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Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by nelson7777: 11:28am On Jun 04, 2021
sirjamesjnr:
Our society makes it so. Ther are faithful ladies working in hotels. Anyone can mess up anywhere. Know who you are is the key.

Knowing who you are does not mean, you will be in the midst of "CONSTANT TEMPTATION"
if you always have to tell yourself everyday, who you are, you have to realise that there is something inside of you
1. Asking you, who you are
2. Where is this thought coming from
3. I don't think I know you anymore..

Trust me you can keep answering this question everyday for the next 12months
Because TEMPTATION does not have an expiring date..
Don't forget there was a Nigerian female Gospel musician, that's now currently a porn star
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by Lisara(f): 11:35am On Jun 04, 2021
Trust and understanding is the key to any relationship
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by saintsylve(m): 11:37am On Jun 04, 2021
Sammy07:



Guy, God bless you for this song.
Just made me to,remember school life.


Na wa oo, see as Lalasticlacla de dance with power grin
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by sirjamesjnr(m): 11:40am On Jun 04, 2021
nelson7777:


Knowing who you are does not mean, you will be in the midst of "CONSTANT TEMPTATION"
if you always have to tell yourself everyday, who you are, you have to realise that there is something inside of you
1. Asking you, who you are
2. Where is this thought coming from
3. I don't think I know you anymore..

Trust me you can keep answering this question everyday for the next 12months
Because TEMPTATION does not have an expiring date..
Don't forget there was a Nigerian female Gospel musician, that's now currently a porn star
. Bros, I worked also lodge in hotels that I have lost count. I can tell you for free about the Hotels experience and club house. Any lady with sound moral won't go down with anyone that comes across her way. If a girl can be faithful in a hotel environment she is a keeper.
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by Tloc(m): 11:47am On Jun 04, 2021
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



Your boyfriend is not just an insecure scumbag who is unappreciative of the lenghts you're willing to displease yourself and go to so as not to put a financial strain on him, he is also emotionally colour blind not to see all the red flags that show that you are an undercover whoore whose kpekus is being shared.

The first red flag here is that you are doing a job you don't like just because of the money.
This means you have the propensity to compromise on your standards.

Experience has also taught us that ladies who get their validation from the number of toasters they get spread their legs faster than a baby vulture learning to fly because for them, it is an honour to be even considered desirable.

So as a very beautiful lady who is sure to get a new toaster every single day, it is almost impossible for you to convince me that your boss, the man who is your source of income; the same one who upgraded you from waitress to personal secretary is yet to see the "assets" those other toasters see in you.
(This is me not even wanting to take into cognizance the things male club owners do to their female staff.)

So except you have a Master's degree in Hospitality Management or you are a consultant in Project Management, I am yet to see what other qualification asides an available kpekus that will bring about a female secretary's late night meetings with her boss over the smooth operations of a club; a meeting that will necessitate brainstorming till very late in the night and ends up making them sleep over at work.

Anyone who has been to a club knows that only two things happen in a club; debauchery and more debauchery. Just being in that environment is enough to damage your moral compass.
So a lady who knows she is beautiful and has broken her standard for money will do it again and again. If not for the money, maybe just to sustain her boss's financial favours or appreciate him for promoting her from waiter to his secretary.

And for the information of the naive, there is no human in the world who is incapable of cheating. The only ones who are yet to cheat are the ones that do not have either or both of the following;
i). A reason to.
ii) An opportunity to?

And you have both.

You are not cheating on your boyfriend, the fool is the one cheating himself by being over-protective of the integrity of your kpekus, I only wish he knew that at the extent you've gotten to now, even a big sized padlock and two soldering machines won't keep it shut.

Over to Lalasticlala and the other elders.

I was guessing your fame here was due to IDIOCY and alas.... I was RIGHT! What did you mean by BIG SIZED PADLOCK can not hold? shocked shocked shocked
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by GhostWisperer: 11:49am On Jun 04, 2021
nelson7777:

About 10 of my course mates got married to each other,
Most of them are currently outside the country...

I believe you.
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by angelfallz(m): 12:08pm On Jun 04, 2021
Lol. Your mum doesn't want you to be a cook?
Cooks make serious money oh. Especially during Christmas seasons. And if you're good, weddings every Saturdays and a host of other events year round.

Cooks don't beg for work rather work begs them.

bukatyne:
This OP reminds me of when I just finished NYSC and the hotel besides our house released vacancy for a cook and waiter/ another role.

I gathered courage to tell my mum I wanted to apply after reading aspire to perspire ndi start from somewhere grin

After giving me a withering look for a few minutes and wondering where she got it wrong in my upbringing, the thought disappeared from my head forever and my brain went to default settings wink

Summary of my story: some jobs are not benefitting for a decent person.




Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by bukatyne(f): 12:28pm On Jun 04, 2021
angelfallz:
Lol. Your mum doesn't want you to be a cook?
Cooks make serious money oh. Especially during Christmas seasons. And if you're good, weddings every Saturdays and a host of other events year round.

Cooks don't beg for work rather work begs them.


In an hotel.

