This is wonderful! Such diverse comments and opinions.

For those asking why I put his sexual needs, as we all know marriage is the union of two people, in which both parties agrees to be together forever.

God has commanded us to be productive and fill the earth. He gave us sex, which is meant to be performed within the confines of marriage and also for pleasure.

Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:9, admonished the unmarried and widows saying: "But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust."

You will agree with me that many unmarried men and women today are burning or roasting with lust. And in order to quench the tension of lust, most people resort to pornography, masturbation, fornication worst case scenario, 'rape'.

In relation to the foregoing, with present economic situation in the country, some men will prefer to remain single, quench the tension of lust using other means as aforementioned than to go in to marriage to suffer.

Now that his wife have left him, it creates a lacuna that needs to be filled. What he enjoyed while he was with her is no more.

We all have various needs, whether single or married and sex is one of them. That is why single men or women pursue marriage to legally have sex for reproduction and pleasure.

So, I see no wrong when I mentioned his sexual need as one of the needs he will be missing.

my friend the truth is you are weird

no normal person would worry about a friend's sexual needs

even your parents they would worry about who will cook for you, not about who will provide sexual needs

ZIMDRILL:


my friend the truth is you are weird

no normal person would worry about a friend's sexual needs

even your parents they would worry about who will cook for you, not about who will provide sexual needs

Well, you are entitled to your opinions.

luluosas:
Of course, you didn't asked me not. But I only offered a friendly talk based on the fact that you don't know the gravity of your jokes. Cheers

You just assumed that I don't know what I'm saying because to you, more than one wife is a tragedy? That's why you tagged my submission a joke? One: I'm not on Nairaland to joke. Two: I don't even know how old you're to think that my opinion is a joke based on your view of what is good and what is bad.
Most of the killings that we're seeing these days are mostly between couples of one man one wife. If you have anything against polygamy, drop it on the table

ZIMDRILL:


my friend the truth is you are weird

no normal person would worry about a friend's sexual needs

even your parents they would worry about who will cook for you, not about who will provide sexual needs

Lol. Worrying about that too is not a crime, right? Nobody wants a sex-starved lonely man near kids

What a rubbish reason... Thank God the man built a house. Some women can be stupid

My dear, your insatiable appetite for uncontrollable sexual desires is the reason for your comment. And to be honest with you, the day you married a second wife, that you divided your house and dug your own grave. Pray that God will open your eyes to the evil in polygamy because it is actually against God and nature. Cheers

maasoap:


You just assumed that I don't know what I'm saying because to you, more than one wife is a tragedy? That's why you tagged my submission a joke? One: I'm not on Nairaland to joke. Two: I don't even know how old you're to think that my opinion is a joke based on your view of what is good and what is bad.
Most of the killings that we're seeing these days are mostly between couples of one man one wife. If you have anything against polygamy, drop it on the table

luluosas:
My dear, your insatiable appetite for uncontrollable sexual desires is the reason for your comment.

Nigerians and their assumptive mentality at it again! Do you even know how many times I do have sex a week, a month? Many of you guys are not intelligent at all, making assumptions about someone you haven't met, on anonymous forum! Are you even describing a man here? How sure are you?

And to be honest with you, the day you married a second wife, that you divided your house and dug your own grave.

According to who? You? According to what belief? Your belief or general belief? Established beyond the doubt, by who? You? Those who are in "one man one wife union" are not killing one another on almost daily basis? Are they not sending their partner to the grave every week? Can you say such rampant killings among monogamous marriages is the same with polygamous family in Nigeria? Be sincere with yourself, friend.

Pray that God will open your eyes to the evil in polygamy because it is actually against God and nature. Cheers

I'm trying here to let you and others see beyond the fear and tales of sorrow that had been planted in your heads about the "evil of polygamy" which many of you had no first hand experience about. Polygamy is evil, they say. And we should just believe it like that? When most of the evils we see flying around these days are mostly from monogamous family.

Note: those who are into polygamy are not here making arguments, they're out there doing their things. I'm here just letting people like you realise that you have no idea about what you talking about. Okay?

Clap for yourself, okay? Go ahead and marry 700 wives and keep 300 girlfriends like Solomon. But one day, you will surely remember this day that polygamy is evil, and a yet to be explosive device. Cheers

maasoap:


Nigerians and their assumptive mentality at it again! Do you even know how many times I do have sex a week, a month? Many of you guys are not intelligent at all, making assumptions about someone you haven't met, on anonymous forum! Are you even describing a man here? How sure are you?



According to who? You? According to what belief? Your belief or general belief? Established beyond the doubt, by who? You? Those who are in "one man one wife union" are not killing one another on almost daily basis? Are they not sending their partner to the grave every week? Can you say such rampant killings among monogamous marriages is the same with polygamous family in Nigeria? Be sincere with yourself, friend.



I'm trying here to let you and others see beyond the fear and tales of sorrow that had been planted in your heads about the "evil of polygamy" which many of you had no first hand experience about. Polygamy is evil, they say. And we should just believe it like that? When most of the evils we see flying around these days are mostly from monogamous family.

Note: those who are into polygamy are not here making arguments, they're out there doing their things. I'm here just letting people like you realise that you have no idea about what you talking about. Okay?

Why must she tell her husband? Her money, her house. Does he tell her about every expense he makes?

If the issue is about his sexual needs, he should just go and remarry. One woman is more or less like any other in that respect, and if there is any certain thing about women, it is the fact that they are not scarce.

luluosas:
Clap for yourself, okay? Go ahead and marry 700 wives and keep 300 girlfriends like Solomon. But one day, you will surely remember this day that polygamy is evil, and a yet to be explosive device. Cheers

SMH! Some people just don't know when to quit. Those guys who had already married two women, three women on same day, same spot need your advice more. But oh they're not here to listen to your "polygamy is evil" mantra.

;Dpastor no de knack ?

oghale23:


The man is a pastor. Olosho in not an option.

oghale23:


Lol! Prior to that statement, I said no one to help him, like to cook, wash his clothes, etc.. and definitely his sexual needs as a married man.

So your wife is your drycleaner.