Antimarraige:
you mean how to take care of my child alone? It's what I've always wanted so I'm sure it won't be an issue, as long as I pay someone to breastfeed the baby well for the first one year, I can handle the rest myself trust me, and I only want one kid. Boy or girl

MrBrownJay1:


...and you are entitled to your own decisions in life. but just because you are against an act, doesnt automatically makes it bad.
babymama lifestyle is NOT for everybody, just like marriage is NOT for everybody. let us all accept that, just because something is different, doesnt mean it is automatically bad.

many men out there are better off with babymamas, just like many married men are better off in a polygamous marriage.
to each their own misery!

Antimarraige:
you mean how to take care of my child alone? It's what I've always wanted so I'm sure it won't be an issue, as long as I pay someone to breastfeed the baby well for the first one year, I can handle the rest myself trust me, and I only want one kid. Boy or girl

1Sharon:


It's interesting how you say this because alot of Nigerian men don't help their wives with childcare or housework because they think its a woman's job, even if the woman is struggling. It's their child too o

If the mother is still alive, why would you need to pay someone to breastfeed?

Antimarraige:
I do all my housework and cooking myself and my home is always neat. The lady is not supposed to have any connection with the child after birth, or even see the baby, it's all agreement.

MallamChukwudi:
If you want to raise responsible children, then you can't deny the kids' mum a proper home. It is not a coincidence that kids raised in a single home are disadvantaged in every way compared to those raised in a two-parents home.


Personally I can attribute my success in life to the fact that I grew up in a two-parent home filled with love, care and intention. I think what you fear is not being with a good woman. Not marriage in itself.

By all means, don't get married if you don't want kids, but please don't raise one outside it. A woman sacrifices her life to birth a kid, and her body undergoes irreversible changes.

Then labour, and to care for a child saddled to her for decades to come, multiplied by two, three or four children. Because women may not contribute financially as much as men doesn't mean they are not paying their own dues.


Supporting a family you confess to love should not be a big deal, unless you do not see her as part of you, to become one, united under one surname and promise. Also life is lived immaterially.

Your life will become wholesome through channels like family, to be loved, purpose, emotions, career, meaning, etc. Money is only a vehicle to the actualisation of the above, and should not be the end.

People learn these lessons as they grow older, and it is immature to discard old cultural practices that have stood the test of time due to modern ideologies. Marriage is not the problem, it's good women and and of course, good men.

If you want her to give her best, you must give her the best. You should love her and give her a home, because that's what she will give to your child. If you deprive her of care, you deprived your child also and you will pay dearly for it.

Lots of people have kids that hate them, also that women have a huge influence on their kids, don't be that kind of father. The energy and strategy you devise in sustaining a baby mama is less compared to one needed to look for a good woman and marry her.

1Sharon:


Right. What happens when the kid grows up and wants to about 50% of who they are?

HardMirror:
exactly the problem many ignore. as far as i am concerned, the best way to raise children is in a home where both parents are married.

Antimarraige:
carry my child for me and forget about him/her after birth, signed under oath and sometimes law. I know people that runs the package, the ladies are from the deep villages of the west.

Nonexisting:
Yes you're right which is why I no longer have that as an option. I now have another plan on how to have my son.

MallamChukwudi:
If you want to raise responsible children, then you can't deny the kids' mum a proper home. It is not a coincidence that kids raised in a single home are disadvantaged in every way compared to those raised in a two-parents home.


Personally I can attribute my success in life to the fact that I grew up in a two-parent home filled with love, care and intention. I think what you fear is not being with a good woman. Not marriage in itself.

By all means, don't get married if you don't want kids, but please don't raise one outside it. A woman sacrifices her life to birth a kid, and her body undergoes irreversible changes.

Then labour, and to care for a child saddled to her for decades to come, multiplied by two, three or four children. Because women may not contribute financially as much as men doesn't mean they are not paying their own dues.


Supporting a family you confess to love should not be a big deal, unless you do not see her as part of you, to become one, united under one surname and promise. Also life is lived immaterially.

Your life will become wholesome through channels like family, to be loved, purpose, emotions, career, meaning, etc. Money is only a vehicle to the actualisation of the above, and should not be the end.

People learn these lessons as they grow older, and it is immature to discard old cultural practices that have stood the test of time due to modern ideologies. Marriage is not the problem, it's good women and and of course, good men.

If you want her to give her best, you must give her the best. You should love her and give her a home, because that's what she will give to your child. If you deprive her of care, you deprived your child also and you will pay dearly for it.

