Love means jumping off a cliff and trusting that a certain person would be there to catch you at the bottom. Jodi Picoult

Trust, according to the dictionary is a firm belief in the reliability, truth or ability of someone or something. Trust is essential in relationships as good relationships thrive on it.

Trust is creating an enabling environment in which your partner could feel safe with you. It is the confidence that your partner won’t bail out on you in difficult times. It is taking the leap without seeing what is on the other side.

Trust in a relationship are two persons who make the needs of each other a top priority therefore giving your partner a sense of importance and the assurance that you would come through when you are needed.

Trust is to a relationship what oxygen is to us. The quality of a relationship either diminishes or improves based on the degree of trust invested in it. Therefore, if the aim is to forge great relationships, we must be willing to put in the work required. We must come prepared to lay aside our bias, break down the walls, bare our souls and open our hearts.

Without trust, it is all chaos and dysfunction. Everyday is a nightmare because you don’t know what to expect. You literally walk around with an emotional shield that would prevent Iove from blossoming.

Trust is hardwork. Trust is risk too. We may not have all the answers but are willing to give it a shot. Trust grows from our willingness to learn more about our partner. There is no love without trust. I trust you because I trust you and I love you because I trust you.

Words alone do not carry the weight necessary to build, there are other essential building blocks required.

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Here are four ways you can build trust in your relationship.

TRANSPARENCY

Tranparency implies honesty and being able to bring up any issues that concern you knowing your partner will be open and willing to talk about these issues and communicate. It is the willingness to share your day to day details with your partner especially in relevant areas that may cause friction in future.

VULNERABILITY

Vulnerability bridges the gap between two individuals and by it, forms the strongest of bonds. It is the basis of true intimacy and intimacy builds trust. Many of us weren’t taught how to express our feelings. Sometimes we may have let our guard down in the past and got our heartbroken and as a result go through life, guarded, stifled and bottled up. Never saying what you truly feel.

Vulnerability is consciously choosing to NOT hide your emotions or desires from your partner.

That’s it. You willingly express your thoughts, feelings, desires, and opinions regardless of what others might think of you. To share experiences invites your partner to see right into your soul. They can understand what tickles you or drives you off the edge. As a person, to open up to another means you are okay with yourself and can deal with the consequences. You love someone? Say it. Your boundaries were crossed? why not tell your partner? Your emotional needs are not being met? Let them know.

Stop trying to be perfect or look perfect. No one is. Allow your desires to be known. Let your rough edges be seen. Accept the rejection that may come and move ahead. Rejection may seem hard to swallow but nothing is more dreadful than carrying around the extra weight of your emotional shield.

FORGIVENESS

Just because we love someone does not mean they can not unintentionally hurt us. Don’t forget, we are humans. Fallible. Susceptible to mistakes. So it is pertinent we make room in our hearts to Forgive our partner. Don’t let it get in the way of your trust. If you decide to remain in the situation, then we must be willing to lay down the grudges so it doesn’t mess with the process.

SHOW SUPPORT

A person can freely open up to you if you have shown them through your words and actions that you would always have their back no matter what. It is creating a no judgment-free zone and which would draw them closer and give them the emotional pillars to let down their guard. Be willing to communicate and talk things over.

Be Sensitive. Sometimes these moments may come as an outlandish remark or comment, they may be testing the waters in order to weigh your reaction and then you sneer or make some remarks, that is it. Just as a snail recoils back into its shell when poked, they climb back into their emotional fortress.

It may seem like a lot of work to do but that is the point. Good relationships take lots of conscious efforts to build and sustain. If you love your partner. going the extra mile to gain their trust shouldn’t be an issue for you.

When a couple has built a solid partnership on trust, they are free to be their authentic selves. Gaining trust takes time, and trust is a choice. The presence of trust is a fertile ground for relationships to bloom to their full potential. Are you committed?

To trust is not a walk in the park. But when we decide to love someone, we must have faith to trust them to come through for us.

Love is commitment. To be totally devoted to sowing the right seeds into your relationship. To treat your partner with tenderness and care. To place them at your topmost priority. By so doing, trust would happen. Remember you can never fully say you love someone if you don’t trust them.

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In order word trust must be earn and not given cheaply

It is easier to build trust than to maintain it