Liliantalks:
not respecting ur husband is wrong! But if they hv kids he needs to take care of them and more so we don’t know the full story

even the elderly kids always gang-up with their mother. they always believe the man is cheating.


women actually own the kids more. the man can leave any time. more reason you should do everything to keep your home happy

Lostz:


the woman is even somehow related to me but I don't blame the man.

he work all day but she don't even respect. the woman spend her money on dressing and makeup.

the man got tired of having to work for people who don't deserve.

he now look happy and healthy with the new woman. I am happy for him as he is a friend

She's not a wise woman

Liliantalks:
dreamland? How ? I am above 22 , n I know u indirectly mean men r starce , so u hv to go with anything , all the name of hving a man

I hv an aunt friend that got married at 39 to a government school teacher , mean while she is a big time lecturer in a federal university, just because she wanted a husband, well she’s cheating around with richer men , everything in their house belongs to her n her husband does less than 50% in the house . The man can’t tell her nothing , she’s not even happy in the marriage , I hv learnt a big lesson from her n I won’t marry any man because I got desperate

If you're my girl, you go calm down I swear . All these gra gra, no dey move me. That one wey u get, u go bring am out, begin use am on yourself. No give me o, just take care of your main needs, and I will foot the ones I can occasionally.


And you go still love me scatter . I can only take full responsibility of providing for a lady I have married. Shikena

SweetCunt97:
She's not a wise woman

the man did not even attend court proceedings when she filed for divorce. now she use every opportunity to talk how he ran away forgetting that she made the house unlivable for him.


a woman should do everything to keep the home together because technically ,she own the home.

SweetCunt97:
It's all good.

That's my baby girl! How's the lockdown for ya?

Lostz:


even the elderly kids always gang-up with their mother. they always believe the man is cheating.


women actually own the kids more. the man can leave any time. more reason you should do everything to keep your home happy

they werent wrong after all

Liliantalks:
they werent wrong after all

I don't know if he was cheating but he told me that he started a relationship with the new woman after feeling unloved by his wife.

the man left the woman to her home

Lostz:


I don't know if he was cheating but he told me that he started a relationship with the new woman after feeling unloved by his wife.

the man left the woman to her home

Na zo they will always find a reason to blame the woman for their irresponsiblity

Lostz:


I don't know if he was cheating but he told me that he started a relationship with the new woman after feeling unloved by his wife.

the man left the woman to her home

Na so they will always find a reason to blame the woman for their irresponsiblityh

Lostz:



the man did not even attend court proceedings when she filed for divorce. now she use every opportunity to talk how he ran away forgetting that she made the house unlivable for him.


a woman should do everything to keep the home together because technically ,she own the home.

True.

I no one know o, but dem never born my future wife well make she no dey submissive to me.. as in my decision would always overshadow hers.. although I would always give her a say, cos sometimes her reasoning might be better.. also, if I'm making 1 million monthly, she must not be making less down 400k.. I would always contribute 80 , she go contribute 20..I go respect her but she is my property, so I have total dominion over her..

Liliantalks:
Na so they will always find a reason to blame the woman for their irresponsiblityh

it is not about blaming her.

a wise woman will protect her home

SweetCunt97:
True.

I always pity women who think the man own the home

Men are not confused,just dat they are dealing with some confused women.

Liliantalks:
really ? How

Really? How? Hmmn, just say u are confused & prove Donbachi right.

Liliantalks:
in the situation where u take a woman from Nigeria to America, make her balance, even send her to nursing school n now she’s done u expect her to share bills with you as an africian woman , even b4 she finished she used her per time job to also help out. Knowing she’s a woman of her own with so much rights , n u think the Africian I am the head will stand ? For where, she can do n undo n careless

It is allowed in the American society. I can't criticize her. But let us return back to Nigeria, she will know the drill

@efosky,but I'm not complaining i just wish & pray dat dis Chinese virus free our country so dat i can start goin back 2 hustle becos wit out making cash my life we be a living hell

In my opinion I think while dating, a guy should do what he thinks is good for him, think about your family first before any girl.

Then before you marry pray and seek God's help for an understanding and fearful woman in the Lord, because no matter what, a woman who will cheat, and be unsubmissive will gladly do that no matter how much you spend on her or don't spend, or how much she makes.

My opinion.

Because some men posted different opinions here or because some men have shown you pepper doesn't mean all men are the same. There are still good and determined men like me. Just open your eyes and see us�

Zabiboy:
Another thread ....
Women are wh0res....
If nor spend, they wuld cheat....if u like spend 10 billion, they wuld still cheat...
So choose the one u can carry FULLSTOP...
Where all dis MOD's sef....make una come close down this thread
Simps Everywhere SMH ....Spits

my broda, men wey dae argue with all dis gals get power o... make we jst dae observe sha

This thread will show you that spending lavishly on girl doesn't keep a leech!

https://www.nairaland.com/5803445/mother-said-she-cant-marry

Samakus:
This thread will show you that spending lavishly on girl doesn't keep a leech!

https://www.nairaland.com/5803445/mother-said-she-cant-marry

so u think cause that happened to one persons , means it will happen to every other man out there ,, don’t waste ur time , u can’t discourage men from taking care of women they want to take care of.

