| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Munzy14(m): 8:15pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.
Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.
We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.
She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .
My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.
Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?
pvssy has taken over your reasoning.... Women are becoming brutal this days especially those below 25. Just pray u didn't make a fatal decision. 2 Likes |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Sunnyobums: 8:15pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Frankyboy1:
I don't know why people get so worked up, this life has no manual or guarantees, just be careful and follow ur guts instincts or maybe even your very emotions can lead you rit sometimes, in some years to come,this damsel can be ur lovely wife who has brought so much blessings to you, and in some years time too, she can be ur downfall or undoing, life is unpredictable like that, never take it so seriously, for 90%/of the things you fear never comes to pass, your meting her could also be divinely orchestrated to set her up for her missing rib or destiny is in pH, some small things happen for a big reason and some big things happen for no reasons, life has no guarantees and all it owes us is only death, but in between being born and dying let's hope and work that the coin of life deals us a good one! Peace out joor Bro you are truly wise, I like your view about life and the issue at hand, some people are insulting the op yet forgetting the fact that this issue can go either way, good or bad, I love your analysis. 1 Like |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by dalass(f): 8:17pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
silentEXPLOSION:
summarise.
Your write up is too long.
Don't carry this habit into 2020 Guy you wickid!  2 Likes |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Myhusband(m): 8:17pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
you're pushing responsibilities that might end up in vain on your neck bro
why push for her service here first before seeking for advise
you're not a security agency, if something happen to that bae whether she stay in your place or not, you will be hold responsible
secondly, financial stances will be on your neck and this doesn't mean one bobo and L.I won't be shining her Kongo
I just felt you acted too fast perhaps you couldn't control your emotions, the lady safety might be in God's hand but hey if something happen to her God forbid just know you will be hold responsible as you've not done any marriage rites on her 4 Likes |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by biggy26: 8:20pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Richnerd69:
I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...
I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.
I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol You are complicating issues by doubting your decision after making the decision. What motivated you to do what you did? If you were convinced then, then hold on to your conviction and do what you perceive to be right. Fear always come with decision making, but go with the peace inside. On this journey: avoid body contact so your emotions don't get in the way and watch her. Just treat her like a friend and take notes. At the end of the day, if her positives out weigh her negatives and your heart is at peace, marry her! |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by oladsax: 8:20pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
U already made a wrong decision bro....if anything goes wrong with the lady u will be accountable for it, just be very careful 1 Like |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Olude193: 8:22pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
silentEXPLOSION:
summarise.
Your write up is too long.
Don't carry this habit into 2020 Lool I swear you be case 1 Like |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Fxwarrior: 8:23pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Richnerd69:
I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...
I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.
I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol Why would you tell your kid sister that you barely know your babe? Besides I sense jealousy already. I hope they won't put you in difficult position of picking sides due to quarrels? 1 Like |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Nobody: 8:28pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
luminouz:
Good one.
18th? Well,better late then never. Wire me my own share o...I dont believe the 'chop the money' part I wish e reach to wire person. At times, I take up jobs to increase my customer base, not necessarily for profit. |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Iziquiel(m): 8:29pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
How do I unread this nonsense? |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by luminouz(m): 8:31pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls:
I wish e reach to wire person. At times, I take up jobs to increase my customer base, not necessarily for profit. Stingy ass! |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Equity15(m): 8:32pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Gaggi:
Even we married men are sometimes tired of our wives...lol
You will get tired, I promise you that. You will regret this decision in just a few months. The question you will keep asking is what did I get myself into? I don't understand the demon that pushed you to take this decision.
