Bro you didn't rush anything, girls want you to be upfront with them even from the onset. Let her go and f herself. Just keep quiet and move on

fvck:
So I met this lady and within a month I decided to tell her I'm going to see her Dad,and wants to settle with her, I said I was tired of the delays and search, she was all loving and nice, till one faithful afternoon she called to say she isn't in, cos she doesn't feel same way.

Me I jejely calm down and felt maybe she's playing a game not to look too cheap.

She even suggested we become friends...

Did I bring up the marriage matter too fast?

You should date like not less than 2 years before proposing to her. And you need to read The Unplugged Alpha by rich cooper and The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi

fvck:
So I met this lady and within a month I decided to tell her I'm going to see her Dad,and wants to settle with her, I said I was tired of the delays and search, she was all loving and nice, till one faithful afternoon she called to say she isn't in, cos she doesn't feel same way.

Me I jejely calm down and felt maybe she's playing a game not to look too cheap.

She even suggested we become friends...

Did I bring up the marriage matter too fast?

you're just a simp, is all.

Tobiloba24072:


Most guys don't know, it's actually women that propose marriage to men, it's women that bring the discussion, if your woman hasn't started mentioning marriage or future to you, don't jump and propose oooo, because she hasn't seen you in that light of spending forever together.

Even at that, ask yourself if her personality or character is one that you will be proud if she trained your daughter to be like her.
Too many men just see fine girl and think that's the standard to find a wife... I pity them especially the igbo abroad brothers.

Word!

cappyolu:
You should date like not less than 2 years before proposing to her. And you need to read The Unplugged Alpha by rich cooper and The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi

It depends on the level of attraction and how mentally, financially and
emotionally READY both are. You have to be clearly intentional!


Within 4-6 months minimum is enough to propose to a woman
after getting to discuss and know her thoughts (and yours) on a range of issues. Do not act too
desperate though because it
repels women and vice versa.

Stop being desperate in things like these. Don't you know when you act so desperate with a girl, it kills all the fun in her? When a guy acts desperate, the girl will withdraw eventually.

It is better a girl tells you by herself to come see her parents before doing that. With that you know she is ever ready. This is one of the reasons that make some ladies to refuse guys proposals.

Haven't you seen where a guy is proposing to a lady in public and turns the guy down? It is because of things like these.

Don't bring up any marriage talk with a girl you are just getting to know. It will back fire especially if the lady is still within the age of 20-26. Their desperation to marry within that age bracket isn't that high. Let things play out by itself. Let her be the one asking where the relationship is leading. When are you coming to see my parents? With these, when you propose, you won't be disgraced in public by walking out of you with your proposal if you decide to propose now. That will be a big embarrassment to you, don't you think?

Hunmmmm.God will merciful us

virginprincess:
You met someone just a month ago and you are already talking about marriage, if it was the other way round now, Nairaland men would have flooded this tread saying rubbish about Nigeria women and their urge for marriage, mtcheeeeeew.

That's a LIEEEEEEEEEEE

virginprincess:
You met someone just a month ago and you are already talking about marriage, if it was the other way round now, Nairaland men would have flooded this tread saying rubbish about Nigeria women and their urge for marriage, mtcheeeeeew.

Women don't really know what they want. The same women who always complain about guys not proposing are the ones saying the guy was too much in a hurry to propose.

Most women are useless good only for chop and go.

Mcslize:
Stop being desperate in things like these. Don't you know when you act so desperate with a girl, it kills all the fun in her? When a guy acts desperate, the girl will withdraw eventually.

It is better a girl tells you by herself to come see her parents before doing that. With that you know she is ever ready. This is one of the reasons that make some ladies to refuse guys proposals.

Haven't you seen where a guy is proposing to a lady in public and turns the guy down? It is because of things like these.

Don't bring up any marriage talk with a girl you are just getting to know. It will back fire especially if the lady is still within the age of 20-26. Their desperation to marry within that age bracket isn't that high. Let things play out by itself. Let her be the one asking where the relationship is leading. When are you coming to see my parents? With these, when you propose, you won't be disgraced in public by walking out of you with your proposal if you decide to propose now. That will be a big embarrassment to you, don't you think?

Well said.

There are men like me who don't like all the mushy mushy public proposals. An intimate and genuinely creative proposal is
more like it! Same with some
women (She may be in love but
hates the publicity and show
off that comes with a public proposal).

wunmi590:


Yes, you rushed things, even the inventor of love the white people don't rush to get marry like that....

I guess it was love at first sight, and to her is was just lost, nothing close to love, but she just wanted to see how it feel like to be proposed to....

Marriage is not a child play man, you gat to sit down and analyse your present and future plan before you delve into it, so that you won't rush out after you have finished pouring

Since when did white people become 'inventors of love'?

fvck:
So I met this lady and within a month I decided to tell her I'm going to see her Dad,and wants to settle with her, I said I was tired of the delays and search, she was all loving and nice, till one faithful afternoon she called to say she isn't in, cos she doesn't feel same way.

Me I jejely calm down and felt maybe she's playing a game not to look too cheap.

She even suggested we become friends...

Did I bring up the marriage matter too fast?

You were fast but I totally understand how u felt, Adam did same wen he met his bone of his bone..it's perfectly natural in fact I pray for your type..let her do as she wish but keep praying. She is just scared and devil is feeding her with stupid thoughts

don't ask me for relationship advice I'm single. I promote break ups.

See moniker sef

KPEKUS HAVE SWEET THIS ONE IN ONE MONTH HE WAN MEET THE PARENTS....LOL.

SmellySperm:
I stopped reading at where you said you wanted to marry her within just a month

You're a jonzing guy

fvck:
So I met this lady and within a month I decided to tell her I'm going to see her Dad,and wants to settle with her, I said I was tired of the delays and search, she was all loving and nice, till one faithful afternoon she called to say she isn't in, cos she doesn't feel same way.

Me I jejely calm down and felt maybe she's playing a game not to look too cheap.

She even suggested we become friends...

Did I bring up the marriage matter too fast?

Chairman don't listen to all those stupid people telling you within a month nonsense... The really true of the matter is that most women dont even know what they want and it is still this same girl that will start misbehaving when you finally marry another girl of your choice... And it is still this same set of people that are saying 1 month nonsense that will still preach early marriage nonsense... Bro marriage and relationship is about flaw, understanding and many other things ... Bro what i have really understand about life is? do well to do you... Coz at the end of the day no one and i repeat no one really cares .... Be free and own any responsibilities or consequences as you should like a man.

rita25:
KPEKUS HAVE SWEET THIS ONE IN ONE MONTH HE WAN MEET THE PARENTS....LOL.

I swear baby. U be correct babe

SmellySperm:
I stopped reading at where you said you wanted to marry her within just a month

You're a jonzing guy

Abi oooo. The guy is a crook ��

https://www.nairaland.com/6900452/she-planning-games-emotions

Here is the new update on how things has gone between I and the girl

DavidHarry:
Bro you didn't rush anything, girls want you to be upfront with them even from the onset. Let her go and f herself. Just keep quiet and move on

Thanks bro,this was my inspiration

DEMZEE:
Never be the first person to define the relationship as a guy. Let her ask for ur commitment and u must ensure she earns it

That's the zeal, that's the spirit.