The survival bias is just too much here

relationship can go south no matter who decides to love you

a woman can love a man and the relationship can go south anytime

a man loves a woman and the relationship can go south too

Nothing is guarantee, love infact isnt guarantee even if the female likes the man

what i see in this thread is people ignoring facts and choosing what they think relationship is suppose to be.

Jewessgratitude:


Its a lie. Women know what they want or have you been in our circle before to really know what we want?

Don't let any girl deceive you. There's nothing like looking cheap at the wooing stage where you love a guy truly. No woman will even think of such if she's truly into you at this stage.

The only time a girl that loves you will not want to appear cheap is when you want to sleep with her so early in the relationship or even on your first outing (crazy) then she can say no and that is fin. In that case it doesn't mean she's not into you. They are both different scenarios.

Got that?

Okay Ma.

apatheticme:


That's how you people will flood nairaland with stories everywhere shouting 'Nigerian girls', yet people are getting married to these same Nigerian girls every weekend and are living fine.

Morally bankrupt youths everywhere!


Relationship, fv..ck related topics everyday, no youth or youth forum is talking about entrepreneurship, agrobusiness, solutions to our power issues, renewable energy, education, health etc

The only thing they know is to curse buhari, display stark ignorance on salient issues, bash Nigerian women, talk about fake ass celebs and shout marlians, yet they want governance handed over to them, at this rate how will government take youths serious!

I fear for the upcoming generation!!!

If that's what you looking for then leave the romance section.

Jewessgratitude:


My opinion.
What's your opinion?

Went through your messages specifically... Seems there are droppings of very strong reasonings therein that could be related to my previous "encounter", that remains unexplained.. I'd really wish if you could help clarify something for me off Nairaland. If you really care to help,you can respond to this message..

bigpriik:


If that's what you looking for then leave the romance section.

Sense will soon locate you

abbatoir:
Woman!... what a mysterious creature

Their wonders exceed human comprehension

mickeyenglish:


Went through your messages specifically... Seems there are droppings of very strong reasonings therein that could be related to my previous "encounter", that remains unexplained.. I'd really wish if you could help clarify something for me off Nairaland. If you really care to help,you can respond to this message..

What is it dear?

bigpriik:
Two months ago there is this friend of mine who fell in love with a girl,I warned this my guy earlier about falling in love because women cannot be satisfied ,but as usual they always don't like hearing from me not their fault though they are not on nairaland despite how much I tell them about how educative this site is.my friend loves this girl to stupor and he is this jealous type that can kill for a girl (literally).

Their relationship progressed to two months I wouldn't lie I became jealous of my guy because their love was getting so strong ,in fact it got to point I started feeling bad that I am getting too uptight with women because of the things I read and learn here i was thinking maybe i should loosen up to women a bit so I can find true love like my friend everything isn't always a game. The girls birthday was on the 14 of December which was last week my friend told me the plans he had for the girl he wanted to buy her iPhone Xmas (this is a guy the couldn't lend me money to buy laptop).

Exactly on the 28th of November my friend came home looking so devastated and emotionally down he was even drunk he met me outside and call me to come inside his room on getting there he showed me his girls phone were he saw dirty chats she was having with her ex boyfriend I was shocked to pieces because I never believed she could such a thing,we went ahead to call the guy ,the guy been a guyman like me told us straight up that he was nacking the girl back to back my friend went mad he told my friend not to take the relationship serious that she is only good for fuuckmfuckmate. that day I lost all the trust I had for women , my heart became stronger .thank God I didn't comprise my mindset of women MY friend was depressed for two weeks before moving on .I ave seen my friends babes cheat and lie so .so my point is if a girl so innocent as this girl can do such a thing then the risk is not worth it.

This is What you guys should know about women.

1) A pretty woman doesnot love unless she is very young and unexposed.

2)most men enter relationship plainheartedly but women see relationships as a game so they don't want to loose.

Congratulations!!!! Thank God your friend don finally receive sense, I welcome him to the Red Pill Nation. Tell him to enjoy many pekus as much as he likes but he should make use of CD and seek Spiritual Cleansing always.

donbachi:
Her ex said that to make ur friend dislike and see her as a cheat..to enable him have her all to himself and u guys fell for it.

no reasonable will even be in contact with her ex unless a kid is involved but here a girl is chatting dirty with her ex and this is what came out of your brain

Jewessgratitude:


Yeah.. Well like I said, not all girls will agree to date you if they dont like you but some will cause they'll prolly just want that man figure in their life. So they give in.