You may just be amongst the lucky few though, I know a guy who lived with a woman for 7 years before finally marrying her and they are doing very well. I hope in your own interest this will be your case. lmao this your first paragraph is just too true. the longest I have stayed with a girl is 3days and if you know the amount of times we had issues during that 3days, you go fear. and that's the girl I have ever truly loved oh.. other girls I have been with, they just come in the evening,spent the night, and go their house the next day, dem dey even surprise as I take dey pursue them. mehn living with a woman ain't easy at all. that's my fear about marriage. may God help us 2 Likes |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Nobody: 8:33pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
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| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by golddust6000(m): 8:36pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Get married to her  Na so dem dey marry? Ginaz:
Help a life how? Did she tell you she didn’t have a family, or homeless? If you’re talking about connecting her to jobs or upgrading her current condition , you can do that without bringing her all the way from her base to yours.
Stop trying to justify yourself . If you like her so much like you claimed , the right thing to do is get married to her.  |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by unikprince(m): 8:39pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
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| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Nobody: 8:41pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Build
Jj |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by VanPOLICE: 8:48pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.
Abeg , I Must say oooo , Instead of Reading Latest Nigeria News i prefer listening to Good Top Naija Songs Biko ooooo
 
Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.
We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.
She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .
My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.
Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?
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| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by ayusco85(m): 8:52pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Ginaz:
Getting her a place so she can live with a roommate is out of point. What if something happens? Didn’t she tell you she have not been to ph? You want to leave her to stay alone now you have realized you were too quick with the whole thing? Guy do you know the implications of what you have done?
Her life and all that concerns her are in your hands, whatever goes wrong, you’re in soup.
You better put her in your house so you can have eyes on her and her movements. In fact finish what you have started o. 
That’s how men put themselves in trouble with their own hands!! Bros if you have sense go with this advice. Finish what you started. My own advice is pls don't get her pregnant or make her do any abortion because u will be having lots of sex. Use condom always if you can't pull out. Ps: go for blood test to be sure of her health status and urs |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.
Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.
We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.
She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .
My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.
Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?
Too fast,very fast, call it anything,this is just Lust not love! Shine your eyes 3 Likes |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Nobody: 9:02pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
unikprince:
A good sex can make one loose his/her mind and thereby make a very wrong choice in marriage. It's obvious that girl sucked some of your brain particles thru your dick, bros I understand your plight.  |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by athorello(m): 9:03pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.
Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.
We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.
She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .
My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.
Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?
You're doing a good job. Marry her already to avoid story that touch. Abeg, help a brother too. There's this babe that I'm just picking interest in. I want her back in PH from Jigawa. |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Nobody: 9:05pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
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| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by thelish(f): 9:07pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Alawaxbimbex:
Hummmmmm, just be careful,I'm also a lady ooooo,I know what we are capable of doing... What are u capable of doing?? 1 Like |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 9:12pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
biggy26:
You are complicating issues by doubting your decision after making the decision. What motivated you to do what you did? If you were convinced then, then hold on to your conviction and do what you perceive to be right. Fear always come with decision making, but go with the peace inside.
On this journey: avoid body contact so your emotions don't get in the way and watch her. Just treat her like a friend and take notes. At the end of the day, if her positives out weigh her negatives and your heart is at peace, marry her! Thanks man. My decision to bring her over to PH was not with ulterior motives as people actually perceive it to be. Before I raised the suggestion to help her, I understood the risks involved and I still went ahead anyways. She's told me her story and her visions. Her aunt is making her settle for lesser than she bargained for, but where she's going to be positioned to serve, she would be properly paid like a normal entry staff aside her monthly allowance, and well catered for as she isn't the only one I've connected that way... My plan is to make her independent, so I won't be her cash clown. I have so many other responsibilities on my neck. I've only been slightly sceptical of late, with the way people I closely confided in have been condemning my decision and tagging it as "stupid". I somewhat feel a bit stupid, but not driven or motivated by lust but out of human kindness and likeness, and I will try as much as possible to avoid body contact. I don't want to appear manipulative or possessive. I've called my mom and I told her everything, she trusts my decision but also hopes I'm not gonna regret my gesture. Plus, we are both having this discussion tonight. I'm gonna give her a chance to reconsider her choice.. we probably might be heading way fast, or probably not. Thanks again. |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Suremikky(m): 9:13pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Queenjuliette:
If there is a way you can press more buttons for her to stay back in Abuja please do, this your decision is RISKY.
