folake4u:


Dear Mr. Hed0nist,

You say times have changed right? Why then do we see chants of my wife must be a virgin littered all over Nairaland by your fellow men?

You've dated good women? Impressive. So why then did y'all break up?

I'm glad you said your ex(es) have sense. Thank God for that.

Nigerian women have really suffered sha, na really use and dump.

You sef, why didn't you keep your virginity? Why are you allowing Nigerian women to sleep with you everywhere?
Why are you allowing Nigerian women fuçk you for free?

No SANE Nigerian woman likes men that have plenty body count oh. Ah ah.

Hed0nist:
I agree with this. No one knows tomorrow. It’s just that those type of women tend to heap the frustration and damage on top the unlucky man’s head. They’ll deny him the sex they gave out freely. They’ll be unnecessarily suspicious and irrational.

But yes some passed around women will end up with some unwise “good guys”

Uh uh. Uh uh. Uh uh. Na watin I no dey like be this. This is what I don't always like o. And you people will be saying I am doing too much.

Oga, we don settle this na! Why did you feel the need to go an add the "but" clause and conditions again? Why? Na winch? Ahan!

You say you don't want bad women. You say you will end up with a good woman, because life. Fine and good. I did not argue.

Why is it now killing you to see the bad women ending up with good men too, that you still have to denigrate their choices? If you won't roll with them after everyone is married, then what is your fking business? If you will be happy in your relationship with a good, beautiful, kind and industrious woman, why do you think she will not be happy in her marriage with an handsome, kind, industrious and caring man?

No offense, but you know it is wizardry tendencies, right? Seeking your own happiness, moving on with your life and yet still hoping or wishing another person not to get the same thing! You want to succeed and have a great life, yet you don't want another person to... even though both of you are bad and are rightly "undeserving" of good things.

Tell me why all the things that will play out in a bad woman's marriage will not play in your own marriage as a bad man. Mtcheeeewwwww.

Hed0nist:


It seems you just type for the sake of typing . I hope that isn’t the case.

I’ve already told you that my name isn’t “y’all “. Why would you expect me to explain what other people have said which I’ve obviously stated that I don’t agree with?

I’ve repeatedly said that I was not a good man. Not being a good man in the sense that I was not ready to settle down. That should answer most of your questions up there.

My relationship experiences have always been blissful please. If you tell me why you’re not married then I’ll tell you why I didn’t marry my exes.

Most Nigerian women will marry any man that loves them and is able to provide adequately. High body count or not.

begoniaa:


Uh uh. Uh uh. Uh uh. Na watin I no dey like be this. This is what I don't always like o. And you people will be saying I am doing too much.

Oga, we don settle this na! Why did you feel the need to go an add the "but" clause and conditions again? Why? Na winch? Ahan!

You say you don't want bad women. You say you will end up with a good woman, because life. Fine and good. I did not argue.

Why is it now killing you to see the bad women ending with good men too, that you still have to denigrate their choices? If you won't roll with them after everyone is married, then what is your fking business? If you will be happy in your relationship with a good, beautiful, kind and industrious woman, why do you think she will not be happy in her marriage with an handsome, kind, industrious and caring man?

No offense, but you know it is wizardry tendencies, right? Seeking your own happiness, moving on with your life and yet still hoping or wishing another person not to get the same thing!

Tell me why all the things that will play out in a bad woman's marriage will not play in your own marriage as a bad man. Mtcheeeewwwww.

Hed0nist:
I don’t care about bad women. I won’t end up with them.

We don't care about you too. We won't end up with you.

Now stop making predictions about our relationships to our sweet, loving, handsome, rich, industrious, sensible, kind, sexually adventurous and faithful GOOD MEN.

Na life.

Just goan and rest your oars at this point and don't argue it with me unless we'll start going back and forth again.

begoniaa:


We don't care about you too. We won't end up with you... now stop making predictions about our relationships to our sweet, loving, handsome, rich, industrious, sensible, kind, sexually adventurous and faithful GOOD MEN.

Na life.

Just goan and rest your oars at this point and don't argue it with me unless we'll start going back and forth again.

Hed0nist:
I’m not arguing anything. But you know what’s up. Whether you deny it with the lengthiest paragraphs or the most outstanding fonts.

Oh, now I am the one denying?

But when I said you were denying up there too, you told me it's life.

Pray tell, you are the only one who knows how to speak facts about life?

The life that will apply to you as a bad man will not apply to me as a bad woman?

Look, Oga, I don tell you say make you drop this matter.

