Hassanmaye:

Is true some of this women are stupid and mad I swear!! I get one I love so much during my university days she was foaming jonzbon and following bad boys up and down, she didn't have time for me, I was struggling she doesn't care, now I'm stable, she is yet to get married and in her madness she think I will pity her, time is not on her side. Hmmm

But if u loved her..U can still pity her. But let her know there will be no second chance..

Wittyduchess:
Let me make this clear to you the op and the Ladies reading this ;


THE LONGER YOU DATE A GUY THE LESS LIKELY HE WILL MARRY YOU.


You see there are phases in a relationship, the important phase in a relationship is the *see finish phase* ,it is always advisable to go through this phase in marriage, this phase usually spans between the first five years of a marriage. But when the relationship prolongs it spans into the *see you finish* phase with no proper commitment.


Now I am sure he is not more than five years older than you, that even makes it worse for you my dear op. When he finally makes his millions the probability that he will want to settle down with a woman he has *see finish* and also close to his age group is very slim.

Leave or stay it's your choice, but just know one thing ,the chances that this guy will end up marrying you is 0.1% out of 100%.


If you do decide to stay, you can only force marriage out of him by getting pregnant for him. That is the only way as it stands. Goodluck with the *time waster* cos you are going to need alot of luck.

purples25:


Of course there are other things to be gained in marriage. But this thing here is a problem.

Fertility, youth, purity, beauty.

No matter what any man says, these are the things they truly want from a woman. Yes, she can work, but a man would rather choose an almost untouched beauty without a job than a capable older, modern , experienced woman.

Therefore these relationships without closure/marriage lead to the degradation of the woman. A woman after eight years can say she wants to marry but by that time the men will be saying she is old, she must have been used, etc. Most men will avoid her and that's just the truth. As a woman gets older, no matter her wealth and degree, her options to marry get smaller. So yes, it matters for the woman that she gets some gain from whatever sexual stuff she engages in. It is important to her because that is one of the things men value in a woman. Clearly you can see she is at a loss if she gives it all for nothing, when that is part of her relished attributes. A woman giving her body is giving a very precious thing she is rated by so she loses if she gives it in charity. A man will not be rated by his body and you know this.

Knowing this fully well, men still explore the expensive and precious youth of a woman, which they know, if not for the lapse modernity has given them, they can't have that for free. Even then they will pay for this when wanting to actually SECURE a woman with such attributes as youth, fertility, purity, and beauty into their household. So what are they doing with these young women that they have all their pearls for free? Let me be plain. They are eating a very expensive meal for free. They are eating what a potential suitor would have paid for OR valued the woman dearly for.....for free.

If it was about clever and independent career women, why is this time in history the one that records the most of single women, hmm? Men are getting more and more repelled by the independent and career women. I watch videos every day where even the western men diss their women for not being sexually pure and too old. So this sex of a thing is really important for women and relationships scam her of the sexual value that she would need to get a life partner.

She loses her purity for nothing. And at the end of the day, this is one of the most inportant things you guys care for. Don't pretend that it is not.

shadeyinka:

It doesn't work that way!
A romantic relationship demands faithfulness and commitment. This tie down the lady with the man.

Secondly, ladies are wired to expect something serious coming out of a relationship. Men are wired to look for loopholes to escape being tied down by a relationship

DEMZEE:


Baba wats hypergamy in the first place??

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

EkelediliBuhari:
Marriage is not all life is about

Focus on building yourself first... have a personal vision and drive... if you find another person along the way you move on
If he happens to be ready then you marry

But don’t marry him because he’s available and you’re “running out of time”.... who gave you time table??

Focus on your personal life and all will fall in place

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

djon78:



Very intelligent analysis
This your comment is a good answer to many times young men ask whether sex is the only thing a woman offers

And also an answer to many young women that allow there lives to be wasted by unserious men

Many wise girls who understand this your Analogy wisely make there choice in choosing a spouse


I have been noticing many young women getting serious with matured but established single guys who immediately marry them

When you ask them, they say they made there choice based on a man that will value there youthfulness and comit to them
They will also tell you that most young men are unserious and very Randy

I am getting a good understanding that a woman's body is a value she brings to the union. With other intangible things and those that have this understanding rarely miss it in marriage

Gloriagee:
How old are you? Zzor

placeofallure:


Educate me if I'm wrong please. A man in his 50s should be gearing towards becoming a grandpa, all things being equal. So if you date any such man, you'll be dating him as what? Wife, Wife number 2, Side chick or hand bag? E ma binu o, just wondering ni o.

PoliteActivist:


How is that your biz She likes older guys. How old are YOU?

Gloriagee:
How polite can you be when responding to questions not addressed to you?? Next!

Kirkman:

Bros how you want take do am now? It's not gonna be easy for your girl cos getting a serious good guy nowadays is hard, where will she start from and with whom?

EkelediliBuhari:
Marriage is not all life is about

Focus on building yourself first... have a personal vision and drive... if you find another person along the way you move on
If he happens to be ready then you marry

But don’t marry him because he’s available and you’re “running out of time”.... who gave you time table??

Focus on your personal life and all will fall in place

kense88:
why not 70 ? So you can be assisting him to walk.

Mcslize:


That's why I am still being lenient with her. If it is to be ladies they won't care how the guy will feel. But here I am considering how she will feel.

A lady will break up with a guy without considering how the guy will feel. They are heartless, but when the coin is turned the other way round, the guy will think about it day and night how the girl will feel if he breaks up with her.

Guys are more sympathetic than ladies. When you love a girl that's when they will Bleep you up. But when you don't love them, that's when they will treat you like a king.

Life no balance at all.

UjuJoan2:


I never said that money was in exchange for sex. Both man and wife enjoy sex so that’s not the issue.

But the roles are clear. The man provides, the woman tends to the children and keeps the home.

Will you wash plate? Wash the toilet? Bathe and feed the children?

Most Nigerian men consider these duties degrading and insulting. And yet they expect the woman to do all this and still provide financially. It doesn’t seem fair now does it?

PoliteActivist:


Dont we see all the time where a man is heart broken sometimes suicide because a lady he dated for long or even married to, went with someone else?? The same way the man may leave, so can the lady.

Sarcastic101:

Relationship expert
I'm very sure that you don't have a successful relationship

UjuJoan2:


Oh it’s easy to respect a man in a marriage. What’s difficult is keeping up with the God complex most Nigerian men have.

I don’t mind oh, but you need to match that with taking full financial responsibility.

BlessedNuel:
Eeeheya.....dx matter get as e be

The person that will comment after me will surely have something to tell you.

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

Godoverevery:
what is your contribution towards this financially.

Marriage require alot.....him marrying you isn't the prob but life after wedding is the issh.

Just this week alone .....money I drop for feeding have double....my fiancee went to the market yesterday and i had to spend almost double of what I normally spend... cost of living is too high.

if he is on 60k and you can come up with 30k you have a shout but if you aren't contributing just free the man abeg.

PAWG:



Oga she works too and probably earns as much or even more than he does. I dey find this kind understanding babe, I think I've found her, time till tell.

darmilolah:


Hope you know what always happen to women once they get pregnant and after delivery. Most can’t cope with home front and work. Hence they resign. Then rely only on what Oga bring to table.

When Oga can’t meet up. Wahala don start be that.