ubunja:
and when that girl meets a guy OF HER OWN SPEC what then?
Remember she's your dream girl but you're not his dream guy. She's your type but are your her type?

cerpvad:
Good question. My secret is that my specs in a lady are not found in only one girl. I operate with a strong abundance mentality that enables me believe that there are plenty of girls out there who possess what I want in a woman. Therefore I don't give room to obsession for one particular pretty girl. This is the mistake hundreds of guys commit. If she doesn't choose me because I turn out not to be her spec, she is free to go after the guy who is her spec. I can't be every girls spec just like every girl can't be my spec.

JayCynic:


I was thinking the same thing, but it's not too bad.
Do you have any ideas?

Ranchhoddas:
You have to go for girls that already have interest. They will make eye contact. They always do.

JayCynic:


Don't be offended but I find this style a bit corny, I mean that's what everyone does and that's what is done in most Nigerian movies. I can't get myself to complement a girl's name, its awkward(like a name is simply a name) and I think it also sounds flirty when you compliment every move. But Thanks anyways

Goldensword:


If your a sharp guy, there won't be a day that will go by without you meeting a girl who admire you and wish to be your girlfriend, you just have to be on alert and observant on the signs the subconsciously exhibit when around you.

Ranchhoddas:
You have to go for girls that already have interest. They will make eye contact. They always do.

JayCynic:
I need some advice from the pros in the section, I'm a reserved guy(not shy though) and I've been having difficulty trying to move to girls, startup convos on the go. It's always very difficult especially in Akwa Ibom State where Uyo girls are always carrying up their noses in the air and acting irritated for no reason. I've had cases where I grew the balls and said "Hi excuse me, can I talk for a second?" And they just walk past, it's crazy. I hate SM relationships as they are phony and fake. I'd really appreciate y'all advices even from the ladies (if any) and share your own methods and experiences

Goldensword:


If your a sharp guy, there won't be a day that will go by without you meeting a girl who admire you and wish to be your girlfriend, you just have to be on alert and observant on the signs the subconsciously exhibit when around you.

JayCynic:
I need some advice from the pros in the section, I'm a reserved guy(not shy though) and I've been having difficulty trying to move to girls, startup convos on the go. It's always very difficult especially in Akwa Ibom State where Uyo girls are always carrying up their noses in the air and acting irritated for no reason. I've had cases where I grew the balls and said "Hi excuse me, can I talk for a second?" And they just walk past, it's crazy. I hate SM relationships as they are phony and fake. I'd really appreciate y'all advices even from the ladies (if any) and share your own methods and experiences

JayCynic:
I need some advice from the pros in the section, I'm a reserved guy(not shy though) and I've been having difficulty trying to move to girls, startup convos on the go. It's always very difficult especially in Akwa Ibom State where Uyo girls are always carrying up their noses in the air and acting irritated for no reason. I've had cases where I grew the balls and said "Hi excuse me, can I talk for a second?" And they just walk past, it's crazy. I hate SM relationships as they are phony and fake. I'd really appreciate y'all advices even from the ladies (if any) and share your own methods and experiences

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JayCynic:
I need some advice from the pros in the section, I'm a reserved guy(not shy though) and I've been having difficulty trying to move to girls, startup convos on the go. It's always very difficult especially in Akwa Ibom State where Uyo girls are always carrying up their noses in the air and acting irritated for no reason. I've had cases where I grew the balls and said "Hi excuse me, can I talk for a second?" And they just walk past, it's crazy. I hate SM relationships as they are phony and fake. I'd really appreciate y'all advices even from the ladies (if any) and share your own methods and experiences

ubunja:
which just means you don't have a spec strictly speaking. Any girl will do.

A spec is a particular thing that you find a turn on in women. Eg thick legs, big ass etc. It has nothing to do with abundance mentality.