It is either we're BOTH going to be in denial or we'll both enjoy a blissful marital life as bad people. It will be either one. It cannot be true for you alone as per say na only you like better thing; mba nu.

begoniaa:


Oh, now I am the one denying?

But when I said you were denying up there too, you told me it's life.

Pray tell, you are the only one who knows how to speak facts about life?

The life that will apply to you as a bad man will not apply to me as a bad woman?

Look, Oga, I don tell you say make you drop this matter.

It is either we're BOTH going to be in denial or we'll both enjoy a blissful marital life as bad people. It will be either one. It cannot be true for you alone as per say na only you like better thing; mba.

Hed0nist:
I agree say you fit marry good man. Check up there where I write am. Na just the man I de pity. Even you sef de pity am in advance. But you go still deny.

begoniaa:


No be the same way I agree say you fit marry good woman? Read up too, it's there. You feel pity? My own heart breaks for your future wife. Even you sef don dey feel hurt for am already. I know say you go deny, I am not expecting anything different.

Hed0nist:

franchasofficia:
The op is right.


I have a very close friend who is still single and having same issue.


This guy is educated, an Accountant. He heads his company's account department at his young age. Aside being an accountant, he has a flourishing small fintech business with 5 staffs. He lives in what I may call a family mansion alone. He has met hundreds of ladies and none is up to what he desires or what we his close friends consider okay.


He is either meeting hungry, broke opportunists or ladies above 37 with good job though but he want something around 27 to 29.


This guy has tried almost all social media platforms, Facebook, etc still same class of babes.


Right now I de pity him cos it seems his spec of girls aren't in Nigeria again lol


Our Nigerian ladies need to work on themselves and try to upgrade at early age.


The younger ones seems to be immature, unserious and act too foolish. The older ones are more mature, cool headed, financially independent but like the op said, the girlie vibes and beauty is almost gone. The remaining beauty in them is now money induced beauty using beauty products and all those artificial enhancements.



I pity single people of this age, e no easy to find your taste as a well to do young man.



This is where studying abroad at undergraduate stage gives advantage cos it seems the type of chicks op want are all schooling abroad or they schooled abroad and have been taken by their Nigerian course mates and school mates abroad

MikeofKd:
I’m

Well sir to be very honest age really as nothing to do with success , only you can motivate yourself sir ,change is hard but all you have to do is picture yourself, it’s more like fantasies but this time very realistic , it ain’t too late sir to become what you truly desire .

At your age the kind of women you need are the likes of Alakija ,Alison Madueke etc
Just work hard and motivate yourself.

pocohantas:


Your guy is 37, then it is Nigerian ladies that should work on themselves and upgrade at an early age? Are you listening to yourself?

How many young men are very established at 30 and below?

I give it to women. They are way more realistic than men. If you want financial security, then a woman knows she has to target older men. If it is looks and Instagram love, then younger guys can come into play.

Of course you would see young women in various organizations earning the standard-6-digit, but we are not going to act like the bulk of Nigerians are that stable.

It is either this or that. Except you go into certain circles that have had it soft from birth.

Raalsalghul:



I wonder why there is so much fuss about career as regards the definition of a quality woman?

For some reason character/attitude is being shoved aside and all I see here is KPMG, Mckinsey, Goldman Sachs, this and that.

Or don't we have young ladies who's got shit going for them and still messing around with married powerful bosses in their office.

Or are you telling me most under 25 ladies with good jobs would make good partners.

With regards to the topic, it has many layers and dimensions we can look at it from but somehow it's all about career and earning power.

Jeez!

cococandy:
If Nigerian men are not making money in their early 20s, why do they expect the women to have money in their early 20s? Are you all not living in the same economy? Talk about delusional.

If you want to marry someone 22-25 like OP does, he should be willing to marry a broke person. Don’t call them hungry gold digging bla bla bla. It shows a deep lack of insight and unreasonable expectations.

If you want to wait until they have money and are no longer dependent on you, you should be okay with marrying them in their 30s. That’s the same time most of you guys usually make your own money too.

I can’t believe that lack of common sense I’m seeing in these so called problems y’all are finding yourselves in. Wanting to eat your cakes and have it too. Ladies who want to marry wealthier men don’t have problems marrying men older than them. Because they understand money doesn’t come all at once. Any lady who wants a youngling inexperienced husband should be okay with his shallow pockets.

What’s complicated that you guys don’t understand?

cococandy:
Because guys are gold diggers too.
Somehow y’all managed to make it a female trait.

But yes men gold dig. very deeply too.

cococandy:
Lol how are we thinking the same thing.

