MOnkeyBabe:
but JeSus ChRist placed a high PRemium on himself )( yet he offered his life to Save people who treated him like CRaP. He said father,"foRGive them for they do not know what they do".

Eberechi24:


Women are not dummies as being projected on this forum. Just like you and l,other women equally spend their time on those threads.

I am glad we are on same page.

They should keep providing us with free resources. What do women know? Nothing. We are dummies. Lol.

Geeman23:
golden comment.

Amanda4life:



Its a difficult one.

A woman can learn to love.
But a man can never
.


It can only happen by bad condition of life.

Thats why you see some men take chill when they lack money or hit by serious sickness. But once they are off it, their true self will reflect.

franchasng:
This is the end of this thread.


Toks2008 you have said it all, don't add or remove.


Ladies listen to what he said. Don't be fooled by men claiming to love you, the saddest truth remains that men don't love, men are not created to love emotionally like women, they only lust for what they see, and like toks said, when that sexual attraction they saw in a lady and fell for her fades away, they carry on with tolerating her based on other good non-romantic and non-sexual qualities she has and this is what keeps married men going with their wives.



A lot of guys will come here to tell you how they love their girlfriend, how they love their wife, how they are different men, but the truth is they don't know who they are and they cannot even distinguish between love and lust and tolerance, e no concern me


Guys should never waste time or resources on a girl that proves stubborn for them. Once a girl says no to you, leave her, she doesn't naturally like u, she is trying to find a reason to accept u out of sympathy. Don't accept a sympathy relationship.


If a lady likes u, she will fall for you immediately.


I am not proud of what I want to say, but to educate other guys, I will say it here.


I dated more than 100 girls (black, white, Asian, etc), both broke girls, poor girls, girls from rich family, working class earning big, just name it....and I learnt a lot in those period which helped to shape my understanding about women as a whole.

Women are irrational beings. They chose men to love, being caring and generous to a woman will never make her love u romantically, u are wasting your time. The guy she picks to love can be an armed robber, a drug addict, a killer, she will still love her and be working to help him change which never happens and reason lots of ladies get burnt a lot in dating and marriage.

Men are rational, they gravitate towards ladies that value them when they want to marry, they don't wait till they feel butterflies, they marry the lady with the best rational qualities they want but not same with ladies unless they are too old, unattractive and marrying out of fear or pressure to escape menopause.


A lady will know you don't treat her well, she sees the red flag but she is still madly in love with you, it's not their fault, it's how they are built by nature to be irrational and to be more of emotional beings.


What you wrote is easier for men to practice than for ladies cos ladies fall for a man based on emotional and irrational reasons while men fall for a lady based on sex appeal and during marriage they pick a spouse based on rational qualities not just sex appeal

MOnkeyBabe:


FRanChas O. She will still love her QiOQioWiO.
I laugh.how you Dey?

franchasng:
I de fine the monkey babygirlll

Eberechi24:


Being on this forum should teach you a lot. Many threads on this forum may be projected against women but there is bright side of it.

I recommend every woman to read Miseducation by Ubunjà esp the one's written for men and Dating drills by Harddoón You may not enjoy what you read but it's gonna help you guard yourself (heart)

Sometimes, you need read what you should know and not what you want to hear. Just like this thread. This thread is "undebateable" true.

Walemi1:
Do we intentionally fall in love? I don't think so cos I believe falling in love just happens naturally taking us unawares.
When it comes to choosing a life partner, I don't think love alone is enough cos they re times in marriage u find out that ur spouse dt once made ur heart throb no more causes dt effect. This means sth else takes over which I really can't say so u have to consider things all round and not jux love though it's part of it.
But what I see as most important is what God says about u two cos He sees beyond the physical eyes into ur destinies nd future.

XwhY:


What's the title of the book sir?

One secret ladies don't know is that they can develop feelings for any guy who truly desires them and treats them like a queen even if that guy is totally opposite of what they want in terms of physical looks...it is a mystery so put your feelings on hold and observe keenly then give your feelings to a guy that is deserving of it.

@ the bolded is not true cos ive tried severally to develop feelings for one or two good guys I felt would make a perfect spouse but it just didn't click. And it took me years trying to see if there's a way I can build the love for these guys, or feel something for them but same same.
You can't really force this feelings or develop it yourself, it won't work. This things happen naturally and if it not there, it not there. That is why most marriages are having problems today because you have people advising you saying, " you can build love, love grows in marriage, just marry the man first and love will come later" jaggons. If it actually works like that, then it would have happened for me when I tried forcing it for those guys I talked about earlier.