Anyways, I am her daughter so naturally, I am aligned with her in most things. smiley

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Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by flokii: 1:11pm On Jun 04, 2021
Free the guy abeg and follow your calling..

Of all places to work, it's bar and club you saw. You have even started sleeping over, before you know it they'll start inserting things into your body, that's if they've not started doing so. Osi ati iranu

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Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by detectivejones: 1:16pm On Jun 04, 2021
There are smart ways to handle things like this. For the fact you told him he is not your father and has no right to control will make any man suspicious of you. Talk to him and make him see reasons.

Secondly, if you're not comfortable with the late night meeting sleeping over talk to your boss and make him see reasons because if you don't very soon I mean very, very soon story go change,
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by BigDan69: 1:20pm On Jun 04, 2021
Fatality


NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



Your boyfriend is not just an insecure scumbag who is unappreciative of the lenghts you're willing to displease yourself and go to so as not to put a financial strain on him, he is also emotionally colour blind not to see all the red flags that show that you are an undercover whoore whose kpekus is being shared.

The first red flag here is that you are doing a job you don't like just because of the money.
This means you have the propensity to compromise on your standards.

Experience has also taught us that ladies who get their validation from the number of toasters they get spread their legs faster than a baby vulture learning to fly because for them, it is an honour to be even considered desirable.

So as a very beautiful lady who is sure to get a new toaster every single day, it is almost impossible for you to convince me that your boss, the man who is your source of income; the same one who upgraded you from waitress to personal secretary is yet to see the "assets" those other toasters see in you.
(This is me not even wanting to take into cognizance the things male club owners do to their female staff.)

So except you have a Master's degree in Hospitality Management or you are a consultant in Project Management, I am yet to see what other qualification asides an available kpekus that will bring about a female secretary's late night meetings with her boss over the smooth operations of a club; a meeting that will necessitate brainstorming till very late in the night and ends up making them sleep over at work.

Anyone who has been to a club knows that only two things happen in a club; debauchery and more debauchery. Just being in that environment is enough to damage your moral compass.
So a lady who knows she is beautiful and has broken her standard for money will do it again and again. If not for the money, maybe just to sustain her boss's financial favours or appreciate him for promoting her from waiter to his secretary.

And for the information of the naive, there is no human in the world who is incapable of cheating. The only ones who are yet to cheat are the ones that do not have either or both of the following;
i). A reason to.
ii) An opportunity to?

And you have both.

You are not cheating on your boyfriend, the fool is the one cheating himself by being over-protective of the integrity of your kpekus, I only wish he knew that at the extent you've gotten to now, even a big sized padlock and two soldering machines won't keep it shut.

Over to Lalasticlala and the other elders.
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by angelfallz(m): 2:06pm On Jun 04, 2021
grin grin grin
The hotel part got her scared. Maybe if it were Sheraton hotel or Transcorp Hotel or Eko hotels and suites. She for reason am small.

Anyway the cook part i had in mind you wouldn't be attached to any hotel. You would be your own boss.

bukatyne:


In an hotel.

Anyways, I am her daughter so naturally, I am aligned with her in most things. smiley

Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by Nobody: 2:11pm On Jun 04, 2021
heniford2:
Super story if u never cheat already

grin grin grin
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by maraellaa(f): 4:14pm On Jun 04, 2021
May I never jam a broke boyfriend. Waitress me.My sister there are many fishes in the sea. Rich one for that matter. I reject suffering for you
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by maasoap(m): 5:37pm On Jun 04, 2021
INCREDIBLE007:
cheesy

Oxymoron

More of a Paradox

An oxymoron is a self-contradicting word or group of words (as in Shakespeare's line from Romeo and Juliet, "Why, then, O brawling love! O loving hate!"wink.
A paradox is a statement or argument that seems to be contradictory or to go against common sense, but that is yet perhaps still true—for example, "less is more."
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by boxer022(m): 7:44pm On Jun 04, 2021
My advice to you is sit him down one weekend and explain things to him convincingly, let him know that you are doing those jobs to keep body and soul together since your parents lack the support you need. Any day you will not come back due to lateness, try to give him a call letting him know that you will not come back. I want you not to stop the work for any reason whatsoever even if he decides to end things with you because of it as it is very beneficial to you.

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Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by CR777: 10:23pm On Jun 05, 2021
Ishilove:

If you call that crap he wrote up there wisdom, then you need to pray to God for wisdom

Jealousy is a very big and underrated problem. You can never be on Nwamaikpe's level no matter how hard you try. Calling his writeup crap doesn't change the fact that what he has written is more meaningful than all ur write-ups since u signed up on nairaland. Pls treat ur jealousy before it consumes u.

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Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by Nobody: 5:22pm On Jun 28, 2021
maraellaa:
May I never jam a broke boyfriend. Waitress me.My sister there are many fishes in the sea. Rich one for that matter. I reject suffering for you

Because you are broke. Work hard and take care of your man
Re: Please Help My Relationship Is Crashing by maraellaa(f): 12:24pm On Jul 02, 2021
who told you I'm broke idiot

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