As for me, I can't do it. In fact, ive been without a guy for 6 to 8 years and that was before I met the last one I finally fell in love with. It didn't take him more than a day to woo me as compared to those who were trying all through the eight years I was without a relationship. So that is why I know you can't force it. No matter how nice the guy is. And now 3years after my last relationship, I've been without a man. like seriously .... I can't date or court for courting sakes. I must love that fellow. So no matter how long it will take me to find that someone, I'll rather wait than lead a man on, knowing fully well that I'm not into him 100%.
If you have tasted/felt true love, you'll know its worth it than being with someone you dont feel a thing for

Its just our little secrets I'm letting out.

Thanks dear, after my last encounter I listens to first my heart, then the gals body language before considering being just friend. I cannot hurt myself again sake of love that don't exist..

Jozzy4:


So sorry about that BRO, but truth be told some guys caused it . ( I don't mean in your case too ) , No matter how she gave the signs of non interest, they will never back off, They will impress her with cash, more cash and more cash and gift, since she is human , she may give in to the temptation to get those gifts and cash since she also HAVE her personal expenses to deal with . And agree out of pity and selfish gain.

But trust me, her heart isn't there

Yes I caused it. I saw all those red light but chose to ignore them. I started taking her out. My anger is dat she accepted on the day I hv made up my mind never to disturb her again and I asked her not to accept me out of pity but she said she truly loved me but on separation day she said it was out of pity..

slizzyb:


Yes I caused it. I saw all those red light but chose to ignore them. I started taking her out. My anger is dat she accepted on the day I hv made up my mind never to disturb her again and I asked her not to accept me out of pity but she said she truly loved me but on separation day she said it was out of pity..

So sorry bro, that's the sad reality, Some of these ladies compromise their standards and involve pity due to MATERIAL GAINS .

She faked it all because your taking her out she knows will bring some nice time .

Too bad, But I very much believe you have learned from the experience , You are now wiser .

Jozzy4:


So sorry bro, that's the sad reality, Some of these ladies compromise their standards and involve pity due to MATERIAL GAINS .

She faked it all because your taking her out she knows will bring some nice time .

Too bad, But I very much believe you have learned from the experience , You are now wiser .

Thanks, am wiser now

That is y I don't check phones; you will always see what you are looking for.

Khalidase83:
That is y I don't check phones; you will always see what you are looking for.

so you prefer been kept in the dark abi? And not know what your partner is doing!! Lemme tell you a story!
I had an ex that i was in a serious relationship with. She knows it was a serious relationship because i was already started making plans with her! Guess what! I hacked her Instagram account and i discovered she was having sex with a guy in her lodge. It happened over 4 times.
I confronted her and she confessed! She begged for forgiveness but I dumped her sorry ass! What If I didn’t check Her Instagram?? That’s how I would never had know and it would have even continued in Marriage because once a cheat always a cheat

Jewessgratitude:


The problem with guys/men is they don't know when a woman loves them. They just force themselves until the lady ( not all though) out pity agrees to date them. That is why she can easily go back to her ex or another guy without her conscience pricking her.

My advice to guys. When chiking a lady and she keeps posting you saying I'll think about it, give me some time, shes doesn't love you and peradventure she eventually agrees to date you due to pressure, her mind will not be 100% with you as she'll still be on the look out for that man she truly loves or that can occupy that place in her heart.
A lady who loves you will agree to your advances immediately. So take note to avoid stories that touch the heart.

Una too dey rush person.�

God best you for this talk....like Ubanja said let a woman choose you first. When she does she makes everything easier for you.

weddman:


God best you for this talk....like Ubanja said let a woman choose you first. When she does she makes everything easier for you.

If a girl does not love you then keep her for sex and remove your mind from loving her,there are no rules in life I once fell in love with a girl I have been with this girl for over a year I felt nothing for her but immediately she left I started having feelings for her a girl may not like you at first but may later fall in love with you .

ojuu4u:
If OP truly harden his heart as he claimed,he may not get good wife, or have a loveless marriage,

as someone posted above, soooooooooo many guys pressurized ladies into relationships and this is one of outcomes, when a woman triply falls in love with you, nobody will tell you, the love will be written all over her body,
one thing I noticed about women hearts unlike men, the woman heart is fragile and can occupy one love at a time, meanwhile on many occasions those that they love are not always reciprocate, this gives room for dating another guy who has her time in wish she doesn't love



Guys do not try to buy love from women, given them expensive gift doesn't guaranteed she will love u alone

How do u tell if a girl is triply in love with or falls in love with you

youngking22:
please who else saw the iPhone Xmas

what version of iphone is this .

