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Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 11:18pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
My friend is an event planner/personal manager. She is married with one child and she is very successful in her field. She was given a contract to go oversea and plan a big wedding for a celebrity. However, my friend's husband is old fashioned. He believe that a woman's place is in the HOME and not outside the home. Before they got married she was just a student and her husband was the primary breadwinner. She is now the primary breadwinner because she is making more than him. He doesn't like that and think that she need to take a break. My question to the MEN and the women can answer if they must. Why is THIS SUCH AN ISSUE in an old fashioned relationship? |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by koolchicco: 11:21pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
Take a break? Is he capable of providing for the family if she does? |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 11:22pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
You better cook my steak and get off the computer! |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Mygoldie(f): 11:28pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
lol,men don't like it when a woman earn more than them,it makes them feel inferior and have a low self esteem, and such men go about cheating whilst looking for a woman,of whom they can handle,both in bed and money wise.i actually heard this from my best friend(a guy). |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 11:31pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
Yes, Mygoldie! I was shocked when I heard this was such a problem in a relationship. I am like oh my goodness! I even asked my husband a while back what if I make more than him and have to be away from the home. He actually gave me this lecture about how women are the nurturer and the men are the provider. I asked my brother who is married what if his wife made more money than him how would he feel about that he actually got pissed off. Mind you they are married so what money she bring home is his as well. I do not understand why MOST men feel that a woman making more than a man is the END OF THE WORLD? Married couples share everything so that shouldn't be an issue of who make the most. Should it? |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by koolchicco: 11:38pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima: TBH, It shouldn't be a prob but u knw sometimes its all the women's fault. When they have such financial advantages then they tend to misbehave even more. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by donkennyakademy(m): 12:10am On Jan 25, 2011 |
dat is one of d tins we see in marrage. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MOBO444(f): 12:30am On Jan 25, 2011 |
@ Poster if it becomes an issue you can handle him like this.
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Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by asha80(m): 12:38am On Jan 25, 2011 |
come no be this guy wey grow for ngor okpala street owerri be this?^^^^ at least facially? |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Dsense(m): 1:25am On Jan 25, 2011 |
@MOBO419, Where did you find this kinda pichie OP. It's just that the husband is so jealous ,Doesn't want her up his level . . . . .However not every man thinks in this way! , .I'm sure you know that!!! |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 1:35am On Jan 25, 2011 |
koolchicco: It is always the woman's fault huh? Men do not take accountability for shit huh? Typical. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 1:36am On Jan 25, 2011 |
MOBO444: Mobo, Just come out the closet. We already know you like men boo. It is okay. You might want to watch your back though. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 1:37am On Jan 25, 2011 |
donkennyakademy: Explain please. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Nobody: 1:54am On Jan 25, 2011 |
I have no problem with it. The real question is . . . DOES SHE? To some women, making more money than her man makes slowly (and some quickly) warps her thinking . Yes, to some women SHE has a problem with making more money than her man. She might not think much of it at first, in fact she'll think "I'm such a good woman not rubbing it in my husband's face". But as time goes on and as lovers quarrel over other things as lovers do, she'll start to include this into her thought-process as well as to why she should get her way in an argument. and before you know it, she has lost respect for the man. It typically doesn't happen in a day, neither does it happen in a year, but it does happen in minds of all but the strongest, most understanding and most mature of women. Men know this, this is why they object to it before it gets to that point. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Phate07(m): 2:05am On Jan 25, 2011 |
I definitely wouldn't want my lady to be earning more than me. Definitely not. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 2:06am On Jan 25, 2011 |
Typical AFrican man^^^^ |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Dsense(m): 2:11am On Jan 25, 2011 |
^^^Typical yaba left mental patient |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by ShyOne(f): 2:22am On Jan 25, 2011 |
Well only in the past few days did I find out that my guy makes more money than I do. I was really relieved and happy - because usually I am the top bread winner and it really, really feels good to know that he makes more money. yayyyyyy!! I make good money but he makes more money. I want him to always be the Alpha male in our relationship in word, action and deeds. He is a great guy and very loving. It was still a relief to know that he makes more. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by ShyOne(f): 2:24am On Jan 25, 2011 |
@ mobo - that picture - I have no words. His backside looks feminine - is his backside airbrushed? lolololololol - it looks deformed almost. I would never sleep with a man whose backside was not in proportion with his body. The backside is out of proportion. hahahahaha. Oooooo good grief. You NLers keep me laughing. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Phate07(m): 2:36am On Jan 25, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima: Typical African man's wife. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 2:36am On Jan 25, 2011 |
Hissssssssss! |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 2:38am On Jan 25, 2011 |
I will never let my husband dominate me and if he make more money than me that fine. But as far as me being beneath him. Never. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Phate07(m): 2:46am On Jan 25, 2011 |
Mrs.Chima: Yeah! Until you meet me. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima(f): 2:47am On Jan 25, 2011 |
Why would I meet you? |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Phate07(m): 2:50am On Jan 25, 2011 |
And who wants to meet you? |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Dsense(m): 2:54am On Jan 25, 2011 |
^^^Bros why are you begging for dirty . . . . ? |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Phate07(m): 2:57am On Jan 25, 2011 |
What? Am just sporting with her. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima1(f): 3:08am On Jan 25, 2011 |
You would be surprised who wants to meet me Phate. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Dsense(m): 3:13am On Jan 25, 2011 |
Phate07:Stay away from her . . I have tried her last weekend and her something is very dirty |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by MrsChima1(f): 3:15am On Jan 25, 2011 |
Take your limp arse to bed. |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Dsense(m): 3:56am On Jan 25, 2011 |
Ok ma |
Re: Why Is This Such An Issue In A Relationship? by Phate07(m): 4:02am On Jan 25, 2011 |
You aint got no bed. |
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