Lots of people have kids that hate them, also that women have a huge influence on their kids, don't be that kind of father. The energy and strategy you devise in sustaining a baby mama is less compared to one needed to look for a good woman and marry her.

HardMirror:
Trust me I am a redpiller and I am a proud one with no apology.

I see a lot of guys saying they would rather have baby mamas than get married. let me laugh at you first hahahahahaha.

Even though I am a redpiller, my advice to all men is to GO AND MARRY IF YOU KNOW YOU WANT CHILDREN. Dont marry OLD cargo please if you like yourself.

I have dated more than 5 baby mamas in my short life and I can tell you they are the ones that sleep around the most. They will never take proper care of your child. If you dont want to be father to an irresponsible child, marry and raise your child yourself. all these girls no get sense to take proper care of children. it is a miracle that the children even survive, with how careless they are.

1Sharon:


Right. What happens when the kid grows up and wants to know about 50% of who they are?

Truvelisback:
It's expensive.

Antimarraige:
I'm the 100% they need to know, that's the whole point of the surrogacy.

ucsparks:
This is bullshit, women will show you pepper with this mentally. Give her the best bla bla bla., You think you can give a woman the best?

A fool putting women on a pedestal. SIMP.

1Sharon:


Lol you're clueless..

1Sharon:


Lol you're clueless..

Jennyclay:
Roadside wannabe redpiller! Always shouting redpillers on an empty stomach.

Hungrypillers!!

Nyascobar1414:
How does having a babymama not better than the so called ,odern marriages...
Abi you no sabi as dem dey knack married women, even for their workplace?



Just to find one woman wey don satisfy your standards small, make she gv you kids... Your only business is the child, anyhow she wan fvk up and down no concern me.. If she ain't taking care of the child, then I take custody of the child.

Surrogacy still dope shaa...

Than for a sane man to commit to repented ex wh0res...

Past is my past,old things have pass away fire una deir..



NO Hymen...
No Marriage.

MallamChukwudi:
If you want to raise responsible children, then you can't deny the kids' mum a proper home. It is not a coincidence that kids raised in a single home are disadvantaged in every way compared to those raised in a two-parents home.


Personally I can attribute my success in life to the fact that I grew up in a two-parent home filled with love, care and intention. I think what you fear is not being with a good woman. Not marriage in itself.

By all means, don't get married if you don't want kids, but please don't raise one outside it. A woman sacrifices her life to birth a kid, and her body undergoes irreversible changes.

Then labour, and to care for a child saddled to her for decades to come, multiplied by two, three or four children. Because women may not contribute financially as much as men doesn't mean they are not paying their own dues.


Supporting a family you confess to love should not be a big deal, unless you do not see her as part of you, to become one, united under one surname and promise. Also life is lived immaterially.

Your life will become wholesome through channels like family, to be loved, purpose, emotions, career, meaning, etc. Money is only a vehicle to the actualisation of the above, and should not be the end.

People learn these lessons as they grow older, and it is immature to discard old cultural practices that have stood the test of time due to modern ideologies. Marriage is not the problem, it's good women and and of course, good men.

If you want her to give her best, you must give her the best. You should love her and give her a home, because that's what she will give to your child. If you deprive her of care, you deprived your child also and you will pay dearly for it.

Lots of people have kids that hate them, also that women have a huge influence on their kids, don't be that kind of father. The energy and strategy you devise in sustaining a baby mama is less compared to one needed to look for a good woman and marry her.

satandeterrible:

Well said.

satandeterrible:

You are capping nonsense here Oga.
Go and sit down.
See the thrash you posted

HardMirror:
Na so my brother

1Sharon:
Those men that say they want kids instead of being married...

Under whose household will the kid be under?

1Sharon:
Those men that say they want kids instead of being married...
Under whose household will the kid be under?

HardMirror:
Trust me I am a redpiller and I am a proud one with no apology.

I see a lot of guys saying they would rather have baby mamas than get married. let me laugh at you first hahahahahaha.

Even though I am a redpiller, my advice to all men is to GO AND MARRY IF YOU KNOW YOU WANT CHILDREN. Dont marry OLD cargo please if you like yourself.

I have dated more than 5 baby mamas in my short life and I can tell you they are the ones that sleep around the most. They will never take proper care of your child. If you dont want to be father to an irresponsible child, marry and raise your child yourself. all these girls no get sense to take proper care of children. it is a miracle that the children even survive, with how careless they are.