samtol4:
Most guys are always carried away with outside beautiful with out thinking about the character of a lady.u just met a lady boom she will be living with you as husband and wife abi ? marriage is not build this way .u don't know much about this person already u want to live together.Why not allow her rent a place or share room with another female ? Staying with a lady who is not your wife will affect your destiny plans

Which kain unreadable English be this?

Accompanied not escorted

Richnerd69:


No one is talking about marriage here, she's coming for a purpose, to serve, and not just live with me...I just picked Interest in a random friend. She has no other place but I was thinking if she stays for a few month and she's already adapting, then I could get her a place, that's if she would still love to stay back and start a new life in PH after service year.

you did not see a man to pick interest in as a random friend, it was a woman?

If you have free accommodation in PH, you should have come to Nairaland NYSC Section and advertised free space for those posted to PH, as the good and helpful guy you are.

You no see man to help, you no see one random woman that you are not attracted to, it is the one that you flow with and 'reminds you of your sister' that you decided to be Father Theresa with

My friend will you geddifok....

GrabHisBalls:
Well, I don't have a problem with that. After all, person must fall mugu.

This my friend's own was just too much. Fear Igbo girls.

Lol...
Fear all girls more like.

How PH?
You fattening up yet?

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Follow your heart
Life is luck and prayers
So pray

Very very bad? Why are you so much in a haste? You would have allow her to serve in Abj why you continue with your relationship. Things will take its shape naturally. But you have bend everything to your favour which I'm 100 percent sure you will regret. Bros you will regret, slow down. My one pence piece.


quote author=Richnerd69 post=84750241]So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?
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fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

You nailed it

luminouz:


Lol...
Fear all girls more like.

How PH?
You fattening up yet?

No, don't be afraid of girls like me. We have a conscience.

I arrived two days ago. Have a job to deliver but tired. I feel like being lazy and na movies get me now.

GrabHisBalls:
No, don't be afraid of girls like me. We have a conscience.

I arrived two days ago. Have a job to deliver but tired. I feel like being lazy and na movies get me now.

Lol@your first statement. I believe you.

Sure,watch movies for this week at least. Deliver the job ASAP na...make we chop Xmas rice na

[quote author=safarigirl post=84772769]you're her best shot because you convinced her to come and live with you in a place you knew you would be her best shot.

You Sound like a manipulative guy. She will be at your mercy for the duration of her stay in PH. You must be obsessed with the idea of being someone's lord and personal savior, preferably a woman you can be having free sex with, while blackmailing her with threats of eviction if she ever challenges your authority.

For a woman to even agree to leave Abuja that she worked and had plans to stay with an aunt, to go to PH, where she only knows you, a man she has known for how long? You should be very afraid, because it speaks poorly of her. She must have ulterior motives just like you, because no good, decent girl would put herself in such a dicey situation

I hope this decision bites you in the ass and you receive a year of fire and brimstone on your head he inviting a stranger into your space for one year.
Safarigirl is on fire today oh!

You would have allowed her to serve in her original state. Then later, she can visit you once in a while.......


You will certainly regret this because you acted too fast my brother !

Bro.. I don't know u , but what so ever, you just took a wrong step , why control a babe u know nothing about to come stay permanently in your house. Ah. You don't even know anything about her health status yet u wanna put her home in few weeks of dating , think over this again bruh. If u can still terminate this mission please do Asap. You can always get her laid anytime on a casual basis. Even if u move this babe in she won't give u breathing space , and in due time you will get tired of her vise versa.

My point , Study her from afar first. , then if she's Worth it after a long while you can shoot your shot.Good Luck

luminouz:



Lol@your first statement. I believe you.

Sure,watch movies for this week at least. Deliver the job ASAP na...make we chop Xmas rice na

Unfortunately, my client called and I promised to deliver on 18th. She even made payment while I was in school and I don chop the money. Now to do work come dey hard. I am getting started tomorrow so I don't disappoint her.

frubben:
wow this girls pussy Is intelligent, see as pussy dey speak English for your head . Continue speaking English

LMAO

Gaggi:
Even we married men are sometimes tired of our wives...lol
You will get tired, I promise you that. You will regret this decision in just a few months. The question you will keep asking is what did I get myself into? I don't understand the demon that pushed you to take this decision.

