AYODEJI4LOVE:

Alright.that sounds somehow.i understand the condition you are into and i know many of us young people get ourselves locked up into this kind of issue when we are too intimate with an opposite sex member.just be carefull please.i cant really say if it is love or infatuation.but maybe both of you should give that relationship a friendship definition now.

Ekpoma1:

It is infatuation. It seems the only tin u are interested in, is to get in between her legs. So the thing u guyz do all day was 2 kiss kiss kiss and kiss. Dat one na infatuation jor. After u get wetin u dey look 4 your eyes go open.

kpolli:

I strongly disagree wiv u, it mite just be love

i.:

forget love, guy this one na correct infatuation, next time she comes over call her bluff and demand the full intimacy or not, you cannot be her toy, she dey chop your mouth, they enjoy your company, they feel u pass her byf, and then she says, i cannot leave my byf. either she gives you your due or you guys shuld avoid each other until your desires ave cooled off.

phemi3:

I can't stand to see her cryin: D point is I don't want us to start what we can't finish! It seems; u dont get what I'm into! I just can't stand to see her hurt. It really more complicated than it looks.

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@OP no be 2DAY!! we go dey hear am. . .you guys are very intimate(close) in many ways, known eachother for over a decade?i mean yu sef try it's just 1 of them 1's . . .however if yu say yu 'love' her like you do & she is your 'best-friend' then you should respect her relationship!

It's bound to happen @ some point, when people are so close over a period of time some1 is gonna feel or want something more than the ordinary.

I don't usually say this BUT. . .y don't u allow God into your Life?give it a try & u will never go back

Pweety4me:

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@OP no be 2DAY!! we go dey hear am. . .you guys are very intimate(close) in many ways, known eachother for over a decade?i mean yu sef try it's just 1 of them 1's . . .however if yu say yu 'love' her like you do & she is your 'best-friend' then you should respect her relationship!

It's bound to happen @ some point, when people are so close over a period of time some1 is gonna feel or want something more than the ordinary.

I don't usually say this BUT. . .y don't u allow God into your Life?give it a try & u will never go back

I know, u re talking from a females perspective. Anyway, thanks! Your comment is highly noted.

dazzle37:

Try as much as you can to control your feelings for her, i know it may be hard but if you don't check it now, you guys will end up losing everything including the friendship. Forget about the kissing and intimacy and just concentrate on being the best friends you have always been, you will appreciate each other better that way.

Helson:

Well, first of all, I'll call you brother because I feel you.
It is an utmost fact that she loves you, take or leave it but the topic is you. You don't know if it's love or not yet you can't seem to let go of every thought of her. One thing, I MEAN JUST ONE THING I'll tell you to do is   Tell her how much you feel for her and tell her you won't bother her again with that issue but she should think of it and you await her reply anytime likes to and also you stop whatsoever intimacy you used to have with her.
Create time for yourself and sort your self out, think in and out the real reason for your feelings for her for all it may be, your thinking and feelings might just be dwindled by the first kiss of her luscious lips.
Know this that there is an invisible line between LOVE, LUST and INFATUATION.
Hallo @ me anytime for support, help and tips @ helson@sify.com
Take care of yourself for your loved ones dude.

reap40:

Nice post! With all your post & comment; I really know u guyz are in love with each oda. I've seen best friends gettin married n their marraige being blisful! All said n done; u pple shuld just take it slow n hopefully tins wud turn out fine. Just note dat being in a relationship is different from being in friendship with someone. Like someone just said; ' redefine your friendship' so dat u wont get 2 lose everytin within a twinkle of an eye. My eyes is on dis thread! Lol,

Long One:

It might be love, most of the marriages I know that really lasted started off as a friendship.

I think you'll need to have a heart to heart talk with her to see if she shares your feelings. Take her far away from her usual surroundings before you broach the topic.

Be careful though, women like to eat their cake and have it, so she might be using you to fill the holes her boyfriend does not fill i.e. romance

UncleJJ:


You kiss all the time, you think of her as she does you. This is not infatuation, infatuation infects one party only- not "the pair".

However, infatuation is the birth of love - if harnessed and followed - it evolves into LOVE. I sense, you two are passed infatuation - long time ago.


Cut all forms of communication with her if you can bare it, if you can't! Give her "7 days to give you an answer".

Make sure you end your relationship, with the other girl. Make sure you tell her why. No lies, the world must know - you love "this" girl.

But don't be to aggressive - steadfast and confident is more like it.

Don't Be Scared Of Failure - their will be unimaginable joy in this VICTORY.

reap40:

Do u really think giving urselfs days off; wud really help u guyz to redefine urselfs (hell no). Just follow your heart n stop procastinating. She definately has feelings for you but like u'ved said, d probs lies with you. If u really dont want to give up your oda girlfriend then stop flirting with her. I just hope u guyz will not live to regret this.