Please I need advice on this critical issue.
I and my babe have been dating for the past 3 years. I am 30 and she's 28, but she is has been on me for us to settle down. We are both graduates but we can't get a Jobs. I left a teaching job in Lagos that was paying me 30k to relocate to ibadan. But ever since I got to Ibadan getting Job has been very difficult,but my babe keep pressurizing that I find a better Job for us to settle down. In one way or the other, I have been applying for scholarships to study abroad. Please what do I do should I keep searching for jobs for us to settle down or keep working on getting an international scholarship.

First of all get pressure off your life. Pursue your career or a good job that will fetch you enough to start up a family. If she cannot wait till then, let her go Biko. Don't be pushed to early death

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It's understandable why she's mounting a lot of pressure on you...time is no longer on her side

Bro run!
Run as fast as your leg fit!!
Run awhile from her, atleast for now.

Na kuku u go suffer am later. If u like listen to her

Her proposal is not wrong BUT

Get a source of income: if you have a skill now is the time to deploy it so that it fetches you money.

Likewise your babe should get ass busy with a skill she has too so that both of you can raise money and not be overly dependent on the other.

Shoot for better opportunities for job offers or raising cash to start a thriving business, both of you can run it. Scholarship na long shot, I can help you with the contact of my buddy in UK an ex PTDF scholar on how to go about this scholarship thing.

So, have a reliable source of income (job or business), both you should set goals for your selves; she wants marriage (but she should come up with something more than just this) you want to further ur studies, I believe both can still work, you guys just have to plan things out and know what you want and keep fidelity in check, but settle money issue first.

it always end in tears
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She's pressurizing you cos age isn't on her side. If you ditch her it's going to take a while before she can find a guy who will commit to her like you did, and that will be crossing into the age bracket that scares most single ladies a lot...her thirties.

You on the other hand needs finances to start and maintain a family. Marriage is money, family is money. No matter how a girl professes her love for you, once finance becomes a rate commodity in that marriage, her love will fly out through the window.

So get a job, this one you left Lagos and came to ibadan, to me there are much better job opportunities in Lagos than ibadan. Keep trying, and continue to be prayerful. God will grant you your heart desires.

And you shouldn't be the only one hunting for a job, encourage her to put in more efforts as well since she herself is a graduate.

Good luck.

Your life never balance you wan add more hardships. Why are some women like this na

Really thank everyone for the contributions