Sixfeetbelle:


The girl is using Op to catch cruise.

Cholls:
My brothers should we tell him?

InfernoNig:
Don't blame her. She is avoiding temptation. Or she don't want you to find out that she is very wild down there. Just Saying

pocohantas:


OP is using us to catch cruise. This story never happened.

onyenatruchi:
I think I should go with this fulani lady, cos I prefer fulani to hausa. But should I go against Nnamdi Kanu opinion on fulani
Nnamdi Kanu has married his own wife, so no one has the right to dictate for me
Let me give this fulani girl a chance
Opportunity comes but once

boom99:


Everything way get advantage get disadvantage. In deeperlife courtship you are not allowed to touch yourself or cook for the guy. Because after 6 month courtship if you don't like yourself you go your separate ways. The lady won't feel cheated cos you no use am dump

tonieguy:
I commend you, man.

However, your situation is a bit dicey. It's smart to stop spending on her until marriage since she is also using the religious angle as an excuse not to know your place.

On the other hand, what if you finally marry her and for a reason should not pay the fees on time, it affects her graduation, and you are stuck with a wife that is not a graduate and as such is limited in achieving things a graduate can easily achieve like jobs, etc.

My brother, think carefully and weigh it.

I will advise you to pay if the money is available.

thinkmoney:

She is doing one good but leaving the other out.
*It's good she doesn't want to come to your house. She should consider coming in company of friends or a brother.
* You too on the other hand is not obligated to fund her.
If she isn't telling u that deeper life actually discourages collecting too much from somebody you are in courtship with, it may be that she is being selfish and really want to just use u

HenryThegreat1:
But some churches rules about dating and courtship shall.
What lady in question does not know how to cook or do other important house chores.

iamcee:


You said "without having sex first too see if she is great at it" .
So, pre-marital sex should be made compulsory,right?..okay so,when you have sex with her and she isn't good at it,you would dump her right?.. after dumping her, then her next bf is someone like you who likes testing and if she still not great at it,he would leave her too, right?..
Is she doing giveaway?
I don't understand this kinda mentality..
I'm not in support of sex before marriage..if you get married to a virgin who doesn't know how to have sex,teach her or maybe she isn't a virgin ,teach her.
Besides,do you wanna get married to a lady just because she is great at having sex?..no other qualities??..Damn!
To any lady reading this, don't give room for sex before marriage..stop rendering yourself cheap.

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

Naanlong01:
My brother, that's their Church doctrine, am presently with one

Righteousness2:
That's a special woman you have there.
You may not know or value her now.
She is doing all she can to help you, herself and the Family you two will become.

Coming to Know your House might look harmless and innocent, but that harmless action could cause you two to Defile your marriage and open the door for the devil to strike.
The devil is smarter than what you know. That guy could Collaspe your glorious destiny in less than 2mins.

As for your gifts to her, you are not bound to give her. It's your choice to make. But if you know she is really the woman you wanna marry and you have the cash, I Advice you to give it to her.

CHOPbeating:
Dear chinedumc91

It is not quite, but very dangerous to intend marrying someone whom you have not known so deeply; that is why many contemporary marriage scatter.

You guys needs to be really into each other in all perspectives so that you can have series of problems and settle it; your both abilities to settle such issues are what would establish the fact that both of you can get along. Even if you date angels, there must be problems!

Even though my own was too long, I dated my wife for 8 years before marriage; we met early in university, graduated, served, and until we both got jobs. But we do have issues as we get along; it, therefore, taught me that until death do couples apart, they will always have problems.

A girl that is as Deeper as her in Christianity (so she claims according to your write-up) even up to the extent that she doesn’t want to come to your house based on her church’s guidance that she’s adhering to, yet she knows what it means to be collecting money and gifts from a man; Christianity generally does not support such.

I also want you to note this: A Deeper girl has nothing really to do with such volume of carryovers; she’s expected to be serious and morally good. Who da hell is registering carryovers with N50k? shey we no go school? How many carryovers and why? I can’t condone or overlook such nonsense. Lack of academic seriousness alone is a very big factor to cause problem between I and my bae; she knows me.

Look beyond ass, breast and affection; you need more than that in a woman. If she can accumulate such academic debt as N50k due to loss of focus, that alone destroyed her moral ground and shows that her education is a waste.

I graduated from a university where girls are just about runs (sexual business) and I’ve lived so closely with many to understand their life and how they feel, so I’ve seen enough girls to advice you that SHE MIGHT BE A LovePeddler (and they always need money). You might nearly die the day you’ll find out. But wait, which school is she studying in?

THEY WILL LOOK SO INNOCENT BUT THEIR RUNS MIGHT EVEN BE INTER-STATE THAT MEN PAY FOR THEIR TRAVEL EXPENSES.

Guy only GOD can singlehandedly give you the woman HE alone has prepared for you.

I DON SEE THINGS ABEG!!!

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

CalliDora1:
If you're tripple sure she will marry you, don't force her to your house. Even me as an RCCG member, we are not advised to meet in secluded places.


As for the money.. I can't advise you not to help her. It's your money, do whatever you deem fit with it. Some "student" wife to be are not loyal.

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need yourdo.

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

I wouldn't advice the girl to come to your house alone ,coming with her sisters is kinda risky as well..she should rather come with her brothers or a/some very trusted male(s) she knows...
Besides,why are you so worried when she said she isn't coming?..or you wanna lure her into doing something she doesn't wanna do ?.. raping?..
Also,It's not until a girl comes to your house that you will be able to know her true identity..you can know that through other several kinda ways.
For you guys to wanna get married to each other,I expect the relationship to be very intimate.
Since you know her already to the extent of wanting to get married to her and she gat the qualities you need,you shouldn't be bothered she doesn't wanna come to your house.
She might be avoiding temptation..
About the money she is asking you for ,if you can't afford to give her,then LEND her..she said you should "borrow or give her"..
Lend her if you gat the money..are you even sure you love the girl?..and you guys wanna get married to each other this year
Besides, have you prayed to God to know if she is the right one?

Paramount01:


are u engage?
did u visit ur fiancé @ home?
did u cook for him? pls answer the following with all sincerity.thanks

Cholls:
My brothers should we tell him?

healthbing:
For me it's important to know the house of the person you want to marry and get to know how he lives or do things.

If you can't visit him than collecting gifts from him is also not good..

To take precautions Don't go at odd hours and Don't sleep over.

You're relationship is intimate enough for her to visit you maybe with friends or siblings since her parents are aware of the relationship..

For me before I say yes to any man
•I must know your house
•Your parents house
•The way to your village
•Your village house
•Your work place
•Your best friends place and behavior
•And I must be sure you don't have any erectile dysfunction through test..

A woman I know got married to this guy without knowing his place because the guy told her that their church don't let a lady visit a man before marriage and after the marriage she found out the guy was squatting with a friend in a one room apartment and that brought the marriage to an end..

You have to know how a person lives to be able to manage that person.
Some persons are actually very neat outside but so dirty inside.
While some married men keep their wife at Aba and go to Abuja to get married again.

Visiting a man is not sin see it as a way of checking how much you can control you sexual urge.
Many people have fallen victim to fraudsters,cheats and liars because of this.

Our prayer each day should be 'Lord lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil'.

If you love her go and make your intentions know to the parents formally (introduction) maybe after that her parents will allow her visit you