You just take any girl that comes along because you don't have a type. Which is a disappointment really.

ubunja:
and when that girl meets a guy OF HER OWN SPEC what then?
Remember she's your dream girl but you're not his dream guy. She's your type but are your her type?

crunchyg:

By the time she will meet her dream guy, the first guy has already seduced her and had made invest so much in the relationship that it will be difficult for her to leave the first guy and move to her dream guy. This is why so many ladies end up with guys they never thought of marrying

cerpvad:
So If a spec is a particular thing that you find a turn on in women, e.g big ass, thick legs etc, are you telling us that only one woman in the world has such spec? Listen, boobs and slim body for example are the main specs that turn me on in a woman. So who says only one girl gets that in the whole country? In fact, everyday I walk through the streets, , I see hundreds of girls who possess my turn ons, so why will I be obsessed with one particular girl just because she thinks I am not her spec?
On abundance mentality, you may need to clarify what that means in your own view.

JayCynic:

Great tip bro, you sound like an expert on this

ubunja:
that part on obsessing over one girl is the funny part. No one is saying obsess over anyone. Where did that come from? When you're chosen you're not the one obsessing. It's the girl.

Obviously not one woman is going to be slim with boobs etc. But THE SLIM GIRL WITH BOOBS WHO LIKES YOU AUTOMATICALLY AS YOU ARE is not going to be abundant. That's the crux of my earlier message.

Of course there's billions of slim women with boobs out there, but are you their own spec or fantasy? That's the question.

Abundance mentality isn't a be all, cure all. The more specific your specs and the higher your standards the more you'll realise the limits of abundance mentality. That's the reason I sought to divorce Abundance Mentality from specs. See your specs are too low every second girl has them. Some men have more specs that a few girls have. Eg some men desire virgins. Those are few in the dateable pool of women today.

Us who wait for green lights don't chase too much what WE like. We want to be what women like. So women will love us more than we love them. So that we have that power over them.

And the girls we like? We'll cheat with them on the side. But those girls who like us, we love them and marry them. That's where we differ. But to be fair you did say you were not of the same view with me on green lights. But prepare to chase till you die.

cerpvad:
I get your point of view-LET HER CHOOSE YOU. IT MAKES YOUR JOB EASIER.

Truly it is cool when a girl likes you automatically. But are you aware that girls, due to their non-predictive nature, may choose to like you today and reject you tomorrow when they find another guy who is better than you? So What do you do then? Do you cry all over them everywhere, begging them not to dump you? See, it is not enough to be CHOSEN and go to sleep but what makes you stay on top of the game lies in your ability to HAVE FUN while doing girls. HAVE FUN WHILE IT LASTS.

Another fault I find in the WAIT FOR GREEN LIGHTS AND BE CHOSEN THEORY is that many Girls are averagely PASSIVE beings. They rarely come out of their shells and therefore required to be attracted by confident guys who like them. Such girls do not have or give green lights. In fact, not all girls give green light. So if I find my spec in these categories of girls, do you want me to wait till eternity for green lights which she never has?

That I walk confidently to a girl of my spec and talk to her do not mean CHASING after her. APPROACHING should not be misconceived as CHASING. What CHASING after a girl means is that you are all over her spaces when she does not want you or gives you limited attention. This is a different ball game entirely and only weak guys are notorious for that. It is these weak guys that you should tell to get prepared to CHASE FOREVER. Weather or not she gives green lights, confident guys APPROACH girls of their specs and HAVE FUN while doing it. So my conclusion is this: DO NOT WAIT FOR GREEN LIGHTS, RATHER, APPROACH AND HAVE FUN.

At the bolded: Actually, the slim girls with boobs who have potentials to automatically like me when I approach them are abundant everywhere all over the world. What I simply need is to approach them and talk them into liking me and have fun while doing it. I am not afraid of rejections from women, even if she possesses all my specs.

ubunja:

Chase a girl and get her. Tomorrow a better guy than you will chase her and still get her.

Wait for her to choose you. And tomorrow she'll choose a better guy than you.

Remember chasing a girl doesn't mean no one else is chasing her as well.

Now when a better man gets your girl won't it hurt more since you chased? who will hurt more? Me who waited to be chosen. Or you who chased?

Oh and it appears you don't know what green lights are. That smile and eye contact you mentioned in your method IS the green lights. You're waiting for green lights but you don't even know it. I had a feeling you didn't because most guys who discard the green lights thing are waiting for them unawares.

And this confidence that you and all those Pick Up Artists speak of will get you hurt.

cerpvad:
Look at the bolded words and reconsider your standpoint, bruh.