Feeling is something you can't control. That is why when you feel something for someone, you can't control how fast it grows until it reaches a peak where it becomes a threat. Likewise you dont have the power to control your feelings and make it grow for someone it doesn't click with. It's a natural phenomenon beyond every living being.

Please let not be misguided.
I believe in true love with genuine feelings and that is what covers all sins. As in no matter what the person does to you, you still want to be with them.

It took me 4 years after my ex to fall in love again. And this new guy is a Nairalander. Yes! And this happened within a few weeks. But we had a little misunderstanding and I was heartbroken to which I confided in a guy here about how I felt. So he asked me, how long have I dated this new guy that the love hurts so badly. I told him just a few weeks and he went wow! Like is it not too early to love so deeply?
Now I didn't realized that my feelings had grown so fast and so deep for this guy until he mentioned it and I paused to think but realized its not my fault! Its how nature works and we can't control these things.

Johnsinia:
All this ladies shouting foolishly I can't control my feelings blablabla... I have seen so many of them in Facebook in their 35, 40, and above begging for relationship. They are no more talking about feelings, money or any other thing... Life will teach you a bitter lesson if you can't control your feelings and be logical, yes, am talking to these young ladies here that still have the opportunity to correct their mistake and stupid feelings now before they reaches the point of no return as those women in Facebook

franchasng:
Bra trust me, you are missing her pussy and maybe her extra loyalty to your kingdom not love.


Men don't love romantically, the earlier you guys realize this the better.


The problem is men don't even know that they are not created to love emotionally, so they end up mistaken lust and want as love.

What is paining you is the let down. If you are a guy that have dated so many ladies and you have always been the one dumping ladies and walking out of a relationship directly or indirectly, when a girl walks out of a relationship with you or dump you, you will feel so much pain and you may mistake that emotional trauma as love, but not knowing it is a feeling of let down, a feeling of shattered male ego of being dumped by a girl.


It has nothing to do with love.



The only group of males that have something close to romantic love are teenage boys with no sexual experience or encounter. Those are the only group of male specie that have something close to romantic love for females.

franchasng:
Bra trust me, you are missing her pussy and maybe her extra loyalty to your kingdom not love.


Men don't love romantically, the earlier you guys realize this the better.


The problem is men don't even know that they are not created to love emotionally, so they end up mistaken lust and want as love.

What is paining you is the let down. If you are a guy that have dated so many ladies and you have always been the one dumping ladies and walking out of a relationship directly or indirectly, when a girl walks out of a relationship with you or dump you, you will feel so much pain and you may mistake that emotional trauma as love, but not knowing it is a feeling of let down, a feeling of shattered male ego of being dumped by a girl.


It has nothing to do with love.



The only group of males that have something close to romantic love are teenage boys with no sexual experience or encounter. Those are the only group of male specie that have something close to romantic love for females.

franchasng:
You know one thing about life is, no matter what, there must be people who sees things from a different angle from you, even if their angle is a false and dangerous angles, so don't fret about it bra

bukatyne:
People should develop a healthy self esteem so they naturally gravitate towards people who treat them with the premium they have placed on themselves.

I also doubt that people geniuely fall in love plenty times in their lives. Most people lost the person they truly loved when they were younger.

Someone once said men don't marry who they live, they marry who is available.(this is very debatable).

The more people you enter a relationship or give your heart to, the less love or relationship is sacred to you.

The less premium you place on yourself, the easier it is to stay with people who treat you like crap.

Toks2008:


As long as you appeal to them sexually they will always desire(love you) but if you don't, they can only tolerate you.

Amanda4life:


Yes only the matured and very rare young ladies.

This job should mostly be done by a parents at younger age.

Once you don't hide anything from your female child at early stage of her life before she goes into TEENS.
If you can capture her mind and make her sew the world of love differently, she will grow to be different from her peers


But most parents may feel its too early or may not really have time for such

If you fail to do this , it means that you are leaving that child to be taught by life experience s, which may not be good at all.
Some, as a result may become feminist, while some may not live to tell their stories.

Not good for a woman to date many men before getting married

This was making sense until here...