You are absolutely right Olanajim. Am really exasperated,What is the big deal in being a virgin at 26. Very funny world

There's no point hating men. That wouldn't solve the problem. Just meet the right man and all these will be history. Wish you the best.

Sparta, don't say there is no big deal in being a virgin at 26. In a world where young girls of 15 can now boast openly of sleeping with at least a man. Where chastity is now meaningless, and where most of our universities can't boast of 2% virgin among it female population, then, a 26 year old virgin must be celebrated provided she match her sexual purity with amiable personality and character.

Most ladies wanted to marry the man that 'break their pot'. But, a serious discrepancy in personality, conduct and irreconcillable differences, regardless of it nature deprieves them of lasting union. In revenge of that irreparable damage, some ladies lose sense of decorum and turn their precious pot into public properties. These ladies were in large numbers hence the general suspicious by male folks to suspect every claim of virginity by any lady above 21.

Meanwhile, I know that virginity is not a sign of chastity. It is just a ray of hope that the fellow may be one.

Hating the opposite sex must never be the way to correct the ills associated with gender injustice. It damage the bearer more than the target.

This doesn't mean I am propagating for or against virginity. My position is that of caution.

Sparta, don't say there is no big deal in being a virgin at 26. In a world where young girls of 15 can now boast openly of sleeping with at least a man. Where chastity is now meaningless, and where most of our universities can't boast of 2% virgins among it female population, then, a 26 year old virgin must be celebrated provided she match her sexual purity with amiable personality and character.

Most ladies wanted to marry the man that 'broke their pot'. But, a serious discrepancy in personality, conduct and irreconcillable differences, regardless of it nature deprieved them of achieving lasting union. In plotting revenge for that irreparable damage, some ladies lose sense of decorum and turn their 'precious pot' into public properties. A prison, where restless phallus are turn to jelly. These ladies were in large numbers hence the general suspicious by male folks to suspect every claim of virginity by any lady above 21.

Meanwhile, I know that virginity is not a sign of chastity. It is just a ray of hope that the fellow may be one.

Hating the opposite sex must never be the way to correct the ills associated with gender injustice. It damage the bearer more than the target.

This doesn't mean I am propagating for or against virginity. My position is that of caution.

a virgin at 26 is a sick woman.

simply_me:

a virgin at 26 is a sick woman.

you know I am giving you back up right I say I dey ya back!!!

_{Whispering cautiously---Sofree sofree oh! This na day time!!!}

she is not sick she has just not been opportuned.

i say it again - nothing to be proud of as a virgin at 26 - nothing at all - means u find it hard to get a husband - so - means u need deliverance.

sex does not determine luv, u know.guys r pretenders n vice-versa.at times ur heart might b wrong too but wen ur mr right comes it would surely show. just wait.i think u r in a rush.no matter wat happens, men don't deserve 2 b hated n vice-versa

@ sparta:  it must be very frustrating meeting all these kind of men who are only interested in one thing. Especially if you read this kind of thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-68569.0.html

makes one wonder if there's any sincere person left in the world. Anyway, may you not fall into the hands of someone like that.

Cant say much, but just keep looking. If the wind is blowing away the light headed folks, hopefully the serious ones will be more visible. Mind that married guy though- his case is different. Its not easy being in a long distance relationship, and normally the other woman is the one who gets left out in the cold. The guy has needs, but dont lump all men together because of him. You know how guys are.

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HHHHHHHHHHmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Is it not amazing how we react so differently to the same issue?
God is truly awesome, SPARTA, i like your confidence in your looks, keep it up.
Y IS IT THAT WE R GOOD AT PIKING OUT PEOPLE'S BAD SIDES? as if we dont have ours.
Sparta,if all the men you will ever meet will demand for sex b4 marriage, does it mean you will never get married?
in case u dnt kno, every relationship has issues they are managing.every relationship involves sacrifices.
i am not saying you should sacrifice your virginity, na, na,
but you can sacrifice time, energy,or woteva it takes 2 curtail a guy who you feel compartable with,A GUY YOU HAVE TRUE FEELING FOR.
i am sure all the guys you have met are not 100percent bad, or are they?
GOD DIDNT SAY THERE WONT BE MOUNTAINS TO CLIMB,,
BUT HE ASSURED US OF MAKING THE CLIMBING AS EASY AS POSSIBLE,
There are a thousand and one good guys out there, bt DONT GO ABOUT
LOOKING FOR THEM, MEET the bad guys, try to KNOW THEM, try to CORRECT WOT IS WRONG IN THEM,
but dont try to change them, BUT NEVER, EVER TRY TO HATE THEM,

haba zignor

that was too harsh now
and u, easybabe, y ru so happy
he was rude & i expected u to say so

zignor, apologise or,

why is she coming here to announce her chastity?I don't give a shit about whether you're a virgin or not,remember there are numerous way u can lose ur virginity.virginity is not restricted to p in v .Kissing ,smooching, cuddling,handling,dry sex e.t.c is part and parcel of sex
until u tell me  u havent kissed/kissed by a man,your whatever hasnt been fondled,THEN I CAN GIVE You A TROPHY

i will only respect and praise if u tell me u havent kissed a man or havent been smooched in ur life, For now keep on living a fake life.Instead of u to pray that u get a husband at ur old age(26) u are hating men.