Confident guys do not CHASE girls. Confident guys APPROACH , WOO AND RETAIN girls of their specs and nurture no fear of losing them and if they lose them, they simply get replacement. You are a weak guy when you think no girl is irreplaceable. Look at this scenario. Your choice car is a G-Wagon Benz. The one you are driving currently had accident and dented beyond repairs and you have billions of dollars in your account to buy a brand new G-Wagon. What do you do? Do you sit down crying your ass out over what you can afford to replace or you go back to the market or Benz company to get a brand new G-Wagon for yourself and cruise around town?
This is what applies to confident guys when they lose their spec girls. They simply get replacement without much ado. Only a weak guy hurts and breaks down in tears when his spec leaves him for another guy.

APPROACH is a different ball game from CHASE. APPROACH is done with confidence and charms. CHASE is done with nervousness, tension and vibes of mugus. But a good APPROACH would make girls CHOOSE AND CHASE you for the rest of her life. But when you wait to be CHOSEN, before you APPROACH, you limit your chances of ever getting girls because many girls will not choose you or realize that they like you until you APPROACH them and start talking.

And for your information, Even when you wait to be CHOSEN, you still need to APPROACH to get her. Girls, except Oloshos, are not gotten on the platter of gold. And despite that she has CHOSEN you, if you are not armed with good and charming approach, you will lose her to another guy who she has chosen. Girls dont choose one guy at a time and go to sleep. They have plenty of guys to choose from on daily basis.

ubunja:
if you have to make a girl realise that she likes you already you're chasing.

Desire and attraction must be self-generated to be the deepest.

Okay. Let's end this what's your last word.

lilmax:
What exactly are you looking for? Knacks or relationship?

cerpvad:
A girl's response to your approach is what shows she likes you or not.

Fear of rejection from women is what makes you wait for the ones who give green light before you can approach and talk to them. No girl turns you down if your approach is good and pleasant enough.

Last word: APPROACHING IS NOT EQUAL TO CHASING.

Thank you for your time.

Ariza:
See guys growing wrinkles and cramps in their brains just to figure out the so much shamed Nigerian Ladies Jokers!

Kingsteve:
There's nothing really to figure out. It's the amateurs that have some figuring out to do. Besides, not all naija women are dodgy! There are some that are worth figuring out.

Ariza:
Good luck on your figuring out.

JayCynic:
I need some advice from the pros in the section, I'm a reserved guy(not shy though) and I've been having difficulty trying to move to girls, startup convos on the go. It's always very difficult especially in Akwa Ibom State where Uyo girls are always carrying up their noses in the air and acting irritated for no reason. I've had cases where I grew the balls and said "Hi excuse me, can I talk for a second?" And they just walk past, it's crazy. I hate SM relationships as they are phony and fake. I'd really appreciate y'all advices even from the ladies (if any) and share your own methods and experiences

cerpvad:
A girl's response to your approach is what shows she likes you or not.

Fear of rejection from women is what makes you wait for the ones who give green light before you can approach and talk to them. No girl turns you down if your approach is good and pleasant enough.

Last word: APPROACHING IS NOT EQUAL TO CHASING.

Thank you for your time.

cerpvad:
Hi guys. I promised to drop a pattern for wooing any girl of your spec. look at it.

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Approach: Approach is not when you first see a girl, rather it is when she first sees you. For example, everywhere at ATM Points, supermarkets, bars, restaurants, streets etc, a girl notices you the moment you appear.

dave4rella:

There's no particular way of approaching ladies
But always make sure you're unique, don't always use the regular lines guys make use of.

For me, I'm a reserved person and I can never see a girl on the road and try to hi or talk to her, unless when I know that I might not see her again.
So I take my time and strike, I'm not boasting, I have never lost a girl I tried to woo

There are things that get female attention, especially when it's coming from a guy
For instance, I could see a lady and politely tell her that she should not be offended, but that I'm not sure she's wearing the right bra size, automatically, you will have her attention, discuss abit about that and go to your main aim.

You can also admire her eyebrows, like asking who drew it and all that! You will have her attention immediately.

Never admire her beauty! Don't ever do that atleast for the first time of meeting her

Finally, the most surest way of getting ladies attention is by being successful, have a job or career, business etc and be good at it
Take good care of yourself and watch wonders happen... Stay blessed