OP it seems you have plenty connection, please I am in dire need of a good job. connect me biko.
Just that I won't move in with you
Are you sure u don’t want to move in with him?aunty talk tru o |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by DavidTariq96(m): 9:13pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
silentEXPLOSION:
summarise.
Your write up is too long.
Don't carry this habit into 2020 Lol..... Walahi u re not serious |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by mechanics(m): 9:18pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
It's wrong to cohabit together with a woman you have not paid her bride price and you don't even know her background and if anything happens to her, you will be held responsible. 1 Like |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by shogsman(m): 9:24pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
You met someone and instantly start pressing buttons,you're obviously a butty.take it easy or the girl might started feeling coerced and don't feel she owes you something. |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by bethyz(m): 9:26pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Move in with you. As in she done become wife just like that. What is that girl thinking sef. Is somthing wrong with her senses.
Move in with you sleep with you, cook for you and clean for you.
Do you think you will cope and not try to sleep with her. �You think your body can control that.
Dont lie to yourself. Be truthful. She is someone you are attracted to. You cannot do it to anyone you are not attracted to forget doing it out of your good heart talk. It impossible
The girl herself is not cultured who does somthing like that. She doesnt even have fear that you can do all that and she is still not safe.
She just meet you and followed you like someone being controlled by remote.
What does she want to tell her parents that she is living with a man?
Does she even know if you are mentally ok
She is silly and has no respect for herself. She doesnt even know anything. Some people will still go to uni and come out there sence still will be incorrect
She is not matured
You are selfish!!!!
Leave someone's daughter alone ooooo. Please. 4 Likes |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Funkyswagzz(m): 9:27pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Richnerd69:
LOL. If she allows herself to be convinced by someone else and she eventually leaves, I'll inform her sister that she isn't under my care anymore. It's not like I'm investing my all in her. I just feel like I'm too forward with all this, tho I really like the babe and I want to help her. Father Christmas?! See all these things should have taken place at the hotel and it ends there.. first u are desperate for a relationship.. second u want to bang anytime u want and u figured out her stayin with is the best option. To be honest with u the chances of this coming out the way u want is 30%. Situations like this need no advise uve made the mistake already now u have to bear the consequences. Dude y let this girl suck the energy u have while u can channel it elsewhere.. I pray u come out clean on this cos u have a 50 50 chance. Ure in for a bumpy ride. Goodluck.. 1 Like |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 9:31pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
safarigirl:
you did not see a man to pick interest in as a random friend, it was a woman?
If you have free accommodation in PH, you should have come to Nairaland NYSC Section and advertised free space for those posted to PH, as the good and helpful guy you are.
You no see man to help, you no see one random woman that you are not attracted to, it is the one that you flow with and 'reminds you of your sister' that you decided to be Father Theresa with
My friend will you geddifok.... Why are you people so prejudiced? I started suffering when I lost my dad who was a top ranking army officer in 2005, the privileges I enjoyed seeing soldiers drive us to school was all gone. My mom was too quiet to ask for help, my dad's benefits went down the drain for years until earlier, because mom was from Sierra Leone and didn't know her way around. I am where I am today because I met people and I built relationships with the right people and I know how to ask for help. If I'm capable of helping anyone within my reach, I would because that's what has sustained me till now. Do you know how many people I helped work their transfer to their preferred state of choice of service I even had to pay from my pocket, a season when my uncle wasn't picking my calls anymore... I don't do favoritism and I don't encourage those who spread the tale of my good deeds, because I'll be burdened by those referred to me. |
| Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by golddare: 9:33pm On Dec 09, 2019 |
Just follow your heart my brother, love can happen anywhere, just define everything from the beginning, eg will you marry me? Will you be faithful? I dont like this?
Finally dont leave your God. |
