So there was a thread yesterday night n the OP was complaining about women demanding for men , he said prostitution is okay n porn stars is okay , but women who demand from their boyfriends r the immortal people ( makes no sense ofcourse) a lady made some valid agrument against it , n emphasis on men doing the needful for their wives and girlfriend , and women also being summissive to them , which to me is absolutely correct, well men attacked her for simple agreeing that ofcourse women deserve to be treated as queens. Which is normal in this platform

My point : Men just showed me that they r very confused with what they went , you want a woman to share bills with you n expect her to be submissive at the same time ? That’s impossible and that’s the reason a lot of marriages are not working . If u want submissiveness be a MAN , the way God Sa’id it n till the soil. Don’t look for a woman to share bills with u n think u can tell her what to do , it will never work .

And trust me no woman wants a man feeling entitled to her money, in other to make ur home function , cause it’s ur home , they r all answering ur surname ,

if u feel sharing bills or hving a woman who can take care of herself with out ur input is what u want , don’t complain when she feels she’s can make decisions in the home without ur input . No matter how much ur woman make , she is ur responsibility, she’s only there to help when things r tough .

Ps : date ur kind of woman , if a woman is demanding leave her alone n stop complaining to us , if u don’t spend , another man will spend.

I quite agree with you. Most men simply say what they say to bash ladies. Whatever side you take as a woman here they will bash you. My advice is just know what's best for you and go for it. Make sure the man has the same values as you and you are good to go.
Men have turned the word submission to mean that a woman has no say as long as that's what the man wants.

Men are not confused,just dat they are dealing with some confused women.

I admire your observations op. I have these few points to say;

Your opinion is pertinent to you and does not work for every home. Forget about the general societal belief and focus on what works for you.

Sharing responsibility with your man is not unfair biblically and legally. Helpmeet means you're to help him in his endeavors of your interest and the children and d Bible did not say your submission should reduce accordingly cus you're a helpmeet.

"Husband love your wife" and "wives submit to your husband" has no conditions whatsoever attached to it in the Bible. Its simply a command. Your wife might be stubborn, you're expected to love her in obedience to God's command. Your husband might be stubborn, you're expected to submit to him in obedience to God's command

That is why compatibility is important than religious beliefs in marriage. Marry someone who knows your financial, emotional, characteristic strength and weaknesses, then the love ur wife n submit to husband Bible verses won't even be mentioned often bcus your living together is already peaceful.

On the basis of compatibility, the wife might be richer and yet claims to be submissive. It will work for her cus she married a man who's compatible with his wife richer than him and not because she submits. Because without compatibility most African men would not cope with a richer woman no matter the emphasis on submission.

Being a helpmeet to ur man doesn't cancel d submission aspect. However if the man is unrealistic and unreasonable, the woman has the right to take necessary steps on financial grounds for the interest of herself and the children. In other words other aspect where submission is required need not suffer unless when necessary.

DominusPrime:
I quite agree with you. Most men simply say what they say to bash ladies. Whatever side you take as a woman here they will bash you. My advice is just know what's best for you and go for it. Make sure the man has the same values as you and you are good to go.
Men have turned the word submission to mean that a woman has no say as long as that's what the man wants.

exactly thanks

donbachi:
Men are not confused,just dat they are dealing with some confused women.

really ? How

Liliantalks:
So there was a thread yesterday night n the OP was complaining about women demanding for men , he said prostitution is okay n porn stars is okay , but women who demand from their boyfriends r the immortal people ( makes no sense ofcourse) a lady made some valid agrument against it , n emphasis on men doing the needful for their wives and girlfriend , and women also being summissive to them , which to me is absolutely correct, well men attacked her for simple agreeing that ofcourse women deserve to be treated as queens. Which is normal in this platform

My point : Men just showed me that they r very confused with what they went , you want a woman to share bills with you n expect her to be submissive at the same time ? That’s impossible and that’s the reason a lot of marriages are not working . If u want submissiveness be a MAN , the way God Sa’id it n till the soil. Don’t look for a woman to share bills with u n think u can tell her what to do , it will never work .

And trust me no woman wants a man feeling entitled to her money, in other to make ur home function , cause it’s ur home , they r all answering ur surname ,

if u feel sharing bills or hving a woman who can take care of herself with out ur input is what u want , don’t complain when she feels she’s can make decisions in the home without ur input . No matter how much ur woman make , she is ur responsibility, she’s only there to help when things r tough .

Ps : date ur kind of woman , if a woman is demanding leave her alone n stop complaining to us , if u don’t spend , another man will spend.

The bolded is part of the reason we're having more entrants into Shiloh yearly

BTW, men are becoming wise. Single men I mean. That's why married men are the new sexy for leeches

Hmmm...


