UndauntedYOCA:

Iyaebe Iyaebe.
You never cease to make me laugh.
How're is your day going and how've you been?

pocohantas:
1: Use juju and hook one man.

Don’t waste your time going to Shiloh or all these scam pentecostal churches. They will end up hooking you up with one boring evangelist that suffers premature ejaculatiôn.
It is better you use your hand and hook the one you like. But treat him well.
Nothing wrong in hooking husband. Even the bible says the kingdom of God suffereth violence.

Toks2008:


Are you sure you are not depressed cos you obviously have some form of mental illness else you won't post this rubbish?

How does an opinion become a forceful motion? Are you just dumb to know this or you just want to showcase your foolishness.

You can never find a husband with your attitude and if you are married it is only a matter of time before you are dumped.

Only a mad person insults another cos of an opinion.

Be guided please.

Petyprincess:
The truth is not everyone will get married, I have the utmost respect for women living their best life without depending on a man.
A woman's happiness should not be defined by having a man because of two hairy balls!!

pocohantas:
1: Use juju and hook one man.

Mikester:


Wrong. Terming men irresponsible or immature for having standards is wrong. Turning down single moms doesn't make a man irresponsible. There is a huge difference between responsibility and burden. A man who turns down a single mom does so to not place a burden that isn't his upon him. Does that make him irresponsible or a child?

Women ruthlessly place high standards on men who intend to marry them but weak-minded men misguided by information such as yours lower their standards for damaged women, commit to them and eventually regret.

Don't tell or teach men who to commit to, as adults they are in charge of their own decisions. You are right in some areas but get your mentality straight and stop guilt-tripping others for making their own choices.

Unfortunately she left this world before she could make this happen... So What is the point?

Kriss216:
Evil people keep creating thread upon thread just to give evening newspapers false hope.

Toks2008:
Creating this thread has been on my mind for a long time but for some reasons I kept shelving it but after coming across a thread on front page about a 41 year old single lady asking for advise I think it is about time I drop this.

Now what you are about to read is for ladies who are still single in their late 30s and I will make it as simple and as real as possible...

You will never come across the advise I'm about to give you from pastors or many relationship experts but as many people already know me, I keep it as real as possible.

1. Understand that not everybody will get married:

Marriage is not a do or die thing... Marriage does not define who you are and you must never be bothered by what people say cos most of them are Clueless about the institution of marriage. Those who truly understand will never look down on you because you are single. Your happiness is more important than marriage.

2. Be financially independent: Any single lady in her late 30s should never make it a priority to get married cos the more you worry about it the more pressure you put on yourself and this is bad for your psych.

At this stage of your life, self actualization is what you need and trust me, by the time you make it a priority to get the best out of life, this will inadvertently gravitate men to you.

Before I give this third advise let me share this very touching story...

I remember a certain lady who contacted me about 6years ago and she said she has made up her mind to be a single mum if she turns 36 and she is still unmarried and asking me to be ready to donate sperm for her cos she sees me as a responsible guy... Furthermore, she will not put any pressure on me to be financially responsible for the child as she is well to do but she just want to have a child to avoid a situation where she will reach menopause and still childless.

Unfortunately she left this world before she could make this happen... So What is the point?

3. GET A SPERM DONOR TO BEAT EARLY MENOPAUSE.

The paramount purpose of a lady is not necessarily marriage but to multiply, bring forth new generations and replenish the earth. The good thing is that with the modern medical advancement, any lady can achieve this without getting married.

Believe it or not, it is better to get a sperm donor and be a single mum than getting married under pressure to a jerk who will make life hell for you.

If you are a lady still single in your late 30s please get a man to donate sperm for you. You don't have to sleep with him and he needs not be financially responsible for the child but just for you to point to somebody in future as the child's father. This will let you relax to get a better choice of a husband.

4. A man who will love you will love you.

Some may say once they are single mums, guys will run from them and YES I agree but this will also attract real men who understand that single motherhood is not a taboo but Infact a proof that a lady is fertile, a proof that she is responsible enough to keep a baby even when they had the choice to abort.. No genuine man will reject a lady cos she is a single mum especially if the child(ren) is her first.

5. And lastly as suggested by Pocohantas in the comment below... If you are open to polygamy, give it a shot.

According to her, as a lady gets older in Nigeria, it gets harder to see a never-been-married man with noble intentions. So if you don’t mind polygamy, if you just want to have your kids by one man, find one polygamous man and have all your kids with him.