You may just be amongst the lucky few though, I know a guy who lived with a woman for 7 years before finally marrying her and they are doing very well. I hope in your own interest this will be your case.

Hahahahhaha. Him no know. The best part is if she is unhappy there or decides to cheat on him she can easily tell him thay coming over was his idea

Enter another vacuum sharp sharp na

Lol you’re very funny bro

fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

Mcslize:
Cohabiting with a lady is quite stressful. I have been in that situation in the past. It was emotionally demanding, energy sapping and requires high level of diplomacy in handling things with her.

Be rest assured that the whole house will be messed up even after cleaning. She will put things where they should not be. She might leave the plates unwashed most times. The kitchen will always be a mess after cooking. You will address one issue after another of how she should wash the plates after eating her own foods, clean up the room whenever it gets messy, put things in their rightful places and always keep a tidy environment. She might not hid to all of that. You will still see a messy room every day, unwashed plates, dirty dishes, scattered items. She might even be sending you in an errand. You will get fed up at one point in time and start asking yourself if you made a mistake bringing her in?

These are just few of the things that you will experience. So be prepared emotionally and otherwise.

it seems like you're talking to muah

Richnerd69:


I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her.


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

Bros, it’s one of two things, either God has blessed you with a wife or the devil wants to play ludo with you small...no fear, all Na still experience

Bros you are a kidnapper oooo cos you are not supposed to be living with her in the first instance....or as what we both of you be living?Husband and Wife?Boyfriend and Girlfriend?
Anyway,cohabiting with each other is a bad start and it's very unlikely for your relationship to end on a good note because both of you will soon be tired and finding faults in eachother....
Retrace your steps guy,pay her brideprice if you truly wanted her....
Goodluck

These kind of mistakes is mostly common among guys that didn’t flex while in school..u see girl wey set small, u trip u kon allow ur dick control ur decision making..now u wan come disturb us for here..U better Abort this ur mission ASAP if u don’t wanna come back here in the next three weeks with a 20 page essay.

I hope you can see heaven from that distance...


Do not try to over flow nairaland with tears soon.


Remember she has a BRAIN!::

GrabHisBalls:
Unfortunately, my client called and I promised to deliver on 18th. She even made payment while I was in school and I don chop the money. Now to do work come dey hard. I am getting started tomorrow so I don't disappoint her.

Good one.
18th? Well,better late then never. Wire me my own share o...I dont believe the 'chop the money' part

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

and what the hell do you need our suggestions for?

help you send her back?

undone the service posting? or

help cure ur future mistakes .

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Why bother asking for our opinions when u have already made a choice....

U might be lucky everything works out fine wt her as a wife.
But l think u moving so fast. Remember u are in d window period where both of u are so into each other and all wl seem perfect now. I think u shd not think of seeing her as wife now until u sure u are on d right track.
Don't let love becloud ur reasoning and judgement.
There is ds saying dt a foolish man wl do last wat a wise man do first.
Just take it easy and slow. Easy does it.

OP, make below a rule of thumb:

No matter how much you've got, don't think through money, particularly when making relationship/marital decisions.

Why? Because money mostly create that false impression that one is in control over everything. But in reality, the person with wisdom is the one truly in control.

You are asking a question you should have asked people very close to you, ever before making those moves. Now, you seem to be having cold feet on your decision and would love strangers like us to counsel you.

Well, let's hope you get a good one from matured minds.

Alawaxbimbex:
Hummmmmm, just be careful,I'm also a lady ooooo,I know what we are capable of doing...

This is not advice what do you think the girl can do?

Like how can you take such a terrible step with a girl you barely know.. Moreover, you can always get to see her even if she make her own decision. In all honesty i think you are too fast with the whole secenerio and it can bound out bad for you. It really funny how some guys think like a sissy.
You just about to cause a whole problem for yourself all because of gra gra love. However, i wish you goodluck in your bizzary journey.
I drop my pen ✒