The two contradicting threads just proved that both men and women are confused.

Not all men want 'submissive' women. I don't even know what that means. This of us who believe that marriage is partnership cannot be talking about submission. Equality all the way.


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Liliantalks:
So there was a thread yesterday night n the OP was complaining about women demanding for men , he said prostitution is okay n porn stars is okay , but women who demand from their boyfriends r the immortal people ( makes no sense ofcourse) a lady made some valid agrument against it , n emphasis on men doing the needful for their wives and girlfriend , and women also being summissive to them , which to me is absolutely correct, well men attacked her for simple agreeing that ofcourse women deserve to be treated as queens. Which is normal in this platform

My point : Men just showed me that they r very confused with what they went , you want a woman to share bills with you n expect her to be submissive at the same time ? That’s impossible and that’s the reason a lot of marriages are not working . If u want submissiveness be a MAN , the way God Sa’id it n till the soil. Don’t look for a woman to share bills with u n think u can tell her what to do , it will never work .

And trust me no woman wants a man feeling entitled to her money, in other to make ur home function , cause it’s ur home , they r all answering ur surname ,

if u feel sharing bills or hving a woman who can take care of herself with out ur input is what u want , don’t complain when she feels she’s can make decisions in the home without ur input . No matter how much ur woman make , she is ur responsibility, she’s only there to help when things r tough .

Ps : date ur kind of woman , if a woman is demanding leave her alone n stop complaining to us , if u don’t spend , another man will spend.

Dis days Nigeria as a country is one of d poorest and hardest country 4 guys wit out connection 2 survive on a daily basis so dating or trying 2 marry a idle women will only make matas worst and i think d guy is goin 2 die of hardship and if check d stat nowadays u will see dat 9ja men don't last long most especially d people from d east

Samakus:




The bolded is part of the reason we're having more entrants into Shiloh yearly

BTW, men are becoming wise. Single men I mean. That's why married men are the new sexy for leeches

because men r too lazy to work ,, women rather become side chicks to married men which is very sad !! There r still men out there spending hell for their ladies .

Stop looking for women to feed you n expect submission

cooooooks:
Not all men want 'submissive' women. I don't even know what that means. This of us who believe that marriage is partnership cannot be talking about submission. Equality all the way.


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then I respect u greatly

Bluezy13:
Hmmm...


The two contradicting threads just proved that both men and women are confused.

how ?

josen16322:
Dis days Nigeria as a country is one of d poorest and hardest country 4 guys wit out connection 2 survive on a daily basis so dating or trying 2 marry a idle women will only make matas worst and i think d guy is goin 2 die of hardship and if check d stat nowadays u will see dat 9ja men don't last long most especially d people from d east

if u see a woman willing to support fine but thats until u get ur shit together

DominusPrime:
I quite agree with you. Most men simply say what they say to bash ladies. Whatever side you take as a woman here they will bash you. My advice is just know what's best for you and go for it. Make sure the man has the same values as you and you are good to go.
Men have turned the word submission to mean that a woman has no say as long as that's what the man wants.

but that is what submission actually mean; a man should have the final say

Being submissive is relative, I believe.
First off, if I love my wife with my heart, I wouldn't need her financial contributions, unless she does, willingly. But if I married her with my head (logical reasoning), she must be ready to go Dutch.
My wife being submissive doesn't mean I won't do house chores or run errands for her.
It won't mean her opinion won't count during discussions.
Being submissive can be said to mean RESPECTFUL.
As a lady, you can still be submissive and contribute to the family.
Being Submissive is not the same as being oppressed

Liliantalks:
really ? How

men dey speak english,dem dey speak Chinese...men no fit understand dem.

NockMedia:
Being submissive is relative, I believe.
First off, if I love my wife with my heart, I wouldn't need her financial contributions, unless she does, willingly. But if I married her with my head (logical reasoning), she must be ready to go Dutch.
My wife being submissive doesn't mean I won't do house chores or run errands for her.
It won't mean her opinion won't count during discussions.
Being submissive can be said to mean RESPECTFUL.
As a lady, you can still be submissive and contribute to the family.
Being Submissive is not the same as being oppressed

only 2% of women r ready to respect /submit to a man as they rightly should while paying some bills .

They're are plenty Nigerian men who think this way. We full ground.

Liliantalks:
then I respect u greatly

Liliantalks:
because men r too lazy to work ,, women rather become side chicks to married men which is very sad !! There r still men out there spending hell for their ladies .

Stop looking for women to feed you n expect submission

the married men are not men?

of what use is your submission?

will I take submission to the bank?