They really want young girls but earnestly hate the idea of providing for a partner. That’s why all the disrespectful names exist for women who depend on them

Confusion

folake4u:


Dear Mr. Hed0nist,

You say times have changed right? Why then do we see chants of my wife must be a virgin littered all over Nairaland by your fellow men?

You've dated good women? Impressive. So why then did y'all break up?

I'm glad you said your ex(es) have sense. Thank God for that.

Nigerian women have really suffered sha, na really use and dump.

You sef, why didn't you keep your virginity? Why are you allowing Nigerian women to sleep with you everywhere?
Why are you allowing Nigerian women fuçk you for free?

No SANE Nigerian woman likes men that have plenty body count oh. Ah ah.

Hed0nist:


The point of the thread is discuss where to find the few desirable Nigerian women. Take note of the word “few”. Some of us still want to marry our country women but few are desirable. That’s just the truth.

Nyascobar1414:


Lol.. Nigga, when I was young I thought females dont really like sex,but today its something else.. Man goota save his energy for something else

Acidosis:

I'm lost. Define "quality woman".

Raalsalghul:




Na why I no dey too reason the marriage matter because at the end of the day most men are on the loosing front.

The only way to have a semblance of winning is to maybe not get married or have a baby mama which in its own has its demerits.

So much insights in your comment.

UyaiIncomparabl:
This thread is so funny.

So, you men know how hard it is to attract a good and quality woman? You haven't seen anything yet. LMAO. Very sweet thread. I love the tears on this thread. Bitter redpillers.

And to you the OP. Do you think you would be able to attract any quality woman? Which quality woman will settle for you? Only a woman who doesn't worth her salt will do that. You that has slept with every hoe in Port Harcourt and environs, married women, smoked, done drugs, was an ardent patronizer of the infamous "ashawo thread" on NL, very tight-fisted, loud, rude, proud with no manly virtues, classless and crude. Take my word for it, YOU WILL NEVER ATTRACT A QUALITY WOMAN. Except, of course, she doesn't know your past and is very desperate or naive or both.

No need to quote me, I WILL not dignify you with a response.

folake4u:



This early morning Uyai has brought vawulence when we wanted to say the closing prayer and share the grace.

franchasofficia:
My sister not entirely true. I can swear with my life, ever since i married my wife, she doesn't spend a dime for anything. Any money she spends on family issue i reimburse her cos i told her to tell me whenever she spends money to do anything without my knowledge.


It was my desire even while single and God helping me I have been keeping to that. I got her a contract driver to drive her to work and other places when she was pregnant, that's to tell u who I am and the kind of friends I roll with. I have friends in the US who are married to Nurses and I can beat my chest and tell u they don't even care about their wives income as they single handedly built all their properties in Nigeria, except one who married a very amazing babe that voluntarily gives her husband cash to go back to Naija to invest in real estate and all that.


Mind u my wife works and earns well too but I tell u that i fuel her car, she haven't used her dime to buy petrol in her office car for once, I do that with joy cos i prayed to be completely in charge of my marriage and home while single and God answered my prayers. I am a traditional African man oh, I no like woman money at all. No girl can come out to say she spent on me or gave a dime throughout my dating days till I got married.


And my friend I talked about wishes same. In fact he doesn't even like the idea of marrying a financially buoyant lady, he just want cool headed, cute, youthful lady that have ambition. He has tried different class of ladies all seems to be the same; leeches. Maybe once they come in and discover he is financially buoyant the gold digging in them gets activated, I mean even a girl working in one of the big companies someone mentioned on this thread. These things are worrisome especially to well to do guys looking to settle down. During dating fun period it doesn't matter to most guys that have the money, in fact u can even lodge a chick at Transcorp and change hotel to Mariot before the Transcorp room expires lolz, but when it's time to pick a wife, u get serious lolz

UyaiIncomparabl:


The vawulence never stops.

begoniaa:
JBriel abi what do you call yourself?

Na Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries go end your matter las las.

Gosh, I cannot imagine how you'll actually be in real life given your comments on here. So much pride and pompous air and condescension reeking from you! Miserly 350k, 500k... seriously, dude? You humbled all of them? Ewww. Why are you on a thread hoping to know how to snatch a quality woman? For all of your supposed attributes, why haven't you gotten a good woman? Ah, God... I don't even know what to say to you anymore.

UyaiIncomparabl:
That guy is a fake. Believe anything he types here at your peril. People who usually brag about having the world are usually empty vessels. I know like 30 of his monikers. And the truth is, he's a very inconsistent person who is worth nothing. Believe his words here, you can believe anything in the world.

Given his attacks towards me late last night, I am beginning to suspect that too.