Madlov3:
so you prefer been kept in the dark abi? And not know what your partner is doing!! Lemme tell you a story!
I had an ex that i was in a serious relationship with. She knows it was a serious relationship because i was already started making plans with her! Guess what! I hacked her Instagram account and i discovered she was having sex with a guy in her lodge. It happened over 4 times.
I confronted her and she confessed! She begged for forgiveness but I dumped her sorry ass! What If I didn’t check Her Instagram?? That’s how I would never had know and it would have even continued in Marriage because once a cheat always a cheat

Same here bro. Mine was sleeping wit a married man. U must check oo for anyone u wanna marry to avoid stories that touch in marriage.
These girls are the same. Do yours n leave for d next person.

bigpriik:
Two months ago there is this friend of mine who fell in love with a girl,I warned this my guy earlier about falling in love because women cannot be satisfied ,but as usual they always don't like hearing from me not their fault though they are not on nairaland despite how much I tell them about how educative this site is.my friend loves this girl to stupor and he is this jealous type that can kill for a girl (literally).

Their relationship progressed to two months I wouldn't lie I became jealous of my guy because their love was getting so strong ,in fact it got to point I started feeling bad that I am getting too uptight with women because of the things I read and learn here i was thinking maybe i should loosen up to women a bit so I can find true love like my friend everything isn't always a game.the girls birthday was on the 14 of December which was last week my friend told me the plans he had for the girl he wanted to buy her iPhone Xmas (this is a guy the couldn't lend me money to buy laptop).

Exactly on the 28th of November my friend came home looking so devasted and emotionally down he was even drunk he met me outside and call me to come inside his room on getting there he showed me his girls phone were he saw dirty chats she was having with her ex boyfriend I was shocked to pieces because I never believed she could such a thing,we went ahead to call the guy ,the guy been a guyman like me told us straight up that he was nacking the girl back to back my friend went mad he told my friend not to take the relationship serious that she is only good for fuuckmfuckmate.that day I lost all the trust I had for women , my heart became stronger .thank God I didn't comprise my mindset of women MY friend was depressed for two weeks before moving on .I ave seen my friends babes cheat and lie so .so my point is if a girl so innocent as this girl can do such a thing then the risk is not worth it.

This is What you guys should know about women.

1) A pretty woman doesnot love unless she is very young and unexposed.

2)most men enter relationship plainheartedly but women see relationships as a game so they don't want to loose.

Rekhina see your life

cruzydal:

Oga I’ve been in this kinda situation before . My ex didn’t have up to 10 contacts on her phone . She loved me so much .as I left she started fucking her ex .:she even brought him to stay in the house I rented for her . I didn’t believe it when people told me . Cause she clears chats . I had to take the guys phone and read chats . I wanted to run mad . I didn’t sleep for 3 days . U see women eh forget dem . They are almost the same .

Iloveu2:


Rekhina see your life

Anumanu mention me again ,n know y they call me generalqueen

Rekhina:
Anumanu mention me again ,n know y they call me generalqueen

Rekhina! Rekhina! Rekhina!

donbachi:
Her ex said that to make ur friend dislike and see her as a cheat..to enable him have her all to himself and u guys fell for it.

No b scam o.. Things my eyes saw only yesterday,go make me blve op story,aside my knowledge about our present day girls before.. Never make a mistake of trusting a girl.. Person when me i know his girl friend.. He even told me ,they will get married by march next year..
She was walking out of a hotel with a married man (concrete womanizer ) yesterday.. She saw me and was jerking Wetin concern me with her (My thought) I already warned the lover boy aka boyfriend before,he never listened. He is about marrying a cheat unknown to him. Guys please be very careful.. Girls don cast ,Out of 10,to find one good one na hard pass jamb of those days..

apatheticme:


That's how you people will flood nairaland with stories everywhere shouting 'Nigerian girls', yet people are getting married to these same Nigerian girls every weekend and are living fine.

Morally bankrupt youths everywhere!


Relationship, fv..ck related topics everyday, no youth or youth forum is talking about entrepreneurship, agrobusiness, solutions to our power issues, renewable energy, education, health etc

The only thing they know is to curse buhari, display stark ignorance on salient issues, bash Nigerian women, talk about fake ass celebs and shout marlians, yet they want governance handed over to them, at this rate how will government take youths serious!

I fear for the upcoming generation!!!

Thanks for the wake up call.

Wow. Nigerian men are worryingly wicked and negative-minded. Even when women try to give them clues they can't open their brains and appreciate it. It is very sad. Why and how did they become like this?

Powersurge:
I believe your friend is still in his early 20s? He needed some personal growing up of his own. iPhone X for a relationship that was less than 2 months? He was been led by emotion. And emotion could lead one to his early grave.




For you OP, yes, there is a hoe in every woman as there is a cheat in every man (control makes the difference), but if you continue with the mindset of no woman worths it, you might miss that very important one. Give everybody opportunity to fail themselves first. But while doing that, don't be like your friend that allowed emotion to lead the way.

I have gotten to a level that VERY FEW things surprise me. This is helping me to live a life, independent of what the other person does (if s/he finally fail herself).

wise one