Lostz:


the married men are not men?

of what use is your submission?

will I take submission to the bank?

when I say men I mean single men , married men r in another side.

I don’t know of what use it is, Ask men

Liliantalks:
because men r too lazy to work ,, women rather become side chicks to married men which is very sad !! There r still men out there spending hell for their ladies .

Stop looking for women to feed you n expect submission

Keep talking! . Relationships are not poverty alleviation programme my dear! As a girl, you will do yourself a world of good getting something doing and having money to pay your bills at least until you marry. A single girl, depending on men for her sustenance is not fashionable anymore. It doesn't pay them anymore sef. Go to RantHQ and other online platforms and see how ladies are complaining of stingy single guys. NNE, Boys don dey wise up

I will only have my wife and family to fend and provide for. Until you become one, don't expect much from me.

Newsflash! Even without 'spending hell' for them, they still flock around me. . We now know the secret

OK bye

It's rubbish like this that leads some women to equate expense with love.

Some girls think marriage should be 50-50 but when they hear men and women saying your man must spend to show her lives you, they have to adapt to our sick society.

NockMedia:
Being submissive is relative, I believe.
First off, if I love my wife with my heart, I wouldn't need her financial contributions, unless she does, willingly. But if I married her with my head (logical reasoning), she must be ready to go Dutch.
My wife being submissive doesn't mean I won't do house chores or run errands for her.
It won't mean her opinion won't count during discussions.
Being submissive can be said to mean RESPECTFUL.
As a lady, you can still be submissive and contribute to the family.
Being Submissive is not the same as being oppressed

Liliantalks:
when I say men I mean single men , married men r in another side.

I don’t know if what use it is , Ask men

men now prefer your money.

no one want to die early from too much hardwork

I don't believe your brags.

Furthermore, runs is still a major thing in our country.

She's very right.

Samakus:


Keep talking! . Relationships are not poverty alleviation programme my dear! As a girl, you will do yourself a world of good getting something doing and having money to pay your bills at least until you marry. A single girl, depending on men for her sustenance is not fashionable anymore. It doesn't pay them anymore sef. Go to RantHQ and other online platforms and see how ladies are complaining of stingy single guys. NNE, Boys don dey wise up

I will only have my wife and family to fend and provide for. Until you become one, don't expect much from me.

Newsflash! Even without 'spending hell' for them, they still flock around me. . We now know the secret

OK bye

Samakus:


Keep talking! . Relationships are not poverty alleviation programme my dear! As a girl, you will do yourself a world of good getting something doing and having money to pay your bills at least until you marry. A single girl, depending on men for her sustenance is not fashionable anymore. It doesn't pay them anymore sef. Go to RantHQ and other online platforms and see how ladies are complaining of stingy single guys. NNE, Boys don dey wise up

I will only have my wife and family to fend and provide for. Until you become one, don't expect much from me.

Newsflash! Even without 'spending hell' for them, they still flock around me. . We now know the secret

OK bye

there r women who care about men spending n there r women who don’t! So u take ur pick It’s always good to hv a source of income but not to give a man .

Liliantalks:
only 2% of women r ready to be respect /submit to a man as they rightly should while paying some bills .

Well I guess my values only align with that of the 2%.
How sad. It's one of the reasons the 98% of women don't marry early, these days.
Feminism needs moderation or it is going to become extremism. Imagine being an extremist feminist, as a lady.
Most Men won't want to marry you, for sure.

NockMedia:


Well I guess my values only align with that of the 2%.
How sad. It's one of the reasons the 98% of women don't marry early, these days.
Feminism needs moderation or it is going to become extremism. Imagine being an extremist feminist, as a lady.
Most Men won't want to marry you, for sure.

yeah those ladies r most times lesbians , hv toys or hv a toy boy . They r fine with or without men

Just hope those 2% don’t get swept away from u by a better man tho

cooooooks:
It's rubbish like this that leads some women to equate expense with love.

Some girls think marriage should be 50-50 but when they hear men and women saying your man must spend to show her lives you, they have to adapt to our sick society.

You have a point, my friend. But you see, in a society like ours, the men are the chief breadwinners...so you can't fault the opposite sex

Lostz:


men now prefer your money.

no one want to die early from too much hardwork

okay kudos

Liliantalks:
yeah those ladies r most times lesbians , hv toys or hv a toy boy . They r fine with or without men

Just hope those 2% don’t get swept away from u by a better man tho

LOL there is enough to go round

@Liliantalks not every guys in dis hardship country can put their shit 2gether wit out some one helping dem 4 instance look at me i always tot i can make it by myself but i was fukin wrong even my mom told me not 2 date any idle women 4real except love don shark me