Liliantalks:
so u think cause that happened to one persons , means it will happen to every other man out there ,, don’t waste ur time , u can’t discourage men from taking care of women they want to take care of.

Na students dey do that shit! The money wey dem dey spend no be their own. After graduation and they start making their own money, coupled with the experiences they have gotten, they wise up.

Mugu still dey sha but they're reducing by the day!

Sleep tight

dannex4adx:
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Saintmary:
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Lol lol! try daddy and you won't regret it. ��

all those ladies bothering guys for money should go and meet their boyfriends and sugar daddies for money biko
u have boyfriend and sugar daddy and yet u will be disurbing another innocent guy to buy u iphone

dannex4adx:


Lol lol! try daddy and you won't regret it. ��

Really?

Samakus:



Na students dey do that shit! The money wey dem dey spend no be their own. After graduation and they start making their own money, coupled with the experiences they have gotten, they wise up.

Mugu still dey sha but they're reducing by the day!

Sleep tight

U r not better than guys spending money for their babes

The problem is way too much broke women with no respect.

Liliantalks:
U r not better than guys spending money for their babes

I am!!


If I come after Lily, I will get you. And i won't spend much!! Unfortunately, I don't do long distance paroles.

Stay cute Lily.

I'm out

Saintmary:
Really?

I know you. you are using a female name as a camouflage.

Nice one broad. You get sense mehn!! Your comment covers everything. I think Op should read your comment carefully and digest everything in there. She may then have a change of mind cos what she wrote is below expectation.


I don waka

Oluromantic:
I admire your observations op. I have these few points to say;

Your opinion is pertinent to you and does not work for every home. Forget about the general societal belief and focus on what works for you.

Sharing responsibility with your man is not unfair biblically and legally. Helpmeet means you're to help him in his endeavors of your interest and the children and d Bible did not say your submission should reduce accordingly cus you're a helpmeet.

"Husband love your wife" and "wives submit to your husband" has no conditions whatsoever attached to it in the Bible. Its simply a command. Your wife might be stubborn, you're expected to love her in obedience to God's command. Your husband might be stubborn, you're expected to submit to him in obedience to God's command

That is why compatibility is important than religious beliefs in marriage. Marry someone who knows your financial, emotional, characteristic strength and weaknesses, then the love ur wife n submit to husband Bible verses won't even be mentioned often bcus your living together is already peaceful.

On the basis of compatibility, the wife might be richer and yet claims to be submissive. It will work for her cus she married a man who's compatible with his wife richer than him and not because she submits. Because without compatibility most African men would cope with a richer woman no matter the emphasis on submission.

Being a helpmeet to ur man doesn't cancel d submission aspect. However if the man is unrealistic and unreasonable, the woman has the right to take necessary steps on financial grounds for the interest of herself and the children. In other words other aspect where submission is required need not suffer unless when necessary.

Oluromantic:
I admire your observations op. I have these few points to say;

Your opinion is pertinent to you and does not work for every home. Forget about the general societal belief and focus on what works for you.

Sharing responsibility with your man is not unfair biblically and legally. Helpmeet means you're to help him in his endeavors of your interest and the children and d Bible did not say your submission should reduce accordingly cus you're a helpmeet.

"Husband love your wife" and "wives submit to your husband" has no conditions whatsoever attached to it in the Bible. Its simply a command. Your wife might be stubborn, you're expected to love her in obedience to God's command. Your husband might be stubborn, you're expected to submit to him in obedience to God's command

That is why compatibility is important than religious beliefs in marriage. Marry someone who knows your financial, emotional, characteristic strength and weaknesses, then the love ur wife n submit to husband Bible verses won't even be mentioned often bcus your living together is already peaceful.

On the basis of compatibility, the wife might be richer and yet claims to be submissive. It will work for her cus she married a man who's compatible with his wife richer than him and not because she submits. Because without compatibility most African men would cope with a richer woman no matter the emphasis on submission.

Being a helpmeet to ur man doesn't cancel d submission aspect. However if the man is unrealistic and unreasonable, the woman has the right to take necessary steps on financial grounds for the interest of herself and the children. In other words other aspect where submission is required need not suffer unless when necessary.

only 2% of women will pay house bills n be submissive! That’s plain out fact . Many men r enduring in their marriages Incase u r not aware, the woman does the house chore, care for you and the kids n still pay bills n u expect her to be submissive? Only a few can put themselves that low in other to remain married .n others, the men endure what ever their wives do . That’s reality