So I met this lady and within a month I decided to tell her I'm going to see her Dad,and wants to settle with her, I said I was tired of the delays and search, she was all loving and nice, till one faithful afternoon she called to say she isn't in, cos she doesn't feel same way.

Me I jejely calm down and felt maybe she's playing a game not to look too cheap.

She even suggested we become friends...

Did I bring up the marriage matter too fast?

Yes, you rushed everything, as if you are desperate to have her. Barely few months, you are talking of seeing her parents. If I ask you important questions about her now, you won't be able to answer and you want to marry her.

Shebi both of una don already settle the case, wetin u come want advise for again No ever let people opinion to change ur style. Even if u had waited till 50yrs b4 telling her, if God no sign am say na ur wife, una for no marry. Move on bro!!!

Moral Lesson: Have Money before you propose.

I stopped reading at where you said you wanted to marry her within just a month

You're a jonzing guy

fvck:
So I met this lady and within a month I decided to tell her I'm going to see her Dad,and wants to settle with her,I said I was tired of the delays and search,she was all loving and nice,till one faithful afternoon she called to say she isn't in,cos she doesn't feel same way.

Me I jejely calm down and felt maybe she's playing a game not to look too cheap.

She even suggested we become friends...
Did I bring up the marriage matter too fast?

cc: lalasticlala

Within 1 month!!.….4 weeks.....30 days... over rush dey worry you

You really wanted to marry a Nigerian woman after just one month of meeting her? Amazing

You better go do Thanksgiving for the second chance you've been given to not derail your destiny. Secondly go and visit your parents with serious gifts; their prayers are truly effective in your life.

Werey see yansh he say the girl dey loving.

You met someone just a month ago and you are already talking about marriage, if it was the other way round now, Nairaland men would have flooded this tread saying rubbish about Nigeria women and their urge for marriage, mtcheeeeeew.

Never be the first person to define the relationship as a guy. Let her ask for ur commitment and u must ensure she earns it

After you will be seeking for a divorce, you have not taken your time to study her and her family properly, you are talking of marriage, don't be in a haste brother so that you will not Rush out of the marriage. my 50cent[color=#990000][/color]

You don't even know somebody well you want to marry her, 2 months after wedding you'll come to nairaland looking for advice.

fvck:
So I met this lady and within a month I decided to tell her I'm going to see her Dad,and wants to settle with her,I said I was tired of the delays and search,she was all loving and nice,till one faithful afternoon she called to say she isn't in,cos she doesn't feel same way.

Me I jejely calm down and felt maybe she's playing a game not to look too cheap.

She even suggested we become friends...
Did I bring up the marriage matter too fast?

cc: lalasticlala

U too rush na! U have barely known her well and u are already suggesting marriage. Thank God, she has gradually start showing u her true colour. She must have acted this way perhaps, she has other suitors at hand who have interest in her. U are likely an option(2nd,3rd,4th or even 5th choice) to her.

Oga no mind am u no rush anything jarre,

If na Yankee guy tell am wetin u tell am, I'm sure she will even be the one to carry her papa come see u ..


Leave am, small pikin dey worry her, moreover Shiloh never the end anytime soon

Demigod22:
Yes, you rushed everything, as if you are desperate to have her. Barely few months, you are talking of seeing her parents. If I ask you important questions about her now, you won't be able to answer and you want to marry her.

Most guys don't know, it's actually women that propose marriage to men, it's women that bring the discussion, if your woman hasn't started mentioning marriage or future to you, don't jump and propose oooo, because she hasn't seen you in that light of spending forever together.

Even at that, ask yourself if her personality or character is one that you will be proud if she trained your daughter to be like her.
Too many men just see fine girl and think that's the standard to find a wife....I pity them especially the igbo abroad brothers.

fvck:
So I met this lady and within a month I decided to tell her I'm going to see her Dad,and wants to settle with her,I said I was tired of the delays and search,she was all loving and nice,till one faithful afternoon she called to say she isn't in,cos she doesn't feel same way.

Me I jejely calm down and felt maybe she's playing a game not to look too cheap.