All I wrote, this is an opinionated advise but any lady in this position could still decide to wait until she finds a husband but she must understand that whilst she is waiting, her time is ticking and menopause will definitely come regardless.

I hope this makes sense.

Komu1048:



The level of decadence in our society is nothing to write home about. Imagine people suggesting juju should be used to tire a man down. So if an old witch use juju to tire your vibrant young son or relative down, will you praiseGod for her?

WHITELIGHTER:


@bolded, u see en, God will bless you beyond ur widest imagination

pocohantas:
1: Use juju and hook one man.

Don’t waste your time going to Shiloh or all these scam pentecostal churches. They will end up hooking you up with one boring evangelist that suffers premature ejaculatiôn.

It is better you use your hand and hook the one you like. But treat him well.

Nothing wrong in hooking husband. Even the bible says the kingdom of God suffereth violence.

2. If you are open to polygamy, give it a shot.
As you get older in Nigeria, it gets harder to see a never-been-married man with noble intentions. So if you don’t mind polygamy, if you just want to have your kids by one man, find one polygamous man and have all your kids with him.

Kriss216:
Evil people keep creating thread upon thread just to give evening newspapers false hope.

Petyprincess:
The truth is not everyone will get married, I have the utmost respect for women living their best life without depending on a man.
A woman's happiness should not be defined by having a man because of two hairy balls!!

Toks2008:


See as for ladies being selective, we can't change that cos the heart wants what it wants. Let them just have a baby first so they will calm down to be with the man that pleases them.

Believe it or not,in most cases, single mums get the best men.

PUSSYHOE:


Na so my baby mama hook me o she is 30 i am lesser than that. From looking at both of us you can tell. Can a woman like that enter the kingdom of God? .

The trick was I don't like condom i can take care of myself.

Iyaebe:
Should they look for poor men?

Mikester:


Wrong. Terming men irresponsible or immature for having standards is wrong. Turning down single moms doesn't make a man irresponsible. There is a huge difference between responsibility and burden. A man who turns down a single mom does so to not place a burden that isn't his upon him. Does that make him irresponsible or a child?

Women ruthlessly place high standards on men who intend to marry them but weak-minded men misguided by information such as yours lower their standards for damaged women, commit to them and eventually regret.

Don't tell or teach men who to commit to, as adults they are in charge of their own decisions. You are right in some areas but get your mentality straight and stop guilt-tripping others for making their own choices.

Sonnobax15:

Nice write up

but I think the best advice I'll give to any young lady is that she shouldn't be too over selective on her choices of men......I

Toks2008:


See as for ladies being selective, we can't change that cos the heart wants what it wants. Let them just have a baby first so they will calm down to be with the man that pleases them.

Believe it or not,in most cases, single mums get the best men.

lkillbrokehoes:
Don't let that person deceive you, the same iyaebe is zzor aka rozcol etc.

Alot of people here knows that.

dfrost:


As simple as that. Unfortunately, it's the female gender that bears the whole brunt (I pity for some of them wey no dey hear word).

These are the reasons some don't get married on time:

1. Pride
2. Competition
3. Comparison

To whom brain is given, sense is demanded.

sisisioge:


At the end of it all sha, being happy and true to self is a personal business. Nothing beats a peaceful mind/life.

pocohantas:
1: Use juju and hook one man.

Don’t waste your time going to Shiloh or all these scam pentecostal churches. They will end up hooking you up with one boring evangelist that suffers premature ejaculatiôn.

It is better you use your hand and hook the one you like. But treat him well.

Nothing wrong in hooking husband. Even the bible says the kingdom of God suffereth violence.

2. If you are open to polygamy, give it a shot.
As you get older in Nigeria, it gets harder to see a never-been-married man with noble intentions. So if you don’t mind polygamy, if you just want to have your kids by one man, find one polygamous man and have all your kids with him.

Angrygoat:
They wasted their youths doing yanga,fashion,sex,selecting,prostitution,making useless friends,seeing useless guys,,I can't date u,u r poor,meanwhile u guys ain't rich neither. ,this that. Dont worry by 45 one man will marry una. Idiots. Dey take advice from OP. When u stupid ugly morons start forming ,lazy,proud over nothing, insultive, after 40. The worst part of naija females lives as from 19 to 30 yrs, worst part from 100 to 300level . There is this click that clicks into their head,they change into what others turned out to be,slay queens with no sense, Na then una eye dey ways clear when at age 45 dem still dey do yanga. Foo ls. Nigerian females are useless