Men, i no blame the guys o. If na me too i go ben-johnson o. WHat if after the wedding i come discover say the 'V' no even get p, sy wey i go insert my thing put? e better make i taste the 'abuna' so that i go sure of wetin i dey marry!

So?

sparta,
im really happy for you, not cos ure beginning to hate us (men) but cos u can take a stand and stick to ur belief. the simple truth is that most (not all though) guys that rush into relationships do it cos they can have a sex partner to satisfy their orgies and once that is gone, they dump the female at the slightest complain as though they never professed love to her in the first place. dont be in a hurry, truth is what goes around comes around and if you can keep urself for a man, a man will also keep himself for you until u get married, its not impossible. it still happens so take your time and dont hate men, just hate the game as they say, but in the fullness of time, urs will come, and pre-marital sex will not even be an issue,

@poster

u are beautiful, educated, a virgin, 26 and you have a full time job right

but all men want from you is sex right

something is not right with ur story or somthing around you is not right

if u are really all the above then you probably need to change your story and reedit the plot

unless you think people on nairaland are fools and want to waste their time talking trash

ehmmm

Can i have my trophy now pls

sage:

@poster

u are beautiful, educated, a virgin, 26 and you have a full time job right

but all men want from you is sex right

something is not right with your story or somthing around you is not right

if u are really all the above then you probably need to change your story and reedit the plot

unless you think people on nairaland are fools and want to waste their time talking trash

it happens I can assure

this is a big world
people's circumstances are difrent

ok i see,no problem hae men.

@poster hate us na who cares, Abi fish don finish for River, Na who tell you say you fine sef?

@Simply-me
I feel so-so sorry for you. You must have been deflowered at a very early age by a savage or a heartless beast that's why u are so, so embittered against anyone that's a virgin. No be the poster cause ur predicament. In other words, u are envious.

@ Poster
The truth is most ladies that lost their virginity to the wrong person, are always so embittered when they hear of a virgin. Every lady realize it's something that's once lost forever, but those that want to eat their cake and still have it, always want everybody to be in the same level with them.

So those that are castigating the poster because she claims to be a virgin at 26 shame on all of you . I knew a friend that got married to a 30 + virgin and she got pregnant within the 1st month of their marriage. So wetin be una stress

dont hate men na,

why dont we do it like this, come to me and i can be ur perfect gentleman

Sparta:  Unbelievable as it may seem, you are not alone.  There are lots of professional ladies like you, some older, who have refused to succumb to the new age morality.  You are not weird, neither are you a walking saint.  You are a lady who knows what she wants out of life and is unwilling, for either religious or personal mores to back away from her stance.  I applaud you.

That said, hating men is counter productive.  I believe strongly that the universe sometimes catapaults destructive agents out of our lives 'specially when we are at our most oblivious/vulnerable.  I bet you've encountered at least one who, if he had not moved on after your 'No Pre M sex' might have eventually become your Waterloo.  Rather than hating guys, begin to thank the good Lord for moving those guys along in order to clear the path for that wonderful someone who will be yours and no one else's.   Please continue to enjoy the company of your guy friends.  Someone is bound to notice the Gem of measureless worth that you are, not simply because,as you put it, you are a V, but for all the other components, V inclusive, that make you a truly wonderful person.

Be encouraged and pay little credence to the 'Job-Advisers'

@keziah

u r right most of the female folks yabbing sparta lost their virginity 2 apes and now they know that once it is gone,it can never be gotten back.Sorry o,no be the poster spoil ur lives ooo!!!ejo,ko se ohun lo ba ti yin je ooo!!

@poster
There was a time i felt like u too,i thought all men were the same(being the only girl and having 3 brothers).but i thank God that 2day i know better.

Believe it or not girl,there r still some(veryyyyyyyy few) good men out there with great principles(discipline) on sex and can control themselves,u better believe that!!!

Cheers!!!

@ poster.
I respect your courage and dedication to hold on to your beliefs about pre-marital sex,it doesn't in anyway make you weird.To me being a virgin is not a criteria I look for in woman and is definately not a conviction enough for me to marry her.As much as we men are (choose appropriate word) goats,dogs etc we are still open to sensitivity.Perhaps you should consider other attributes to yourself that might make you prone to avoidance from these men,work more on making yourself a better person and I know you will find someone who will love you.
If loose women can find husbands why would you relegate yourself to the lot that hate men because they can't zip it.I'm sure you know presenting yourself to this"one man" doesn't guarantee a succesfull and happy marital life,it's all by the Grace.
My advice: take your time do your bit in ensuring your future is safe with you i.e your job,social life,spiritual life,family etc.
Speaking from a man's point of view many of us already know the women we will run back to as soon as that time comes, destiny has a funny way of playing with our lives.Your man is sure to come my dear.
Bad guys sef dey love up ohh,virgin or no virgin.

Girl i aint a virgin and am beginning to hate guys maself cause all they seem to wanna do is sleep with you. I aint no virgin but i want a relationship thats based on sex alone.

But like Sienna said, when you meet the rite one, you will know.