She even suggested we become friends...
Did I bring up the marriage matter too fast?

cc: lalasticlala

She is not ready.

she has other options and she is not ready to decide. if you are ready, look for someone else who is also ready. izz a simpu sturvs....

This one no even sabi anything.. to nack dey hungry u, na marriage u wan use get am abi? I dey sorry for u

These girls are confused

They don’t know what they want

Tobiloba24072:


Most guys don't know, it's actually women that propose marriage to men, it's women that bring the discussion, if your woman hasn't started mentioning marriage or future to you, don't jump and propose oooo, because she hasn't seen you in that light of spending forever together.

Even at that, ask yourself if her personality or character is one that you will be proud if she trained your daughter to be like her.
Too many men just see fine girl and think that's the standard to find a wife....I pity them especially the igbo abroad brothers.

You are very correct. I am disappointed in the guy. It is as a result of all this rush marriage without proper study of your partner that we have divorce papers everywhere. We tends to ignore and sacrifice salient points in relationship for our moment pleasure.

Yes, you rushed things, even the inventor of love the white people don't rush to get marry like that....

I guess it was love at first sight, and to her is was just lost, nothing close to love, but she just wanted to see how it feel like to be proposed to....

Marriage is not a child play man, you gat to sit down and analyse your present and future plan before you delve into it, so that you won't rush out after you have finished pouring

You lack abundance mentality and this triggers desperation. Women hate it. Even as men, we also don't like desperate women even if they have good characters.

Over here, they are begging me to marry them and even swallowing my cum to show they love me, but I keep them in friendzone and I don't give women money (if I do give, it's just 5k) because I'm proudly stingy, but the bedroom game speaks for itself. That's why I wrote the book Lasticle for 1 minute men to last hours in bed naturally.

As a man, we should focus more on self-improvement like

1. Our health (exercise)
2. Not letting people use or stress you
3. Psychology and being in control
4. Money making from the comfort of your room
5. Investment
6. Having a sense of humor
7. Anger management and the power of silence
8. Being great in bed (give her sex until she's addicted and begs you to marry her)
9. Don't marry under pressure

My brother, I have a lot to say, but let me stop here.

Be wise!

I wrote a book called Mr. Friendzone and it's a life-changer for men.

You were too fast. We humans are naturally eager and desperate, but controlling it is the difference between failure and success.

I don't know where this borrowed custom and tradition is taking us to. I'm married for over 20 years now with 2 of my children in the university.

I met my wife and proposed to her in less than 2 weeks in 1999 and today we are still together. Some people spent years courting and the marriage never lasted. My parents marriage was over 50 years before they went to be with the Lord and they didn't court for a week before getting married.

Courting doesn't guarantee a successful marriage.

@Op, look for a serious lady and leave kids alone

Tell her u won do *shuku shuku *


No marriage again ,, she be Olosho

it is only a lady who is running out of time and options that will take that kind of rush from you. You don't rush a lady who is not already running out of marriageable age. When you do, she will lose interest.

Yea, too fast. I bet you don't even know her yet.
Don't be carried away, remain calm and do more of observation and listening. Marriage is not a child play, it's a life journey and both of you have to feels the same way and be ready technically and emotionally. #Goodluck. .

Bola146:

wetin happen ur husband lost

But ur own tin go don wide like *white house dinning room*

fvck:
So I met this lady and within a month I decided to tell her I'm going to see her Dad,and wants to settle with her, I said I was tired of the delays and search, she was all loving and nice, till one faithful afternoon she called to say she isn't in, cos she doesn't feel same way.

Me I jejely calm down and felt maybe she's playing a game not to look too cheap.

She even suggested we become friends...

Did I bring up the marriage matter too fast?

She has given you her answer now, she wants to keep you as an option. Don’t waste your time with nonsense. Cut communication, on to the next one.

The op is a big simp

No, she's just got another guy she likes or she's into. If you wouldn't mind being on the waiting list then move on

Yes, very fast. Always make money first before thinking of marriage.

See no finance no romance!!!!

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