agk247:

married couple are not suppose to argue, expecially when they have kids

Emperoh:

[color=#550000]For those who think marriage is no worth it, i hope u are more intelligent than God who created that institution cos if u are not, then shut the eff up!!!!

dayokanu:

For most part, I have thought about it and I think its overrated

As a man, Marriage is a bondage. The invasion of privacy, wanting to be all in my business and the countless nags Sheesh!!!!

When some of my "fipa" girls start their nags about meaningless things I just thank God that I am not legally binded to them or anyone.

Most importantly the part about having to share my hard earned money and sweat of my labour with someone who contributes far less

Marriage would only make sense to me when

The women are less controlling. Everything about your life should revolve round them. Come the phock on!!! I have been living wothout you for most of my life, why would everything just start revoloving around you ?

Talk/nag less. Just talking about what-the phock-ever. I suggested to one that I can buy her chewing gum to keep her mouth busy instead of just talking about every goddamned thing in the universe, The less you talk the more you think

Give me my own private space (Atimes i want to watch soccer, watch CNN, TruTV, Discovery or just surf the web and not gist/gossip about neighbours and friends) Several times some of these girls have forced me to watch Wendy Williams show, "E", Kardashians, American best dance groups, even one slow show of the Braxtons showing their daily life, I felt like plucking my eyes out I could feel my brain power diminishing by the minutes as I sat down watching. Yet you have to appear interested else 2 hours of jigijigi that night would be used to beg and apologize for not watching those shows.

Moods swings? Oh my freaking goodness. Someone that was chatty and happy now just turns and starts sulking like what the Hell!!!!, Are you phocking possesed by demons?

Most importantly earn their own money preferably earn almost at par with me and contributing equally so no one is losing in this union.

If I had made some "mistakes" and some of my numerous condoms have leaked, had 2 boys in my teens or twenties, I wont even think about marriage again. Walahi

I think some amendments needs to be done to the whole marriage issue. If marriage can be made not to be a lifetime thingy and possibly reneweable after every 5yrs I would support this

Several times some of these girls have forced me to watch Wendy Williams show, "E", Kardashians, American best dance groups, even one slow show of the Braxtons showing their daily life

davidylan:

Not married yet but in my opinion . . . YES a marriage is well worth it. Beyond the fights, arguments, nagging and all - there is that feeling that you do have a best friend, a life-companion, someone who will be there by your side whether you forgot her birthday or not and most importantly, the joy of raising offspring together.

the problem however is in finding the right person to complement you.

Certain things we consider negatives when it comes to marriage like loss of freedom isnt really true. Like my brother's inlaw once told me, if you enjoy a hobby - teach your woman to see it as hers too such that marriage isnt as much a loss of your freedom to watch sports but an opportunity to gain a partner you can rant at when Nigeria as usual fails to score. She will still cook for you and rub your head later that night.

No man was created to be lonely, sooner than later we will all find ourselves at that point where we too long for our own!

davidylan:

If you find yourself watching these shows then you either have very little control over your women or you both arent on the same page just yet. I dont watch those shows at all and no one forces me to watch them. When it comes to my sports, i watch no shaking . . . if you no like am then grab a book or sleep or best of all come lie beside me and rub my head while i moan about how Roddick missed a loose forehand.

Easiest trick in the book -  buy 2 TVs, install directv on both. When she has her shows to watch she can do so in peace while i busy myself with other things. Easy.

Wallie:

Lol @ Dayo

I used to watch all that crap on TV while having to pretend I love it; although, you might occasionally have to catch yourself from falling too deep into their silly plots Nowadays, I’m only staying in a room if I like what’s on TV except they start fighting!

Is marriage worth it? It depends on who you marry.

If you marry someone that contributes positively to your life, then it is worth it. I usually laugh when I hear girls say that they’re looking for a man to take care of them. I’m like, “what are you bringing to the table”? What kind of girl do you think a successful guy looks for? You think a successful man would want to log around dead weight that will be treated like gold? If you’re dead weight, chances are high that a successful individual will treat you as such!

If all I get with your pretty face and body is bad attitude, shopping spree with my money, disrespect, empty stomach, high mileage and infidelity then whatever is between us is only good for a few months!

But if the woman is very understanding, trustworthy, carries her weight and breaks you off properly? She’s worth a marriage and more! This is the type of women that you spend your last penny on as all she would bring to your life is happiness, encouragement and contentment.

Further, the OP is right by observing that marriage takes hard work but if you have a partner that’s working with you instead of against you, you’ve won half your battles! With regards to the other half, you have to put in work in the form of compromise (you can’t always have your way), perseverance, understanding (we’re all different), patience (testosterone and estrogen induce different reactions), tolerance (women get moody for no reason at times) :-)

In summary, choose your spouse wisely or your life could become miserable especially in the US!

emmatok:

Na, it is not worth it, i hate routines.

I love my privacy and doing my things the way i like.

davidylan:

You love doing things "the way you like" YET hate routine?  
you'd be surprised how boringly routine being single gets after a while. As you grow older and watch your best friends fall away to their own families and kids or careers it wont take you long to realise there is nothing better than having your OWN flesh by your side even if she's there sometimes just to annoy you.

emmatok:

Sorry why go through all those stress, when you can have your life to yourself.

Your daily activities is not determined by a wife or children.

~Sissy~:

dont sweat it. am sure God understands that even though he ordained marriage, it wasn't meant for everyone.  it is not worth the stress for some

davidylan:

your single life is just as stressful.

emmatok:

Lol, just stop it,

How can single life be more  stressful then marriage life.

Stop living in denial my friend.

stillwater:

Wow Dayokanu whines more than I do. Scary.

davidylan:

nwam stilly! That CANNOT be you in that foto! who be the chic? the Lord has blessed me today.

chaircover:

Funny enough its the differences between the sexes that makes the relationship more interesting even more so when you start seeing the same differences between your male and female children.

We all cant be the same and If we all drank beer and watched football on Sky sports, then there wont be any need for Nollywood movies and Van Vicker will be a bus conductor or a tailor.

Life & relationships will be pretty boring if both sexes were similar.